please help

[younggunns]

please tell me if my bike is worth loosing my girlfriend over.....(she has given me the ultimatum...death machine or me)..i think the choice is obvious...http://i255.photobucket.com/albums/hh143/younggunn1/25-02-08005.jpg

[hovis]

no idea what you are on about, but

welcome to the madhouse

[Shellywoozle]

Welcome to the org.

Why would you loose your girlfriend over a bike??? Maybe we are thick and mad LOL

[Lissa]

Women come and go...................chuck the bird, keep the bike:D

[ASM-Forever]

Tell her to go **** herself.

HTH. :)

[Tim in Belgium]

Depends what you ride most often...

[Svkid]

get a new set of rubbers test then decide ;)

[flymo]

whats the handling like? does it go?

[younggunns]

whats the handling like? does it go? tbh i'm not one for getting my knee down. but it is the biggest bike i've had and i think it rides like a rocket.. i love the torque of a v-twin something special about the sound too.

[shifter]

Thats a stupid question! There is an old saying where I come from "If it's got tits or wheels it it's gonna cause you problems".

[flymo]

tbh i'm not one for getting my knee down. but it is the biggest bike i've had and i think it rides like a rocket.. i love the torque of a v-twin something special about the sound too.

ah man, I put that there for comedy effect but to no avail ;)

nice looking bike by the way. no photo of the mrs for us to help make the choice?

[younggunns]

Thats a stupid question! There is an old saying where I come from "If it's got tits or wheels it it's gonna cause you problems". that dosen't help.... in your case i would get rid of both. that's what it sounds like your saying...(perhaps your a shirt lifter then).

[Lissa]

*Settles down with the popcorn to watch the entertainment*
:p

[ASM-Forever]

*Settles down with the popcorn to watch the entertainment*
:p

+1

(But has no popcorn :()

[Lozzo]

Kick her into touch and find a burd who likes you for who you are complete with bike.

I bloody hate women like that, they need a sound kick up the 'arris all the way back to mummy's.

[shifter]

My bird knows better than to mess where the bikes concerned

[Yog-Sothoth]

What was it old Madge said:

"Poor is the man whose pleasure depends upon the permission of another"

:)

[Lissa]

My bird knows better than to mess where the bikes concerned

Pah, that's no good either. You want one that's as into bikes as you are and will clean it for you:p

[Grinch]

What's her reason for you not to keep the bike, other then that old death machine moan we all hear. Life would be so boring if people didn't take some risk in it...

[shifter]

Pah, that's no good either. You want one that's as into bikes as you are and will clean it for you:p
That would be nice

[younggunns]

Pah, that's no good either. You want one that's as into bikes as you are and will clean it for you:p is that an offer... mine is due a nice polishing............the bike that is...

[bad-sv650]

bike or bird ?:confused: mmmmmmmmmmm.

Both are handy, but if it comes to it then..........

Bike. if the bird's told you to chose, then chose the bike, then see what happens :)

she'll be back !!!

[Lissa]

is that an offer... mine is due a nice polishing............the bike that is...

Hmmm, I've got one here that needs a good polish, but I guess I could always squeeze in one more:D

[Red Herring]

I got round this by showing the wife my life insurance policy. She made me buy a bigger bike!

[chris8886]

Hmmm, I've got one here that needs a good polish, but I guess I could always squeeze in one more:D

do you do door to door service? :confused:





:rolleyes:

[chris8886]

definately keep the bike mate, it's sooooooo worth it. plus there are loads of birds out there who love bikes!!

[Jester666]

What's her reason for you not to keep the bike, other then that old death machine moan we all hear. Life would be so boring if people didn't take some risk in it...

Probably this thread!! (http://forums.sv650.org/showthread.php?t=105579)

Get rid of her and find another one!! IMO!

And welcome to the madhouse!!

Stay out of arms reach of Bear and stand well away from Grinch!!

They're the forum deviants!! :lol:

[Lozzo]

Stay out of arms reach of Bear and stand well away from Grinch!!

