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madness
15-01-09, 12:23 PM
I've just been reading Rai86's thread about people giving her stick after an accident, which made me think about this.
When I first had a bike when I was 16 my Mum hated the fact and was over the moon when I passed my car test and gave up biking. Now I've passed my test and have a 'big' bike I've decided to keep it a secret from her to avoid any stick and to avoid her worrying (she's getting on a bit!)
This seems a bit of an odd thing to do at the age of 43 but it's just less hassle that way.
I just wondered if anyone else on here was a 'closet' biker.
Alpinestarhero
15-01-09, 12:25 PM
Nope. Everyone knows. And whats more, most people have kind of agree'd I'm a bit of a safer rider than my biker role model...my dad
which means
I'm slower
But no-one has ever told me to stop r how dangerous that is or whatever
woo
Certainly not a closet biker but my mum does worry. When I go round on the bike she won't come and see me off at the door etc.
I can't really see how you can keep it a secret - does it not get awkward? What happens if you had an accident and the police rung her and said 'your son madness has had an accident on his big bike, can you come and see him' - wouldn't she be upset you'd kept her in the dark?
Just sit her down with a cup of tea and tell her you've passed your test and will be riding but you'll be careful and hopefully won't come a cropper.
?
madness
15-01-09, 12:30 PM
My bro' had a bike at 16 too, but he passed his test and continued biking. He had a bad accident and ended up in hospital for a few weeks when he was 18. My Mum always wanted him to give them up after that. He's got a bike at the moment, but he's not owning up to the fact either. We have a bit of a secrecy pact going!
We have a bit of a secrecy pact going!
I had a secrecy pact with my step-sister about us experimenting with smoking when I was about 13, she was the first to expose me to my mum when she got found out......
Just come out with it!
Sorry to sound pessimistic but talking hypothetically, if the two of you were out on a ride together and something happened and you both got killed - how upset would your mum be that you'd both been keeping secrets from her?
timwilky
15-01-09, 12:34 PM
lad who used to live up the road from me, left home 20years ago to join the army has recently passed his bike test. He keeps his bike at my mates house as he does not want either his mum or WIFE to find out he has a bike.
wimp
Didn't tell her when passed test she went on holiday for a week took it and bought a bike then she didn't believe it was mine for about a month! Now she finally came to terms with it bit she still only thinks has sv not telling her about the tl! Or when came off drz
Speedy Claire
15-01-09, 12:38 PM
Years ago my mum would`ve gone beserk if she knew I was riding pillion... I used to meet my then boyfriend at the bottom of the road and jump on the back without her knowing.
My only thought regarding your secrecy pact is what if (god forbid) one of you has an accident and ends up in hospital... how`s your mum gonna feel knowing that a) you`ve had an accident and were riding a bike but b) that you didn`t feel you could tell her? Might be double the shock instead of one single shock
dizzyblonde
15-01-09, 12:38 PM
my mum hated the idea, she said she didn;t want to see the 125 anywhere near the house. She came around to the idea eventually. Even more after a few attempts with the test. She turned round and said not to give up as it had cost too much.
Now she ain;t bothered, she even comments on how good they look.
My dad loves it, he really takes pride in waving at his daughter riding off down the street. Bless :-)
And when we go down with a troop of us, they love it. Not often the quiet snotty suburb they live in gets a half dozen vtwins waking them up ;-)
madness
15-01-09, 12:39 PM
If I have an accident and end up injured I'll tell her I did it Rock Climbing. She knows I do that!
the_lone_wolf
15-01-09, 12:42 PM
...he does not want either his mum or WIFE to find out he has a bike.
now that's commitment:o
my parents worried, i believe the exact phrase they used when i was 19 was "over my dead body" - my first pillion was my mother - how sad is that:mrgreen:
Growing up, my folks said I'd never have a bike whilst living under their roof.
Eventually I bought my own house (with a mortgage) and later a bike. Both my parents were fuming about it. I reminded them of their statement years ago & told them they have a simple choice. Accept the fact I ride a bike or disown me.
