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Ok no jokes now please,but:Do you think that age difference can cause a prob in a relationship?Is 21/34 a no go while 29?42 is ok.When does age diff cease to matter?Does it matter which sex is the older?
When mrs Gid and I met she was 21 and I shock horror cradle snatcher 34.
Eight yrs later(tonight) we are still together and happier then ever
I Love Mrs Gid
Wideboy
26-12-07, 10:06 PM
i thought you only had eyes for me :smt090
sssshhhhhhhhhh honey dont let out our secret
Speedy Claire
26-12-07, 10:16 PM
AWWWWWWWWWWW..... good on you an glad this has worked out for you both :thumright:
Personally I wouldn`t have a problem with an age gap. However I think its maybe more socially acceptable when the age gap is older man, younger woman but not so much when its older woman, younger man!
dissuade
26-12-07, 10:16 PM
i think as long as both are in the same section of their life and want similar things out of the relationship, then who cares. it's a bit weird for, say, a 15 year old going out with a 20-something year old, but 21 and 34 doesn't seem so wrong. my parents are 20 years apart.
i find it funny that some people are still outraged when older women date younger men. who wouldn't want to date demi moore??
ASM-Forever
26-12-07, 10:27 PM
who wouldn't want to date demi moore??
Me....she looks ok from a distance, but the closer you get, the more of a mess she is.
And to think I'm not sure what to do liking someone a year younger.. :)
Personally, I think that it doesn't matter, its where you are mentally that counts, surely?
Personally, I think that it doesn't matter, its where you are mentally that counts, surely?
Damn, that make's me mental jailbait then! :twisted:
Damn, that make's me mental jailbait then! :twisted:
+ 1 hehehe
wyrdness
26-12-07, 11:14 PM
Ok no jokes now please,but:Do you think that age difference can cause a prob in a relationship?Is 21/34 a no go while 29?42 is ok.When does age diff cease to matter?Does it matter which sex is the older?
When mrs Gid and I met she was 21 and I shock horror cradle snatcher 34.
Eight yrs later(tonight) we are still together and happier then ever
I Love Mrs Gid
There's 13 years difference between Mrs Wyrdness and me too. She was 22 when we met. People never realise that there's such an age gap between us as I look years younger than my actual age. I don't think that it's a no go at all. Certainly from a 40-something bloke perspective, having a 20-something woman is a very good thing! :D
The best of luck to you and Mrs Gid.
thedonal
26-12-07, 11:25 PM
It all depends on how grown up the younger of the two is, really.
Though 21 sounds good. Mmmmmm. etc.!
From my previous relationship- 7 years younger (she were 19, I were...um- counts on fingers- 26), given that my ex had an awful lot of issues that made life harder, I'd say the next girl I plan to hook up with is a little closer to my age. Well- physical age, anyway. I'm still just a 14 year old at heart!!!
If you can make it work, then fantastic- you clearly are well matched. :)
Narr not at all. congrats by the way.
tigersaw
26-12-07, 11:35 PM
when I was 30 and a bit I had a 17 year old G/F. It went on over a year, then her dad put a stop to it, and he really did have the clout to do so. (Think MP, think senior VIP, think that kind of rank). We actually had a lot of fun and are still friends, but I think the age gap would show big time if it were now.
ASM-Forever
27-12-07, 02:14 AM
Personally i don't 'date'(meh) girls that are still in school, but after that its fair game. Having said that i am only 21.
In fairness thats probably because i have no wish to help them with their physics homework, rather than any ethical/moral issue.
I dont think it matters between 19-40.
I don't think the age difference matters at all my other half is quite a bit younger than me but is far more responsible
Thers an 8 yrs difference between me and the wife, Im 8 yrs older, I dont think it matters.Theres enough pressure in marriage without adding anymore mate.
We have friends who married in 1990. We attended the nuptials. At the time he was 28 and she was 53 - the same age as his mum in fact. It caused a scandal and parents refused to have anything more to do with him. He is now 45 and she is 70. We met them a while back, they're still very very happy:makelurve:
dirtydog
27-12-07, 10:28 AM
my other half is quite a bit younger than me
Dirty bugger! ;);););)
anyway back to the subject, no i don't think age matters at all
-Ralph-
27-12-07, 10:29 AM
Nah, makes no difference, so long as the two heads are at approximately the same place in life, doesn't matter what the age gap is.
Think an older male sometimes works better as women settle down and mature quicker. How many 30 something guys (including me) still behave like kids, playstation, xbox, etc? I can't wait until my wee boy is old enough for radio controlled cars an the like.
I have a great relationship with my 21 and 23 yr old cousins, we chat for hours. They take the pi$$ and keep telling me I'm getting old, especially since I became a Dad, but it's only fun and since they reached adult maturity the age gap doesn't make a difference. Might be different if I was married to someone that age mind you, but whatever age your partner, you will always find differences that cause arguments.