They're the forum deviants!! :lol:

You reckon? ;)

[Jester666]

Have you met them? :shock: Were you at AR07? :shock: x 2
:lol:

[rob13]

Unless you cant imagine life without her, tell her the bike stays. Dont be walked over at any stage because once they get an inkling that you'll compromise, they'll start taking the p&ss. If she doesnt like it then theres a load of girls who would love a ride on the bike:D

[Grinch]

Probably this thread!! (http://forums.sv650.org/showthread.php?t=105579)

Get rid of her and find another one!! IMO!

And welcome to the madhouse!!

Stay out of arms reach of Bear and stand well away from Grinch!!

They're the forum deviants!! :lol:

Ah that explains it...

Oh and what you talking about fool, I know nothin'.

Pah, that's no good either. You want one that's as into bikes as you are and will clean it for you:p

Jax does that with mine, sometimes she sees it and is so disgusted she cleans it, then tells me off cus I moan I was trying to get it dirty as possible. Then I get told off for being stupid and ungrateful and that having a dirty bike is not a competition. Which it is... Though its all great and I loves her lots... Did I mention she rides a Ducati, like a daemon. Likes to make blokes on Huyabusas look slow, its well funny but also a little scary when she hoons it round those bends.

[EssexDave]

Got a similar problem with my bird, she told me if i got one she'd break up with me. Told her that if she really loved me then she'd be happy that i'm happy doing it, even if it does entail risk, she's still REALLY not happy and everytime i mention the word she gets in a mood. But whatever, she can live with it or move on ya know, i can understand partly why they would be so defensive about it, but at the same time i wouldn't linger on it, maybe try having a serious chat with her telling her how much it means to you?

Then again, i would say the best advice i've seen on here was to ignore any advice given on relationship problems posted on the internet or a forum like this...end of the day your choice mate...hard one at that.

Good luck! :D

[timwilky]

Forget everything above.

I woke up in hospital and had the ultimatum. Change your life style or die. Yes I am a few years (and a lot of months) older than you. My brother came to see me and told me you are going to get another bike. I listened to his argument, and conceded that for 25 years I had been the person my wife wanted.

I packed in biking in the 80s, wife, kids, risk etc. Just like I had packed in Friday night out with the lads, Sunday afternoon five aside, Saturday morning G*lf, the occasional Blackburn Rovers game etc.

So I bought another bike. had it 6 days before it was written off. (By a doddering old fart who hit me sat at a red light) and I seriously worried was I right to go back on two wheels. Well I gave it another go. My brother who got me back has given up, come back given up and come back etc. The difference is I have stayed back on two wheels. I am what some may call a fair weather rider, a weekend warrior etc. It don'.t matter. And why.

The wife has seen me in a hospital bed, on a coronary care unit. she has seen a different me come home. cool relaxed and happy on the bike. she has seen me climbing walls and said. "Why don't you go out on the bike for a couple of hours".

If somebody truly understands their partner. They will realise a relationship is not just you and I, but what and who you and I are. what makes you the person you are.


Please stick with something that is yours. It may or may not be bikes. For me I am too busy making sure I stay alive with all the idiots out there to worry about budgets, timescales, manpower etc. Damm it life is for living. I learn't the hard way. But at least I got the opportunity. Don't make a simple mistake now for the sake of domestic harmony.

now all the wife says is "Where are the life insurance details" whenever I go out. And an even bigger welcolme home from the dog.

[timwilky]

Forget everything above.

I woke up in hospital and had the ultimatum. Change your life style or die. Yes I am a few years (and a lot of months) older than you. My brother came to see me and told me you are going to get another bike. I listened to his argument, and conceded that for 25 years I had been the person my wife wanted.

I packed in biking in the 80s, wife, kids, risk etc. Just like I had packed in Friday night out with the lads, Sunday afternoon five aside, Saturday morning G*lf, the occasional Blackburn Rovers game etc.

So I bought another bike. had it 6 days before it was written off. (By a doddering old fart who hit me sat at a red light) and I seriously worried was I right to go back on two wheels. Well I gave it another go. My brother who got me back has given up, come back given up and come back etc. The difference is I have stayed back on two wheels. I am what some may call a fair weather rider, a weekend warrior etc. It don'.t matter. And why.

The wife has seen me in a hospital bed, on a coronary care unit. she has seen a different me come home. cool relaxed and happy on the bike. she has seen me climbing walls and said. "Why don't you go out on the bike for a couple of hours".