They both still talk to me, unfortunately. :lol:
Yes she does. Everyone knows. I have no secrets from anyone:D
Speedy Claire
15-01-09, 12:50 PM
If I have an accident and end up injured I'll tell her I did it Rock Climbing. She knows I do that!
And whilst she`s visiting you in hospital a policeman arrives at the side of your bed and says "I`ve come to take a statement after your recent motorbike accident" :confused:
Your "witholding" information has now become a lie.... your mum suddenly realises that you didn`t have a rock climbing accident and lied to her :rolleyes: so you get a smack, she shouts some angry words at you, leaves the hospital in a huff, you feel crap for having lied and upset her blah blah blah blah blah.
PS: Have I won you over yet? [-o<
I decided to keep it secret from my folks while I was learning, and ended up telling them by arriving at their house on the bike :D
Funnily enough my mum was OK with it (She has even asked to go pillion a couple of times!), it was my Dad who wasn't that impressed, but then I think he's just jealous :D
Neither of then were totally anti-bike before I started to ride (having had scooters in the 60's, and my Dad had a Viffer in the early 90's), so I wasn't expecting to get shouted at, just didn't want them trying to talk me out of it while I was learning :)
lad who used to live up the road from me, left home 20years ago to join the army has recently passed his bike test. He keeps his bike at my mates house as he does not want either his mum or WIFE to find out he has a bike.
wimp
been there, done that
lol
RandomHorse
15-01-09, 01:11 PM
Mum is definately unimpressed, but accepts that i can make my own decisions :) I was more worried by what my GFs dads reaction would be especially as we are heading over to NZ and it'll be my first chance to meet them... Needn't have worried though as it turns out he is a bike fan and has even bought us a little honda 250 to mess about on over there... Result!! :cheers:
(wasn't impressed by the SV though - he's a millitant Transalp fan :smt019)
Yup.
She's against the idea. And she really didn't want me to do my world trip earlier this year as she thought I'd have an accident. How well she knows me.
She kinda accepts it. Of course, I won't be telling her when I pluck up the courage to get a tattoo done.....
yorkie_chris
15-01-09, 01:23 PM
Yup.
But my grandma still thinks I'm on a 125cc. "Where's the little red bike" "oh I painted it" ... "why are all my neighbors ears bleeding" ... "oh ...err .. it just needs a new exhaust..."
...my world trip earlier this year ...
Crikey that was quick - Phileas Fogg eat your heart out! ;)
I've got a funny situation with this one.... My mum lives abroad, has done for years.
She knew I passed my test, knew I got my first big bike and knows I sold it.. what she doesn't know is that I spent the money getting a new one. (there was a 2-3 month break earlier this yr where the point kindof died).
I know she wouldn't mind me having a bike but she'd be disappointed I didn't put the money to "better use".... hence I haven't told her. She worries enough, so figured this is one less thing for her to worry about.
Kept my 2 mopeds a complete secret from them, that's about 3 years worth that they still don't know about afaik.
Kept the big bike a secret for about a year until I was grassed up. They took it better than I expected. 8-[
No one knows I ride. Not even you.
:scratch:
#-o
yorkie_chris
15-01-09, 01:31 PM
I can understand why you'd want to keep a moped a secret
I waited until my parents were pushing up the daisies before doing it.
I am old.
missyburd
15-01-09, 01:37 PM
....mum stuff...
Spoken like a true parent there Claire :-D
But my grandma still thinks I'm on a 125cc. "Where's the little red bike" "oh I painted it" ... "why are all my neighbors ears bleeding" ... "oh ...err .. it just needs a new exhaust..."
Lol! I didn't know that! You've been taking a bit of risk whenever I chat to her then :p
I didn't tell my folks I was pillioning for a while. My mum knew YC had a bike and put 2 and 2 together, but the number of times I had to reassure her the kit I was wearing would actually give me at least some level of protection if we did come off :rolleyes: Then one day when Chris dropped me off home I walked in the house with full gear on, she nearly had a coronary :lol: She used to refuse to be seen in town with me in bikewear (I don't think she likes the way the armour in my jacket puffs out my shoulders), made me laugh.
