View Full Version : Lads - Proof you really can't win.
Whilst away last weekend me and the missus went and got some lunch in a little town and on the way back to the hotel we went past a florist, I shot in there and bought her a single red rose.
This morning whilst washing up, I commented that the rose was looking a bit sad for itself, finished the washing up and then decided to give the bike it's weekly chain clean, lube, wash and 2 coats of wax.
Halfway through I ran out of Autoglym. So I had to go to Halfords to get some more.
I got in my car and decided to go the long way round to go and get her a new rose, went to the florist and bought her one with some other foliage bits and wrapped up, looked great.
Whilst I was in there I remembered how upset my little girl was that nobody ever bought her flowers and that my wife had commented we should've bought her one too, so with that I bought another one for my 8 year old. Then I carried on to Halfords.
Well I got home gave the missus her flower and she appeared happy, until I gave the other one to my little girl, it was as if I had shot someone and she has not let up all day, even after I explained that I went in there solely to get her a rose but remembered how upset Daisy was before.
So I am now in the bad books and am getting really ****ed off about it.
One bright point in this cautionary tale is the face my little girl pulled when I gave her a flower all of her own was magic!
YOU JUST CAN'T WIN!!!!!:mad:
Wideboy
11-10-08, 07:17 PM
haha lol
shouldn't be funny but lol
you cant do wrong for doing right
tanis34
11-10-08, 07:27 PM
sounds like everyday in my house lol
dizzyblonde
11-10-08, 07:27 PM
shouldn't laugh, but it is a little funny.
Wish my bloke bought me flowers, just because....in fact it would be a shock if he bought me any at all!!
It is not the only example of this either - she is always asking me things like 'have I smudged my make-up?' etc.
The other day there was a small smudge so I told her and she hit the roof, you're always criticising, blah, blah.......the thing is I genuinely don't
tanis34
11-10-08, 07:29 PM
shouldn't laugh, but it is a little funny.
Wish my bloke bought me flowers, just because....in fact it would be a shock if he bought me any at all!!
you would probably ask him whats he is feeling guilty about lol
thats wot i get off my missus so now she can buy her own from now on
Seriously - WTF?
A quiet life is all I require.
fizzwheel
11-10-08, 07:31 PM
Have you actually sat down and had a proper chat with your missus about this, because witout wishing to sound rude, It sounds like shes being bl**dy selfish...
Sorry...
A few years back I used to send her flowers to her work every week and she actually asked if I was seeing a florist, a very serious comment!
I don't get you girls......of course she now denies it was a serious comment.
chakraist
11-10-08, 07:33 PM
Marry the bike.
dizzyblonde
11-10-08, 07:34 PM
you would probably ask him whats he is feeling guilty about lol
thats wot i get off my missus so now she can buy her own from now on
I'd think there was something seriously wrong if he bought me flowers ever.
I always buy my own anyway
Mr. Hall, your missus really doesn't appreciate what shes got. not all blokes are as considerate
Wideboy
11-10-08, 07:35 PM
A few years back I used to send her flowers to her work every week and she actually asked if I was seeing a florist, a very serious comment!
I don't get you girls......of course she now denies it was a serious comment.
hahaha
how unthoughtful of you, hang your head in shame!!!
I wouldn't mind flowers :(
But in a way i agree a bit with Fizz......... think you need to talk to your wife about this, ask her why getting your daughter a flower upset her. My dad use to get my mum flowers and me and my sister, from what i can remember mum never had a problem. :confused:
I'm not always considerate by any means, but when I have a bit of spare cash I always try to buy her something nice, just a token...........but there is always something wrong with it.
I once bought her some underwear, nothing slutty, just something I thought she would like. Bought it in her size, but it didn't fit her so again my fault. "I'll have to go and change it now!"
I'm starting to feel better already....
Is this an underhand way of asking if we think you should leave her.
If my misses did that to me I'd snap the flowers and bin them
Is this an underhand way of asking if we think you should leave her.
If my misses did that to me I'd snap the flowers and bin them
No it's just nice to air my issues........
Paul the 6th
11-10-08, 07:51 PM
women: You can't live with them and you can't shoot them... (probably)
She is definitely being weird about you getting a flower for your kid. I presume your kid is her kid too? Sounds oddly like jealousy to me. If it is tell her to grow up and stop being so stupid and to tell you exactly what is wrong instead of just sulking. She really doesn't understand what she has in you.
Sometimes I really dislike women.
Trace :)
Dave20046
11-10-08, 08:17 PM
Whilst away last weekend me and the missus went and got some lunch in a little town and on the way back to the hotel we went past a florist, I shot in there and bought her a single red rose.
This morning whilst washing up, I commented that the rose was looking a bit sad for itself, finished the washing up and then decided to give the bike it's weekly chain clean, lube, wash and 2 coats of wax.
Halfway through I ran out of Autoglym. So I had to go to Halfords to get some more.
I got in my car and decided to go the long way round to go and get her a new rose, went to the florist and bought her one with some other foliage bits and wrapped up, looked great.
Whilst I was in there I remembered how upset my little girl was that nobody ever bought her flowers and that my wife had commented we should've bought her one too, so with that I bought another one for my 8 year old. Then I carried on to Halfords.
Well I got home gave the missus her flower and she appeared happy, until I gave the other one to my little girl, it was as if I had shot someone and she has not let up all day, even after I explained that I went in there solely to get her a rose but remembered how upset Daisy was before.
So I am now in the bad books and am getting really ****ed off about it.
One bright point in this cautionary tale is the face my little girl pulled when I gave her a flower all of her own was magic!
YOU JUST CAN'T WIN!!!!!:mad:
She really doesn't know what she's got....