If somebody truly understands their partner. They will realise a relationship is not just you and I, but what and who you and I are. what makes you the person you are.


Please stick with something that is yours. It may or may not be bikes. For me I am too busy making sure I stay alive with all the idiots out there to worry about budgets, timescales, manpower etc. Damm it life is for living. I learn't the hard way. But at least I got the opportunity. Don't make a simple mistake now for the sake of domestic harmony.

Now all the wife says is "Where are the life insurance details" whenever I go out. And an even bigger welcome home from the dog. she knows she would rather loose me ina an accident than sentence me to death by work/life imbalance

[younggunns]

Forget everything above.

I woke up in hospital and had the ultimatum. Change your life style or die. Yes I am a few years (and a lot of months) older than you. My brother came to see me and told me you are going to get another bike. I listened to his argument, and conceded that for 25 years I had been the person my wife wanted.

I packed in biking in the 80s, wife, kids, risk etc. Just like I had packed in Friday night out with the lads, Sunday afternoon five aside, Saturday morning G*lf, the occasional Blackburn Rovers game etc.

So I bought another bike. had it 6 days before it was written off. (By a doddering old fart who hit me sat at a red light) and I seriously worried was I right to go back on two wheels. Well I gave it another go. My brother who got me back has given up, come back given up and come back etc. The difference is I have stayed back on two wheels. I am what some may call a fair weather rider, a weekend warrior etc. It don'.t matter. And why.

The wife has seen me in a hospital bed, on a coronary care unit. she has seen a different me come home. cool relaxed and happy on the bike. she has seen me climbing walls and said. "Why don't you go out on the bike for a couple of hours".

If somebody truly understands their partner. They will realise a relationship is not just you and I, but what and who you and I are. what makes you the person you are.


Please stick with something that is yours. It may or may not be bikes. For me I am too busy making sure I stay alive with all the idiots out there to worry about budgets, timescales, manpower etc. Damm it life is for living. I learn't the hard way. But at least I got the opportunity. Don't make a simple mistake now for the sake of domestic harmony.

now all the wife says is "Where are the life insurance details" whenever I go out. And an even bigger welcolme home from the dog. hear hear... well done need i say more.....hat's off to this man.... until you ride a bike ona summers day you have no idea of the whole over body rush it gives...

[Dangerous Dave]

Pah, that's no good either. You want one that's as into bikes as you are and will clean it for you:p

Huh... that would be nice, I wouldn't trust my missus with cleaning the bike!!!

[yorkie_chris]

please tell me if my bike is worth loosing my girlfriend over.....(she has given me the ultimatum...death machine or me)..i think the choice is obvious...

"you can cook, you can ####, you can do the washing up, now ive had enough, go on #### off..." etc. :D

She obviously doesn't understand you at all, get rid.

And when you do, any decent pictures? :p

[jumjum_0214]

Tell her to jog on :smt098

[missyburd]

"you can cook, you can ####, you can do the washing up, now ive had enough, go on #### off..." etc. :D

She obviously doesn't understand you at all, get rid.

And when you do, any decent pictures? :p

:-s you do talk complete crap sometimes :smt058

Youngguns: This girlfriend of yours is being selfish in asking you choose, if anything you could at least come to a compromise, but by the sounds of it I'd agree with what others are saying and go with the bike.

On the other hand maybe you could try offering her a ride on the back so she can see what it's like and maybe why you enjoy it so much? If, however, she is a bikeaphobe then maybe you should look elsewhere, it's only going to make things more difficult in the long term. I wouldn't dream of asking Chris to choose between bikes and me - apart from the obvious response of 'you can f*** reyt off' I just wouldn't even contemplate such a ridiculous question! If you were married with kids to think of then matters may be different, but otherwise you should really be thinking of what you want, she clearly doesn't care that much. And like someone said earlier, she may realise the error of her ways and come running back :D

[Alpinestarhero]

Take the bike. Bikes arnt death machines; its the attitue of the rider. If your safe, and you protect yourself (for more information see bigapes "wear your ferkin leathers" thread!) then your bike is not a death machine.