One thing I have kept from her is a little off we had a few months back, I know she'd worry badly and we'd be back to square 1 again if I let on, tis better for everyone she doesn't know. I wasn't hurt - had my kit on you see! - therefore it wasn't an issue. There are some things mums just don't need to know.
yorkie_chris
15-01-09, 01:39 PM
I'm exaggerating a bit, she doesn't know it's about 5x faster than the h*nda though lol.
missyburd
15-01-09, 01:41 PM
I'm exaggerating a bit, she doesn't know it's about 5x faster than the h*nda though lol.
Bless :p No, I think you're right there, 'spect she got enough worry to fill a hundred baskets when your dad was riding :rolleyes:
yorkie_chris
15-01-09, 01:42 PM
Er yeah ... weekend warrior + bad eyesight + 155mph triumph... can only end well!
madness
15-01-09, 02:04 PM
And whilst she`s visiting you in hospital a policeman arrives at the side of your bed and says "I`ve come to take a statement after your recent motorbike accident" :confused:
Your "witholding" information has now become a lie.... your mum suddenly realises that you didn`t have a rock climbing accident and lied to her :rolleyes: so you get a smack, she shouts some angry words at you, leaves the hospital in a huff, you feel crap for having lied and upset her blah blah blah blah blah.
PS: Have I won you over yet? [-o<
No!
Speedy Claire
15-01-09, 02:10 PM
Damn.. ok am off to think up some more scenarios :p
madness
15-01-09, 02:12 PM
[quote=Kinvig;1746257 Of course, I won't be telling her when I pluck up the courage to get a tattoo done.....[/quote]
That's an easy one. Get one done, then when it's all healed up go round in a T-shirt and 'accidently' reveal a bit of it.
madness
15-01-09, 02:15 PM
Damn.. ok am off to think up some more scenarios :p
My mum reacts to things in unexpected ways. Such as when I told her I had split with my ex after 14 years. She said 'Oh well'!!
fizzwheel
15-01-09, 02:17 PM
Yep, rents both know, talked it though with them, before I did my CBT.
Mum doesnt like it, but Dad rides and is cool with it.
Its not the sort of thing I'd try and hide.
chris8886
15-01-09, 02:19 PM
my mum realised she wasn't going to have much choice in the matter when i started reading bike magazines a lot. she's never encouraged me to go out and do it, but didn't discourage me when i did. as it turned out we did our cbt together! though she fell off during it (went back a week later and passed) and hasn't ridden since. that was nearly 3 years ago now and keep trying to persuade her to have another go but havn't been successful, though she does come out pillion every now and then. and my dad has never really commented on it.
missyburd
15-01-09, 02:27 PM
my mum realised she wasn't ging
Now was that a great shock to her or a relief? :p
Paul the 6th
15-01-09, 02:56 PM
lad who used to live up the road from me, left home 20years ago to join the army has recently passed his bike test. He keeps his bike at my mates house as he does not want either his mum or WIFE to find out he has a bike.
wimp
LMAO! What's worse, your missus thinking you're having an affair or finding out that you've got a bike? Amazin lol
diamond
15-01-09, 03:04 PM
My mum bought me my first big bike, she had no idea what she was looking at she just liked the colour. I did have to steer her away from the blade she really liked the look of she really didn't have a clue, ended up with a CBR600. She did want me to have a decent bike that went 'fast' because in her words " you can get knocked of any size bike but atleast on a big bike you might have a chance of getting yourself out of trouble".
Of course this was all before i passed my test, now she has seen me ride she just shakes her head as i roar off down the road, or says she doesn't envy me when i'm getting all my kit on to go home on a cold wet winters day.
