Advice needed

[Thingus]

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[Ed]

Get the f^ck out!!! You are being shafted. Too bad if they depend on the money, you gotta think about yourself. Besides, they didn't rely on it before you arrived, and you are subsiddising their posh nosh, new TV, and holiday. You sleep on a floor, live on rat's droppings, and have nowhere to park your bike. Lots of flat/house shares in Telford. Get the Telford Journal and move on.

[sv-robo]

Put yourself 1st matey,sounds a bit like you're been taken for a ride especially if your paying all that board/rent & sleeping on the floor when there sounds to be a perfectly good bedroom going spare which only gets slept in once a month(maybe she should sleep on the floor).

Good luck for the future

[shonadoll]

They are taking advantage of you. Move out.

[Shellywoozle]

OMG you pay that much and sleep on the floor. How old are you if you don't mind me asking?

Get out and be happy, the longer you stay the more you will get stuck and feel bitter towards them.

As for not seeing the 'brother', if you had your own place I bet you would have a much better relationship ! Do what you feel right at the end of the day as only you know how misarable (or not) you are but live for today there may not be a tomorrow xx good luck hun

[TazDaz]

Would depend entirely what you could afford to do!

Down where I am £250 would get you nothing! Average price for renting a room in a house, just a room, nothing else, no food etc is about £400+. Southerners get shafted with rental costs.

I wouldn't let yourself be tied down because they act like they rely on you. If they want a new tv or a holiday tell em to cut down on the fancy food shopping! Food is bloody expensive!

[Thingus]

Down where I am £250 would get you nothing! Average price for renting a room in a house, just a room, nothing else, no food etc is about £400+. Southerners get shafted with rental costs.


There's a town near here called Bridgnorth which is nice, looking there even though i work in telford, 300 quid will get me a furnished room in a nice ish area.


Those are the replies i expected, chearz.

[captainsmelly]

That reminds me of the start of Harry Potter! I'd get out of there dude, you could rent a place with a mate for the same money.

[New Leaf]

I'd tell them you intend to move out because you don't like sleeping on the floor and list any other things you're not happy with. If they are that desperate for you to stay then they have as long as it takes for you to find somewhere to think about giving you a bedroom and an around better deal.

If they don't do that then you can leave with no hard feelings and still be mates with you new bro. I bet he'd prolly wanna spend most of his time at your new place anyway :-)

It would be a bit mean to just find a new place and move out without telling them you are looking around for somewhere first.

[gettin2dizzy]

Can't you move back in to what was the family home? I certainly wouldn't stay for £250 a month.

[Lou M]

I take it home to Mum wouldn't be an option? No need to reply on that.

Move out, they should not rely on your money, and if they do then they will have to get another lodger.

A room in a house would be better, at least you'd have a proper bed.

[Thingus]

I take it home to Mum wouldn't be an option? No need to reply on that.

Not an option i'm afraid :p there's a garage there aswell as a big bedroom, all for next to nothing a month, but it's just not an option.

By the way, sleeping on the floor isn't a bad thing to be honest, i prefer it ;p such a hobo, it's just the money i pay for what i get is useless.

I might mention moving out soon and see what they say, cheers.

[missyburd]

I vote you move out, nothing like your independence. Sleeping on the floor might not be that bad, but eating crap is, not exactly gonna be doing you much good is it? I know family's family and you are bound to feel you're making it hard for them by leaving and them not having your money but you need a life, a comfy-double-bed-with-a-mattress-you-can-sink-in-and-fluffy-pillows ;-)


Or find a mate and kip with them till you find a place. I plan to move in with my friend when I finish uni, she's just got a mortgage on a flat so anything I pay her is helping really. I really don't want to go back to relying on my folks again, i love my independence so for me moving out is not a choice tis something I have to do lol. Got any mates with mortgages? :-P

[BanannaMan]

Ditch the sods...
Get out ASAP!!!
You deserve a much better life than that.


And they deserve whatever comes their way...having you sleep on the floor. Shameful that.
They deserve no holiday or anything else.

[metalmonkey]

If you can I would move out as the others have said, the fact they taking you for a ride isn't good, you shouldn't be funding their lifes.

If no one sleeps in that room, then go sleep in there dude, does the other person pay rent, I bet they don't!!!

