View Full Version : Not being liked :\
BanditPat
17-03-10, 01:34 AM
I don't even know why im posting this here probably because im a bit on the drunk side.....But i just feel a little bit worthless at the moment must just be something wrong with me....eventually i tell most people i "liked" that i liked them but I get the same response "no your just not my type" :\ wouldnt be that ba if it was just some people or most people but its every one and I'm not the kind of person that goes on what people look like because to be honest i don't really care i know im hardly a looker i like people for people. being a fair while since any ones liked me today i told some one else that i liked them and asked if there was any chance that she would have ever liked me as more than just a friend and i just got this back
- ***************** says:
i dontt think sooo sorryyyy mostly do with the fact that your my exs mate
Something tells me its not to do with the fact im her exs mate :\......dont fancy being me at the moment really :cry:
barwel1992
17-03-10, 01:37 AM
chin up mate you will get some one :)
if not paulthe6th likes a bit of ruff with the boys (acording to his food thread) :lol:
chin up m8, look at me short fat and ugly, but i managed to pull a cracker, got married and have 2 kids and been together for 18 years.
my cousin is the same but he has a squeaky lisp'y voice and his wife is an absolute stunner.
dont let it get to you. if you look hard enough you will find the right person. so get out there and get on the pull.
BanannaMan
17-03-10, 02:27 AM
Something tells me its not to do with the fact im her exs mate
Are you joking???
Unless you're you're extremely rich or good looking, the fact that you're mates with her ex will deffinately do you in everytime. Unless she's after revenge. (in which case you'll not likely be mates with her ex for long)
My advice:
1. Do what you can to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex.
2. Get out and meet some new people.
Possibly time for a good look in the mirror.
If there's no lass no where that'll go out with you.... maybe it's time to take a look at yourself and what you are doing and ask yourself what's wrong here.
What is it that you're doing that women don't like or are just not attracted too?
Physical looks don't matter that much, physical appearance however does.
Got to be clean, neatly groomed and all that.
If you're a nice, funny, like to laugh and have a good time and can carry on a conversation that isn't totally boring to everyone else.... there's a girl out there somewhere for you.
If you're expecting women you've already known for years that have never been attracted to you to suddenly take interest.....that's not likely to happen either. Get out there and meet some new people!
Can be discouraging at times but women are not attracted to self pity. So best to enjoy a night of drinking, then get over that ASAP and get working on whatever it takes to spark the interest of some suitable lass.
Just don't forget to be yourself! Only happier!
HTH
Ask her if she knows anyone who would like to go out with you...
she wont, but one of her friends might...
SoulKiss
17-03-10, 07:09 AM
Paradoxically, stop looking and get the big stick ready...
Last 3 relationships all just fell in my lap at times I wasn't really looking for one, in fact one at a point when I really didn't want anyone but it worked out well in the end.
As for people not liking you, well as long as you are being yourself, then thats THEIR problem, not yours.
slark01
17-03-10, 07:37 AM
I know two people who are so butt ugly that I thought no way will they ever get a girlfriend, how wrong I was.
My advice to them was simple....Stop looking and get yourself sorted out with decent clothing and groom yourself. Bingo both of them are in steady relationships.
Women can sense desperation, so it is better if you don't bother looking and get comfortable with yourself.
When you go out for the evening, go out to enjoy yourself, nothing more. When you meet someone for the first time, be yourself and don't try to impress her.
You will find someone, when you least expect it.
Good luck and I hope things work out for you.
Ste.
Old Git
17-03-10, 07:38 AM
Posted by SoulKiss
'As for people not liking you, well as long as you are being yourself, then thats THEIR problem, not yours.'
That is the best most 'real' thing I have heard, wish I had thought of it first.
+1
My advice to them was simple....Stop looking and get yourself sorted .........
Women can sense desperation, so it is better if you don't bother looking and get comfortable with yourself.
Yup.... very sound advice.
There is someone for everyone.
fizzwheel
17-03-10, 08:25 AM
Women can sense desperation, so it is better if you don't bother looking and get comfortable with yourself.
When you go out for the evening, go out to enjoy yourself, nothing more. When you meet someone for the first time, be yourself and don't try to impress her.
Agreed. But I'd also add. Dont play the "friend" card. I.e. dont try and be their friend as if you end up their friend thats all you'll ever be.
If you like them and they like you, you'll soon both know that you feel like that about each other and job jobbed.
