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Shellywoozle
07-06-08, 11:57 AM
Just when I thought mine had ..................
Got anti hen party blues
Need brake disc/pads all round on car plus 4 new tyres and got no money = bike may have to be sold to keep car on road.
Dumped me bloke who I just started to see and feel bad
Got an ex who is ripping me off for a great sum of dosh and don't care about financial mess he got me in
Got operation in a week and half and been told "it may not work, we're doing it first as it'd the simpliest op and and if it doesn't don't know what we going to do"
So I just went to see the only thing that'll cheer me up, Zuky. Thought I'd polish her and make her look good as she is covered in dust, but no trickle charger not worked for some odd reason, battery flat and I can't move her due to lack of strength in arm............... FED UP !!!!! :(
Sorry rant over .... need hug tomorrow if anyone's going to Barley Mow @ Milford.
Essex of Essex
07-06-08, 12:15 PM
I'm sure that you'll climb out the other side of the black hole that you're in soon. I went through a very bad spell after my wife and I split up; nothing went right for ages but now things get better and better so keep your chin up and as Monty Python said "Allways look on the bright side of life".
Rhiwbina_Squirrel
07-06-08, 12:17 PM
Aww shell :( Big hugs! Hope it gets better for you :)
Alex
Shellywoozle
07-06-08, 12:22 PM
Cheers folks, sure it'll improve just wish it'd hurry up LOL
DoubleD
07-06-08, 12:41 PM
:grouphug: Just a couple of hugs to get you started. :grouphug:
I have been down like you where you feel everything is getting on top of you and everyone just takes everthing you have to give.
I won't bore you with details of my sob story as this is about you.
As sad as this sounds I heard a song on the radio "Things can only get better" by D:ream and I got the single and you know what my life started to pick up for me.
Don't let these negative things get you and try (as hard as it is when your down) to embrace the good, fun positive things going on in your life.
A few more hugs for you.
:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:
Shellywoozle
07-06-08, 12:47 PM
:grouphug: Just a couple of hugs to get you started. :grouphug:
I have been down like you where you feel everything is getting on top of you and everyone just takes everthing you have to give.
I won't bore you with details of my sob story as this is about you.
As sad as this sounds I heard a song on the radio "Things can only get better" by D:ream and I got the single and you know what my life started to pick up for me.
Don't let these negative things get you and try (as hard as it is when your down) to embrace the good, fun positive things going on in your life.
A few more hugs for you.
:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:
Are you OK now hun? Things better? This thread is not about me, just me venting about life in general, if it helps others to vent too then please vent away x
kwak zzr
07-06-08, 12:52 PM
awwwww shelly baby :( look forward to sunday for a start, we all have these downers hun and they are sent to test us, you are a strong person and you will come out of this ok, if u need my optimate i will bring it for you sunday let me know. BIG hugs hunnie, daz x
Shellywoozle
07-06-08, 01:03 PM
awwwww shelly baby :( look forward to sunday for a start, we all have these downers hun and they are sent to test us, you are a strong person and you will come out of this ok, if u need my optimate i will bring it for you sunday let me know. BIG hugs hunnie, daz x
Zuky is plugged into the optimate Daz, so I don't know what is wrong with her. She started before I went on hen party but won't now. Left her plugged in and lonely. Screen is half off and waiting for ya LOL ;) lost me temper and came home LOL
Yeah tomorrow will be good, need a big hug of you and Gaz tho. As for me being strong, yup that's the problem. Taken on the world and everyone else's problems and something had to give.
Need to do a Daz and get slaughtered !!! :D
kwak zzr
07-06-08, 01:04 PM
PM.
Jinxy43
07-06-08, 01:07 PM
I think I am hitting one of those downers at the minute, as i can see the big slope in front and its getting very close.
But although everybody has them, when we have managed to climb out the other side, you will be a stronger person for it, and you will look back and think that was nothing. Its good to have friends who you can chat to, be they in real life or friends through the org.
Life is not easy and this times are sent to test us, but with friends anything can be achieved.
