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My son got good GCSE results, so to celebrate with over the weekend I bought him and his mates 48 cans of Carlsberg (other beers are available, your home is at risk if you play with the gas pipes and matches)
As he's only 16, does this make me bad?
kwak zzr
28-08-09, 09:13 PM
narr he'll love you for it ;)
Shellywoozle
28-08-09, 09:13 PM
I'd say that makes you a Top Dad !!
Better he celebrate indoors safe than out on town where he will get served in pubs.
Where was my invite ???
Wideboy
28-08-09, 09:14 PM
nah makes you a ****ing quality dad!!
FlyinCustard
28-08-09, 09:14 PM
no, i don't think so, top quality if you ask me
speedplay
28-08-09, 09:14 PM
Not really.
At least you know hes not sat in a park somewhere getting P****d out of his brains.
I'd say that makes you a Top Dad !!
Better he celebrate indoors safe than out on town where he will get served in pubs.
Where was my invite ???
Shelly, you'd love my boy, he's tall, blonde, handsome, clever and funny... everything I'm not
No you're a cool Dad! You know where he is and he's safe. Dx
Shellywoozle
28-08-09, 09:17 PM
Shelly, you'd love my boy, he's tall, blonde, handsome, clever and funny... everything I'm not
Nah I fink his Dad is pretty cool ! ;) he a baby and that IS defo wrong LOL
Ceri JC
28-08-09, 09:54 PM
Nope, you're a good one. My mate's dad used to buy use booze at that age. We still all think he's awesome.
Balky001
28-08-09, 09:58 PM
Depends. If there are only 3 of them then I think you might have overdone it :D;) Bah
Owenski
28-08-09, 10:01 PM
his friends parernts might not be too pleased you've effectivly supplied thier kids with it too. But if you dont care what they think then rock on! your the No.1 dad ATM
lukemillar
28-08-09, 10:07 PM
Shelly, you'd love my boy, he's tall, blonde, handsome, clever and funny... everything I'm not
Are you sure he is yours? :wink:
Wideboy
28-08-09, 10:15 PM
Are you sure he is yours? :wink:
im more worried :???:
lukemillar
28-08-09, 10:22 PM
im more worried :???:
Don't be - It would have to have meant you have had sex with a woman before ;)
Wideboy
28-08-09, 10:26 PM
wom.......an? :-k
Are you sure he is yours? :wink:
I know for a sure-fire fact that he's not my biological son. I inherited him after one of my mates got killed in a car crash. Daniel was only 4 months old when that happened - he was 13 months when I started seeing his mother. He also has 2 sisters, aged 20 and 18.
Those three are my inherited kids and I've helped bring them up for the last 15 years - I also have a 28 year old daughter who is most definitely all my own work.
Spiderman
28-08-09, 11:46 PM
As others have said mate, its a sensible way to treat kids at what can be a "difficult" age. An ex g/f's dad did a similar thing with his oldest boy when he found out he smoked weed. He simply told him that he didnt agree with it but was fine about him doing it in his room and inviting his mates round too..... his reason being that if anything untoward were to happen it would be better that he was at home and it was out in the open than Sean was out on the streets and didn't feel he could rely on dad to help him in whatever way.
-Ralph-
29-08-09, 04:22 AM
Spot on, best thing to do.
Amongst my 16th birthday presents was a bumper pack of condoms.
I was drinking 1/2 glass of wine with my parents at dinner from the age of 12, and for 14 onwards there was beer in the fridge for me to help myself to whenever I wanted, so long as I didn't take the p***. I knew what take the p*** meant and rarely touched it on a school night, if I did I had 1 beer only, and and weekends I never got ****ed on it or I'd be in trouble and the privilege would be taken away. From the age of 16 I was on a moped anyway and lived in the countryside, so couldn't drink much if I wanted to stay mobile. I rarely drank alcohol away from home as drinking my Dad's beer was cheaper and I most of my money went on petrol.
Loads of guys I knew turned 16/17 and were old enough to get served in pubs and spent every Saturday night getting into trouble and throwing up on the street. Alcohol was a novelty to them and they went mad on it.
Von Teese
29-08-09, 07:28 AM
Shame on you for buying drink for underage lads when he is the legal age for ......
riding a moped ;)
Warthog
29-08-09, 07:42 AM
In Belgium (where I grew up) the legal drinking age was 16, so clearly there is a discussion to be had about when kids can start drinking. I think the earlier they get used to it in a controlled environment then the more sensible they are later, so I say well done Lozzo :). Although at least get them some decent Belgian beer! Show then alcohol can be enjoyed rather then just necked to get off your face ;)
CoolGirl
29-08-09, 08:07 AM
I inherited him.
As a former single mum, I'd say that probably makes you even more of a good dad.
dirtydog
29-08-09, 08:23 AM
Nah not a bad dad at all. My dad used to take my oldest brother down the workingmens club for a couple of beers on a friday night when he was 16.
