So I Handed in my resignation...

[454697819]

And its not gone as well as I would like,

The reasons for leaving is my direct boss who I handed it into I don't get on with, despite trying, and so I had to pussy foot around the real reasons,

He isn't very happy I didn't bring these problems up in my appraisal 3 months ago, fair point, that is my fault, but nothing will ever change here I believe and why would he have to change he makes them a lot of money, and where I am going want me there, no ****ing about no grief no i did your job better than you ... (you never did btw)

It's nice to know they want to keep me, but its taken me 8 days to decide its the right move and a whole day of talking myself up to getting this over with, now I have done it and I feel like a mean ol git for leaving..

scuse the rant.. no one here at work I can tell.

Im going to get some cake..

:mad:

[dizzyblonde]

oooo cake!!


Celebrate, sounds like its a good decision.

[punyXpress]

Nowt wrong in being a mean old git!
Hope you get sorted soon, what you want, where you want & when you want. A decent wedge wouldn't go far wrong either.
Take it you're free to come on the AR recce this weekend, then? ;)

[metalangel]

Funny how they're only interested in gripes like that when you've been pushed over the edge. Up until then you can make all the fuss in the world (or not) and they don't give a crap. Good on ya, man.

[G]

Congrats, it's bloody horrible building up to handing it in... but feels great afterwards knowing your leaving the troubles behind you.

[SoulKiss]

Funny how they're only interested in gripes like that when you've been pushed over the edge. Up until then you can make all the fuss in the world (or not) and they don't give a crap. Good on ya, man.

Tell me about it - I had a "fun" time with a previous employer where I finally had enough and said I wanted to leave, suddenly they were all very nice and even offered me a 50% pay-rise to stay.

Could have done with that, but was already too hacked off to stay.

[Nobbylad]

Maybe if you'd spoken to them honestly in the appraisal, they could have worked with you to resolve things before it got to the stage it has. Then again, once you've made your mind up, you'd effectively already left. We were offered redundancy last year and a lot of us who stayed are now wondering whether we made the right decisions.

Good luck with your new job!

[454697819]

thanks guys n Gals

My fear is the opportunities here if they were to come off would be great, BUT I have been listening to that for a two and a bit years now, I dont think i cant resolve my issues with my boss because it is fundamentally who he is, which is a shame,

Its a step back to the more professional environment, which will be nice,

Kind of a shame, but its time to move on..

[Messie]

Sounds like the right decision to me so stick with it and stay positive.

Wish I could've resigned today. Can't leave til January now :(

[metalangel]

Tell me about it - I had a "fun" time with a previous employer where I finally had enough and said I wanted to leave, suddenly they were all very nice and even offered me a 50% pay-rise to stay.

Could have done with that, but was already too hacked off to stay.

Likewise, the company owner had lied to my temp agency to keep me on, though he didn't have a proper job for me to do (I basically had to cater to, or guess at, his whims). When I finally had a proper job offer which I needed for a mortgage application, I gave in my 'notice' to the extent that a temp can.

Despite complaining to me repeatedly over the previous weeks that he 'didn't know what I did all day' he was very keen to keep me and offered (as a fellow disillusioned employee who was also preparing to leave warned me) profit shares and other bullox to stay.

I've also had a job completely misrepresented to me at the time of interview (interview: a week on site every six weeks, the rest mostly done from home as tech support or remote access. reality: four months on site 250 miles away) and when I said I had had enough, I was offered a deal for fewer days on site but was told I'd still be on site every week for the forseeable future due to the 'unexpected problems' they'd had up there. Yes, folks, driving 500 miles round trip each week to sit and do bugger all does wear thin eventually.

So yeah, 454697819, good for you, they've rather unjustly made you feel guilty partially because they've realized too late what you're really worth. The missus' sister's husband had a similar experience. He was treated like dirt by a well-known animation house and so left to join a small startup that has a working environment much like you describe for your new job (ie: better, and no t**ts) and sure enough a few months later the old place realized they needed him after all and tried to poach him back!

[The Idle Biker]

Good for you mate, I worked for too long with a boss I detested and for a company that I grew out of,
and it nigh on sent me to an early grave. You did the right thing by the sounds of it, never look back.

[timwilky]

Wish I could afford to resign. after 26 years here I keep looking forward to the redundancy package that never seems to arrive on my desk. I would kick myself if I spat my dummy and a week later I could have got 50 grand to go.

