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...the variety that live next door, not the Harold Bishop ones.
I'll keep this to the point, and without bias.
What would you do about this, and how would you feel?
Neighbour walks out of house, repeatedly staring into our living room if the blinds are tilted the wrong way so they can see in. This requires a 180 degree turn of the neck, but is consistent.
Neighbour built fence (before we bought house) that tails down from 6feet near the house, to almost 4 1/2 feet at the end of the garden, allowing extra peerage. Specifically in summer, when you/wife are lazing around the garden
Neighbour has webcam in bedroom window, facing street where....
Neighbour always ensures that one of their (2) cars is always occupying the space in front of the house.
If car space is occupied by a.n.other car, as soon as it moves, neighbour occupies space. (within ~3 minutes). Sometimes the car isn't even started, it just gets rolled 7 metres forward with the door open :confused:
(Neighbour has now had quotes to drop kerb to claim right of access)
Neighbour appears at front/rear of house to make useless conversation when me or the wife are leaving or coming inI think thats it, but quite frankly, after 3 and a half years, we're thinking of moving.
It sounds quite sad, I know, but its incredibly depressing at times. We get on, the neighbour is very friendly, but by GOD is it annoying. I've quite spitefully taken my vengeance this weekend by leaving my car in his spot and riding or borrowing Mrs Oogers car. I feel a little better. Logistics dictate that this "bagsy" behaviour can continue until Tuesday (4 nights, a personal best so far)
Sensible answers only please. So far our ideas for the "peeping" are:
Conifers, fast growing ones. 60cm apart.
OK, just one idea then. Help me.
Wideboy
27-04-08, 05:29 PM
Sensible answers only please. So far our ideas for the "peeping" are:
stand in front of the window and glare back at them, its surprising how easily it unnerves people
This is a good point. I suppose if you sit there are think "argh stop looking at me" then you've lost already.
Next.
beaniebikerbabe
27-04-08, 05:33 PM
...the variety that live next door, not the Harold Bishop ones.
I'll keep this to the point, and without bias.
What would you do about this, and how would you feel?
Neighbour walks out of house, repeatedly staring into our living room if the blinds are tilted the wrong way so they can see in. This requires a 180 degree turn of the neck, but is consistent.
Neighbour built fence (before we bought house) that tails down from 6feet near the house, to almost 4 1/2 feet at the end of the garden, allowing extra peerage. Specifically in summer, when you/wife are lazing around the garden
Neighbour has webcam in bedroom window, facing street where....
Neighbour always ensures that one of their (2) cars is always occupying the space in front of the house.
If car space is occupied by a.n.other car, as soon as it moves, neighbour occupies space. (within ~3 minutes). Sometimes the car isn't even started, it just gets rolled 7 metres forward with the door open :confused:
(Neighbour has now had quotes to drop kerb to claim right of access)
Neighbour appears at front/rear of house to make useless conversation when me or the wife are leaving or coming inI think thats it, but quite frankly, after 3 and a half years, we're thinking of moving.
It sounds quite sad, I know, but its incredibly depressing at times. We get on, the neighbour is very friendly, but by GOD is it annoying. I've quite spitefully taken my vengeance this weekend by leaving my car in his spot and riding or borrowing Mrs Oogers car. I feel a little better. Logistics dictate that this "bagsy" behaviour can continue until Tuesday (4 nights, a personal best so far)
Sensible answers only please. So far our ideas for the "peeping" are:
Conifers, fast growing ones. 60cm apart.
OK, just one idea then. Help me.
hiya
i wud not move cos then they won!!!!!! cant have that? and then stare back?? wen they come out of house watch etc? now some may say that u r lowering yr self to their level then and it wil only then cause a war? but they wil feel intimidated then mayb? and realise how uncofortable they r making u or on the other hand u cld just say some thing in conversation like i notices u looking in etc ???
neighbours can make yr life hell, we got on at the mo and we only been here 8 weeks and she complaining about me bike already and its not moved lol
missyburd
27-04-08, 05:56 PM
It sounds quite sad, I know, but its incredibly depressing at times. We get on, the neighbour is very friendly, but by GOD is it annoying. I've quite spitefully taken my vengeance this weekend by leaving my car in his spot and riding or borrowing Mrs Oogers car. I feel a little better. Logistics dictate that this "bagsy" behaviour can continue until Tuesday (4 nights, a personal best so far)
Sensible answers only please. So far our ideas for the "peeping" are:
Conifers, fast growing ones. 60cm apart.
