Just when i thought things couldn't get any worse!

[plowsie]

My parents called me into the lounge last night. Once my brother has finished school, they will be going their seperate ways.

I am gutted but at the same time feel no emotion, I don't want to I think.

[G]

Sorry to hear that plowsie, times are hard and they put a strain on relationships.

Your grown up, from what I have seen in the past several times, its your younger brother you need to be concerned about and look after to make sure he doesnt go off the rails.

[the_lone_wolf]

divorce was the best thing that ever happened to my biological parents imo, they were never going to make it as a couple but as good friends they're both happy - we still go on holidays together and regularly meet up with no bad feelings at all

i hope your situation is similar mate, as i'm experiencing what a messy divorce is like right now and it's pretty unpleasant:(

[kitkat]

sorry to hear this. things cant be too bad between them if they are prepared to stay together til your brother finishes school. I myself couldn't stay with ex for a minute longer. My kids were younger though and my daughter has had a hard time over the last few years but is now ok and has a reasonable relationship with her father. My son still has problems but its more to do with not seeing his dad than us actually splitting up.

[Warthog]

This happened to my mate as well, his parents waited til he had finished uni, then split up. TBH they were at that point all adults, and so they all knew that if the parents just weren't feeling it anymore it is probably the best thing. He was sad, but not that bad really. You would want the best for your parents, right? It also doesn't mean that they love you any less, its just people change and sometimes don't suit each other anymore. So good luck Stu, and chin up, hopefully everyone will feel happier in the long run.

[Dappa D]

sorry to hear plowsie.......good that you got to have both your parents with you whilst growing up tho and it sounds like a mutual decision if they are both sitting you down and saying "this is when we will seperate"...so hopefully they will both be happier for it......and double presents at xmas and birthdays!!...as said keep an eye on your lil bro and be there for him should he need ya fella....im sure it wont affect your relationship with your parents in a bad way...probably be better as they will be happier....

[Kate Moss]

Sad news mate although as people have said sometimes it can be for the best.
Did you have any idea that this might happen?

[Daimo]

Been there, my parents done the same thing.

After not speaking to my dad for 5 years, we're now closer than ever. My mother has a new lease of life, lost loads of weight and is ok (but come off worse emotionally). My dad has a new gf, he's doing ok too, and they get on better than they did than they were together.

Made me quite upset/depressed for a while though until i worked it out.

[lily]

My parents called me into the lounge last night. Once my brother has finished school, they will be going their seperate ways.

I am gutted but at the same time feel no emotion, I don't want to I think.

Sorry to hear this Plowsie....... can't talk from experience but like others have said if they are staying together till your younger brother has finished school that might mean it won't turn nasty.

In terms of you not wanting to feel anything, make sure you don't bottle it up because you feel you have to. Otherwise it may suddenly hit you when you least expect it!

Least they felt they could tell you rather than keep it from you until they do go there seprate ways!

Lily x

[Demonz]

Sorry to hear this Stu.

[muffles]

Sorry to hear this mate, a few (close) friends have had their parents divorce and from what I saw it is initially pretty upsetting but after a while you realise it's not a "bad" thing - although it certainly seems it at the time.

[stewie]

Wow sorry to hear it mate, cant really adda anything that hasnt been said before but Im on mon - thurs this week, you,ve got me number if you fancy a chat.

[plowsie]

Thanks for all the best wishes peeps, the split is totally unexpected to me Kate. Thanks Stew. Thanks everyone, your all stars :)

:grouphug:

[missyburd]

Sorry to hear about this Plowsie :(

The way I see it though, tis no doubt for the best rather compared to doing what some couples do and spend a load of time arguing/fighting, hurting themselves and others around them and never getting round to solving actual problems. They're taking your brother into account rather than jumping in with both feet!

[Dangerous Dave]

Sorry to hear about that mate, my parents to are divorced and I have two step parents also.

You seem to be a mature guy, and I am sure you can understand why these things happen. You are at an age where you can make decisions for yourself, you have your own transport too so you can always see them at your own leisure and choice. The best thing you can do for your parents is help support your brother.

[Paws]

Big huggs huni

[Shellywoozle]

Giant hugs to all concerned, My folks split recently and I found it hard to watch my mum go through so much pain. It wasn't amicable.

I hope you are OK hun and if you want a chat PM me, I recently been where you are and felt like you have. It may hit you when the logistics happen.

xx Shell xx

[tanis34]

sorry to hear this m8 my mum and dad split quite nastily wen i was 5 and i never forgot it

[Speedy Claire]

I hate to say this Stu but the fact is that yes.... it could have been a lot worse. Think of your friend who recently lost his father? I hope that doesn`t sound callous but you still have both your mum and your dad. Ok, the dynamics are going to change.... they won`t be living in the same house but you still have them both alive and well. It sounds to me like they`ve both got enough respect for you and your brother to have put their emotional needs to one side in order to be there for you both whilst you both need their full support. Believe me they will have discussed this to death in private and they`ve put you and your brother first... thats to be applauded. Parents are people too, and none of us are perfect, you don`t have to like the choices they make but they`re your mum and dad and your love for them won`t change whatever paths their lives now take.

I wish you and your family all the best at this difficult time, they won`t have taken this decision lightly.... show them your support and give them the reassurance that you`ll cope with this and accept the change in order to see them both happy.

[xXBADGERXx]

Aaah dude , sorry man , Big Manly hug from the xXBADGERXx :smt056