Can't see the point in hiding it, it's your life live it however you want to.
dirtydog
15-01-09, 03:27 PM
I have no idea if my mum knows, haven't spoken in years but she was fine when i had my 125 and shebought both of my older brothers bikes
ArtyLady
15-01-09, 03:33 PM
My Mother spent years telling me I'd end up in a wheel chair if I kept falling off horses (she doesn't know one end of a horse from the other) yet me riding pillion never bothered her and neither has she ever voiced concerns about me riding my own bike! but then she did used to ride pillion with my Dad back in the 50's. :cool:
yeah my mum has always been against bikes but couldn't bring herself to say no to me learning, only thing is as i was borrowing the money off her to buy it she got a chance to grill the dealer about how safe they are before handing over the money.....mums eh, gotta love em!!! and my girlfriend just says she wont even go pillion untill i propose......think shes trying to bribe me somewhere along the line
my first bike was my dads 125cc vespa when I was 16 :D
I had a licence for up to 50cc till I was 18. To get said licence both parents had to sign.....dad was OK but mum only signed cause she thought I wouldn't have to re-take the test for the car 2 years later LOL
She didn't speak to me or dad for about a month and a half.....which wasn't a bad thing :)
when I bought the SV I had it for about 2 weeks before I rang her after coming back from a long ride to tell her I bought a new toy.....her response......OH GOD!! YOU BOUGHT A BIKE!!!
Then when I bought the FZ1 I just sent her a picture of the speedo showing stupid numbers LOL
Er yeah ... weekend warrior + bad eyesight + 155mph triumph... can only end well!
You talking 'bout me mister:smt019:D
dissuade
15-01-09, 04:51 PM
sort of closet biker. bought a 125 and my mum had a panic. then bought the sv and my mum said she liked it better because it was bright yellow.
then i bought a yellow cbr... and i MAY be able to convince her that it is still the same yellow bike, but i think it'll be difficult to persuade her because no matter how many times i put KI on the end of Honda, it ain't going to read Suzuki...
And I didn't tell her about my crash. I told her i'd had a spiffing day and my bike was doing fabulously. I think she's come and burn it if she knew.
missyburd
15-01-09, 05:10 PM
And I didn't tell her about my crash. I told her i'd had a spiffing day and my bike was doing fabulously. I think she's come and burn it if she knew.
Suppose these things are easier to keep from your folks if you don't see them often. But like I've mentioned, what they don't know don't hurt them anyway.
BBadger
15-01-09, 05:11 PM
Try being 17 with a sv.. that is hard living, although i am trusted as my dad is 10timex worse than me and hes got a bloody gs1200 ( an old hoolagan ! )
But she has finaly come round after a few months even starts the bike for me and picks up gloves if i drop one ...shes abit superstisious about that.
custard
15-01-09, 05:11 PM
nope, took me till i was 28 to get one though. when i did get one my dad said that he wouldnt come and visit me in hospital. oh how wrong was he...
my better half is a closet biker, her dad is a fireman and he has had to put too many of us in bags and as such would go spare.
Ceri JC
15-01-09, 05:19 PM
Mine didn't talk to me for the best part of two weeks and cancelled a visit to come see me when they found out I was learning to ride. My old man doesn't really care, but my mum was initially very upset. Gradually, she has come to accept it, even if she's still not thrilled about the idea.
missyburd
15-01-09, 05:20 PM
My old man doesn't really care, but my mum was initially very upset. Gradually, she has come to accept it, even if she's still not thrilled about the idea.
Kind of the same with me. My dad just said "If you have an accident, don't blame us". He doesn't like the idea but he did worse things at my age so I win.
My Mum just says 'now don't you go falling off that bike':rolleyes:
My stepfather is actually very impressed by the bike, but he used to ride himself many years ago.
It was my lads who were the problem when Pete and I first met. He got the whole 'don't you crash with my Mum on the back' lectures. Like he'd want to crash with me OR without me!
Dave20046
15-01-09, 06:01 PM
I've just been reading Rai86's thread about people giving her stick after an accident, which made me think about this.