OK, just one idea then. Help me.
Wow, this sounds very much like the problems we have with an old chap who lives next door to us- except yours sound a tad more extreme.... This bloke keeps pigeons and chickens and wanders out god knows how many times during the day to, I would assume, check on them. Except when he goes out it's always just after one of us (usually mum) has gone out to do the same. He has a little window in his pigeon house which he stands and peeps through (his garden being at the top of a sloping 100ft garden). It gets to the point where you walk out into the garden and can guarantee his gate will bang shut about 5 minutes after as he makes his way up the garden :(. It's got to the point where we really can't enjoy being put in the garden unless he's out which is ridiculous.
He's a harmless enough old chap but he has a wife and grandkids which you'd think were more than enough to keep him occupied but seemingly not. My mum's always complaining about it and how much she wants to move...his cockerels keep her up at all hours too :rolleyes:
It's not a pleasant experience living next to a peeper but there's not a lot you can do except erect huge fences/hedges about the place which we are in the process of doing. Everyone is entitled to their privacy, it's a great shame not everyone respects that :rolleyes:
P.S if you can avoid bad atmospheres tis generally a good thing, neighbours can be a right pain when you're trying to sell if you're not careful.
[quote=ooger;1492143].
Neighbour walks out of house, repeatedly staring into our living room if the blinds are tilted the wrong way so they can see in. This requires a 180 degree turn of the neck, but is consistent. - ensure blinds are at the correct angle I guess horizontal blinds & indoors is higher than outdoors so should not take much of an angle to let all the sun in but not the neighbours eyes.
Neighbour built fence (before we bought house) that tails down from 6feet near the house, to almost 4 1/2 feet at the end of the garden, allowing extra peerage. Specifically in summer, when you/wife are lazing around the garden - start nude sunbathing, you not the wife, should soon put him off
Neighbour has webcam in bedroom window, facing street where....
Neighbour always ensures that one of their (2) cars is always occupying the space in front of the house. - so... better than parking in front of yours
If car space is occupied by a.n.other car, as soon as it moves, neighbour occupies space. (within ~3 minutes). Sometimes the car isn't even started, it just gets rolled 7 metres forward with the door open :confused:
(Neighbour has now had quotes to drop kerb to claim right of access) if this leads to him parking in driveway? all the more parking for you
Neighbour appears at front/rear of house to make useless conversation when me or the wife are leaving or coming in - what's his email address, I'll forward this thread to him - pleasantries should soon stop! :lol:
Get a hitman and be done with him!!
Sorry i'm not much help!!
Rhiwbina_Squirrel
27-04-08, 06:24 PM
Maybe put something infront of the window like some flower pots or a flower bed to stop him getting close enough to peep in
Alex
I'd move. This sort of behaviour is so tiresome. You'll never win. Just get the hell out.
[quote=ooger;1492143].
Neighbour walks out of house, repeatedly staring into our living room if the blinds are tilted the wrong way so they can see in. This requires a 180 degree turn of the neck, but is consistent. - ensure blinds are at the correct angle I guess horizontal blinds & indoors is higher than outdoors so should not take much of an angle to let all the sun in but not the neighbours eyes.sit there in the nude and smile at him when he looks into your house.