Even if it is a blue pointy :smt109

To make the desicion easier for you, sell your car, if you have one, and transport yourself soley by motorcycle. Your girlfreind will then have to make the choice, because you then NEED the bike to get around on!

Matt

[Alpinestarhero]

hear hear... well done need i say more.....hat's off to this man.... until you ride a bike ona summers day you have no idea of the whole over body rush it gives...

Try ridign it on a wet winters day, thats a rush

Although it make me think, the first time, i should get a car. But i was reminded that cars are a silly idea in london, because I was filtering whilst i was thinking about getting a car.

Matt

[younggunns]

Take the bike. Bikes arnt death machines; its the attitue of the rider. If your safe, and you protect yourself (for more information see bigapes "wear your ferkin leathers" thread!) then your bike is not a death machine.

Even if it is a blue pointy :smt109

To make the desicion easier for you, sell your car, if you have one, and transport yourself soley by motorcycle. Your girlfreind will then have to make the choice, because you then NEED the bike to get around on!

Matt i do own a car and no she dosen't drive so i'm mr taxi driver. but i know she would never ever ever ride on my bike. i remember once i took her on a jet bike in gran canairia, nothing but water all round, brought her to tears. lol still i had fun......p.s. what is it with curveys and pointys....we all know pointys kick ass.....

[younggunns]

Try ridign it on a wet winters day, thats a rush

Although it make me think, the first time, i should get a car. But i was reminded that cars are a silly idea in london, because I was filtering whilst i was thinking about getting a car.

Matt i ride all year long, have to to get to and from work ... but for me most enjoyable during summer.....

[Alpinestarhero]

Jet Ski's are awesome, although it killed my arms for a week after 15mins riding

I think its unfair to ask you to stop. Have you explained to her what measures you take to be safe? This could be important - she might see those shiny leathers as just a gimmick, not see them for what they really are. What if you did a BikeSafe course; would that help to ease her mind?

And damn on being the taxi. My girlfreind has a car, she can take herself places. Mind you, she likes coming on the back of the old SV, and enjoys the benefits of commuting through london on the back of my bike

Matt

[Baph]

I used to get earache everytime I left the house on the bike (and baring in mind I commute on the bike, that was just a fair bit). She'd stress about it constantly, and it got to the point that I had to call home about once every hour, otherwise she started to call hospitals etc....


On the other hand maybe you could try offering her a ride on the back so she can see what it's like and maybe why you enjoy it so much?

Then I did exactly what missyorkie_chris said (only before she said it :D) and took her out on the bike.

She liked bikes, but didn't have a clue about them, so the firs thing I did was "Tell you what, I'll teach you to ride the damn thing!" Turned out that she only got to 8mph (just let the clutch out in first gear) in a straight line. Then she cra*pped herself. :lol:

Next step was, "OK, you've seen what it's like to ride the thing yourself, I'll take you on the back." I rode a little more sensibly than I usually do so I didn't scare her etc. When we pulled over, the response I got was "You know you can overtake whilst I'm on the back, right?" :D

If I were ever put in your position, I wouldn't even pause for breath. Bike. And she knows it too.

Nowadays I just say, "I'm going out on the bike, don't expect me back any time soon." :)

[missyburd]

She liked bikes, but didn't have a clue about them :lol:


that sounds like me before Chris took me on the back, flippin' loved it, was quite disappointed when we got back to his and I had to get off :D

People are so different! You never know, she may (eventually) come round to the idea and then all will be well. If she's not even willing to see things from your point of view then so be it, you've tried. Just out of interest, how long have you been together?

[younggunns]

that sounds like me before Chris took me on the back, flippin' loved it, was quite disappointed when we got back to his and I had to get off :D

People are so different! You never know, she may (eventually) come round to the idea and then all will be well. If she's not even willing to see things from your point of view then so be it, you've tried. Just out of interest, how long have you been together? lol....7 years believe it or not...bin riding for 3 years.