When I first had a bike when I was 16 my Mum hated the fact and was over the moon when I passed my car test and gave up biking. Now I've passed my test and have a 'big' bike I've decided to keep it a secret from her to avoid any stick and to avoid her worrying (she's getting on a bit!)
This seems a bit of an odd thing to do at the age of 43 but it's just less hassle that way.
I just wondered if anyone else on here was a 'closet' biker.
Nah mum and pops know (it's be hard to hide with the leo vinci system on). After my crash my dad even offered to buy me a new decent lid after the doctors were pleased with what I was wearing. I think that's suprisingly understanding of him, knows I'm going to do it anyway may aswell make sure I'm safer.
urbane1
15-01-09, 06:09 PM
I dont get any stick from my Mom. But then it may be that she rides on the back of my Dad's bike. He's 72 and she's 74. Hope I am still riding at that age
missyburd
15-01-09, 06:10 PM
I dont get any stick from my Mom. But then it may be that she rides on the back of my Dad's bike. He's 72 and she's 74. Hope I am still riding at that age
Wow that's good going :D
been there, done that
lol
You not told your folks yet? Haha!
Dangerous Dave
15-01-09, 07:01 PM
Proud to be a biker and it will be my decision if I ever decide to quit.
Nick762
15-01-09, 08:18 PM
My ex wife always maintained if I got a bike it would be grounds for divorce... perhaps I should have got one sooner. One of the first things I did once separated was my DAS course and test. My parents knew about me taking the test but were inclined to think I was only doing it for the experience. It was merely coincidence that I finally bought my first bike while they were cruising round the West Indies....
I must have been about 40 at the time :oops:
Nostrils
15-01-09, 08:24 PM
Madnes, I started biking at 41 by passing my CBT and kept if from my parents as I thought they would not be happy. CBT in March, told my brother in March and is wasn't until Christmas that my dad wanted to know why I had kept it from them, after my sister let it our during a conversation! Both my parents basically said that they dont like it but it is my life and at my age, be careful and enjoy it. My dad then went on to explain that he had 3 bikes, which was news to me and he only gave up when he had a small off by Hammersmith Palais, his gauntlet glove got caught on a taxi door handle and he was dragged down the road for a short while.....they were expecting my sister, so he went onto cars.
I passed my DAS and my first longish trip on my new SV was to see my parents and my dad was beaming when looking at the bike. I do know though that if I tell them I have given up, they would be glad and perhaps relieved.
I havent been on the bike for a while during this winter snap, but am eager to get back on the SV when the weather is more favourable, I am still loving it.
Both parents know, Mum used to go pillion on Dad's bonneville in the 60's, so they can't say anything!
Mum's not too happy about it, but mainly because:
a) I'm a girl and she doesn't think it very ladylike to have a 1050cc, and I should just go pillion with Mr Lou.
b) it encourages my Dad, as he always wants to sit on my bike when I go over and reminise about his old triumph.
You'll never win with parents! But as a parent, as most of you will know, I've just bought Evie's first bike for her 16th, wouldn't dream of stopping her doing anything she wanted (within reason!) But saying that, Evie has just told me that she hasn't told her Dad, and doesn't plan to!
joshmac
15-01-09, 09:47 PM
Yeah my parents know and sometimes open the garage door for me when they hear me coming from a few roads down :mrgreen:
Was quite interesting.. when I wanted to get my first road bike (50cc geared thing) my Dad was totally cool with it, as he was a mod when he was a few years older than me now :razz:, but my Mum took some persuasion. She wasn't worried about me as a rider, but all the other D1cks on the roads.
When I was looking for my next bike (my SV) my Mum was totally cool about it, but my Dad thought the jump from 50cc up to 650cc was a bit steep. Although he was soon driving me round to look at SVs :D. Got a few family friends and my drum teacher who ride as well. They helped with to convince him :)
Now they both are happy for me that I ride. They probably still worry a bit (although they don't tell me this) but they're parents after all.. it's their job to worry :lol:
shonadoll
15-01-09, 09:55 PM
My mum would have been mad if I'd got a bike - she went nuts when I was 16. Sadly she's not here anymore, but I was shocked at my MIL and FIL's reaction - they both said they wished they'd done it and I was so lucky!
