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I've decided the time has come to actually do it. where do I start? your experiences will be faster, then research plus i can compare advice and go for the best one!
cheers all;)
Try and do it outside of the courts / lawyers etc. Why line their pockets.
When I split we divvy'd everything, agreed it, job done.
It's possible to do all the divorce paperwork yourself for the courts etc. I did. Took maybe an hour.
DanAbnormal
04-03-08, 03:41 PM
I've decided the time has come to actually do it. where do I start? your experiences will be faster, then research plus i can compare advice and go for the best one!
cheers all;)
Sorry to hear this. While I hope that I never have to go through this I wish you a speedy, er, thing.
I hope you know what I mean. :(
Sorry to hear this. While I hope that I never have to go through this I wish you a speedy, er, thing.
I hope you know what I mean. :(
thank you ;)
i went thru my solicitor 4 years ago and it cost me ?1500. Had to go thru solicitor as we had kids. If no kids I wouldnt bother. Split everything 50/50 and try to stay amicable.
I did the irreconcilable differences divorce. Which was 2 years separation and automatic divorce after that time. you can get it quicker if adultery is mentioned or violence. so go beat him round the head with a newspaper and let him divorce you. lol
mister c
04-03-08, 04:49 PM
My missus divorced me, but I did find a solicitor that was spot on. She didn't charge me a penny for the 1st half hour consultation. You can get a lot sorted in half an hour :). I held out because my ex wife said in the writ (or whatever they call it) that I hit her, which I never ever did in 20 years of marriage. My solicitor told me just to agree to get the wheels moving even tho I didn't agree.
If the 2 of you agree to everything (which you probably wont) then it is fairly painless, mine went through in about 6 months. I also got away without paying a penny (she paid for everything).
You will find out that you will disagree with virtually everything one or the other tries to put forward - even if you are the best of friends now.
If you can avoid a divorce, then my advice to you would be do so. It is a horrible thing to go through.
petevtwin650
04-03-08, 04:52 PM
Try and do it outside of the courts / lawyers etc. Why line their pockets.
When I split we divvy'd everything, agreed it, job done.
It's possible to do all the divorce paperwork yourself for the courts etc. I did. Took maybe an hour.
+1
Last divorce, my other half did all the paperwork and I just signed it. Paid some paltry court fee was all. :cool:
Flamin_Squirrel
04-03-08, 04:56 PM
Try and do it outside of the courts / lawyers etc. Why line their pockets.
When I split we divvy'd everything, agreed it, job done.
It's possible to do all the divorce paperwork yourself for the courts etc. I did. Took maybe an hour.
:o
Didn't realised you'd been through that. Sorry to hear it :(
the_runt69
04-03-08, 05:13 PM
Am watching this with interest as I may be on the same path soon
its not a pleasant thing to go thru but it certainly beats being married to the ****
Mike2165
04-03-08, 09:54 PM
Err.. 1st divorce, painless enough from what I can remember, but cost me. 2nd divorce, she did the paperwork, didn't contest anything, she got legal aid, cost me nothing...So I like cake! Guess who's getting married in December?! :?
gettin2dizzy
05-03-08, 07:30 AM
Stick with the Thai/Russian brides. Far more diligent ;)
:o
Didn't realised you'd been through that. Sorry to hear it :(
About 18 months ago now Squiz.
Still friends, but it just didn't work out.
Try and do it outside of the courts / lawyers etc. Why line their pockets.
When I split we divvy'd everything, agreed it, job done.
It's possible to do all the divorce paperwork yourself for the courts etc. I did. Took maybe an hour.
What!!!! You and Keith have split???? ;)
Divorce...never had one myseofl, but Mum has, and my better half has. Mum's was straight forward. Done all the paperwork herself, nothing to split, job done in 3 months. The better half, well, she got well and truly taken to the cleaners and that was using a solicitor!
So i dont know. If you go scoobs route, i woudl still get something in writing that what you agree to who has what, and witnessed. Then if at anytime in the future, you decided that the Showaddywaddy album really was yours, you can fight your corner.
When i got divorced we did it ourselves we didn't have any children to sort out and we sorted the house out before we did the paperwork it was fairly cheap if i remember
timwilky
05-03-08, 09:00 AM
Never had one myself.
But mates have. They have been squeezed, pressed, sliced and diced. One was forced to sell his Blade, R1 and M5 and give her half. plus of course half the equity in the house that he had bought. (She never worked)
She also wanted half the legacy he would receive when his dad died, half his military pension, plus she wanted 2/3 of his salary. Fortunately even her solicitor told her those were out of order
I did it myself, even though we had a daugher, so you don't need to go through solicitor if you have children.
He kept trying to move to goal posts, but I stood my ground and refused to give a solicitor my hard earned money. We split everything 50/50, I know I was entitled to more with having our daughter, but I wanted to get rid of him as quick as possible the adulterous b******.
It came right in the end and took about 4 months.
gettin2dizzy
05-03-08, 09:19 AM
Never had one myself.
But mates have. They have been squeezed, pressed, sliced and diced. One was forced to sell his Blade, R1 and M5 and give her half. plus of course half the equity in the house that he had bought. (She never worked)
She also wanted half the legacy he would receive when his dad died, half his military pension, plus she wanted 2/3 of his salary. Fortunately even her solicitor told her those were out of order
he *MUST* have been doing something dodgy for her to ask for that!
timwilky
05-03-08, 09:33 AM
he *MUST* have been doing something dodgy for her to ask for that!
Just getting what he couldn't get at home, plus he was trying to set up a business. So she knew what his actual work like an idiot income was. He worked 48 hours on 4 12 hour shift plus 3 days a week plastering.
Come the divorce, the plastering job stopped. He wasn't killing himself for her
I divorced my ex-wife on the grounds of my adultery. We tried to do it out of court but we hit a problem when she moved to Australia, so solicitors had to be involved. It ended up costing her a fortune because I did a runner and my solicitor chased her for my bill...and she paid it.
Over all it took 3 years to finalise everything, by which time there were three young nearly-step-kids calling me Daddy.
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