Neighbour built fence (before we bought house) that tails down from 6feet near the house, to almost 4 1/2 feet at the end of the garden, allowing extra peerage. Specifically in summer, when you/wife are lazing around the garden - start nude sunbathing, you not the wife, should soon put him off
Neighbour always ensures that one of their (2) cars is always occupying the space in front of the house. - so... better than parking in front of yours
If car space is occupied by a.n.other car, as soon as it moves, neighbour occupies space. (within ~3 minutes). Sometimes the car isn't even started, it just gets rolled 7 metres forward with the door open :confused:
(Neighbour has now had quotes to drop kerb to claim right of access) if this leads to him parking in driveway? all the more parking for you
Neighbour appears at front/rear of house to make useless conversation when me or the wife are leaving or coming in - what's his email address, I'll forward this thread to him - pleasantries should soon stop!
he's lonley.
count your self lucky really ........... some of the neighbours i have had were fxxxing bestards !!!
to say the liest, so chill out a bit....it could be worse...
move - buy my flat and come in live in Scotland.
1st floor flat - no one can see if your window
parking - me and neighbour park out front - room for 8 cars only 2. rest park in car park at the rear of the building.
sunbathing in garden - its Scotland for gawd sake
lol
I had an ethnic family living next door to me for some time. I could reel a list off of the things they did and have done, but I will summarise.
1 - There bins stayed on the pavement permenantly, where ever the bins men left them......They would open the lid and leave it open....on the pavement, full of nappies and alsorts of stinking crap which would get pulled out by animals and blown out by the wind.
2 - They could never pull onto the drive like a normal person, more often than not it resulted in them driving across my front lawn or even leaving their car part on my front lawn.
3 - They once reversed straight off their drive into my other neighbours car, rolled window down, looked at damage and drove off at 5.45am.......I just happened to be up early going to work so saw it all, I gave our neighbour a couple of days to own up to it, which he didnt, he had infact blamed it on the milk man. Then I got involved and he blamed it on his wife and gave her a beating.
4 - They were constantly, and I mean 95% of the time screaming at each other or their kid, always resulting in the wife crying or being beaten.
5 - The kid was literally like an animal which they had no control over.
6 - They were the most heavy footed ignorant bunch of people I have ever has the misfortune of living next to.
I put up with it for over a year and then the girlfriend and I got seriously depressed and fed up with being my polite and quite......... within 1 month they had moved out ;) house has now stood unoccupied for nearly 2 months.
Ifed up with being my polite and quite......... within 1 month they had moved out ;) house has now stood unoccupied for nearly 2 months.
So what did you do to get rid of them?
No one has mentioned to speak to them and discuss it. :confused: If you get on with them, it can do no harm to mention it. Had a similar problem with our neighbours. A chat resolved the majority of them. Even if it doesn't work, at least your neighbours will know how you feel and you will know they don't care.
Warthog
28-04-08, 10:04 AM
Stand totally naked at your front window :). That'll stop them.
SoulKiss
28-04-08, 10:12 AM
Neighbour walks out of house, repeatedly staring into our living room if the blinds are tilted the wrong way so they can see in. This requires a 180 degree turn of the neck, but is consistent. Put a webcam in the window to record this.....
Neighbour built fence (before we bought house) that tails down from 6feet near the house, to almost 4 1/2 feet at the end of the garden, allowing extra peerage. Specifically in summer, when you/wife are lazing around the garden Increase the height of the fence at that point - maybe a garden shed?
Neighbour has webcam in bedroom window, facing street where....
Neighbour always ensures that one of their (2) cars is always occupying the space in front of the house. Find out what the legal position on this is, ie who has the right to park there.
If car space is occupied by a.n.other car, as soon as it moves, neighbour occupies space. (within ~3 minutes). Sometimes the car isn't even started, it just gets rolled 7 metres forward with the door open :confused:
(Neighbour has now had quotes to drop kerb to claim right of access)Block his application with the council unless it guarantees joint right of access
Neighbour appears at front/rear of house to make useless conversation when me or the wife are leaving or coming in"Sorry mate, a bit busy, catch you another time"
I think thats it, but quite frankly, after 3 and a half years, we're thinking of moving.