So, in the end I was 38 when I did my test but it was worth waiting for.
Dave20046
15-01-09, 09:56 PM
pfft rockers>mods :p
joshmac
15-01-09, 09:59 PM
Keep dreaming Dave :razz:
my parents know and do worry abit but thats a natural parent thing
BigFootIsBlurry
15-01-09, 11:14 PM
I didn't tell my Mam I was learning properly until I passed my DAS, she knew about the CBT but thought it was only a bit of fun as work were paying. She clearly doesn't like it but doesnt want to tell me not to do it. My Dad doesnt mind even though he hates the things himself. The day I bin it I'm not gonna tell either of them unless if I can help it.
davepreston
15-01-09, 11:20 PM
i cheated seen my mum and said good news i've left the forces so no more worrying about me going abroad but i may get bored so as a hobby a bought a motorbike
joshmac
15-01-09, 11:28 PM
i cheated seen my mum and said good news i've left the forces so no more worrying about me going abroad but i may get bored so as a hobby a bought a motorbike
:lol:
mum doesnt like it as my cousins hubby was killed in bike accident. she wont be happy when she hears my daughter due to take cbt soon so she can get her 50cc on road.
she also doesnt know i have 4 tattoos.
joshmac
15-01-09, 11:34 PM
mum doesnt like it as my cousins hubby was killed in bike accident. she wont be happy when she hears my daughter due to take cbt soon so she can get her 50cc on road.
she also doesnt know i have 4 tattoos.
Got a few years to go yet surely ;)
Sid Squid
15-01-09, 11:47 PM
I first rode when I was six, kinda hard for my parents not to know, particularly as I received much encouragement from my dad.
I took both my parents pillion several times, my mum was a great passenger. I was stopped once with my mum on the back and she gave a particularly thick copper a well deserved bollocking, I can't tell you how proud I was.
I told mum I was doing my DAS... and then when I had my tests.
What I didn't do was tell her when I bought my bike. This event didn't happen until a year-ish after I'd passed my second bike test.
A week or so after the buying the bike I got a phonecall from mum...
"I hear you've bought a motorbike..."
*mental scream*
"Erm... yeah..."
Resistance is futile. :lol:
Mum hates my bike. She's a worrier. The bike adds worry. Every now and then she'll find some way to throw in a 'sell the bike' comment, but she knows I won't give it up. I started to drive my car round to hers when I visit, though the ride would be great. I don't want her worrying more, she already worries too much, enough for everyone. I don't talk too much about going out on the bike. I don't let her know when I'm going to be out. And I try my damned hardest whenever I've been on it to NOT make her get that phonecall/visit.
jamesterror
16-01-09, 12:31 AM
I'm learning now, theory done, parents tried to discourage me by offering me 6 driving lessons, I said I'll take the driving lessons and do both!
Mum wasn't as against it as my dad, quite opposite as I expected, hes lost a few friends when he was my age due to bikes.. so has his arguements, and knows for a fact its other road users and not a majority time of bikes.
I think they've started to accept I'm gonna be looking for a bike once I have passed my test, dad keeps saying getting a hayabusa then, don't know why I'm 17 and don't have that much ball yet.
As when work ring up (yes i'm a student) for overtime I always get soemthing along the lines of, your gonna need the extra cash to fuel your bike, insurance doesnt pay itself - as they won't put money into me "riding myself into hospital", but I prefer independance anyway :)
My next step is shipping my mum's car out the garage in replacement for a bike :D
missyburd
16-01-09, 01:04 AM
as my dad, quite opposite as I expected, hes lost a few friends when he was my age due to bikes..
Yeah that's my dad's problem with it, which is fair enough.
BanannaMan
16-01-09, 01:42 AM
Me Mum knows I ride but isn't crazy about it.
