What advice would you give yourself

[fizzwheel]

I was reading a book earlier on, a question was posed to the subject of the book asking him "If you could go back into the past, at meet yourself aged 21, what would the older you say to the younger you ?"

Now that got me thinking... but I havent got an answer yet... so lets hear yours...

[beabert]

Here are the lottery numbers for every week until november 2010.

[Bibio]

stop smoking and watch your diet.

[Rog]

Stop smoking, dont stop riding. :D

[G]

Try harder and be more confident.

[Lozzo]

That plump but mildly attractive burd you just turned down turns out to be an absolute babe with a size 10/12 figure who develops a love of bikes... go back and ask her out.

and

Don't sell your house and blow the £6,000 profits on booze and a Ford Capri 2.0S; it only cost you £24,500 in 1981 and sold for £31,000 in 1983, but the people who buy it off you sell it for £285,000 in 2008.

[appollo1]

Stop smoking and don't marry the first bitch.

[Specialone]

There are loads...
Buy as much property as you can.
Pass your bike test earlier.
Spend more time with your mom.
Dont kerb your alloy outside RobH's house (still pi55es me off a couple of months later)
Dont waste your time with scutty women.

I could go on all night.

[Speaky69]

im still 21, so cant really think of anything! :p

[Venom]

Don't smash your bike into a tyre wall or don't shut yourself off from your friends.

[sv4me]

You'll never get another chance to sleep all day, party all night, meet so many weird and wonderful people and loose girls \\:D/ than at uni so enjoy

Whats that, youre already out 5 nights a week? Room for improvement ;)

[darkdreamsgal]

1. Start riding
2. Don't do law

[gruntygiggles]

As much as you believe right now that you know it all...you don't. Just as in 5 years from now you'll think the same and you still won't know it all. Your life will be constantly changing so never say never because with age you can completely change the way you see things.

Live for today, be mindful of the future and forget the past!

Forgive people that hurt you as that will free you from the pain they caused and never judge...it may just bite you in the arris if you do.

You can't keep all the people happy all the time, so stop worrying!

Look after yourself first and you'll be better able to then look after those that need you...

[Drumming_Animal]

Hmmm well im 19, gonna take some of your advice for the now so i dont regret it later in life :)

Although im already trying to live as much as possible, gotta try harder though

[BanannaMan]

Had an opportunity to go in with a mate and buy a huge amount of land for a measly few thousand dollars that was lake shore property.
At the time it was absolutely in the middle of nowhere and only accessible by boat.
It's now the site of a golf course and some high class condos and worth millions. He retired in his early 40's. :rolleyes:

[metalhead19]

Hmmm well im 19, gonna take some of your advice for the now so i dont regret it later in life :)

Although im already trying to live as much as possible, gotta try harder though

Kinda what was said, but im 20 :rolleyes:

[davepreston]

heres some bets to make
here is some patrols to fix
stay in the army
and no matter what dont join a suzuki forum

[454697819]

staple your wedding rim to your testies.. that way you won't loose it..

Oh.. be more assertive and don't let ppl walk over you?

[timwilky]

When you get asked round to your brothers to sort out his new stereo. It is a set up, do not talk the the girl there, run as fast as you can the other direction.

Cut your d1ck off now, it will only get you in bother.

[Scoobs]

Wear sunscreen

[hindle8907]

am only 21 but it would start with dont get engaged on new years eve. !!
bad move while everyone is out, im stuck with the other half when i should be out geting Pi$$ed lol.

[Quedos]

listen to your friends they mean what they say.
they ones that don't keep in touch are not worth worrying about.
Life is too short for if and maybes - if you can do it if not save!
get my mums soup recipes!

and ultimately - don't go into the cellar to do Rob's work when at the Wishaw Malt - let him deal with it!

[600+]

Don't rush to succeed!!! Take one step at a time, learn to be patient and believe in the saying "Good things come to those who wait".

Live life to the full!! Always have a positive outlook even in the worse of situations.

[keithd]

Good thread Fizz, best one in ages. Better than most the ****e i start...

Will be back with my considered reply forthwith

[Bluefish]

Give up now, you will never win.

[robh539]

Dont get out of bed in the morning would be mine


Dont kerb your alloy outside RobH's house (still pi55es me off a couple of months later)


Sledge hammer sorted them mate

[husky03]

knuckle shuffle from a younger age, take your chances in life and leave the uk

[RichT]

You don't get your time twice, so make a plan and go for it.

[Stig]

Stop thinking everyone else is better than you. Try just a little harder and you'll make more of your life earlier in your life instead of waiting until it's too late and your age holds you back.

[allantheboss]

"Oh, hello handsome!"