Stay strong hun, and I will be thinking of you and have my fingers crossed for you op
:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
markmoto
07-06-08, 01:08 PM
Chin up shell just a dark cloud the suns still shining :-)
Shellywoozle
07-06-08, 01:08 PM
I think I am hitting one of those downers at the minute, as i can see the big slope in front and its getting very close.
But although everybody has them, when we have managed to climb out the other side, you will be a stronger person for it, and you will look back and think that was nothing. Its good to have friends who you can chat to, be they in real life or friends through the org.
Life is not easy and this times are sent to test us, but with friends anything can be achieved.
Stay strong hun, and I will be thinking of you and have my fingers crossed for you op
:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
Nasty slope innit, PM me if you need to hun xx
kwak zzr
07-06-08, 01:17 PM
I think I am hitting one of those downers at the minute, as i can see the big slope in front and its getting very close.
But although everybody has them, when we have managed to climb out the other side, you will be a stronger person for it, and you will look back and think that was nothing. Its good to have friends who you can chat to, be they in real life or friends through the org.
Life is not easy and this times are sent to test us, but with friends anything can be achieved.
Stay strong hun, and I will be thinking of you and have my fingers crossed for you op
:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
everyone needs friends, mine have helped me in the past 7 months, keep them close and look after them.
Jinxy43
07-06-08, 01:20 PM
True some of my best friends have been met through the org, and I have not had the honour of meeting yet.
When I live the Raf I am planning on taking a trip around the country to see and say thanks to everyone from here who has helped me
kwak zzr
07-06-08, 01:26 PM
mine too mate mine too, aint met a bad'un yet.
Filipe M.
07-06-08, 01:44 PM
Shell, go for a walk in the park, sit in a nice spot for a while and look at all the stuff around you. Just sit there watching your world. You'll realise that it's still going round... "This too shall pass", but it will help loads if you grab your world with both hands and turn it the way you want it to go.
:grouphug: Take it easy, focus on the good stuff and allow it to come to you.
hey huni, you know things will get better-iove been there-gone through ita nd come out smiling (and better off) the other side
Hey Shell, keep your chins up girl, you,ll be right, you,ve got loads of mates on here so you,re not alone
Blue_SV650S
07-06-08, 05:21 PM
Just when I thought mine had ..................
Got anti hen party blues
Need brake disc/pads all round on car plus 4 new tyres and got no money = bike may have to be sold to keep car on road.
Dumped me bloke who I just started to see and feel bad
Got an ex who is ripping me off for a great sum of dosh and don't care about financial mess he got me in
Got operation in a week and half and been told "it may not work, we're doing it first as it'd the simpliest op and and if it doesn't don't know what we going to do"
So I just went to see the only thing that'll cheer me up, Zuky. Thought I'd polish her and make her look good as she is covered in dust, but no trickle charger not worked for some odd reason, battery flat and I can't move her due to lack of strength in arm............... FED UP !!!!! :(
Sorry rant over .... need hug tomorrow if anyone's going to Barley Mow @ Milford.
Why did you dump your new fella? .. or did he really dump you as you can't cook and now he's got his oats he's out of there?!!? .... told you so :lol:
Is it a can of worms that doesn't need opening, but how the hell is an X getting money out of you!??! ... or does he need it to get a cook?!!? :D
Oh and if you are a little low at the mo, just think of it as a point that makes the highs seem so high ... if there were no lows, then there would be no highs ;) .. if your are having a sh1tty time of it now, it means you can 'bank' this and you will be able to have a high soon \\:D/
I am on a slight downer since the accident, after having an idea where the work & social life was going, its been turned on its head completely. Friends I thought were close have shown themselves as not as close I thought, whereas those who were in the wider circle have rallied and I thank them for that. I think when you've got an injury you do think a lot about how long it will take and whether it will affect you in the long term, but I am finding that by setting myself short term goals as well as looking forward to next year, it is keeping my spirits up. Dont get down Shell, life is far too short to be miserable, just pick yourself up and get on with it. :thumbsup:
redbouy
07-06-08, 05:38 PM
I watched this file [the last holiday] while feeling a bit poo. Made me think that maybe Im thinking about the little things a bit much.
I finished watching, had a drink, walked upstairs quit the job [which is also home] the lead on to a major job and no longer even do the same job. 3 months later got my first SV.
