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missyburd
07-11-11, 06:35 PM
I read something awful on the old facebook today that has greatly saddened me.
An old school friend lost her baby girl on Friday. She died a day or so before she was born. To have gone almost full term then to go through a 24 and a half hour labour knowing you have already lost the little being you have looked forward to meeting for so long must be so so heartbreaking.
I know it happens often, I know it's not a new thing for people to hear of but I just wanted to put this thread up for all those who have had a little one brought into the world and to remind you how precious they are (not that you would need reminding I know). This couple are so brave, as are so many parents who tragically lose their children and I just wanted a few thoughts to be sent out there.
Rest in peace little Jessica Lily.
I really do apologise in advance if this thread has brought back hurting memories and circumstances. Thoughts are with you. xxx
My thoughts and prayers go out to the parents in this very sad time. I can not begin to imagine what they are going through.
I read something awful on the old facebook today that has greatly saddened me.
An old school friend lost her baby girl on Friday. She died a day or so before she was born. To have gone almost full term then to go through a 24 and a half hour labour knowing you have already lost the little being you have looked forward to meeting for so long must be so so heartbreaking.
I know it happens often, I know it's not a new thing for people to hear of but I just wanted to put this thread up for all those who have had a little one brought into the world and to remind you how precious they are (not that you would need reminding I know). This couple are so brave, as are so many parents who tragically lose their children and I just wanted a few thoughts to be sent out there.
Rest in peace little Jessica Lily.
I really do apologise in advance if this thread has brought back hurting memories and circumstances. Thoughts are with you. xxx
A work colleague went through the same thing, was a heart breaking moment
The Idle Biker
07-11-11, 06:56 PM
It happened in very similar circumstances to some close friends of ours. The funeral was so incredibly sad. It was their first child. I hope your friends go on and have more children just like mine did.
-Ralph-
07-11-11, 07:01 PM
Oh Jesus. A miscarriage is bad enough, but to have to go through a still birth...
Having to name the baby. Then a funeral with a tiny coffin.
It's just unthinkable, I don't know how people cope, my son is my life, it would destroy me.
R.I.P Jessica Lilly, and given time and perhaps another baby, I hope the parents can recover from it too.
missyburd
07-11-11, 07:06 PM
It happened in very similar circumstances to some close friends of ours. The funeral was so incredibly sad. It was their first child. I hope your friends go on and have more children just like mine did.
It was their first too. A young couple, recently married with their first place and a little baby would have completed the picture. Sadly not to be. Life can be so cruel.
Having to name the baby. Then a funeral with a tiny coffin.
She was already named, some time before she was due to be born. Sometimes this makes things worse but how can you help but think of the life that could have been.
DJFridge
07-11-11, 07:14 PM
Very sad. Our youngest had the cord round his neck when he was born which was quite scary enough. I can't imagine how we would have felt if he hadn't made it.
Specialone
07-11-11, 07:18 PM
Yep very sad, it's actually not that uncommon unfortunately :(
The worst bit is they still have go through the birth don't they? This must be traumatic, can't imagine what they go through.
As others have said, hope they get another chance and it is born healthy.
Dicky Ticker
07-11-11, 08:15 PM
Sad that any parent has to do this,you always hope it is never you,never mind what age the child is.
The words"No parent should have to bury their child" was said by my grandfather when my uncle died at 65[He was the youngest son],said with such deep feeling and sorrow by a man of 92.
Speedy Claire
07-11-11, 08:40 PM
Such sad news and my heart goes out to your friends. I understand some of what they`ll be going thru as I lost my beautiful son whilst I was in labour and I too was full term. Nothing I can say will make them feel better, it takes time, lots of tears and good friends/family. They will get there though and tho you never forget your lost child, the pain lessens and you learn to live life again.
R.I.P. Jessica Lily and may her parents find the strength and courage to deal with their loss xx
andrewsmith
07-11-11, 09:14 PM
Poor sod
RIP
Fizzy Fish
07-11-11, 10:37 PM
So sad Miss YC, I really hope they can get through this difficult time.
You'd think that in this day and age these things don't happen anymore - miracles of modern medicine, etc, etc. Sadly I only became aware of quite how common losing a LO is through the heartbreaking experiences of some close friends/colleagues...
I understand some of what they`ll be going thru as I lost my beautiful son whilst I was in labour and I too was full term. Nothing I can say will make them feel better, it takes time, lots of tears and good friends/family. They will get there though and tho you never forget your lost child, the pain lessens and you learn to live life again.
:grouphug: to Speedy Claire too xx
Really sad news. Sincerely hope they can move on and they go on to have children.
RIP Jessica Lily
missyburd
07-11-11, 11:36 PM
Such sad news and my heart goes out to your friends. I understand some of what they`ll be going thru as I lost my beautiful son whilst I was in labour and I too was full term. Nothing I can say will make them feel better, it takes time, lots of tears and good friends/family. They will get there though and tho you never forget your lost child, the pain lessens and you learn to live life again.
R.I.P. Jessica Lily and may her parents find the strength and courage to deal with their loss xx
Huge hugs Claire xx
454697819
07-11-11, 11:44 PM
thoughts and prayers are with all....
BanannaMan
08-11-11, 05:00 AM
thoughts and prayers are with all....
Same here.
Very sad. Can't imagine the pain.
and for you too Claire.
Jayneflakes
08-11-11, 01:16 PM
My Mother lost five babies, the first of which was still born the year before I was born. That was 1972 and the Doctor who dealt with it was callous and cold, leaving my mother heart broken. My mother grieved for thirty years for the lost childen and sadly the damage it did to her was great. It is strange to think that I am one of eight, but saddest of all is to hear my Mother still blaming herself for losing those babies. What made it better for her was when my first niece was born, knowing that some of her children could have babies. My brother has two daughters and my sister has one. My Mother dotes on all of her grandchildren and I think that in a way this has healed, her seeing them growing so fast and so healthy.
To your friend Miss YC and to the other couples who have lost children, I can send only my deepest sympathy and hope that your hearts can heal like my Mothers finally did. I was never able to have children and now never will, but my nieces Robyn, Charlotte and Bella fill my heart with more love than I knew I could have.
Rest peacefully little child.
missyburd
08-11-11, 01:21 PM
Aww a sad story Jayne. Hugs for you too. x
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