[gruntygiggles]

Time is a healer. It may not bring people back or make things better, but it is one of the very few constants in this world. It is what I turn to when I'm going through the bad times. The knowledge that time dictates that things have to change gets me through!

[maviczap]

Don't apply for a job in London just cos your mate did and hate every minute
Go out with the girls you could have but were to preoccupied with work
Don't have that maxofacial operation which didn't really solve anything
Buy the humungous 5 bedroomed house in Germany next to my wifes Auntie that sold for €5000

But like GG says, live for today, I wouldn't have my 2 lovely children and all the other life experiences if I changed anything now

[startrek.steve]

dont worry... it all works out just fine!

[TamSV]

I wouldn't bother. Waste of time, I wouldn't have listened anyway. I'd probably end up punching myself in the face - cocky little ****.

[Rai86]

Dont talk to boys (or anymore boys), they only cause you mucho stress in the future!!

But i doubt i will listen lol

[Daimo]

Don't choose IT as a career, do something you want to do, even if it pays less. Get into motorsport.
Save some money instead of getting a loan to do your car.
Get a full motorcycle license earlier.
Travel more before settling down.

[Owenski]

Buy the little house that needs some work, dont rent somewhere else.

Make sure you go into Halifax in september, you'll meet ya future wife.

Do more things for yourself than for others, dont feel guilty for not having time to please everyone.

Get to the hospital, your liver isnt looking too great.

Other than that, keep doing what you're doing it turns out quite well.

[MisterTommyH]

Choose your mates - not the bird.

[keithd]

travel the world after you leave college, or at least europe/oz for the backpacking experience

buy a house sooner, if youre not travelling the world of course

dont tred in dog poo

[Drumming_Animal]

thing is, im reading all this thinking yea i need to do this, now i pose the question to you, how does one go about doing some of this??

for instance, the other sex, i have no confidence what so ever but i know in a couple of years ill be kicking myself calling myself a stupid (insert appropiate word here)

and travelling..... YES but money says noooo :( or do i say ******** to saving my compensation and spend it on a massive touring holiday somewhere??

Im 19, so im reading this advice you would give to your younger self thinking right heres a list of things to do before im 20something, any plans for executing these plans??

[tonyk]

dont do it. 26 years is too long.

[Owenski]

stuff

I had some compo money pre-20 and basically piddled it all away, what I wouldnt have given to use that to travel.

£1000 will get you to Tailand for a decent 4-5week trip - you wont regret it. If you dont go, you're only option is to wonder what if.

I didnt do full time uni, and I didnt travel - at the time people told me I was missing out but my eyes were filled with the £'s I'd get for working. Fast forward a few years and the credit crunch means those who uni'd/travelled are now working and earning the same amount as I do, only they've got much better stories to tell on the weekends.

If the money is there, then 100% go for it - but bare in mind Im speaking as someone who didnt go but wishes they did. You really should ask someone who did travel if they regret it or not. If tehy loved it then wonder no more, go book a ticket cos if you dnt do it now you never will... TRUST ME!

[keithd]

for instance, the other sex, i have no confidence what so ever but i know in a couple of years ill be kicking myself calling myself a stupid (insert appropiate word here)



i wish i could help you here and give you some sage advise that helps you, but basically yes you are right you will. when i was your age i was painfully shy when it came to the ladies, and for anybody that knows me now may well say that comes as a surprise to them.

[Viney]

"Oi, you yes you im you from the future. Now listen up. Cut up those credit cards, and dont take out any more loans. Be happy with what you ahve got, now give me one of those burgers off the BBQ will ya"

[hindle8907]

i wish i could help you here and give you some sage advise that helps you, but basically yes you are right you will. when i was your age i was painfully shy when it came to the ladies, and for anybody that knows me now may well say that comes as a surprise to them.


o0o0o stud ;) show us ur pecks :smt060

[Shellywoozle]

I was reading a book earlier on, a question was posed to the subject of the book asking him "If you could go back into the past, at meet yourself aged 21, what would the older you say to the younger you ?"

Now that got me thinking... but I havent got an answer yet... so lets hear yours...

It would tell me to follow my head and not my heart and to avoid some of the mistakes in my life of the male form. I have had alot of mistakes and they have all made me stronger apart from the last one or two who just hindered me and were a waste of time.

It was due to one 7 year relationship that was HORRID that I am in the job I am in so I suppose summat good always comes from something bad. I never listened to advice then so I can imagine I wouldnt listen to it if I could go back ... stubborn Woozle.

Saying that if I had done that I wouldnt be as happy as I am now with who I am with so I suppose things happen for a reason !

:D

[Quedos]

and
don't be afraid to hit back - the bar stewards doesn't love you and you'll end up in hospital if you don't stop it now!