She tells me not to tell her when I'm going on long trips so she won't worry the whole time.
I did neglect to tell her about my off back last july.
Avoided seeing her for 6 weeks then went to see her without me arm in a sling and tried to act like I wasn't in severe pain the whole time. LOL
It worked though and she's none the wiser. :cool:
Would just make her worry more so is best she doesn't know.
So...I'm not a closet biker...just a closet crasher. :lol:
my parents know and do worry abit but thats a natural parent thing
I don't think so.
My eldest daughter is a keen biker, she rides all year round and managed to put 34,000 miles on her last bike, GSXR600 K6, in 18 months. She's had one fairly serious accident which left her with a badly broken arm, but I still don't worry about her riding a bike. She's done advanced training and Bikesafe, but still rides very quickly when she can safely.
My parents have given up worrying about me riding, despite having seen me in a coma for three weeks with wires and pipes going in and out of me after I smashed myself up aged 19. To them it's what I do and they've come to accept it over the years.
I think my younger 3 kids worry more about me riding a bike than anyone else, but they've lost one dad in the past so they have good reason.
Dave20046
16-01-09, 09:50 AM
My next step is shipping my mum's car out the garage in replacement for a bike :D
:p I went one step further, filled my garage and shed with parts then turfed out my neighbour and put the SV (and more parts!) in her garage:smt083
mum doesnt like it as my cousins hubby was killed in bike accident. she wont be happy when she hears my daughter due to take cbt soon so she can get her 50cc on road.
she also doesnt know i have 4 tattoos.
Got a few years to go yet surely ;)
lol eldest daughter was 16 last week. be a few years before Libby is on a motorbike ;)
joshmac
16-01-09, 11:46 AM
lol eldest daughter was 16 last week. be a few years before Libby is on a motorbike ;)
:lol: Oh right.. was gonna' say! :mrgreen:
im all for starting them early but 3.5 weeks is maybe a bit young. dont think her feet will reach the pegs
So...I'm not a closet biker...just a closet crasher. :lol:
Very good!!
Much the same. My mum hated me getting my MTX50 at 16 and again was happy when i passed my car test and lost the urge for bikes. She wasnt too happy when i go my scooter 10 years ago for comuting inot london, she was even less happy when i passed my bike test and bought the SV. However, she was the 1st pillion i took as she couldnt wait to get on the back! My mum grew up around bikes atc, and lost a few friends due to them, so i can see her anquish about it all, and the few times i have come off, she just shakes her head and worries alot. But thats Mums for you, they do that kind of stuff, and i wouldnt have it any other way.
be a few years before Libby is on a motorbike ;)Stuff her in a tank bag, she'll be fine ;)
joshmac
16-01-09, 01:16 PM
Stuff her in a tank bag, she'll be fine ;)
:lol:
Glad I'm not you right now :p;)
My biggest regret is that when I was 16/17 my parents wanted me to get a bike, but I refused because my brother and sister had ridden, and I was pig headed.
I was 30 before I learnt, stupid idiot I am!
LMAO! What's worse, your missus thinking you're having an affair or finding out that you've got a bike? Amazin lol
I would be more ...annoyed... if I found out that hubby had been lying to me than him either having a bike OR an affair.
jamesterror
16-01-09, 02:21 PM
:p I went one step further, filled my garage and shed with parts then turfed out my neighbour and put the SV (and more parts!) in her garage:smt083
I'm going to consider that, my dad put it if you want anything the garage the person you have to ask is your mother as hes only allowed to smoke in there, and thats standing in the door way!
Although if I didn't live at home I'd still tell the parents as theres worse things that should be kept secret.
Although if I didn't live at home I'd still tell the parents as theres worse things that should be kept secret.
Haha. I didn't tell my parents I had a daughter until she was 21 years old.
Looooong complicated story.
Stuff her in a tank bag, she'll be fine ;)
dont give me ideas. ;)
james160987
16-01-09, 06:58 PM
Haha. I didn't tell my parents I had a daughter until she was 21 years old.