It sounds quite sad, I know, but its incredibly depressing at times. We get on, the neighbour is very friendly, but by GOD is it annoying. I've quite spitefully taken my vengeance this weekend by leaving my car in his spot and riding or borrowing Mrs Oogers car. I feel a little better. Logistics dictate that this "bagsy" behaviour can continue until Tuesday (4 nights, a personal best so far)
Sensible answers only please. So far our ideas for the "peeping" are:
Conifers, fast growing ones. 60cm apart.
OK, just one idea then. Help me.
Dont move because of him - get the evidence of his behaviour, call it stalking and get a restraining order which should get him at least, 100 meters out of yout life :)
So what did you do to get rid of them?
Alsorts of things that I'm definatley not proud of, nor can I post on a forum :mad: but it had gone on long enough.
DanAbnormal
28-04-08, 10:33 AM
Kill them.
Dont move because of him - get the evidence of his behaviour, call it stalking and get a restraining order which should get him at least, 100 meters out of yout life :)
Definatley dont move because of them, we contemplated moving, even went as far as looking around and finalising what it was going to cost us. It just wasnt worth it in the end and we thought why the hell should we put up with it an have to suffer such a massive cost.
Edit: Also remember than any legal neighbourly dispute can show up in surveys/reports when you sell your house.
SoulKiss
28-04-08, 10:35 AM
Other option - get Bear and Grinch round.
Be warned tho - it would be best if you went out at that point too.....
The Haunted look on your neighbours face when you got back and they had left would be worth it.
Would probably cause his webcam to stop working too.....
All you need to do is supply them with a paddling-pool of custard in your back garden....
Erect a 12 foot high solid fence with searchlight towers at each corner, burn their cat on a cross in their front garden and get caught having carnal knowledge of their daughter in a public place - that'll show them who's boss.
Thankyou for the varied responses from killing them to talking to them, including the obvious nudity options that I expected from you lot.
I'll slowly contemplate what to do next. I still think I fancy a nice big coniferous hedge. I'm sure it will add value to the house when we come to sell it, whenever that is. Or it may just raise questions, in which case I can declare my love of bushy trees.
Car update: I have now secured both house-front spaces (this is day 5, night 4) and will be able to continue this until either:
a) it rains that much I give in and drive to work or
b) the missus decides to drive to work.
haha! I feel victorious (and a bit petty, but hey, I'm not moving it out of consideration - there are no other gaps)
PS -- to paint a clearer picture, both of our houses have only a small lawn to the front, so if neighbour builds a driveway, my settee TV view will be of the side of a car. Not good, grass is better.
PS - I caught the train to Reading and back today. That was a special experience.....
missyburd
28-04-08, 06:40 PM
PS - I caught the train to Reading and back today. That was a special experience.....
Trains usually are :rolleyes:
Hope they get the hint mate.
21QUEST
28-04-08, 07:27 PM
I had an ethnic family living next door to me for some time. I could reel a list off of the things they did and have done, but I will summarise.
.......stuff.......
...and was the 'highlighted' significant? My guess would be 'No' ;)
No one has mentioned to speak to them and discuss it. :confused: If you get on with them, it can do no harm to mention it. Had a similar problem with our neighbours. A chat resolved the majority of them. Even if it doesn't work, at least your neighbours will know how you feel and you will know they don't care.
Good point :thumbsup:.....perhaps more people should try that ;)
Ben
Our neighbour owes me £100 in compensation for when he punched me. That showed him... Funny thing is now if he so much as squeaks in my general direction it'll be witness intimidation... I hate court tho, all that crying made my mascara run...
...and was the 'highlighted' significant? My guess would be 'No' ;)
Ben
Infact yes, i have had the pleasure of dealing with the type on several occasions, and everytime in every situation they have been the most pig ignorant people I have ever had the pleasure of dealing with.
I got new neighbours today, turns out the previous people are now renting,
21QUEST
28-04-08, 09:30 PM
Infact yes, i have had the pleasure of dealing with the type on several occasions, and everytime in every situation they have been the most pig ignorant people I have ever had the pleasure of dealing with.
