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I had a good day initially, started my new job today and all went well. Then got a message from the (on/off) Mrs saying we need to talk. As we all know these words are never good! I have had my suspicions of certain things the past few months. To then be told she's pregnant with someone elses baby. To say i hate her, is understatement of the year. Think i had a lucky escape, bar the fact she's my toddlers mother.
Awaiting the Silver lining to this grey cloud.
Who's up for a drink?!:smt098
dizzyblonde
01-05-12, 07:14 PM
No idea what to say to that....apart from help yourself to an offer of 10 virtual pints and a kebab
andrewsmith
01-05-12, 07:15 PM
No idea what to say to that....apart from help yourself to an offer of 10 virtual pints and a kebab
and a few virtual shorts
The Idle Biker
01-05-12, 07:25 PM
Better off long term without her, she sounds a complete long term liability mate.
Have a few on me.
dizzyblonde
01-05-12, 07:29 PM
Primary concern is your toddler. Don't put him/her as piggy in the middle when arguing with the Mrs. It's as much not their fault as it is yours
Silver lining: At least she didnt con you into thinking the baby was yours.
*adds a whisky chaser to the virtual drinks list for you*
Primary concern is your toddler. Don't put him/her as piggy in the middle when arguing with the Mrs. It's as much not their fault as it is yours
i've not, i have called it quits. We live 400 miles apart anyway. It's not fair on him or me as to the way situation has gone, i have to let it go and move on.
Thanks for all the virtual drinks! I will be getting smashed this weeked me thinks!
maviczap
01-05-12, 08:00 PM
I'll join you, not the same circumstances, just trouble with family, which had disappeared, but resurfaced again today.
I need an outlet for my anger, I am so so angry
time for a virtual bar .. what will it be my good man
I'll join you, not the same circumstances, just trouble with family, which had disappeared, but resurfaced again today.
I need an outlet for my anger, I am so so angry
Pull up a chair and have a drink, plenty to choose from :smt023
missyburd
01-05-12, 08:05 PM
Not nice being sh1tted on from a great height like that, she must drink lots of Horlicks. Have no fear, the .Org is here!
Better off without someone like that my friend. Be nice to her through gritted teeth though as she could make access to the kiddy awkward for you, especially with a 400 mile gap.
Not nice being sh1tted on from a great height like that, she must be a *****. Have no fear, the .Org is here!
Fixed that for you ;)
Yeah not the first time either, was trying to sort out long term plans of seeing the little one too. Not any more though. Planning to live a happy single life and get on with my plans!
Better off without someone like that my friend. Be nice to her through gritted teeth though as she could make access to the kiddy awkward for you, especially with a 400 mile gap.
She's done it plenty over the past 3 years. Not letting her have the opportunity any more and i don;t have the funds to do it anymore. As far as i know it's the past, not the future
suzukigt380paul
01-05-12, 08:17 PM
oh bugger it whats with this virtual bar,my glass has got the real stuff in it,cheers
Amadeus
01-05-12, 08:29 PM
Gosh.
Sounds like you're not imploding with anger which has to be good.
On the bright side, if this hadn't happened, you wouldn't meet the next (potential) Mrs DaddyJob who has bigger bosoms/longer legs/blue eyes/swallows* :-)
*whichever takes your fancy
(bosoms seems such an old fashioned word but I thought my first choice of word might get filtered)
dizzyblonde
01-05-12, 08:34 PM
(bosoms seems such an old fashioned word but I thought my first choice of word might get filtered)
B00bies man, B00bies :smt023
or as our dear Richie would say
(.Y.)
:rolleyes:
I was raging earlier :smt066, now i have simply taken on board the facts and got on with what i needed to-cutting all my links with her.
Is it possible i can have all of those things?!?!?!?!?!?!?! :smt040
Amadeus
01-05-12, 08:38 PM
Is it possible i can have all of those things?!?!?!?!?!?!?! :smt040
Most of those are a mere lottery win away...
I think you might have to go to somewhere like China for eye transplant to get the colour you want her to have tho. Still, with a lottery win, you could afford to send her premium ecconomy.
Amadeus
01-05-12, 08:38 PM
or as our dear Richie would say
(.Y.)
I was thinking the man deserves something considerably bigger than that... :-)
Most of those are a mere lottery win away...
I think you might have to go to somewhere like China for eye transplant to get the colour you want her to have tho. Still, with a lottery win, you could afford to send her premium ecconomy.