[Shellywoozle]

Dont get out of bed in the morning would be mine


I like that thought ;)

[keithd]

o0o0o stud ;) show us ur pecks :smt060

they're more moobs these days.. :smt022

[fizzwheel]

One day you'll realise that it doesnt matter what people think about you
Being cool and being popular are not the same thing
Sometimes your friends dont have your best interests at heart
A true friend will let you fail and then pick you up off the floor
Follow your heart, but dont let it rule your life.
Sometimes procrastinating and not making a decision is worse than making the wrong decision
Girls are not a strange alien spieces, if you try talking to them, you might get somewhere
Nobody is ever happy all the time

My basic message would be, that you are a good person, that you arent as disliked as you think you are and that one day when you're ready you'll get want you want out of life and to stop trying so hard, to relax and just go with the flow.

[Owenski]

for instance, the other sex, i have no confidence what so ever but i know in a couple of years ill be kicking myself calling myself a stupid (insert appropiate word here)

You have the best thing you can offer a person right there, its you pal. Dont be afraid to be yourself. Even if your more used to hiding yourself away behind shy eyes. Bring him/her out and go with it!

Confidence is a front, the most outwardly confident people I know are the ones with the lowest self asteem, but they've learnt to believe in themselves. You can do it too just act out and enjoy yourself, no one wants to be with someone who is no fun so enjoy your own company and in no time people will want your company too.

and
don't be afraid to hit back - the bar stewards doesn't love you and you'll end up in hospital if you don't stop it now!

bet there are few people who could do with having someone whisper similar in their ear. (On a side note I actually thought you were refereing to a specific bar tender at first before reading that for about the 6th time).

[TamSV]

Is nobody else worried about the paradox? Jeez, it's like some of you haven't even seen Back to the Future. ;)

[Owenski]

Is nobody else worried about the paradox? Jeez, it's like some of you haven't even seen Back to the Future. ;)

lol, yeah pretty sure my dad would tell his 21yr old self not to marry my mum... but then I'd have never been born :O
actually thats win win for everyone but me :(

[Littlepeahead]

Hm, by 21 I'd already dated Mr LPH then split with him because he was a numpty. He never changed but I still ended up marrying him when I was 32. So mine would be:

1) Don't get engaged to the first bloke you move in with when you are 21
then leave him and get engaged to another bloke who really isn't your type then call off your wedding after bumping into Mr LPH aged 28 and realising he was 'the one' all along, numpty or not.

2) When you ride out of that little town called Pai in Thailand take that corner just a bit wider in order the avoid that slippery patch you haven't seen yet.

3) Don't sign up to that bike forum after you buy an SV - it will only lead to you riding to Wales and dancing to the Spice Girls in a really dodgy disco with a man called Bear :)

[Stu]

Don't do it...she's not worth it!

[Stu]

...stuff...
1. Don't get into debt, but if you've got the money - enjoy it while you can
2. The other sex - confidence is probably one of the most attractive qualities. So it's a bit of a vicious circle if you haven't got it...but if you can pretend / or force yourself to project confidence then there's going to be somebody out there for you.

[Bri w]

Wow!

What would I do?

Not marry young. Go and see the Great Wall of China, and walk as far along it as I could in a few weeks. Spend weeks in the Canadian Rockies. See the Grand Canyon, and Yosemite National Park. Millions of photographs.

Take up the offer of a 2 year sponsorship from Honeywell to turn pro golfer.

I wouldn't divorce the ex-wife.............................................. ...... I'd be out now for good behaviour ;)

Keep the Honda 400-4, the Moto Guzzi 850, the Z1.... and buy the CBX1000.

Oh, and not be a gentleman with the girl I adored :smt060:smt060:smt060:smt060at 17, when she spent all night with her head on my lap talking about uni, her plans, her favourite music etc.........just have mad, passionate sacks.

[kwak zzr]

Good thread this because it seems life is a learning curve and everyone would live it different if they had the choice,
I'd say mine would be listen to your parents more, they have been around longer than us and there for wiser,

Be careful who you trust, people do change and so called friends can turn on you and mess up your life even more,

Live everyday like it's your last and enjoy everyone you may not be here tomorrow,

When you get kicked down get up dust yourself off and look forward NOT back, learn from your mistake and better will be just round the corner.

[Drumming_Animal]

Thanks for the tips people, ill be sure to be hitting the town with a new perspective very soon

More taking life with a whole new perspective aswell

[UKPrincess]

enjoy life and be happy

spend each day normal, have a hint of sarcasm, and the ocassional sign of brilliance

[tactcom7]

Don't drink and drive, when that lass tries to kiss you at 13 on the school field, go for it. Don't be scared to have sex for the first time, you'll regret it later. Tell your mum and dad you love them every day. Oh and don't try and show off in your mr2 in cold weather, it will end in tears, literally.