Hope you find some thing like my little lift to sort it all out.
Pete
life will get better. chin up
Shellywoozle
07-06-08, 08:06 PM
Why did you dump your new fella? .. or did he really dump you as you can't cook and now he's got his oats he's out of there?!!? .... told you so :lol:
Is it a can of worms that doesn't need opening, but how the hell is an X getting money out of you!??! ... or does he need it to get a cook?!!? :D
Oh and if you are a little low at the mo, just think of it as a point that makes the highs seem so high ... if there were no lows, then there would be no highs ;) .. if your are having a sh1tty time of it now, it means you can 'bank' this and you will be able to have a high soon \\:D/
LOL thanks guys, ya hugs and PM's have made me smile today, tears have stopped !!! And a big thanks to Kwak who listened for ages on the dog and bone while I poured my heart out.
To answer your questions Blue, no I knocked it on the head with the new fella and it honestly had nothin to do with my cooking. He is a really nice guy and to be honest right now I would probably not treat him how he shud be treated, we remain mates which is good. And I need to find myself a new Chef ....... where's Cuffy? He agreed to your terms in anoter thread didn't he? :chef:
My ex, long story my financial mess started when we was together, I HAD a stupid thing where when in a relationship I give all to the other person. Next bloke be warned I have nothing left LOL :reaper:
And yes I am "bankin" all these lows so soon should be flying high :D
Blue_SV650S
07-06-08, 08:12 PM
He is a really nice guy and to be honest right now I would probably not treat him how he shud be treated, we remain mates which is good.
Shell, that sounds noble ... ... but if you really liked him, that also sounds dumb as feck!! :stupid: :lol:
God, someone slap her about a bit for me will ya please!! :D
Anyhoo, good to see you are on the upswing already!! 8)
Shellywoozle
07-06-08, 08:14 PM
Shell, that sounds noble ... ... but if you really liked him, that also sounds dumb as feck!! :stupid: :lol:
God, someone slap her about a bit for me will ya please!! :D
Anyhoo, good to see you are on the upswing already!! 8)
LOL I am noble am I LOL hey that should be the mans job. Yeah I liked him but something was just not right and I can't put my finger on it. Anyway he cooked far better than me and I would never have satisifed him ;)
Blue_SV650S
07-06-08, 08:20 PM
LOL I am noble am I LOL hey that should be the mans job. Yeah I liked him but something was just not right and I can't put my finger on it. Anyway he cooked far better than me and I would never have satisifed him ;)
To be fair, it was prolly a lucky escape on his behalf ... 6 months down the line with you 24/7 and he would have had to been admitted to an asylum!! :D
edit: ... perhaps just 6 weeks actually!! :lol:
Shellywoozle
07-06-08, 08:21 PM
To be fair, it was prolly a lucky escape in his behalf ... 6 months down the line with you 24/7 and he would have had to been admitted to an asylum!! :D
That's what I thought LOL best to let the poor guy off lightly :smt047
tanis34
07-06-08, 09:27 PM
glad your feeling better and that your still m8s with your fella , there is always a chance in the future if your still friends ,things do get better after a while we all have downers from time to time it reminds us just how good the good times are .did your phone work in the end after you soaked it :)
paul
Shellywoozle
07-06-08, 09:31 PM
glad your feeling better and that your still m8s with your fella , there is always a chance in the future if your still friends ,things do get better after a while we all have downers from time to time it reminds us just how good the good times are .did your phone work in the end after you soaked it :)
paul
LOL phone dried out and works, altho it's doing the odd random thing, like charging when not on charge. I turn it off and the key lights stay on .... think it's fried a little LOL
tanis34
07-06-08, 09:46 PM
a little fried but still going just like you lol it can only make you stronger i should know i've been through some pretty bad times myself but i wont bore u with the details XX but there are always good things in life to look forward to
kwak zzr
08-06-08, 07:01 AM
glad to hear your feeling alittle better shell.
daz.
Gene genie
08-06-08, 07:15 AM
forget your group hugs, 'you've made your bed lie in it' as my dad used to say. no sympathy at all.