I like naturally big b00bies, eye colour i'm not too fussed about, long legs yes please!
andrewsmith
01-05-12, 08:44 PM
or as our dear Richie would say
(.Y.)
:rolleyes:
or
http://dailycontempt.com/wp-content/uploads/huge_boobs_vivica_fox.jpg
Are you sure she's 'legal' in that picture??????
andrewsmith
01-05-12, 09:07 PM
Edited
That was not the one the HMTL was
now they are WMD's, a bit too big for my hands!
littleoldman2
01-05-12, 09:19 PM
now they are WMD's, a bit too big for my hands!
Then go in face first :p
motorboating all the way :lol:
she has done it before numerous time you say and you still let yourself be with her. you need your feckin head examined m8. NO woman who is any good would even contemplate doing that to their fella child or no child you should have left her ages ago. what she has been doing to you just goes to show how much she really cares about you.
get yourself right out of there and if you go back then your a feckin arzz and deserve everything you get. move on and find someone nice :safe:
have a virtual pint on me :drink:
missyburd
01-05-12, 09:26 PM
I was raging earlier :smt066, now i have simply taken on board the facts and got on with what i needed to-cutting all my links with her.
As long as cutting links doesn't mean your kid, not right he/she should lose his father because of his bad choice in women :p
she has done it before numerous time you say and you still let yourself be with her. you need your feckin head examined m8. NO woman who is any good would even contemplate doing that to their fella child or no child you should have left her ages ago. what she has been doing to you just goes to show how much she really cares about you.
get yourself right out of there and if you go back then your a feckin arzz and deserve everything you get. move on and find someone nice :safe:
have a virtual pint on me :drink:
Not to this extent, i'm mad but not that mad :lol: For the past few months things were different, hence me thinking a future was a possibility.
She's in it for herself, and good for her. I wished her all the (bad) luck in the world and for Karma to do its job. I've washed my hands of her and i'm moving on!
Cheers Bibio, I'm saving up for a drinking weekend :cool:
Amadeus
01-05-12, 10:21 PM
I like naturally big b00bies, eye colour i'm not too fussed about, long legs yes please!
I was being more than a little flippant for comedy effect - Constanze has small, perfect boobs - I love them. I'm so glad she's ok with me wanting her nekked most of the time! TMI? :-)
I was being more than a little flippant for comedy effect - Constanze has small, perfect boobs - I love them. I'm so glad she's ok with me wanting her nekked most of the time! TMI? :-)
Not at all, i'd be the same!
dirtydog
01-05-12, 10:28 PM
As long as cutting links doesn't mean your kid, not right he/she should lose his father because of his bad choice in women :p
That's how I'm reading it, which is IMHO very wrong! Your child should not lose its dad or suffer because you and his/her mum can't sort it out. They didn't ask to be born after all!
Sorry if that's not the kind of reply you're looking for but that's how I see it.
That's how I'm reading it, which is IMHO very wrong! Your child should not lose its dad or suffer because you and his/her mum can't sort it out. They didn't ask to be born after all!
Sorry if that's not the kind of reply you're looking for but that's how I see it.
It's a lot more complicated than what i have let on, there are quite a few other pieces of information that have reflected my decision. This is simply 'the last straw' on the camels back.
That's how I'm reading it, which is IMHO very wrong! Your child should not lose its dad or suffer because you and his/her mum can't sort it out. They didn't ask to be born after all!
Sorry if that's not the kind of reply you're looking for but that's how I see it.
Depends on the situation, and to be fair I think 400 miles distance and a cheating lying woman would be enough to make most men walk away, hell half of them dont even need those reasons.
My kidlet has never seen her biological dad since she was 15 months old, and then my partner and her "dad" left us/her in 2009 and she's none the worse for it. In fact I'd say she's better off for not having those influences in her life, she doesnt have to experience the heartbreak of dad not turning up, or things being changed by either party at the last minute, or having to go to a contact centre because the parents cant "sort it out".
Sometimes it's easier to walk away now, save a lot of heartache and explain it when the kid is old enough to understand.
B00bies man, B00bies :smt023
or as our dear Richie would say
(.Y.)
:rolleyes:
Someone Call :0)
Virtual Whiskey and Lager Chaser, pack of Crisps and a pizza for breakfast :0)
Whyte25
01-05-12, 11:04 PM
If i`d have seen this thread earlier i`d of asked if you wanted to go for a drink as i pass through Berkshire on the way home from work.. (working in Gloucester all week & live in surrey) Damn !! Women ! tut. hang on let me re phrase that.. cheating women ! tut. :-(
Sorry Dude.
or
http://dailycontempt.com/wp-content/uploads/huge_boobs_vivica_fox.jpg
OMG you could park a BSA between them Bosoms ( O )Y( O )
Sometimes it's easier to walk away now, save a lot of heartache and explain it when the kid is old enough to understand.