Looooong complicated story.
that is an achivement,
i can only assume a) you were not speaking during this time,
or b) you took a leaf out of that guy who had a secret cellar family
my mum finds things out about me ive tried to keep secret somehow,
jamesterror
16-01-09, 07:14 PM
my mum finds things out about me ive tried to keep secret somehow,
I think thats just genenrally mum's and women, poking there nose in here there any everywhere ;)
that is an achivement,
i can only assume a) you were not speaking during this time,
or b) you took a leaf out of that guy who had a secret cellar family
my mum finds things out about me ive tried to keep secret somehow,
I moved out of home when I was 16 and became a dad 3 years later. It would have been harder to keep it a secret if I'd been living at my parent's.
My daughter was born in Leicester and lived there for most of her childhood, I come from Bedford. All of my mates and exes knew and most had met her over the years (strangely enough, so had my parents without realising she was their grandaughter). The reasons I never told them are personal, but I only told them because sooner or later they were going to hear from someone else and I wanted them to hear it from me first.
james160987
16-01-09, 08:09 PM
ah makes sence if you wenrt very near them,
just out of intrest did this not raise questions from your daughters about meeting them when they hit the teens,
im 21 and i know i would of asked questions, but my housemate, has not seen his grand parents ever, his whole life, and has no intrest of meeting them due to there dad falling out with the parents,
missyburd
16-01-09, 08:29 PM
im 21 and i know i would of asked questions, but my housemate, has not seen his grand parents ever, his whole life, and has no intrest of meeting them due to there dad falling out with the parents,
I haven't spoken to a few of my family for a fair number of years because my folks don't get on well with them, some I've never met. I have no wish to chase them up, know it would upset me mam and I know where my loyalties lie. Some people have unbounded curiosity about these things, others couldn't care less and are happy with what they've got. Oh and I'm 20 :-P
It's just my eldest daughter, the younger three kids are my inherited almost-step-kids and have been accepted into my family as mine by everyone. My eldest was told from an early age that she had other grand parents on my side and that I wasn't close to them, which was and still is true. Because she's managed to live her whole life without knowing them as family she's happy to carry on like that. My parents live 6 miles from me, I see them maybe 3 times a year. When I lived 120 miles away I probably saw them more often.
I haven't spoken to a few of my family for a fair number of years because my folks don't get on well with them, some I've never met. I have no wish to chase them up, know it would upset me mam and I know where my loyalties lie. Some people have unbounded curiosity about these things, others couldn't care less and are happy with what they've got. Oh and I'm 20 :-P
See, this is something I can't understand.
My ma and her sister fell out and didn't speak for decades, but I don't have any quarrel with my aunty so I carried on as I had before. My ma's quarrel with her sis is their business, and the rest of the family shouldn't be affected by it or be dragged into backing one side or the other. My aunty is mother to three of my cousins, there's no way I was going to stop contact with them purely because my ma and her sis had a gurlie argument.
I've held the same position with two of my sisters. They don't speak to each other but both speak to the other one, I speak to them all. Two of them have asked me to send messages to the other, but I tell them to grow up and do it themselves. I refuse to fall out and not speak to any of my family purely because someone else has a stupid falling out with another.
james160987
16-01-09, 08:45 PM
back on topic, my mum didnt mind me getting a moped, but when my dad took me to go get the 125, 200 mile trip, and came back with it, her jaw hung open and said "i thought it was anothe rmoped you were getting,"
then the 650 came along,
she dont mind now though, she normally heres me coming when i go visit and stands outsides and waits
I didnt tell my mum when I got my first bicycle..guess she didnt mind too much when I got my license and got my first bike. My parents never saw me ride until i rode up on my blue sv and flipped the lid. Gob smacked but fairplay to them they didnt give me a grilling.
gettin2dizzy
16-01-09, 10:44 PM
I told my mum I wanted to buy a bike; she dragged me out that day to sign as the guarantor to a brand new SV!! I was wanting to rebel, the silly b*tch ;)
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