How social are you? [Archive] - SV650.org - SV650 & Gladius 650 Forum

husky03

12-03-09, 11:46 AM

For the past few years i've had it said to me on numerous occasions that i've become more and more of a loner-the mrs would probably be the person who agrees with this most, telling me that i've developed into the most anti-social person that she knows-is this just an age thing?the older i get the more time i'm happy being with my immediate family or on my tod rather than socialising with others. I'd be quite happy to spend my time in the woods away from everyone but find this a bit worrying. I wonder if i'm going nuts and i'm gonna and up an old hillbilly crazy mountainman.

Dappa D

12-03-09, 12:02 PM

same boat here...im 27.....more than happy spending most of my time with the family.
untill a few years ago id be at every party / social event / night out etc and feel like i was missing out on something if i didnt go, these days my nights out with the lads are minimal (maybe once a month), as I feel like im missing out if i dont say goodnight /read a story to my lil lad.

I do however have my hobbies which act as my social life, football once or twice a week, org rideouts!, music studio and once a year a weekend away with the football team

kitkat

12-03-09, 12:06 PM

i recently have had enforced hermitism thrust upon me. I moved 450 miles away from all my family to be with new partner. My kids came with me, his daughter stays every second weekend and we have a new baby together plus a dog. I dont know anyone in the area but it doesnt bother me. Too busy at the moment to go to groups to meet other mums, plus not too keen as Im old enough to be their mums probably lol

dizzyblonde

12-03-09, 12:27 PM

I wonder if i'm going nuts and i'm gonna and up an old hillbilly crazy mountainman.

http://www.mountainmanforum.com/media/mmf_logo_index.png

well you could join here, they might give you some handy tips to get started:p
Don't worry I think its an age thing. Im Indoors is an antisocial bugger, and I'm just an agoraphobic type, we go well together:rolleyes:

Alpinestarhero

12-03-09, 12:28 PM

I dont mind being in the company of other people, but no-one really listens t what I say and tends to talk over me or inturupt me mid-sentence. So i prefer to be with a smaller group (2 or three people) or with maria or my dad or just on my own. People scare me...even at soho, I'll not stay too long and everyone there is quite polite and lets me finish what im saying lol

Being on my own, on my bike, riding someplace to take photos, is one of my favorite things.

pencil shavings

12-03-09, 12:33 PM

LONER!!!!! lol

im not really, but becasue Ive moved around so much it dont really have a close group of friends! its cool, because my company is the best anyway, i never argue with myself!!

Tim in Belgium

12-03-09, 12:34 PM

After living by myself for the last few years I find I'm happy with my own company, it took a little getting used to at first, now I'm fine with it!

the_lone_wolf

12-03-09, 12:43 PM

see my username <-- you're not antisocial, you sound introverted, like me

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extraversion_and_introversion

i'm not one for massive socialising, i can handle a party or day out meeting new folks, but it tends to get tiring and i just get bored unless there's some form of in depth or contraversial discussion going on, i'm usually one of the first to leave. i'd prefer to stay at home either by myself or with family or one or two good friends and watch a DVD with a takeaway than go out to the pub or, god forbid, club...

jimmy__riddle

12-03-09, 12:44 PM

im the same, probably why im playing less ice hockey and doing more bike related things and fishing.

Alpinestarhero

12-03-09, 12:46 PM

club...

Argh! clubs!!!

Dappa D

12-03-09, 12:49 PM

im the same, probably why im playing less ice hockey and doing more bike related things and fishing.

fishing!! forgot about fishing...ill be doing lots this summer.....

jimmy__riddle

12-03-09, 12:51 PM

fishing!! forgot about fishing...ill be doing lots this summer.....

people think im mad because i can easily spend 8-10 hours in march at night on a beach miles from anyone, heaven for me

Mogs

12-03-09, 01:01 PM

I'd prefer to be with people, but if I am alone I dont feel the need to sekk out company. Perhaps it's an age thing.

ThEGr33k

12-03-09, 01:07 PM

Im happy either way to be honest... When im at base im by myself for days (other than seeing my work colleagues).