'you play the cards your dealt and make the best of it'. cant think of anymore just yet.
hope the op works out, thinking about you.
i'll leave you with this thought,'when the cards in life seem stacked against you, and your world feels like its about to crumble there is always somebody worse off'. thats what i always tell myself, never met him yet though, maybe i'm the bloke at the end of the line. bugger, now i'm depressed, group hugs please.
kwak zzr
08-06-08, 07:22 AM
i'll leave you with this thought,'when the cards in life seem stacked against you, and your world feels like its about to crumble there is always somebody worse off'
very true, dunno about the rest tho lol.
lets face most of us have gone through pretty rough times at some stage in our lives, but my friend has a saying "what doens't kill you makes you stronger"
sounds like your gonna be pretty strong Shelly :grouphug:
Wayluya
08-06-08, 09:56 AM
I really HATE hearing about people who are far far worse off than me / life has really sh#t all over them and it ain't gonna get any better......but are still cheerful :mad::mad::mad: :p
Does life improve? IME not always. and quite often not without some effort from yerself.......annoyingly so :(
But not always easy to move forward, both in the real world and inside yer head - which can feed off each other.
Ain't no magic solution, everyone has to struggle through the bad times as best they can and often making up the "rules" as they go along. FWIW concentrating on the small easy to achieve things can have a positive impact far in excess of the reality - and simply not worrying about things you cannot change.
And IMO if things are not as yer want them to be in your own life, then simply adding someone else to the mix is not alone going to be the answer - although it may be a part of.
northwind
08-06-08, 05:25 PM
As the man said, it won't get better but it might never get worse.
I really HATE hearing about people who are far far worse off than me / life has really sh#t all over them and it ain't gonna get any better......but are still cheerful :mad::mad::mad: :p
One of the few pleasures of being really shot down, is that you can annoy other people by being really cheery about it all and making them feel like ****ers for complaining about their trivial stuff :cool: Like Lance Armstrong in Dodgeball.
glad your feeling abit better shell, you will have your up and down moments, i still do, but life goes on and you'll soon look back and think "yup i made the right choices" :)
Shellywoozle
08-06-08, 05:31 PM
Cheers folks ..... feel alot better after my ride out today with Border Patrol guys.
Spending an hour letchin after firemen seemed to do the job a treat. A blast on the rer of Kwaks bike with some nice org'ers was just what I needed.
Shell has a smile on her face again, even if it is til I remember the poo stuff. But as you all say it's just a bad patch, I still have my health, family and friends so why am I moaning ?
xx
Wayluya
08-06-08, 05:46 PM
so why am I moaning ?
I think it's a woman thing :-dd
kwak zzr
08-06-08, 06:02 PM
things are looking a little brighter today shell, good to see you smiling again, if your happy then I'm happy :)
Kate Moss
09-06-08, 02:20 PM
Today has come, and today will go,
What happens tomorrow, you'l never know,
Be strong and smile, you will get through
For tomorrow you can start brand new.
Don't waste time on the past
As life goes by way too fast
If all else fails and you have no cheer,
Bugger off and have a beer!
Alpinestarhero
09-06-08, 02:46 PM
Life goes uppppp....life goes dowwwwnn
Its your attitude to a situation that decides wether or not you get depressed about it all
My life is on the up, I've fin uni now and looking to do a Ph.D. Pretty hard to find one that isnt already filled, but at least i know what I want to do :-D It would be easy for me to veiw that as my life on the down..."I've finished uni and I'm trying to find a Ph.D but all the positions are filled, I'm never gonna get on a Ph>d at this rate and I'm gonna have to take a crappy job analysing paracetomol pills"
Very good words by monsieur filly pie. Exactly what I do (sort of anyway).
Read my recent posts :lol: everything breaking at the same time. There's also a lot that hasn't been posted, as there is with everyone I'm sure.
When I'm feeling down, there's lots of secretive spots I can run off to & contemplate. That sounds like it's just what you need Shelly (and others by the looks of this).
I'm fortunate in that I live in a coastal part of the UK, and I'm pretty remote. I can find lots of spots to go & chill out within an hour from home. My current favourite one is a secluded beach that I've never seen anyone on, and in fact, it'd be hard to get access to by vehicle. My own little paradise. :)
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