I look like i've been chasing parked buses but look at Mrs B. She's coming up 50 and looks like she in her 30's.
Patience little grasshopper, the force will be strong in you one day soon.
Mate, its not you, its them. Women are a fussy breed, and want everything on a bleedin' plate! Well, the ones you like anyhoo.
beabert
17-03-10, 08:39 AM
Do what i have done and give up lol.
Paradoxically, stop looking and get the big stick ready...
Last 3 relationships all just fell in my lap at times I wasn't really looking for one, in fact one at a point when I really didn't want anyone but it worked out well in the end.
As for people not liking you, well as long as you are being yourself, then thats THEIR problem, not yours.Yeha dave but look at yourself, you are the Hairy Lovegod! What chance have the rest of us got? Hows the job at apple?
Owenski
17-03-10, 08:43 AM
- ***************** says:
i dontt think sooo sorryyyy mostly do with the fact that your my exs mate
1: Are you joking? She's your mates ex? Well thats just a MASSIVE NO NO from the off. NEVER EVER EVER DINE ON YOUR MATES LEFT OVERS! You're asking for trouble by doing that, frankly you deserve a man slap for trying it.
2: Something to know about women, never ask them if they like you THEY WILL ALWAYS SAY NO (unless you're way out of their league). Rather than answering the question you asked in an honest manor, for some reason they prefer to lie and make you keep trying.
It makes sense really, becuase if they were to conceed that they liked you, you'd slack off and make no effort to impress them. SO instead they say no to try and make you work harder for them.
NOTE: I dont mean turn into a stalker and I dont mean write them poetry. You've got to work out what the best you can offer them and let them see it (unless its your 12inch dong, I dont recommend flashing that about). Even if its simply just been a gentleman infront of your peirs, no doubt they'll slate you for it but f'em they'll stick around regardless but a lady will take effort.
3. Stop been a fanny, unless your trying to attrack a lesbian then man up.
So to recap -
Dont play in your mates back yard,
Dont ask if they like you - it resets your appeal factor to zero in an instant.
and finally grow a pair.
Dicky Ticker
17-03-10, 08:51 AM
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.Beauty is only skin deep,uglyness is right to the bone----------------your in deep ****[Joking];)
There is always somebody for some one and it can jump out at you anytime,new day new thoughts.
Hope you have sobered up.:shock:
Beauty is in the eye of the beer-holder.
Corrected for you.
missyburd
17-03-10, 09:38 AM
1. Do what you can to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex.
Or just be yourself and wait for the right person to come along, even if that takes a lot longer than you'd like, at least they'd be accepting you for you and you won't have to keep an act up that takes too much effort. As Jabba said, there is someone for everyone, hard as it is to believe atm :-)
Oh and another thing, if you know you're going to be feeling down about the issue, don't get too drunk ;-)
Owenski
17-03-10, 09:45 AM
Or just be yourself and wait for the right person to come along, even if that takes a lot longer than you'd like, at least they'd be accepting you for you and you won't have to keep an act up that takes too much effort. As Jabba said, there is someone for everyone, hard as it is to believe atm :-)
Oh and another thing, if you know you're going to be feeling down about the issue, don't get too drunk ;-)
You for example absolutly hate bikes! You put up a great act though.
missyburd
17-03-10, 09:47 AM
You for example absolutly hate bikes! You put up a great act though.
:confused:
What everyone else said, plus a group hug!:grouphug:
Mr Speirs
17-03-10, 10:22 AM
Oh and stop telling people you like them over facebook.
keith_d
17-03-10, 10:34 AM
Oh and stop telling people you like them over facebook.
Correction, "..stop telling people you've never met..."
Keith. (who's enjoying the single life, not getting stressed about it)
Owenski
17-03-10, 10:36 AM
:confused:
i was taking the michael.
missyburd
17-03-10, 10:38 AM
i was taking the michael.
lol i got that, just a bit random that's all!
Anyway Bandit, ain't you still at uni? You shouldn't be thinking about girls! :D
...and can carry on a conversation that isn't totally boring to everyone else....
I'm really good looking but I struggle with this :D
Serious advice - fill your life with other things. When you're a complete person, women will be attracted. Do stuff, find out what you like to do and what you don't. Live.