I still go out clubbing and getting pi$$ed with them and have a ball! Takes me longer to recover nowadays thats all, but then they take longer to recover 'cos they have to drink double thier usual to keep up with a more developed consitution! :D It's funny as hell when they bring all thier student mates to one of our parties full of our 30 something friends, we end up raiding the drinks cabinet with a cocktail shaker and they all end up totally kail-eyed.
When I was 44 I started seeing a 20 year old girl who I'd met through biking (she has an SV now). In many ways she was the more mature one, but the age gap did show at times. We're no longer together, but we chat almost every day and are still extremely good friends. I doubt we will ever lose that friendship.
Reason for the split - I couldn't get it out of my head that she was 5 years younger than my eldest daughter and only 2 1/2 yrs older than my middle daughter, who was still in 6th form. Also, the ****-taking from my 13 yr old son about him fancying her.
BristolMatt
27-12-07, 12:50 PM
The magic age difference formula is half your age then add 7. So for me, at 26, my age range is 20 - 38 :D
That puts women aged 30 at dire risk of being asked by me.
sv-robo
27-12-07, 01:44 PM
your only as old as the woman you feel(&vice/versa)
Drew Carey
27-12-07, 02:08 PM
I'm 27 and Mrs Drew is 21. However, my Brother is 31 and my Sister in law is approaching mid 40's (Not sure of the precise age, I'm rubbish with that). In my view I don't think its a problem, providing you are happy and neither of you get hung up on it, then it's fine. I have asked Mrs Drew before whether she thought she was too young as she hadn't really had much time to live life (Met when she was 19), but she is happy and thats all that she cares about.
the older you get the less it matters. my bf is in his late 20s and im early 40s. luckily he doesnt look his age and I dont act mine so we get on very very well. its only when other people mention age and Ill say ooh I started work that year and he pipes up I started nursery.
dizzyblonde
27-12-07, 03:49 PM
Im Indoors is my toyboy......wehay!! I'll be 31 next month and he's 28. I have usually found myself being attracted to those around 10 years older than myself. Although Matt was my mate for a few years before we got together, I found it a little weird going out with someone younger than me. But everyone said it was about time and they'd all been waiting for years for us to be together--neither of us saw it. Ah well....apparently we're very well matched, something neither of us can see either. Love each other dearly though
Alpinestarhero
27-12-07, 07:21 PM
I dont think tis too bad, as long as you are both similar on maturity. Dosnt really matter who's older
Maria's older than me by 4 and a half months
Matt
therealvw
27-12-07, 07:37 PM
i think as long as both are in the same section of their life and want similar things out of the relationship, then who cares. it's a bit weird for, say, a 15 year old going out with a 20-something year old, but 21 and 34 doesn't seem so wrong. my parents are 20 years apart.
i find it funny that some people are still outraged when older women date younger men. who wouldn't want to date demi moore??
Exactly Dissuade. I'm 38 , good grief, how time flies. Wife is 35/36. Only 2-3 years I know(depending on the time of year), but when I asked her out, after some persuading and nudging from a mutual friend, I sort of waited until I was 19, and she had left school! It felt a bit of a gap back then, but now, almost 19 years on, we are still going strong.
PS, Dissuade, Nice avatar pic. Is that real pink hair or photoshoped?
Spiderman
27-12-07, 08:37 PM
i think this entire thread is just so you can all show off about how young your birds or blokes are.
The fact that Mrs Spidey is the same age as me as thus this excludes me from playing is irrelevant by the way :---)
Miss Alpinestarhero
27-12-07, 08:49 PM
Age-difference doesnt matter if both parties involved are on the same wave-length i.e. have similar views, opinions and attitudes. Ive always thought that age is just a number and does not define who or what you are
Maria
dizzyblonde
27-12-07, 09:03 PM
me and Im Indoors are usually along the same wavelength...................
at the moment its-
'how many more bikes can we collectively own before we both consider ourselves in need of help'. I consider having a partner having the same hobby as you is always a good idea!!:mrgreen:
Miss Alpinestarhero
27-12-07, 09:11 PM
me and Im Indoors are usually along the same wavelength...................
at the moment its-
'how many more bikes can we collectively own before we both consider ourselves in need of help'. I consider having a partner having the same hobby as you is always a good idea!!:mrgreen:
Lol how many bikes do you have between you then? I agree with the hobby - always a plus :D
Maria
dizzyblonde
27-12-07, 09:17 PM
nine:smt119:smt119:smt119
i think this entire thread is just so you can all show off about how young your birds or blokes are.
The fact that Mrs Spidey is the same age as me as thus this excludes me from playing is irrelevant by the way :---)
or how old we are
northwind
27-12-07, 10:17 PM
my bf is in his late 20s and im early 40s. luckily he doesnt look his age
No kidding :smt119 A gentleman would say here, "and neither do you". Do we have any gentlemen present? No. Ah well. :mrgreen:
trickywoos
27-12-07, 11:19 PM
Age is nowt but a number. Ok, single at the moment, but most of my relationships have been with older men........... Not tried younger men yet though!! LOL! Anyone under 26?!?!
