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does anyone know how much the church charges or does it depend on area/religion?
Looking at getting Ryan christened August but haven't got a clue on these things.
Also Ed if you read this would you recommend a legal document to sort out legal guardianship should anything happen to falc and I or can i just write something down and make sure the family know who we want to look after our child/children?
wyrdness
09-04-10, 06:32 AM
Looking at getting Ryan christened August but haven't got a clue on these things.
Then why on earth do you want to do it?
timwilky
09-04-10, 06:43 AM
I bet Ed says do it properly and you both make a will. You can put your requirement for child care should you snuff it in there (we did).
But please discuss it with the persons nominated and get their agreement first.
As for the christening stuff, not a clue. what I do know is some churches insist on you being a "worshipper" in the church. Others are cool so long as you go by their general principle. such as I am supposed to be RC yet they were OK with me being god father to my bessy bessy mates daughter at the local CofE.
Worse my brothers daughter, the local church would not christen her until mum/dad got married.
I bet Ed says do it properly and you both make a will. You can put your requirement for child care should you snuff it in there (we did).
But please discuss it with the persons nominated and get their agreement first.
As for the christening stuff, not a clue. what I do know is some churches insist on you being a "worshipper" in the church. Others are cool so long as you go by their general principle. such as I am supposed to be RC yet they were OK with me being god father to my bessy bessy mates daughter at the local CofE.
Worse my brothers daughter, the local church would not christen her until mum/dad got married.
Thanks Tim we discussed it with the persons involved last weekend and they are more than happy to do it. I think your right Ed will suggest get it legally sorted
Hmm great i do have an excuse for not going i can't get to the church on Sundays as falc has the car but I am christened and confirmed although hasn't done either.
Wyrdness i know i dont have to explain myself but since you asked, Ryan was born my emergency C section he wasn't breathing and both ryan and I were in distress i am not very religious but i did a hell of a lot of praying while i was in theatre and feel very blessed and very lucky that we both came out of it OK. So he is being christened.
fizzwheel
09-04-10, 07:42 AM
T - My Dad went to see somebody at his bank, they put him in touch with a solicitor and they helped him draw something up. Similar to what you might be thinking about.
Whilst I was 18, If something happened to my parents, the bank would act on their behalf and make sure that financially we were provided for. I cant remember the exact details, but thats basically how it would have worked. Once I was 18 I had to sign some paperwork that meant that responsibility for eerything ( including my brother ) finances wise, passed over to me.
Basically it meant that my family who have a history of bickering and in fighting could not muscle in and take control, sell the house out from underneath me and my brother etc etc. Solicitor probably is the best person for you to speak to.
I was christened when I was a baby, makes no difference to me now because I am not religious or anything like a regular at church.
Looking back on it now I think I would have prefered it if my parents hadnt had me christened and that I would have been left to make my own choice in the matter once I was old enough to do so. I know a few people that have done this in their adult life.
If you're doing it to make other people happy, then take some time to reflect oni it. If you are doing it because you & wayne want to then go for it.
does anyone know how much the church charges or does it depend on area/religion?
I don't recall paying anything for either of our kids' Christenings. They were both done at the Cathedral.
My niece was christened last August, it was free and done in the normal sunday service. At the christening me and drew where asked to be godparents and it has also been made clear to the family that should anything happen then it is me and drew who will become legal guardians of Eden.
It quite popular these days to having a naming ceremony for babies.
I had my daughter christened because I was so pleased and proud of her that I wanted to celebrate her arrival in some sort of official and celebratory way and in those days that was the only way I knew about. If there had been naming parties instead I would have gone for that, becasue even though I was christened and confirmed as a child, as an adult I am a commited atheist.
Not sure how it works down south, but up here we wanted our son to be christened, but they said no as I was of a different faith and we were not married. However the minister could see how upset he had made my Ex so he said he would do a naming ceremony and baptise him as a christian bu that he would have to attend the church for a couple of weeks beforehand to show the congregation we were faithful in some form.
Ironically I want to my priest, who knows that I don't attend services or commit to the RC faith in the way he feels is correct, but on being asked said he would of course bless/ baptise / christen any child that was brought to his church even if we were not practicing in the normal manner.
As it was my Ex went for the naming ceremony as she thought the priest would look down on her, ( naah).
Anyway in both cases no money was ever mentioned and Nathaniel was named in a CofS.( whatever that means)
Hope it all goes well for you.
cheers
Thanks Guys thats brilliant. i'll go get a solicitor and get it sorted my Friend Amanda and her husband are going to be legal guardians and we have the godmothers sorted just need to sort out god fathers now
Fizz its about what me and Wayne want for once, it was me that mentioned it to Wayne although my parents are pleased it is more about what we want. like i said i have never really been religious but i really did do some praying in that operating theatre that night. Whne he is older he can make his own mind up about religion.
a naming ceremony was an option Messie and is a lovely idea and may be an option too thanks
I think it objectionable that any church should put conditions on the christening of a child. After all, didn't Jesus welcome sinners no matter who they were, Jew or Gentile? I'd approach the minister/vicar of the church wherever you would like the ceremony to be conducted. It should be free, I've never heard of payment for a Christening and we certainly didn't pay when Sophie was christened. They will expect you as parents and the godparents to make promises. In the CofE it's usually to renounce evil, to turn to Christ, and to bring the child up in the knowledge of Jesus. Whether you are comfortable with them is naturally a matter for you.
On the other matter, I'll PM you.