I got new neighbours today, turns out the previous people are now renting,
Ah , my bad :D
So then , what's our definition of these pig ignorant 'Ethnic Types'? Are we referring to Poms, Jocks, Paddys, Gypos?....just wanting to understand ;)
Without wishing to be rude or insulting , I have to say, the above sounds quite ignorant and blinkered ;)
Ben
Ah , my bad :D
So then , what's our definition of these pig ignorant 'Ethnic Types'? Are we referring to Poms, Jocks, Paddys, Gypos?....just wanting to understand ;)
Without wishing to be rude or insulting , I have to say, the above sounds quite ignorant and blinkered ;)
Ben
Thats fine, I said ethnic so as not to be discriminative to a particular type or be acused of being racist :rolleyes: seems people will play that card no matter what now.
Everytime I have come across them they have been ignorant and rude.....therefore that will be my opinion of them until I witness otherwise, if that is now classed as racism aswell, then so be it.
...therefore that will be my opinion of them until I witness otherwise, if that is now classed as racism aswell, then so be it.
er...can't think of a better description of racism :scratch:
I have worked with, dealt with, and lived next to this particular type of ethnic group many many many times.....I have never had a good or enjoyable experience through any of my dealings despite consderable amounts of effort being made, in particular when they are clients. I therefore have my informed opinions on them until proven otherwise.
I have dealth with, and therefore have informed opinions and dislike on other minority groups aswell such a white benefits cheating chavs (like most people do)........but thats not racism as they are white, if I said black benefits cheating chavs it would be.
Anyway...back on topic lol
My new neighbours are quite so far.
Warthog
29-04-08, 10:31 AM
My new neighbours are quite so far.
Quite what?
21QUEST
29-04-08, 10:37 AM
I have worked with, dealt with, and lived next to this particular type of ethnic group many many many times.....I have never had a good or enjoyable experience through any of my dealings despite consderable amounts of effort being made, in particular when they are clients. I therefore have my informed opinions on them until proven otherwise.
I have dealth with, and therefore have informed opinions and dislike on other minority groups aswell such a white benefits cheating chavs (like most people do)........but thats not racism as they are white, if I said black benefits cheating chavs it would be.
Anyway...back on topic lol
My new neighbours are quite so far.
Mr Graeme, a quickie as got to shoot. I was hoping to get 'learned' by you but that hasn't happend ;) .
What I will say is, it is always better to say exactly what you really want to say and mean(or don't bladder say anything). All this fraffing around with Ethnic this and that IMO shows someone without real mettle......yes really. Don't beat around the precinct...just say it as you see it :cool:
Some of the most ignorant people don't even know it :D and oh the last bit from you sounds like someone with a 'chip....' :D
Before I leave, also remember a wiseman once said "You see stigmata when you see someone hell bent on proving how they have absolutely no prejudice" ;). Is that always so? of course not :).
Take a chill pill....that they are not out to get one, doesn't mean one shouldn't become paranoid or indeed that, they won't be out to get one at a later date eh.... :rave: :p
Ben
ps: A traveller hehe would find it very difficult to have a 2 secs conversation with me about paving a drive. Does that make me racist? Ooh dunno but I still say it :rolleyes:;)
and oh the last bit from you sounds like someone with a 'chip....' :D
Damn right I do......I hate that i get taxed rediculous amounts for working hards and then its given to people to sit around doing nothing except making babies to get more benefits all whilst living in houses paid for by the taxpayer.......so yes i do have a chip :D lol Any working person who isnt annoyed by the present situation damn well should be.
ps: A traveller hehe would find it very difficult to have a 2 secs conversation with me about paving a drive. Does that make me racist? Ooh dunno but I still say it :rolleyes:;)
So you did kind of get what i was trying to put across, I'm rubbish at typing what I think....
yorkie_chris
29-04-08, 11:30 AM
You see the good, the bad and the ugly all the time around here. The benefit scrounging white people, the impreza driving 'stanis, the drunken brawlers in town. The only ones who I've never seen or heard any good from are the pikeys, I've even less liking for them than the benefits people, they're robbing the taxpayer via the government, the pikeys cut out the middleman...
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