feeling a tad emotional

[timwilky]

Well it is 10 years today since the old man snuffed it.

So feeling a tad emotional for the grumpy cantankerous old git, I still miss him. He kicked my brother out at 17 when he brought home his first bike. Yet he bought me a 3 day old XS1100 from the family of a biker who lost it. But only to repair/sell not for riding as they were far too dangerous. He hated bikes, seen far too much misery caused by them. He hated to see me or my brother on them.

My memories of him are of course rose tinted. I remember the good and forget how nasty he could be. However, I just wish he had been here to see his great grandkids, to know how well his grandkids turned out. He was a snob, a self made man who was proud of having dragged himself up by his clog laces. And unfortunately for me, the source of my grumpiness, intolerance, and downright nastyness.

I think I may be downing quite a few for him tonight as I watch the Newcastle/Rovers game. He took me on Ewood in 1966 and then on Deepdale the following week. I had to promise to be a good boy to make sure he never took me back there again.

[husky03]

:grouphug:

[Ed]

Your dad obviously had a huge influence on you, and it's terrific that you remember him with fondness and with love:D

When you shed a few, I'm sure they'll be tears of happiness rather than tears of sadness or tears for what might have been, but wasn't.

Enjoy his memory:D

[Quiff Wichard]

Dad's eh..

who'd have em ..



Tim.. I have the speech ready for my dad's funeral and he still alive !


I spent all my life trying to forgive him
I will Spend the rest of my life trying to forget him

but he's my dad and I will always love him.


have a few pints and some chasers mate .. it is a benchmark "anniversary" so that could be why it's hit you harder.

just make sure your kids will be drinking with good memories in your memory one day in the very distant future.

[Ed]

i spent all my life trying to forgive him
i will spend the rest of my life trying to forget him

+1

but he's my dad and i will always love him.

-1

[Quedos]

Tim - hugs sweetie
its 5 years for my mum!

Just raise a glass and remember the good times.

[husky03]

Dad's eh..


just make sure your kids will be drinking with good memories in your memory one day in the very distant future.

Ever father should have that imprinted in his brain , nowt like hearing your kids tell you they love you.

[gruntygiggles]

Awww Tim. It's absolutely right that you remember the good things. They are the things that matter most.

Have a smile when you raise a glass to him tonight. x

[Luckypants]

Tim mate, I sort of understand how you feel. It is 30 years since my dad died, I was only a sixth former at the time. I missed out on knowing him as a man, so my memories are those of a boy.

I so understand about him not seeing how his kids have done, how the grand kids have turned out and the great grand kids showing up. I would have liked to have got to know him as an adult.

Man hug mate and drink to your dad tonight.

[arenalife]

Chin up that man. 2 years and still raw, whenever I get low I think what he'd say if he saw me moping and I start smiling.

[Bri w]

6 yrs for dad, and 18 months for mum - no not prison sentences.

Miss em both like hell for a million and one reasons.

The good thing about growing older, or old as in your case, is you learn to forgive and accept their failings.

Hope you have lots of smiles too when you raise a glass, although watching B'burn does explain your inherent grumpiness.;)

[speedplay]

I lost Dad back in July and everyday still hurts.

Remember the good times and raise that glass.

[Specialone]

Tim mate, I sort of understand how you feel. It is 30 years since my dad died, I was only a sixth former at the time. I missed out on knowing him as a man, so my memories are those of a boy.

I so understand about him not seeing how his kids have done, how the grand kids have turned out and the great grand kids showing up. I would have liked to have got to know him as an adult.

Man hug mate and drink to your dad tonight.

Same as me Mike almost, i was 7 years old when my dad passed away, i never knew him as a man as you say.
It will be 33 years in february, it was hard at the time not having a father figure, my brother left home, so i was the only man in the house with mom and two sisters.

My mom passed in 2002, aged 65, three days before my birthday, and people wonder why i hate celebrating my birthday.

Tim, i never knew my father long enough to form an opinion but wish i had as he was a good man by all accounts.
Remember the good times and be thankful for them, but any bitterness or bad feeling aint worth remembering imo, it dont get you anywhere.
Im sure if he had his time over again, he would have done and behaved very differently, as would most of us.

Phil

[dirtydog]

+1 to LP and specialone

My dad died just before my 12th birthday ( I'm not overly keen on celebrating my birthday either) even now almost 20 years later it still hits me now and again :-(