[rob13]

Do a degree at Uni which you genuinely think you might get some use from, not just something you like.

Just because you were knocked back for that flying scholarship doesnt mean its not worth giving the RAF once last go before you're too old.

[Biker Biggles]

So tricky this one.
At one level Id say knuckle down and get educated,get the right degree and get into a well paid career where you can move to the top and be a high flyer.
Then I think about how much better a person you become if you travel,dip into different jobs and work at different levels.You see the world from every angle and do your degree at the university of real life.

Very difficult to combine the two.

[Sid Squid]

Spend more time with and listening to your parents and grandparents - they'll be gone before you know it.

[fizzwheel]

for instance, the other sex, i have no confidence what so ever but i know in a couple of years ill be kicking myself calling myself a stupid (insert appropiate word here)

That''ll come with practice and time. I had no confidence at your age either. Also confidence isnt something you can easily put on and dont confuse confidence with arrogance either.

Just be yourself, be normal and natural, don't try to be anything else or portray an image of yourself that isnt who you really are. Girls aren't daft they'll see straight through it.

Dont start off talking to somebody thinknig about long term relationships or anything serious.

If you find somebody attractive, then tell them that you do, you'll be surprised how far that will get you.

I really regret being so shy when I was younger, I missed alot of opportunities and probably alot bedroom based fun as well. I just could never get over worrying about being rejected or being turned down so I never gave anybody the opportunity to do so, so I never got anywhere. Once you've been turned down once, you get over the fear of it, if you are decent about it when you ask somebody out, most girls wont be horrible about rejecting you either. If they are horrible about it, they arent worth it in the first place.

If you meet somebody and you find you click with them, then follow your heart your gut instinct, it wont normally be wrong. Theres no substitute for going for it. Once you get over the initial fear then you'll wander what you ever were worried about.

I also would go and say something similar to the 21 year old if I got the chance to...

[thedonal]

Some of the advice I'd give myself I probably need right now.

Certainly regarding the opposite gender...!

I was chronically shy as well and had rather low self esteem back then.

I really think, though, that if I wasn't like that, I wouldn't be all of the good things that I am now.

The journey is just as- if not more- important than the goal!

The other thing is- would I listen to me, even if the advice was really good? I'm a stubborn f**k sometimes!!

[andrewsmith]

Cracking Thread Fizz Could think of things to tell myself at 17.

Don't go out with the lass that your supposed friend pushes you with.
Don't be a shy timid ****er through university until your final year


But things since then kicked it into perspective and GG said it:

Choose life!!

[Ed]

At one level Id say knuckle down and get educated,get the right degree and get into a well paid career where you can move to the top and be a high flyer.


Like I did y'mean? I wish I hadn't listened to his lordship, god knows why I did. Being a high flyer is usually a lonely existence. And as for being well paid, money does not buy happiness. I slogged my guts out for 6 years and TBH I think it was a waste of time.


Then I think about how much better a person you become if you travel, dip into different jobs and work at different levels.You see the world from every angle and do your degree at the university of real life.

I would say to do option 2, no question. Life is so much more exciting than sitting in a law library until they kick you out at 10pm, then go home and write essays till 4am. Even though I got a 1st, so what...

Health and happiness are so much more important, do things when you can cos when you've got kids and a mortgage, it's too late.

Love many, trust few;
Always paddle your own canoe.

[Binky]

I got into Graphic Design for those very reasons.

I love the hell out of it, and hope that i don't go on to regret doing it. I may not earn as much money and may even struggle to find a job, but i still think i made the right decision.

Regarding advice, i'll pretty much echoe the others'...

Don't be so shy and timid, it get's you nowhere. Be confident but not arrogant.

Take up every opportunity you can, no matter how bleak it looks. Usually turns out to be a lot more fun than your originally thought... And if not, lesson learnt and experience gained.

[keithd]

oh, forgot one!

in 1991 after you were offered a job in the fire service, and you were also offered a job that paid more at the time...go for the fire service option!

[Quedos]

don't try to please other people - be yourself
stay in london longer - you'll regret coming home so early
don't worry about the guys - they appear
and Mike will offer you a test ride - take it you'll never look back!

[neio79]

Do a certain course that would have meant i would have had an awsome time in my career rather than just a good one.

[Milky Bar Kid]

The advice I would give myself would be:

-don't try to fix everything, you can't.
-don't let the idiots at school get to you.
-don't give up on your advanced higher music (wanted to be a music teacher but I gave up)


Ach, theres so much more. I still struggle with the first piece of advice, hopefully eventually I well listen to it!

[Quiff Wichard]

dont marry the bitch !

[Geodude]

Dont get into a relationship so when your on your own for years you wont miss it so much...:(

[kwak zzr]

dont marry the bitch !

lol thats a good one hehe