As an idea for prices I pay £370/month which includes council tax,I have garage and quite a big backyard. I have the biggest room in the house(which is a small double) we have a big lounge/diner and a kitchen with all the right bits of kit, but not bills or anything else. I guess it work out about £400ish/month when all is paid up, however winter is gonna be killer as we have heating on a lot.

I would sit down work out a budget of much you can live off, then find the best you can for the money. I knew what i wanted and where and evetually found it, it 3 months to find this place. I would say the major bad thing about this place is that it needs some work and it s bit of treak to a good bar ect.

Good luck hope its gets sorted soon.

[mike_avfc]

agree with all the above. simple as that...

[Thingus]

I guess i'm not patient enough to wait 3 months but the budget sounds good, i don't earn thaaat much but i'm full time on a salary, so at least i can use that.

I don't want it to sound bad about the floor thing :p i kinda like it, but the bedroom hasn't been changed into something for... i dunno, personal space? No matter how much i've suggested it.

I nearly moved out just after i moved in, but they made me stay, i might see if that room's still available... but all my mates are in uni! So it's at least July before any of that even comes to an idea :p

Thanks guys.

[missyburd]

but all my mates are in uni!


Find some who aren't then, and quickly! :p

[TazDaz]

Find some who aren't then, and quickly! :p

Or try one of the flatshare / houseshare websites. Plenty of people who need another person to live with and don't know anyone who is able to! Meet some new people at the same time!

[northwind]

I'd say get out, but I think some of this lot are too quick to judge, it doesn't mean they're deliberately taking advantage... Sometimes you just slip into these things with different intentions, and once it's happening it just seems natural to roll with it.

But still, either get it changed or get out.

[Ed]

I'd say get out, but I think some of this lot are too quick to judge, it doesn't mean they're deliberately taking advantage... Sometimes you just slip into these things with different intentions, and once it's happening it just seems natural to roll with it.

But still, either get it changed or get out.

Northy - are you joking? Thingus here is a cash cow, being milked. Suggest you sleep on the floor and eat dead flies @£250/month, you'd move out too. So would I.

[northwind]

So I would- and so I said ;) But that's how it ended up, it doesn't mean they set out to screw him. You've got to say that it's out of order, but should we all be passing judgement on his family? I don't think so.

[Ed]

So I would- and so I said ;) But that's how it ended up, it doesn't mean they set out to screw him. You've got to say that it's out of order, but should we all be passing judgement on his family? I don't think so.

:silent:

[Thingus]

Now now!
It's my fault, i offered the money to start with because i intended it to be a short term thing, but they're offering me the same things for the same money i suppose.

It's obvious really isn't it, i should get out, but it's not as simple as it sounds when you're in the situation.

[muffles]

You are Harry Potter AICM5P.

[fizzwheel]

Moving into my own place was the best thing I did, I struggled financially, but it was well worth it.

In your position I'd be finding somewhere else to live.

[Frank]

My lad was on an apprentiship and brought home £650 a month.Out of that he paid me £100 all in.He thought that was bad.He did have to share a bedroom though

[Thingus]

Well i share the front room with the boy, does that count? :p

[chris8886]

My lad was on an apprentiship and brought home £650 a month.Out of that he paid me £100 all in.He thought that was bad.He did have to share a bedroom though

you horrible man! ;)

i'm with the majority on this one. i'm very lucky with how i have it, living at home, with my parents making me save the money i'd give them in rent for the future ie. mortgage/deposit. if i were in your situation though, i'd definately be looking for somewhere else to live because i think you're getting a raw deal!

[New Leaf]

actually thinikng about it more (and having drank a few more beers) its not like your dad gave you much of a **** about your living arrangements, splitting up with yer ma and moving in with some other bird whilst u were on holiday. Now that i've thought it through more, i say **** him and his new bird, you don't owe them a thing. Tell them they can stick their new telly up their ****, you aint paying another penny and you're moving out asap.

[missyburd]

So I would- and so I said ;) But that's how it ended up, it doesn't mean they set out to screw him.
True, if he was a stranger of a lodger they'd probably charge him twice as much lol.

[Speedy Claire]

My 21 year old son works away from home on a month on/month off basis. The month he`s home he gives me £200 (he takes home nearly £1,300) a month. For that £200 he gets his own room with TV, all electricity (and he stays up all night on x box live). He gets his washing and ironing done by me and that money also covers all food and he eats really well.... a nice meal each evening and fridge/cupboards full of food and snacks for him to help himself too. Out of that £200 a month I pay his subscription to satanta sports, his council tax and I usually buy all his toiletries etc. to take back to his ship.