And when you've filled your life up with things you like doing, a girl will come along and stop you doing it all :shock:
missyburd
17-03-10, 10:53 AM
And when you've filled your life up with things you like doing, a girl will come along and stop you doing it all :shock:
Lies! :-P
Admittedly tis true for some lasses but if you're lucky you'll catch one who will want to do most things with you and then you #might# lose that independence. But if you like her enough you'll want her to be a part of things anyway :-)
keith_d
17-03-10, 10:54 AM
Nooo.... you want a girl to come along and do them with you.
So in my case I'll need a bike riding, scuba diving, food loving, travelling, photographing, game playing, cider drinking sort of girl. T'aint gonna happen.
Nooo.... you want a girl to come along and do them with you.
So in my case I'll need a bike riding, scuba diving, food loving, travelling, photographing, game playing sort of girl. T'aint gonna happen.
Well I got one :D
Lies! :-P
Admittedly tis true for some lasses but if you're lucky you'll catch one who will want to do most things with you and then you #might# lose that independence. But if you like her enough you'll want her to be a part of things anyway :-)
I didn't finish the story. That's just the first girl. You'll try hard but fall out cos she stops you doing everything. Then along comes the 2nd. You'll overcompensate here after your experiences with the first one, and never have any time for her, so you'll drift apart. So girl number 3... make sure this one is good looking!
Time for a bit of honesty. I hope you don't mind...
Few women like drunks. Few women like violence. I don't mean to be off Pat but you have posted quite a bit about both in the past, and it isn't very pretty.
Make sure your personal appearance is OK - do you need to shed a few pounds, or are there more simple things like do you need to use a nailbrush.
Above all don't try to be someone you aren't. As well as the above, you come across as fiercely loyal to those you love, and that usually scores big time.
Owenski
17-03-10, 11:11 AM
Time for a bit of honesty. I hope you don't mind...
Few women like drunks. Few women like violence. I don't mean to be off Pat but you have posted quite a bit about both in the past, and it isn't very pretty.
Make sure your personal appearance is OK - do you need to shed a few pounds, or are there more simple things like do you need to use a nailbrush.
Above all don't try to be someone you aren't. As well as the above, you come across as fiercely loyal to those you love, and that usually scores big time.
rofl
the rest is sound advice ;)
Advice from the girlie side.......
Be the best you can be but be yourself. Girls love a bloke who looks after themselves, are confident with who they are but not arrogant.
Enjoy your life as it is now and don't try to look for something that is missing, it will only elude you longer.
You can only change the things you have control of so improve your life for the better by taking stock of where you are right now. If you are not happy with aspects of your life then do something about improving them and have a long term goal.
NEVER EVER say to a girl "Do you like me?" or even "I like you!" as an introduction to finding out if there is a relationship possibility. At best you will get an embarrassed "You're alright!". It's too direct. If it's someone you like and you want to see if there is possibilies go with "Fancy going to movies/drinks/bowling with me sometime?" Much more relaxed.
Girls don't like guys who drink too often.
Exibit A: Sally.
Smoking, fighting, swearing, etc are all bad :)
I only once had a girl who didn't mind these things(apart from fighting, was never a fighter), and made a balls up when I finished with her due to one drunken mistake by her.
1.5 years on, still single, and I don't actually mind it...
Could do with a good lass though... :(
Alpinestarhero
17-03-10, 01:35 PM
No-one has ever fancied me apart from Maria. I think because we met on the internet, she got a chance to know me and not just run off at the first sight of me :lol:
By the way, the thing about girls not liking drunks...well, the same is true of guys, I expect most of us are put off a lass who drinks too much!
Always be honest about yourself. I like what ophic said, fill your life up with things. Love will happen when it happens :)
BanditPat
17-03-10, 01:47 PM
Oooopsy daisy I don't think I should be allowed near a computer when i've been drinking any more. Well thanks for the replies people :) you should really have ignored it though ;) I talk a lot of carp when im sobre and as far as i've been told i was fairly bad last night lol. MYC nawh I'm not in uni wasntmy up of tea, I'm doing glass colleting and abr work in one of theclubs at the moment while i apply for other things :D.
Exibit A: Sally
'Hey I got a new man in my life'
'What's his name?'
'Sally'
'Oh...er...yes...'
Mr Speirs
17-03-10, 02:06 PM
Oh and stop getting drunk and posting 'nobody likes me' threads
You will regret it in the morning :)
SoulKiss
19-03-10, 01:00 AM
Yeha dave but look at yourself, you are the Hairy Lovegod! What chance have the rest of us got? Hows the job at apple?
Had to quit the Apple job, not enough time to spend with all the women...
fastdruid
19-03-10, 01:21 AM
Anyway Bandit, ain't you still at uni? You shouldn't be thinking about girls! :D
What? I thought that was the point of Uni? Girls/Boys[1], alcohol and an occasional bit of studying.
Druid
[1] Delete as appropriate.
missyburd
19-03-10, 09:44 AM
What? I thought that was the point of Uni? Girls/Boys[1], alcohol and an occasional bit of studying.
Druid
[1] Delete as appropriate.
Sarcasm, wasted. :p
Nooo.... you want a girl to come along and do them with you.
So in my case I'll need a bike riding, scuba diving, food loving, travelling, photographing, game playing, cider drinking sort of girl. T'aint gonna happen.
Lol your right!
I went with 50/50 lieks most of my stuff hates my gaming and guitar :P.
My advice i aint no looker but relationships seem to fall into my lap, be yourself, enjoy yourself and you'll find someone.
Go out meet new people and it should all be good.
Worse comes to worse try a dating site, many of my friends have and its worked out great! If you do that however be honest and expect LOTS of no or no replies!!
Ta
Dave20046
19-03-10, 11:33 AM
Worse comes to worse try a dating site, many of my friends have and its worked out great! If you do that however be honest and expect LOTS of no or no replies!!
Ta
That's a point, a guy at work (no really) used them and never seemed to be out of a relationship - the shocking part was it was hard to determine whether or not he was human let alone manage to maintain a conversation with him. He didn't look like he'd been chasin buses...he looked like the bus that did the chasing, he clearly didn't wash and communications weren't a strong point...although I'm sure one of his grunts sounded very very suspiciously like hello once. And the magical thing (but not necesarily good) is - he seems to have successfully reproduced!
Then again as I'm typing this, crediting it to dating site....it really wouldn't surprise me if it was our old friend rhohipnyol's work.
keith_d
20-03-10, 07:36 AM
That's a point, a guy at work (no really) used them and never seemed to be out of a relationship - the shocking part was it was hard to determine whether or not he was human let alone manage to maintain a conversation with him. He didn't look like he'd been chasin buses...he looked like the bus that did the chasing, he clearly didn't wash and communications weren't a strong point...although I'm sure one of his grunts sounded very very suspiciously like hello once. And the magical thing (but not necesarily good) is - he seems to have successfully reproduced!
Then again as I'm typing this, crediting it to dating site....it really wouldn't surprise me if it was our old friend rhohipnyol's work.
Maybe he would just sit there breathing through his ears and licking his eyebrows!!
Nooo.... you want a girl to come along and do them with you.
So in my case I'll need a bike riding, scuba diving, food loving, travelling, photographing, game playing, cider drinking sort of girl. T'aint gonna happen.
.
hate to tell ya, but apart from the scuba diving (I snorkle, SD just ****s with my mind too much) I love all of these, pity Im taken ;P
In other words...it happens. Get a life and you will get a love :)
yorkie_chris
28-03-10, 01:00 PM
Maybe he would just sit there breathing through his ears and licking his eyebrows!!
And still the shielas keep hangin aroundd....
So in my case I'll need a bike riding, scuba diving, food loving, travelling, photographing, game playing, cider drinking sort of girl. T'aint gonna happen.
Why not? Keep doing the stuff you love and there's bound to be a bird who likes the same sort of stuff. And if not then there's always a bonk to be had when you're out cider drinking and you have the advantage of not getting stuck with a wench who'll try to stop you doing the stuff you love.
carternd
28-03-10, 05:47 PM
I went with 50/50 lieks most of my stuff hates my gaming and guitar :P.
That's cause it's playing with yourself. If you can do things together there's less to object to.
BanditPat - if I find the answer, I'll tell you! For now, gotta keep turning over dem stones.
dizzyblonde
28-03-10, 05:56 PM
Time for a bit of honesty. I hope you don't mind...
Few women like drunks. Few women like violence. .
No they don't.=;
A man I loved deeply, and still do to a large extent, was rather a large drinker. Eventually it was the end of us. I had to make him leave. Hardest decision I have ever made.
I find people who can't show restraint, or indeed know their limit a complete turn off. Those who get shirty or can't control what they do show complete lack of respect to themselves and others.
Someone who can drink, but show their lady respect to know when its getting annoying, scores big brownie points.
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