[sv650nutter149]

in my opion what spends more money....girl or bike???? i think girl....lose her save money and the money that u do save get some mods on the bike :)

[missyburd]

lol....7 years believe it or not...bin riding for 3 years.

ehhh? so she has "put up" with the bike for all that time? Why is she giving you an ultimatum now? :confused:

And 3 years on the road is surely enough experience for her to realize that you know what you're doing....odd situation all in all me thinks. But then I don't know the ins and outs of it all so one shouldn't judge :)

[petevtwin650]

I've had bikes all my riding life. Together with wives and g'f's who have enjoyed them. In fact my Bonnie was the lure that attracted my first wife. She even rode pillion up to 8 months preggers. On an MZ125 not the vibrating Trumpet. 2nd wife taught me to drive and I showed her how to ride. She owned such bikes as FZ750 and FJ1100 and 1200. Third wife loved my Harley then got her own ER5 to ride. My daughter passed her test and, before getting pregnant, had a Bros, SV, and aZX9

Met Lissa for the first time on a blind date weekend. Going to Anglesey for the Bike show on my Daytona 1200. And we haven't looked back. Because we both share the joy of biking we can spend most weekends out riding or fettling.

Find yourself a girl who at least understands what riding a bike means spiritually and mentally and preferably one who wants to be out on it as much as you.

Life is too short not to.

[younggunns]

ehhh? so she has "put up" with the bike for all that time? Why is she giving you an ultimatum now? :confused:

And 3 years on the road is surely enough experience for her to realize that you know what you're doing....odd situation all in all me thinks. But then I don't know the ins and outs of it all so one shouldn't judge :) i have pics in another forum, its due to me having an accident in july. a car hit me side on, done my leg in real good and it is in an external fixator at the moment. got about another 5-6 months.http://i255.photobucket.com/albums/hh143/younggunn1/break1.jpghttp://i255.photobucket.com/albums/hh143/younggunn1/DSC00076.jpg

[missyburd]

i have pics in another forum, its due to me having an accident in july. a car hit me side on, done my leg in real good and it is in an external fixator at the moment. got about another 5-6 months.

oooof, I can sort of see where she's coming from. But if you're not even going to be back on the bike in the immediate future then there's not really a need to bring the whole ultimatum thing up now...sort of a 'cross that bridge when you come to it' kinda thing.

All the best for a speedy recovery btw :smt001

[younggunns]

oooof, I can sort of see where she's coming from. But if you're not even going to be back on the bike in the immediate future then there's not really a need to bring the whole ultimatum thing up now...sort of a 'cross that bridge when you come to it' kinda thing.

All the best for a speedy recovery btw :smt001 yea right but........ my point is the risks are still the same when i get back on my bike as they were when i first got on a bike.. she didn't mind then if anything my riding is better than ever and can only improve...

[Alpinestarhero]

Put it this way; in a car accident, you can get trapped. You can roll down a bank and end uup upside down in a ditch, with stream water drowning you. You can have a fire in the car and not get out. When you have a car crash, your along for the ride...you cant bail out!

Sometimes, there are accidents that I think people would have faired a bit better in had they had that accident on a bike, not in a car

Matt

[younggunns]

Put it this way; in a car accident, you can get trapped. You can roll down a bank and end uup upside down in a ditch, with stream water drowning you. You can have a fire in the car and not get out. When you have a car crash, your along for the ride...you cant bail out!

Sometimes, there are accidents that I think people would have faired a bit better in had they had that accident on a bike, not in a car

Matt i know where your coming from... since my accident all i get is "your leg wouldn't be like that if you were in a car". but as you said maybe not in that accident but another situation i could have been dead...

[missyburd]

yea right but........ my point is the risks are still the same when i get back on my bike as they were when i first got on a bike.. she didn't mind then if anything my riding is better than ever and can only improve...
Exactly. She's not got much of a leg to stand on in that department really (so sorry about that, no pun intended I swear! 8-[). By her not having a problem with it initially means she thought it was ok once upon a time. Think you need to really sit down with her and see what it is that really bothers her so much about the whole biking thing and if you can both work a way round it - that's if you really want to, especially after this thread!

[sv-robo]

Women come and go...................chuck the bird, keep the bike:D
+1..an ex gave me that ultimatum,that's why she's my ex.

[zunkus]

...and an even bigger welcome home from the dog.

Haha, I can relate to that!

[chakraist]

If your girlfriend is willing to leave you whilst your leg is in that state, then she's not worth the hassle mate! Imagine if her leg was bust, would you be threatening to leave her?