I think it objectionable that any church should put conditions on the christening of a child. After all, didn't Jesus welcome sinners no matter who they were, Jew or Gentile? I'd approach the minister/vicar of the church wherever you would like the ceremony to be conducted. It should be free, I've never heard of payment for a Christening and we certainly didn't pay when Sophie was christened. They will expect you as parents and the godparents to make promises. In the CofE it's usually to renounce evil, to turn to Christ, and to bring the child up in the knowledge of Jesus. Whether you are comfortable with them is naturally a matter for you.
On the other matter, I'll PM you.
That makes sense thank you we shall see i am seeing a the church council tomorrow so should Know more then
again thanks Ed
dizzyblonde
09-04-10, 09:38 AM
Our christening didn't cost at our local church. Why should they be doing that? As Ed says you are going to make a promise to the child not pay for some pomp and ceremony.
However a good old knees up at the pub was slightly more expensive ;-)
Haven't thought about a christening for this one. Theres plenty of time for that later.
Our christening didn't cost at our local church. Why should they be doing that? As Ed says you are going to make a promise to the child not pay for some pomp and ceremony.
However a good old knees up at the pub was slightly more expensive ;-)
Haven't thought about a christening for this one. Theres plenty of time for that later.
i just thought seeing as they charge you to get married they would charge for a christening thats all it was
yep we are having a BBQ in the back garden (if the weather is good)
dizzyblonde
09-04-10, 09:45 AM
Christenings are usually conducted within the normal Sunday Service. Well ours was.
With a Wedding you are paying for different 'out of hours' private ceremony.
Christenings are usually conducted within the normal Sunday Service. Well ours was.
With a Wedding you are paying for different 'out of hours' private ceremony.
i can be so bloody thick sometimes!! thanks Dizz:D
Do you have my home address T? for the invite?
i loves a good christening sic pish up.....
dizzyblonde
09-04-10, 09:51 AM
Aww bless. Not at all, if you're not a churchy type like me, then you aren't going to know.
TBH Dylan was christened to keep my mums gob shut. Not saying it wasn't against my beliefs to do it or anything.
sorry Keith I don't, want to send me a PM?
Its just something i've never had to organise before I am a godmother to 2 children but this is the first time I have ever had to organise one.
I think it objectionable that any church should put conditions on the christening of a child. After all, didn't Jesus welcome sinners no matter who they were, Jew or Gentile? I'd approach the minister/vicar of the church wherever you would like the ceremony to be conducted. It should be free, I've never heard of payment for a Christening and we certainly didn't pay when Sophie was christened. They will expect you as parents and the godparents to make promises. In the CofE it's usually to renounce evil, to turn to Christ, and to bring the child up in the knowledge of Jesus. Whether you are comfortable with them is naturally a matter for you.
On the other matter, I'll PM you.
Thanks as always Ed for the advice :D
appollo1
09-04-10, 03:59 PM
I am in the process of sorting out getting my kids Christened. We had a blessing for my daughter in England but now we live in Scotland I wanted my son to be done as well and the Minister is going to allow us to do them both at the same time. Daughter now 7 and son is 5.
There is no charge for the service and we are encouraged to go along for a few sundays to the regular service and have been asked if the kids would like to attend sunday school to learn more about god and Jesus.
I believe that being Christened/Baptised or whatever else there is allows you to be married in a church when you choose to do that but I am not 100% sure.
My wife and I have spoken about who would look after our kids should anything ever happen to us and as I am off to Afghan next year we have decided and spoken to her brother and he has agreed to be their legal guardian should anything happen.
We have 5 godparents for my son and 4 for my daughter!!!! Is that too many do you think?
appollo1
09-04-10, 04:00 PM
I've just been informed that the christening is booked for 6th June. Best I get the invites sorted then!!!
dizzyblonde
09-04-10, 04:10 PM
Appollo I had four godparents for my son.
And I also heard about the being christened and marriage in a church thing too.
Appollo I had four godparents for my son.
And I also heard about the being christened and marriage in a church thing too.
the marriage/christening thing is right
we are probably having 2 godmothers maybe 3 and 3 godfathers if we can agree on them but we shall see. I am seeing the clergy tomorrow so wish me luck.
You will be fine T, as people have said there is no charge for the service, and nor should there be.
You will be fine T, as people have said there is no charge for the service, and nor should there be.
Thanks Anna - we are going to use your gift on his cake :D
Never had to pay for any of my 6 kids - although at times I would have paid to send them back.
As for the legal thing, Ed's covered that but I'd recommend getting it sorted sooner rather than later just in case.
Never had to pay for any of my 6 kids - although at times I would have paid to send them back.
As for the legal thing, Ed's covered that but I'd recommend getting it sorted sooner rather than later just in case.
yep we really need to do that
I got becky christened on board a navy ship, only cost us a bottle of whisky for the vicar man. Becky has not set foot in church since. Didnt see any point in getting connor baptised. and of course as we are not even married, getting Libby christened is even less likely to happen. Its a personal choice though. Have a good day
I got becky christened on board a navy ship, only cost us a bottle of whisky for the vicar man. Becky has not set foot in church since. Didnt see any point in getting connor baptised. and of course as we are not even married, getting Libby christened is even less likely to happen. Its a personal choice though. Have a good day
i wasn't religious either but like i said when i had c section i did alot of praying and i just feel that my prayers were answered and i should give thanks.
Hey kitkat hopefully you and yours will be there so hopefully you will have a good day too
we saw the vicar today all went well :D
thanks for all the advice guys just need to sort the legal bits out now
I hope the service isn't as early as ours was when Evie was Christened! Our bash afterwards was breakfast! But my mum did it and it was a brilliant spread of croissants etc. There was no charge for ours, but we put a nice big note in the offering.
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