Hope that gives you some idea of what my son gets for his £200 a month... in reality a hell of a lot more than you seem to be getting.

As a mum I honestly could not and would not see my son sleeping on a floor long term. I`m trying so hard not to be judgemental but I`m struggling to understand how a father can let his own son sleep on a floor when there`s a spare room available (most of the time) and out of the money you`re giving him each month he should be buying your food for you.

You obviously already know the answer to your dilemna but i`m sure it`s gonna take some guts to make that move. Best of luck to you, I really wish you well in this.

[Thingus]

Well i just told them i was thinking of moving out and they were ok with it, haha.
He said, "don't worry about your bike cover (he paid for it until next pay day) you pay too much as it is, you don't even have a room here"

Bang, on the nose!
So the search begins.

Ps thanks Claire, that's about right i reckon for 200 squid,

[New Leaf]

Result!

Hope everything works for you. You seem like a very nice and sensible young man. I hope my little two year old grows up to have his head screwed on like yours. :-)

[Baph]

I think I fully understand where Claire is coming from.

I'm a parent, and not the only one on the .Org. You'd definitely done the right thing by talking to them about it.

My parents split up (whilst I was still there, not on holiday), and I moved in with my mum, who at first, didn't even want my dad knowing where she was living. So I was stuck between the two.

I really can't imagine how any parent can put their child through paying out the nose for sleeping on a floor, and not provide food for them when they live in the same house!!

I can't even imagine charging my kids rent for living here as they grow older!

[maviczap]

You don't really need anymore advice on what to do. But to save yourself loads of money when you do find a gaff, if it's unfurnished.
See if there's a Freecycle group in your area. Loads of people give away sofas, TV's, DVD's etc. Rather than just throw them away. You name it, it appears on Freecycle and its all free.
Wish there had been a Freecycle group when I bought my first house.
Best of luck

[Thingus]

Thanks mr leaf :p appreciated! I can assure you i'm probably not as sensible as you assume :(
Cheers Baph, i guess people have different ways of showing kids how money works.
Mavi, i'd not heard of that until now, appreciated :p pretend to love the environment for free sofas eh! I'll try and get furnished tho :D

[Ed]

I'll ask my co-worker Sarah (she lives in Dawley) if she knows anyone looking for a house share.

[Thingus]

Thanks Ed :)
I've got a couple people lined up to ask aswell.

[RichT]

Good luck with it all fella. I'm sure with a bit of perseverance you'll find exactly what you want and at the price you want too.

[chris8886]

I think I fully understand where Claire is coming from.

I'm a parent, and not the only one on the .Org. You'd definitely done the right thing by talking to them about it.

My parents split up (whilst I was still there, not on holiday), and I moved in with my mum, who at first, didn't even want my dad knowing where she was living. So I was stuck between the two.

I really can't imagine how any parent can put their child through paying out the nose for sleeping on a floor, and not provide food for them when they live in the same house!!

I can't even imagine charging my kids rent for living here as they grow older!

i have it good, but i would still quite like parents to read this! lol

i've heard about freecycle recently. a friend at work has recently got into it and she has had a couple of really good things for nothing!

[maviczap]

Thanks mr leaf :p appreciated! I can assure you i'm probably not as sensible as you assume :(
Cheers Baph, i guess people have different ways of showing kids how money works.
Mavi, i'd not heard of that until now, appreciated :p pretend to love the environment for free sofas eh! I'll try and get furnished tho :D

No worries about the advice. Here's the link to the Freecycle.org

http://uk.freecycle.org/

I got a working Sky+ box the other week, but beware these sorts of items the person giving it away will be swamped with requests.

It works by the person listing an item it on your Freecycle group page. You get sent an email with the listing. If its something you need, then you send the person listing a email asking to have the item.

Sometimes its first come first served or names out of a hat for popular items. If no one else wants it, then you get it

It pays to be polite and give a reason why you need it.

It goes against Freecycle principals to ask for an item, then flog it on EBAY or at a car boot, which some scumbags do.

But someone in your situation is what Freecycle was meant for.

And its all for Free :cheers: