Father's day

[Quiff Wichard]

hey all.

please spare a thought for absent fathers on this father's day .. or for folk that have/had a horrid dad..


you who have yer kids and you who have a lovely dad are very lucky .. give him or them an extra hug on Sunday ..

[Rai86]

RIP my dad, I will be thinking about him on sunday

Thank you quiff this is a nice thread

[Swin]

I am playing football (!) with my two kids - they got a choice of an activity that they wanted dads to do with them at school on Friday afternoon.

So, instead of choosing "reading quietly" or "doing the crossword", I get to play football - probably 15 years since I last chased a ball around a field, and that was bad enough!

[Quiff Wichard]

glad you like ..

I meant absent fathers as in me.. who aint seen my kids for 9 years.. but.. if it makes you think of your loved ones who arent with us anymore then thats good..

I know it is a made up day .. but if you have your dad or you are a dad.. enjoy it if you can.. some of us cant .. I will spend all day in bed probably ... it's like Christmas is a double edged sword for some too..

[Quiff Wichard]

i mighta put the apostrophe s in the wrong place in my title.. but that is another debate....


let's have a mass debate

[Rai86]

Oops sorry, i read it wrong

well my thoughts are with some of the fathers that arent able to share this day with their kids for whatever reason, as well

[gruntygiggles]

Stiffy.....you can be my daddy if you want ;-)

On a serious note, I consider myself not only lucky to have a wonderful dad, but also lucky that he has always been in my life. However much you miss your children, they will be missing you too and hopefully one day, fathers' day will be a day that you can share together. You might not be there yet Dave, but your thoughts are with them.....and my thoughts are with you. Wub you xxx

[Messie]

Big hugs for you Quiff. I can only imagine the heartache at not being able to see your kids regularly.

On the other hand, there are Dads who don't deserve to be so. My daughter's father has been absolutley useless in the parenting game.

Maybe we should set up a parent/child dating type of service (no, not in any smutty sense before you shout) to team up the good parents who can't see their own with the kids whose useless ones don't come up to scratch.


and no, before you ask Quiff, you can't borrow my Laura for the day. She may be 28 and blonde and gorgeous but she's about to married and Mand might object lol :)

[Jamesy D]

With luck, I'll be able to give my dad a bit of a father's day present by getting him to accompany me on my first ride of the SV. He's been wanting to ride with me forever, it'll be nice to finally let him.

Big conciliatory pats on the backs to all the dad's who can't be with their kids (and a square slap in the chops to those who don't care about their kids). Give yourselves a pint on me. :D

[Lozzo]

I'm an absent dad.

I've got 4 of the blighters, 3 of whom are inherited. I haven't lived with the younger 3 for 10 years now and I'm not their real dad but they always make the effort to send a card or call me on the day. My eldest is a star, she always, without fail sends a card and a small pressie even though I have told her time and time again that we're past that stage now - bless them all, I love my kids to bits.

[Bluepete]

let's have a mass debate

W@nker!

Pete ;)

[wyrdness]

hey all.

please spare a thought for absent fathers on this father's day .. or for folk that have/had a horrid dad..

Please include me in those thoughts. I'm absolutely gutted at the moment. We have an arrangement where I get Luis every alternate weekend. This weekend would be mine. However, his mother has decided that she has other plans and I can't have him. It's his 2nd birthday on Friday, and we're both taking him to the zoo, so at least I'll see him for a few hours on his birthday. But I'm seriously depressed at the moment because she's decided that I can't have him on Fathers day.

[CarlosSV650S]

I feel for ya m8, unfortunately thats how the female species work somtimes m8, been there, done that, got the t shirt an all that.

[wyrdness]

I meant absent fathers as in me.. who aint seen my kids for 9 years.. but.. if it makes you think of your loved ones who arent with us anymore then thats good..

Very sorry to hear that, Quiff. I'm really hoping that something like that doesn't happen to me. Hopefully one day you'll be reunited with them.

[timwilky]

I just wish my monsters would sod off and leave my wallet alone.

2 out of 3 have gone, but they all still come the daddy I need (read want).

I am staying in this fathers day, the last ended horribly

You can bet my lad won't get to see his daughter, or my grandson see his dad whoever he maybe.

[muddi]

heart goes out to the fathers who want to be with their children and cannot for whatever reason.

I have a great step-dad who was there for me when I was growing up and still is there for me now, and to my children...

my 'real' dad is still around, if I can be bothered he will get a card, or he might not.. He couldn't be bothered when I was a young lass and didn't understand why he wasn't around - but now I do, so sod him. I talk to him and am polite etc but don't class him as 'dad' that goes to my step-dad who I love lots..

So to my step-dad - thank you for being there and never judging xx luv you lots xx

And a big hug to those dads who wish they were with their kid(s) :kiss:

[muddi]

I feel for ya m8, unfortunately thats how the female species work somtimes m8, been there, done that, got the t shirt an all that.

Not all of us are heartless cows, sometimes we try to move heaven n hell to make sure dad gets to see the kids but sometimes the dads don't give a sh*t as something 'better' has come along that has taken their attention for a while..

And I also know that not all blokes are tossers ;)

[CarlosSV650S]

Not all of us are heartless cows, sometimes we try to move heaven n hell to make sure dad gets to see the kids but sometimes the dads don't give a sh*t as something 'better' has come along that has taken their attention for a while..

And I also know that not all blokes are tossers ;)




FFS !! it was just a figure of speech, i didnt mean All women. LOL

[Ed]

I don't believe in it. I have instructed Sophie that I want nothing. Anyway there are wider issues and it can be painful because as many on here know, it makes me think of what I never had. I'll stop there.

[gruntygiggles]

I just found out from my mum that my uncle (actually my dad cousin, but very close) is being allowed to see his son this Sunday for the first time since he was 7.....he's now 24. I remember when Jeff and Sue split up and basically, she's schizophrenic and had many many affairs during their marriage. Jeff knew nothing until Matthew was 2 years old after a 6 year adoption process and wait. He was a child that they were both very very desperate for. When he found out about her illness, we all watched him support her, I remember it despite being young myself. Because of the affairs and one night when Sue slept with a stranger at a party she went to with Jeff, he couldn't take it anymore. They agreed to seperate so that they could both keep being great parents as all they did was argue.

Cut a long story short, after Sue moved in with her mother, Jeff never saw Matthew again despite numerous court cases. Always paid for everything and never stopped trying.

Apparently Matthew contacted him yesterday to say that he found a few folders in his mums bed because he decided to redecorate while she was away. The folders contained every single birthday/christmas card and a letter for every single month since Matthew was 7. Jeff apparently wrote letters to just chat to Matthew and wrote one every month. He confronted his nan (sue's mum) who broke down and said that everything his mum had said about Jeff over the years were lies.

God knows what Sue is going to come back to, but the important thing is, Matthew now knows that it was his mum that had all the affairs, not his dad and after all these years, they are finally going to see each other again.

It's quite big news for the family because it means we'll all get to see him again too. :-)

Quiff and other dads, please don't give up hope...you just never know what is around the corner.

Big hugs all round :-)

[Quedos]

Huge hugs to all those who are absent from their kids. I don't have kids any but I have my dad who I love to bits and like Lozzo's eldest I still buy my dad pressie for fathers day - something small and funny. Probably won't to get to see him though)

For all dad's never give up hope as you never know what is round the corner.

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