Im quite particular when it comes to friends as well to be honest. :rolleyes:

Mej

12-03-09, 01:10 PM

people think im mad because i can easily spend 8-10 hours in march at night on a beach miles from anyone, heaven for me

im s*it at fishing but i like the sound of that! :D

Warthog

12-03-09, 01:13 PM

I love socialising! If I have an option of being on my own or being with people I'll always choose people. Plenty of time to be on your own so I say socialise when you can, it makes you meet more friends and more interesting people. That said, the older I get the more misanthropic I get, which I suppose is a little contradictory.

keithd

12-03-09, 01:29 PM

i prefer my own company, but i think thats only because i spend lots of time socialising. if you know what i mean. if i was alone in the world, no friends or family i'd hate it, but as i live with somebody have family close by i dont get the chance to be alone often so love it when i am!

im sure i could have said that easier, quicker and less boring!!

Sean_C

12-03-09, 01:39 PM

Dappa D

12-03-09, 01:43 PM

fizzwheel

12-03-09, 01:45 PM

I'm quite happy in my own company. In fact I need to have some time on my own, otherwise I go bonkers. I do like company but it has to be with people I feel very comfortable with or a small group.

I can cope with a night club for a couple of hours, but dont make me go shopping in Tescos when its busy or I will loose the plot.

Tara

12-03-09, 01:47 PM

Scoobs

12-03-09, 01:47 PM

http://forums.sv650.org/image.php?u=7491&dateline=1236017126

IS THIS PRESTON?

dizzyblonde

12-03-09, 02:39 PM

I cant handle crowds, even people I know, I can't do it. I get wound up or grumpy, or just withdraw into myself. Can't go to a busy supermarket, hateshopping etc, parties are hell..

I do wish I wasnt like this though. As such I'm perfectly happy being alone or with the girlfriend.

my brother in law is like this....wow he is like a madman in a supermarket...proper rage and anxiety....he has some kind of extra strong mints to have when he gets like this...and they help apparently...

sound like agoraphobic tendencies to me.
Most women take hours in a supermarket shopping, come do your shopping with me, it'll be guaranteed that an entire weeks will be done in a supermarket sweep style . Hate it, hate crowds, hate parties, get paranoid with too many folk around, I can't deal with nightclubs or busy pubs, I'm extremely fidgety, most people think its just down to that being a fidget, its not:(.

Mej

12-03-09, 02:42 PM

sound like agoraphobic tendencies to me.
Most women take hours in a supermarket shopping, come do your shopping with me, it'll be guaranteed that an entire weeks will be done in a supermarket sweep style . Hate it, hate crowds, hate parties, get paranoid with too many folk around, I can't deal with nightclubs or busy pubs, I'm extremely fidgety, most people think its just down to that being a fidget, its not:(.

your shopping style is just like mine!!!

i like to go out everynow and again but as im getting older im going out less. Too much goin on for me to be ****ing it up all the time like i did a couple of years back. Im more productive nowdays.

hovis

12-03-09, 03:01 PM

http://forums.sv650.org/image.php?u=7491&dateline=1236017126

IS THIS PRESTON?

yes, i think so

Amanda M

12-03-09, 03:19 PM

I cant handle crowds, even people I know, I can't do it. I get wound up or grumpy, or just withdraw into myself. Can't go to a busy supermarket, hateshopping etc, parties are hell..

I do wish I wasnt like this though. As such I'm perfectly happy being alone or with the girlfriend.

Sounds like me that.

I'm not comfortable with big groups of people, hate busy places and would rather just have a couple of other people around. If I'm out in a big group I'll tend to find a quiet corner with a couple of folks to chat to. Much happier that way :)

I love biking cos it's a good reason to be on my own :cool: I won't go out in groups of more than 4 on a bike run either these days.

anna

12-03-09, 04:09 PM

I love being around people and like being social.

However after having being out on tour for months and, had to spend every hour of every day with the same people day in day out I now have a new found appreciation of quiet time.

Although have moved away from where my friends are I like the queit time to get stuff done and work on my own. Perhaps it´s just an appreciation for the quiet times after spending so long being hectic.

Miss Alpinestarhero

12-03-09, 04:16 PM

I prefer being with people on a one-to-one basis or a small group (2-3), anything larger and I loose track of conversation and just withdraw into myself and take a more "listen rather than speak" role.