*Sits back and waits for the conversation to turn to "does size matter" *
No kidding :smt119 A gentleman would say here, "and neither do you". Do we have any gentlemen present? No. Ah well. :mrgreen:
oi cheeky git ;)
One of my girlfirnds was 9 years younger than me. It ended in tears after 5 years.
As said elsewhere, depends on how mature both parties are and thier way of thinking.
timwilky
28-12-07, 12:48 PM
My dad was 21 years older than his girlfriend/come wife, she being 13 years older than me. Whilst he was active and working the age difference was meaningless. Except for one new confused neighbour who thought it was nice of us to have my dad stay with us.
However, old age did catch up with him. He had made all his financial planning to live to a ripe old age and keep his wife in the custom to which she had become accustomed etc. However, he died of cancer age 68 leaving a 48 year old wife. All his private pensions etc stopped at that point. Whilst he left her very comfortable it was by no means sufficient to maintain her lifestyle.
She is now a very active 60, but has spent 12 years as a widow, yes she has a life, but nothing like what she had. So remember, what mattered little when you both started your relationship can mean a lot when you start to age.
I think the older the couple, the less it matters, as long as they are both at similar levels of maturity ( or immaturity).
Pedrosa
28-12-07, 11:46 PM
My first wife was 72 when we wed. The nuptials followed a whirlwind romance. I was brow beaten at ny tender 18 years of age to believe that she would cater well for me should she pass away before me.
Well I suppose in truth she didn't lie as when the time came, the freezer was well stocked with 1 person meals!:p
Age difference makes no odds to me.
Unless it's my mum that was seeing someone that was in the same year as me at school. That was a bit wierd. But hey ho.
I've been out with older women, the biggest age gap was 17 years when I was 22. I saw her recently and the thought that she was over pensionable age nearly made me woof my cookies, but then I thought about what fun it was at the time and calmed down.
phil24_7
29-12-07, 01:12 PM
I'm 29 and Kate's 24 and it's not a big deal, in fact I'd say she's more settled than I am. Don't think age matters really as long as your both happy.
When I was single I used to operate a strict ten year rule (in either direction) for people I dated/pulled for meaningless sex. By strict I mean I'd go outside it if they were exceptionally fit!
Kate Moss
31-12-07, 12:48 PM
Age shouldn't matter as long as you both want the same things out of life.
The gap between us Phil is small, considering women mature quicker than men anyway, and even though you're going grey and are tired alot, you're still young at heart (well you act like a child anyway!!) :)
I have this thing where I don't go for people younger than me, don't know why. the largest age gap there has been for me is 11 years but was an insignificant incident!
Life is too short to waste time being concerned what other people think. if you are happy then that is all that matters.
i think this entire thread is just so you can all show off about how young your birds or blokes are.
The fact that Mrs Spidey is the same age as me as thus this excludes me from playing is irrelevant by the way :---)
This I am fairly sure I can win.
Mrs sv182 is 19
So put that in your pipe and smoke it! :p
FYI, I'm 23.
This I am fairly sure I can win.
Mrs sv182 is 19
So put that in your pipe and smoke it! :p
FYI, I'm 23.
4 years is hardly a big difference :confused:
4 years is hardly a big difference :confused:
Agreed, but many people try to make it a big difference. More so when we started seeing each other as for a few weeks we were 21 and 16. So I got lots of "this is so wrong" from people.
Agreed, but many people try to make it a big difference. More so when we started seeing each other as for a few weeks we were 21 and 16. So I got lots of "this is so wrong" from people.
well i can see both sides to this. im 12 years older than my partner. but i also have a 15 year old daughter and I would not be overly keen on her going out with a 21 year old guy. but when she is 24 and he is 30 - sounds ok. or 30 and 36 even better. the older you get the less it matters.
Agreed, but many people try to make it a big difference. More so when we started seeing each other as for a few weeks we were 21 and 16. So I got lots of "this is so wrong" from people.
I have daughters aged 16 and 18, if either of them was going out with a bloke 5 years older it wouldn't overly bother me, as long as they were being treated with some respect by the blokes.
but i also have a 15 year old daughter and I would not be overly keen on her going out with a 21 year old guy.
Yeah, that would be wrong. Especially with her still in school.
I have daughters aged 16 and 18, if either of them was going out with a bloke 5 years older it wouldn't overly bother me, as long as they were being treated with some respect by the blokes.
Which is exactly what I got from her folks. They've always been brilliant.
I have daughters aged 16 and 18, if either of them was going out with a bloke 5 years older it wouldn't overly bother me, as long as they were being treated with some respect by the blokes.
I have a daughter of 21 who has a fella who is 5 years younger than me. They also have a son.
thanks for all the replys,dont feel alone on this one anymore.Just come back from a trip up norf after 8 yrs and what did my uncle say?"are you the wife or the daughter"?Think I tempted fate.
the strange thing is ,I am the really outgoing one who is up for anything and Sars isnt,but I am getting more like her and she like me.,All she needs now is loads of grief to get her to join us at ar08
Have a good one tonight and see you all next yr
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