I've only ever bought flowers when in deep sh**!
mike_avfc
11-10-08, 08:19 PM
Flowers ?? you can buy them :shock:
Buy her a wreath, see if she see's the funny side :D
Flowers ?? you can buy them :shock:
Only when you're not spunking money on a new GSXR...........
Dave20046
11-10-08, 08:27 PM
Only when you're not spunking money on a new GSXR...........
Aha! Not so squeaky clean now.....
Dump the wife but take custody of your daughter.
Surely you are joking........is she blobbing or something, there must be some kind of lady excuse for being a nutcase like that.
I buy my daughters a huge bunch of flowers when they've acheived something special, like passing crucial exams or passing driving tests. Their mum gets hacked off because I never bought her flowers in the 7 years we were together. Both girls won't allow anyone else to buy them flowers at these times, because they say that's my special thing and they won't have my flowers undermined by any others - I think that's sweet of them.
Me and the ex split because I was apparently too selfish, and now she admonishes me for taking the time and trouble to make my girls feel special. I can't bloody win so I just ignore her now.
EDIT - she asked me why I don't buy her flowers when she passes exams at Uni. I told her I don't love her, but I still love my daughters. She didn't see the funny side at all, can't think why.
ArtyLady
11-10-08, 10:11 PM
You sound like a really caring thoughtful guy and to buy the flower for your little girl too is lovely - your other half should be really pleased.............
My other half once bought me flowers 22.5 years ago when I gave birth to our first child - then once more after that but never since.......................
I asked the other day why Ive never had any more flowers and he swears blind that when he last bought me flowers I said (and I truly dont remember this) "have you been two-timing me?" he was so peed off he never bought me any ever again - d'oh! :rolleyes:
I really can't understand why your wife was so upset about you buying your daughter a flower too...............it was a lovely thing to do. She should have been pleased that you made your daughter so happy. I would have been.
Pete never buys me flowers, but he did arrive home the other night with the new Terry Pratchett book for me. What a lovely man he is:smt058
kwak zzr
12-10-08, 09:24 AM
buy her a wreath, see if she see's the funny side :d
lmfao!!!!!!
kwak zzr
12-10-08, 09:25 AM
Never even try to understand a woman because u never will, i stopped trying about 18 years ago.
tanis34
12-10-08, 09:41 AM
how true that is
Snakes with tits. (comment my friend made, shortly followed by-)
I'm gonna be a lonely old b*stard when i die.
lol.
kwak zzr
12-10-08, 10:20 AM
cuz call's his mrs "his little nest of vipers" lol
I once acquired a fake flower (it was very nice, honestly) from a hotel, which the mrs was very pleased with :D ;)
I'd ask her what her problem is. I mean what *the* problem is.. :p
xXBADGERXx
12-10-08, 11:48 AM
cuz call's his mrs "his little nest of vipers" lol
There`s a woman in work who I describe as "She who sleeps on the ceiling wrapped in her own leathery wings" .
Apparently her department also call her Doris Karloff (after Boris Karloff who played Frankenstein) . Cruel but funny :D
And problem women ...... I`ve said it before and I`ll say it again , 10 acres of land and a shovel will cure that , And Lozzo`s tip of a bag of Lime as well :D
missyburd
12-10-08, 01:20 PM
I wouldn't mind flowers :(
Lol me neither :p - might point YC in this general direction :lol: only joking hun
Seriously though, seems blumin' odd of your wife to react like that, especially after you telling her you did go in the florist especially for her :rolleyes:
If she ain't willing to talk to you about it then leave her to simmer for a bit, maybe you just caught her in a funny mood. My mum is the same, she can be SOOOOO irritating if my dad gives me anything even if it's a special occasion, must just be a woman thing :smt017
At least your little girl was happy as you mentioned, just face it, you can't please everyone all of the time!
Kev, in the past, I've bought my daughter flowers (7 year old), and not bought any for the Mrs.
My Mrs was over the moon, because she saw the same reaction your daughter had - and I hadn't spent too much money.
TBH, my reaction if my Mrs acted the way yours was, would be to simply ignore her selfishness (sorry, but it is IMO), and get on with the rest of life - if she wants to talk about it she can.
But then, if you ignore her, you'll get in trouble for that, if you try talking to her, you'll be either pushing her & too demanding or not sensitive enough in your approach - regardless of how you word it.
I got ****ed off and went and applied 2 extra coats of polish onto the bike, then polished the wheels and did all the bits you don't normally have time for, which really annoyed her.....still my bike looks the mutts nuts now.
hang man
12-10-08, 10:56 PM
I give up!
Take a small patch of land on your property and together with your daughter (when you have time ) plant the seeds for roses of all colors , when the patch has bloomed with roses tell your wife this is the gift from you and your daughter in appreciation of her motherhood , i agree that we'll never understand women (so don't even bother trying) but they do bear the gift you got when the wee one was born.
Jayneflakes
13-10-08, 09:38 AM
Maybe she feels insecure and needs some reassurance. Maybe she feels you are drifting apart and is worried about losing you. Maybe she is approaching the change of life and it is spinning her out. There can be so many reasons for the appearance of irrational behaviour, that when worked out is somewhat less irrational.
If you think dating women is tough, you should try dating blokes...
The amount of times I have had to say in the past "Yes Dear, it is the biggest I have ever seen" or "Of course I was not faking it!" Guys can be insecure too, the biggest issue I have seen in my few adult years and watching friends relationships fail is communication. As couples do we really talk to each other enough? Thankfully dating girls is so much easier when you are a girl, but even mine can get a bit funny when she is tired, insecure or worried about me. The answer is I am afraid communication.
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