[Scoobs]

My previous boss was a complete ***** as well. There was a massive turnover of staff. In the 14 months I was there, there was an 80% turnover in staff in his department. Surely that must tell the business something is wrong?? Anyhow, when I handed in my notice he called me a b-arstard. Kind of confirmed right there and then that it was the right decision to leave.

Good luck for the future matey.

[Paul the 6th]

Alex, a friend once told me - just 'cos someone is throwing you a ball, it doesn't mean you have to catch it. You might feel mean but when you're constantly making yourself uncomfortable to save discomfort for others - it's just a matter of time before you blow a fuse or just plain decide 'I cba with this'...

Well done mate, sounds like you've had a rough week with this but now you've done something things are gonna chance :)

[Owenski]

Funny how they're only interested in gripes like that when you've been pushed over the edge. Up until then you can make all the fuss in the world (or not) and they don't give a crap. Good on ya, man.

too right, big plus 1.
Stomping your feet and kicking up a stink for some reason goes un-noticed but as soon as you show them that envelope marked "private" their arses start biting chucks out of their seat.

COngratualtions anyway, moving on to bigger better things no doubt - enjoy.

[454697819]

My previous boss was a complete ***** as well. There was a massive turnover of staff. In the 14 months I was there, there was an 80% turnover in staff in his department. Surely that must tell the business something is wrong?? Anyhow, when I handed in my notice he called me a b-arstard. Kind of confirmed right there and then that it was the right decision to leave.

Good luck for the future matey.

sad thing is, the bloke isn't actually nasty or vindictive, I don't like his attitude, how he speaks to me or how he sees my position, or how I get treated like a dogs body, despite my position which supposed to be one of value. An colleague told me its the dripping tap syndrome..

I think I need a fresh start, and I am hoping this is it.

It's like breaking up a relationship and and the other person going... oh pweeeease dont go..

[Sudoxe]

And its not gone as well as I would like,

The reasons for leaving is my direct boss who I handed it into I don't get on with, despite trying, and so I had to pussy foot around the real reasons,

He isn't very happy I didn't bring these problems up in my appraisal 3 months ago, fair point, that is my fault, but nothing will ever change here I believe and why would he have to change he makes them a lot of money, and where I am going want me there, no ****ing about no grief no i did your job better than you ... (you never did btw)

It's nice to know they want to keep me, but its taken me 8 days to decide its the right move and a whole day of talking myself up to getting this over with, now I have done it and I feel like a mean ol git for leaving..

scuse the rant.. no one here at work I can tell.

Im going to get some cake..

:mad:

My response would have been "Tough". (Ok, maybe not that harshly, but if the decision is made, it's a done deal).

The company is in business to make money, and by extension you work there to earn money. The business would have no problem doing what is best for them, should they decide to go in a different direction. They would give you 30 days notice and useally the minimum redundancy package they can get away with. I've seen this happen many times, and it gives you a different view on staying with one employer for the sake of it, because it's the easy option, or a sense of moral obligation.

I'm not saying screw them over and quit mid project, obviously you can make a compromise here. I quit my job at the beginning of the month and was given the option of a months gardening leave or working hard and finishing the project we were working on. I (maybe stupidly) chose to finish the project. I finish working for them on the Friday and start my new position on the Monday.

You are in "business" to do what's best for you, be it for money, more free time, or a better working environment (or boss). Have no qualms about doing what you need to do and move on, they certainly wouldn't!

Dan

[andrewsmith]

Numbers sounds like the right decision at the right time. Well Done

Have had this in other jobs in the past, with managers (who were s***ing themselves because they would have to draw straws for one of my shifts) pleading for staff to stay. Got the same response out 3 of us on the same day too.

[Bri w]

I applaud your sense of loyalty but always look after number 1. Remember, loyalty only goes as far as your next pay cheque, from both sides. At that point both you and your employer can decide its time for a change.

good luck

[maviczap]

Been there done that, although on a very short timescale. Moved to a job in London that I thought was right up my street. Never been more wrong. Didn't get off to a good start when the boss I should have had injured himself and was off sick.

The replacement boss I got was a complete tunc, and we didn't get on. Went from an outside & desk job, to being stuck behind a desk all day long.

So this townie quit the city after 5 months, even though they offered to move me to a job which might have suited me.

Took me ages to build up the courage to go and quit and even then the boss gave me a hard time.

But best decision I ever made, going back to live by the sea