Samurai Penguin
29-08-09, 08:26 AM
My son got good GCSE results, so to celebrate with over the weekend I bought him and his mates 48 cans of Carlsberg
Yes, you should not be encouraging the youf to drink fizzy foreign pish!
Von Teese
29-08-09, 08:29 AM
Yes, you should not be encouraging the youf to drink fizzy foreign pish!
It's made here in Northampton! lol
It's made here in Northampton! lol
Noooooo. Get him proper northern beer. Newcastle Brown:winner:
Up 'ere men are men ----- and sheep are frightened.
No you're a cool Dad! You know where he is and he's safe. Dx
Ditto. Except the "x", of course.
Better that him and his mates are safe, sound and warm and not likely to run into trouble. Will you be the same when he wants somewhere to take his girlfriends ;-)
timwilky
29-08-09, 09:25 AM
Under age drinking is something that my bar owning friend and I disagree on.
My view is that it is far better that a person (say 16+) is allowed to drink in public whilst in the accompanied by a parent. ssshhh, do not tell anyone but my kids certainly had a drink whilst out with me. My friend however, says the law is 18 and she risks her livelihood should she serve underage, so wont.
Buying your lad the booze for home consumption is OK by me. However, I hope he paces himself. 48 in a mega session is certainly a killer. OK if he drinks them with his mates in your home. On the street/park etc. a big no no.
Encourage him to be responsible. let him have his girlfriend over when ready. But ensure they know the score.
shonadoll
29-08-09, 09:32 AM
I would happily do this with my kids, but it's a difficult one with their mates. Some of their parents would not be pleased if I supplied alcohol to their kids.
But on the whole I think it's a good idea.
boring mum here. My daughter was going to school disco and was getting ready at her pals house. Friends mum got them some vodka to drink before going. I was not happy. Becky can have a drink in the house if she wants (not interested). Her 3 pals came down from Scotland to stay last new year and I got them to get their parents to confirm to me that it was ok if they had a drink.
Not saying you are a bad dad but everyone has different ideas of what is acceptable.
metalmonkey
29-08-09, 09:45 AM
I think its the right thing to do; look whats gonna happen if want to drink they will at least you where there are, with who ect. I have been asked several times by kids outside off licences to buy drink for them. I have always told them no, but 5 minutes later they someone that had.
I think it far better to start treating them like adults and make their mistakes; you can learn so much quiker that however so ppl never learn.
When I lived in the mid west of the US I was 19; so illegal so ended getting liqoiur but we ended up partying hoping on July 4th to keep one step ahead of the feds. I found it ironic there that you can own a gun at 18, but can't drink to 21 go figure. Its werid in the US ppl my own age had such an imature attitude to drink and generally being an adult.
-Ralph-
29-08-09, 10:07 AM
My view is that it is far better that a person (say 16+) is allowed to drink in public whilst in the accompanied by a parent.
Is that not already legal anyway? I thought a 16yr old could drink in a pub so long as accompanied by someone over 18 who is buying the drink.
metalmonkey
29-08-09, 10:08 AM
Is that not already legal anyway? I thought a 16yr old could drink in a pub so long as accompanied by someone over 18 who is buying the drink.
Yeah long as they are eating, so a resturant unless it is changed.
timwilky
29-08-09, 10:10 AM
Ok, I should have said alcohol, but I took that as read.
No an under 18 cannot drink alcohol in a boozer and it is an offence to buy booze for them.
Daft if we sat down and bought a meal, they could have a drink legally with the meal.
-Ralph-
29-08-09, 10:10 AM
Ok, I should have said alcohol, but I took that as read.
No an under 18 cannot drink alcohol in a boozer and it is an offence to buy booze for them.
Daft if we sat down and bought a meal, they could have a drink legally with the meal.
It was taken as read, I didn't realise they had to eat, I certainly never stuck to that technicality with my Dad when 16
Yeah long as they are eating, so a resturant unless it is changed.
OK, or a pub meal. Or a side order of chips ;)
wyrdness
29-08-09, 10:19 AM
The minimum legal drinking age in the UK is 5. Yes that's correct, five years old, if it's at home.
If someone gave me Carlsberg, I'd be most unhappy. It's disgusting crap.
-Ralph-
29-08-09, 10:24 AM
The minimum legal drinking age in the UK is 5. Yes that's correct, five years old, if it's at home.
If someone gave me Carlsberg, I'd be most unhappy. It's disgusting crap.
Ridiculous that we should need a law for this, don't shout about it or they'll spend 1/2 million reviewing if the age needs to be changed.
Anyway are we saying that an under 5 can't eat chicken in white wine sauce, or sherry trifle, or tiramisu with Marsala in it?
Shame on you for buying drink for underage lads when he is the legal age for ......
riding a moped ;)
He doesn't want a moped, he's waiting until he can ride something less embarrassing.
Ditto. Except the "x", of course.