I see my really close friends on a fortnightly basis where we'l chill out and X person's house. or go out for food. However 4 of them don't speak which means I have to do everything which each one seperately..!

But I do like my own company. After being surrounded by people all day at work its really nice to come home, switch off and do my own thing (i.e. play the wii or go to the gym alone).

Overall, Id say im in between. I don't go out every week like a party animal and I don't neglect to see my friends for months on end. Just the way I like it :)

slark01

12-03-09, 04:23 PM

I am more of a loner, always have been always will be. I am socially inadequate and tend to be quiet when in large groups.
I have a very small group of friends but I rarely see them ( not seen any of them since new year ).
I do enjoy meeting people for the first time and I do enjoy group ride-outs, but I really love riding on my tod.
Am I bothered, erm nope.

kitkat

12-03-09, 04:41 PM

think this thread has answered your question Husky - you are not a weirdo, well you are a bit but you're not alone lol

5tu

12-03-09, 04:59 PM

In my job I have to be sociable all day and nice to people - even if they're horrible, smelly, boring or all of the above. So I love my quiet/ anti-social time in an evening/ day off.

I don't like going out in groups either as it always seems to be people battling to be heard over the others as what ever bollox they have to say is always more important to wait

Lissa

12-03-09, 05:09 PM

I cant handle crowds, even people I know, I can't do it. I get wound up or grumpy, or just withdraw into myself. Can't go to a busy supermarket, hateshopping etc, parties are hell..

I'm the same. For me it's a lack of height thing though................I really don't like being trodden on or level with people's smelly armpits! :(

I do love being out and about with biker mates though:cool:

At work I'm happiest if I can get through the day without having to talk to anyone, but that's purely because the people I work with are idiots!:p

Sean_C

12-03-09, 05:35 PM

I'm not so bothered about how I am mostly, what annoys me is when it stops me enjoying things I really should enjoy. I'm a good musician, I should enjoy jam sessions on the rare occassion lots of good players go.. But I hate them, and it annoys me that I do. I was also in a relatively popular band around here, but I hated playing at gigs and festivals.. I just can't enjoy these things. As such I mostly sit at home playing my music, which I enjoy, but its a waste- music is for sharing.

I haven't been to any really busy biker meets, I know I'll hate it.. But I love biking in small groups, its great fun.

Its strange. Im a big, confident person away from those situations, I don't understand why I can't handle them.

Oh.. Who is preston?

Iansv II

12-03-09, 05:36 PM

I've turned into a complete hermit over the last few years :smt104

DarrenSV650S

12-03-09, 05:50 PM

The only time I am social is bike runs. Wouldn't have a life if I didn't have a bike. Used to have mates in high school but they got bored of me and I haven't had mates since. I can't stand big groups of people and I'm cr@p at meeting new people. I prefer groups of 2 or 3 people that I know, but I don't know many people.

fizzwheel

12-03-09, 06:33 PM

Oh.. Who is preston?

The lead singer of a band called "The Ordinary Boys"

Biker Biggles

12-03-09, 07:35 PM

You are all quite mad.
Me?I socialise with the residents of the local cemetary as they have great stories to tell and dont answer back.
Mad I tell you.

shonadoll

12-03-09, 08:02 PM

I thoroughly enjoy my own company, but find as I get older, I'm a lot more selective about who I spend time with-I deal with the public on a daily basis and have to pretend to be nice then!

Paws

12-03-09, 08:04 PM

I prefer my own company (only child), dont go out after work with work mates and have a close of small but v close mates that i can trust, happy as i am :)
Long as i have my bike, my cats and my good mates then im quite happy being anti-social

husky03

13-03-09, 12:18 AM

think this thread has answered your question Husky - you are not a weirdo, well you are a bit but you're not alone lol

The above sums up how I feel now-seems to be a few people on here have very similar outlook on the social side of things that i have-maybe its something about being a biker that you can be part of a group but still have your own individuality at the same time.
Still gonna have that longing to be away from it all but that will come when its time to retire
cheers everyone

husky:)

davepreston

13-03-09, 12:51 AM

prefer working on my own , i get things done at my pace and to a higher standard. but socialising 7/8 people is perfect i can keep up with that eg halifax and manchester at christmas was mint but im used to individual postings so walking into a strange place and introducing my self is a no brainer to me now