This sums it up for me. End of the day the little one is in the middle unfortunately. I would like him to grow up happy, healthy and strong. Hoping that in the future I get the opportunity to meet him and go from there.
dirtydog
01-05-12, 11:13 PM
Yeah I agree 400 miles is a big distance and I'm not saying you need to go every weekend to see your kid but surely it's still possible to have some kind of relationship with your kid? Sending birthday/Xmas pressies or having access for a week here and there? Phonecalls maybe?
And yeah it maybe easier to walk away now but is it right to completely walk away?
I split with my ex when our daughter was just 2 and yes I only live about 15 miles from them So I get to see her a lot etc but even if I lived a distance away I would still be seeing her, wouldn't be every other weekend like it is now but there would still be contact of some type.
I just don't see how you can walk away from your kid in the hope that someday they might understand why you did it.
Obviously this is only my opinion
dizzyblonde
02-05-12, 07:18 AM
Sons father walked away for six years, and it certainly had no detriment on our lives. My son was much better without his influence around. Unfortunately I had to get in touch with him a few months back, and it opened the door to him wanting access again. It's been a pita since, and isn't really beneficial. I'd be far happier if there was 400 miles seperating him from us, at least that way my son can carry on his life without someone teaching him how to be a dole dossing bum, amongst other such marvellous ideas. Peg was always insistent my son needed his father in his life, as was my ex partner, and others. Now he's back, peg now realises why, and can see my reasons for keeping him at arms length with no contact for so long. He even said at the weekend he should crawl back into the hole he came from, and leave us in peace as a family.
Fallout
02-05-12, 07:52 AM
Mate, good luck sorting all of this out. I could ramble on with my advice and thoughts, and I did start typing, but it's not my place and I don't know the whole score. All I can say is, I hope it works out for the nipper and you and I hope you end up with your decent woman with long legs and massive boobies. :)
dirtydog
02-05-12, 03:30 PM
Fair enough, I'll just wind my neck in then!
Balky001
02-05-12, 04:43 PM
As DB said, some kids are better off without a dad. Although DB's ex was a scumbag and I'm sure DJ is not. Not that the 4 year old will know that as I'm sure the Mrs will make sure of that now! (actually I hope she doesn't, everyone deserves a decent father even if it's just a story of one that's no longer there)
All I would say is your relationship with little DJ hasn't changed in the last few days, only with his mother. But I've not walked a mile in your shoes so i can't rationalise or judge your decision. Just make sure its right for everyone, as you can't keep drifting in and out of parenthood without upsetting the kid. 4's not the worse age to get over this, much harder when they understand more.
Fallout
02-05-12, 04:54 PM
But I've not walked a mile in your shoes so i can't rationalise or judge your decision.
It's always best to walk a mile in someone else's shoes. That way when you criticize them, you're a mile away from them, and you have their shoes.
DD i appreciate your input and thoughts. There is a lot more to this than what I have let on, lots of history and situations between myself and the ex. This was the straw that broke the camels back.
I cannot say for sure for the next 15+ years i'd be able to keep up the travel and visits. I want my son to be happy if i am there or not. With visits being as they are and being made difficult, it would not benefit myself or the little one.
I will always make sure that he has my contact details and is free to see or contact me at any time. I'm doing what i think is best for the little one right now and stepping away from the situation. I'm not walking away from him as such.
The song that i am liking right now:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwoM5fLITfk
WwoM5fLITfk
Mrs DJ Fridge
02-05-12, 09:13 PM
You do just what feels right at the moment. I could not reply yesterday because there are so many comments I could make about the situation. My brother was lied to about who his father was (as were both the biological and 'real' father), it has caused chaos in our family as adults with very confused loyalties. My biological father moved away when I was very young, I did just great growing up with my step father, we have a very good relationship. I did however feel that my biological father had the right to know his grandchildren, so I do make an effort to see him (not difficult, he and his wife are very easy to get along with). Give it all time, make sure your son always has your contact details and hope for the best. In the mean time have a virtual drink on me.
widepants
03-05-12, 10:35 AM
I have walked that long and lonely road for such a long time.
But......only three weeks ago I managed to find and contact that long lost missing part of my life.
Heres to the future.
Never give up
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