Better that him and his mates are safe, sound and warm and not likely to run into trouble. Will you be the same when he wants somewhere to take his girlfriends ;-)
His girlfriends are allowed to stay in his room, again it's a case of keeing a degree of control over the situation while still making the kids feel comfortable and not doing stupid things to rebel against us and the rest of the world. So far it's worked - none of them have been the slightest bit of bother and are well grounded young adults.
I would happily do this with my kids, but it's a difficult one with their mates. Some of their parents would not be pleased if I supplied alcohol to their kids.
But on the whole I think it's a good idea.
His friend's parents are aware that beer is supplied at the party tonight and are ok with it because the adults will be in the house.
metalmonkey
29-08-09, 10:42 AM
His girlfriends are allowed to stay in his room, again it's a case of keeing a degree of control over the situation while still making the kids feel comfortable and not doing stupid things to rebel against us and the rest of the world. So far it's worked - none of them have been the slightest bit of bother and are well grounded young adults.
Its about treating them like adults and with respect; I find that the way alot of people approach kids is with compeant today and then wonder why they get ****ed off. I have worked with kids for a long time I have very few rules, most I bend if the situation requires it. To me its all about respect and how we treat each other.
metalmonkey
29-08-09, 10:46 AM
It was taken as read, I didn't realise they had to eat, I certainly never stuck to that technicality with my Dad when 16
OK, or a pub meal. Or a side order of chips ;) I don't think that would cut it; but yeah I know what you mean.
I don't see why common sense can't be applied to alot of how live ect; but the problem with that I have met some adults are very inmature and I wouldn't trust with a choclate teapot. It shame being an adult can't be taken away from people who are clearly clueless.
Balky001
29-08-09, 11:37 AM
Lozzo, out of interest, did you let the other boys parents know what you were doing just out of respect to their views? They might have said it was OK but best to check. My parents allowed me to drink at around 16/17 in the house with mates. I don't think it's a bad thing to have a few drinks in a responsible way ocassionally
Lozzo, out of interest, did you let the other boys parents know what you were doing just out of respect to their views? They might have said it was OK but best to check. My parents allowed me to drink at around 16/17 in the house with mates. I don't think it's a bad thing to have a few drinks in a responsible way ocassionally
Dan's friend's parent's were asked if it was ok when he had his 16th birthday party(s), and they all gave permission for their kids to drink at any event held at his house, but only when there was adult supervision. They have been informed there will be booze available this time and none has raised an objection, and all have allowed their boys and girls to attend.
Dan has friends who are pretty much like himself, and luckily their parents are as forward thinking as we are about such matters.
Balky001
29-08-09, 11:50 AM
Dan has friends who are pretty much like himself, and luckily their parents are as forward thinking as we are about such matters.
That's cool. Treat them like adults and they will generally act like one if supported.
littleperson
29-08-09, 04:35 PM
Nope you a great dad and responsible to
You know what they got and where they are
Hope they enjoy themselves
sv-robo
29-08-09, 04:50 PM
My son got good GCSE results, so to celebrate with over the weekend I bought him and his mates 48 cans of Carlsberg (other beers are available, your home is at risk if you play with the gas pipes and matches)
As he's only 16, does this make me bad?
Nah,i'm sure your son & his mates will think your a cool dad.Reminds me a bit when i had my worst biking accident(broken neck job:()when i was 19,back then i was a bit partial to the old wacky backy & after coming home after a couple of months in hospital i fancied a smoke,still not been anywhere fit enough to venture out for supplies i gave my dad the address of a local dealer(let the guy know to expect my dad)half an hr later my dad arrives back with good old bob hope:cool:.
My dad has never been a smoker(of anything)& after constant badgering from me & my mates to try some in a brew he gave in.Made him a brew & a couple of hrs later he's sat in his chair with bloodshot eyes & a daft grin on his face,not long later he says "i'm off to bed",next morning i asked him if he'd enjoyed his hash brew?,his reply was"i don't know,i can't remember,but i woke up with an empty packet of ginger biscuits in my bed",LOL.
slark01
29-08-09, 04:53 PM
Nah,i'm sure your son & his mates will think your a cool dad.Reminds me a bit when i had my worst biking accident(broken neck job:()when i was 19,back then i was a bit partial to the old wacky backy & after coming home after a couple of months in hospital i fancied a smoke,still not been anywhere fit enough to venture out for supplies i gave my dad the address of a local dealer(let the guy know to expect my dad)half an hr later my dad arrives back with good old bob hope:cool:.
My dad has never been a smoker(of anything)& after constant badgering from me & my mates to try some in a brew he gave in.Made him a brew & a couple of hrs later he's sat in his chair with bloodshot eyes & a daft grin on his face,not long later he says "i'm off to bed",next morning i asked him if he'd enjoyed his hash brew?,his reply was"i don't know,i can't remember,but i woke up with an empty packet of ginger biscuits in my bed",LOL.
LMFAO!
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