Dating Sites

[sv_rory]

Ok here goes,

I have been single now for around 7 years and have decided that I'd like to meet someone new,

I am however very shy with the ladies and I totally suck at breaking the ice.

Therefore I would like to join a dating site and see if i can meet anybody that way. The query I have got though is whats a good thing to write about myself? Is it good to mention what I do for a living or that I ride bikes or do I keep it just about my personality?

Sorry in advance, i totally suck at this, any help or love advice much appreciated :)

[Stuuk1]

Chiiiill.

A lot of guys from my work have done this and had a great time doing so!

I don't know about writing stuff etc other than just be yourself...

One bit of advise I have always heard them say however is to use the dating sites that you pay for membership. If you use the free ones you get what you pay for.... Get me? If you use the pay sites you get genuine people.

Good luck and have fun :)

[Wideboy]

dont say anything about bikes. bikes to most female normies = "he'll never pay attention to me or buy me stuff and always be out with his mates wah wah wah wah"

i get it now and she rides!

[Bibio]

remember if at the end of the night and it's not going to plan use the bibster method. unzip fly, take manhood out, stick it in there hand and start crying.

better getting off on the right foot to begin with and mention the biking.

[Sid Squid]

I haven't a clue about the dating sites, but surely the best 'advert' for yourself would be the one that truly represents you, if you enjoy riding bikes then that should be mentioned. I think that your job is a big part of who, and how, you are, as such I'd think it an integral part of the script.

Probably best to leave out your BNP membership or the subscription to Ladyboy Monthly though - these 'special' things should be kept until you know her better.

[sv_rory]

I would write about my job but a panel beater hardly comes across as attractive, or maybe that's just me

[Specialone]

As sid says, dont hide stuff thats a big part of your life, be yourself, if a woman dont wanna know you because of it then she aint worth knowing.

Have you tried the biker singles sites? I know the potential to get a munta is higher but it might be worth a go :p

Best of luck dude.

[sv_rory]

As sid says, dont hide stuff thats a big part of your life, be yourself, if a woman dont wanna know you because of it then she aint worth knowing.

Have you tried the biker singles sites? I know the potential to get a munta is higher but it might be worth a go :p

Best of luck dude.


biker singles sites? didnt realise there were any!!!

[fizzwheel]

Be yourself
Be Honest

Dont write any bullsh*te, girls are'nt stupid they'll see straight through it.

I think it would be fine to put about your job and you ride bikes, it'll at least be a conversation starter...

[sv_rory]

Be yourself
Be Honest

Dont write any bullsh*te, girls are'nt stupid they'll see straight through it.

I think it would be fine to put about your job and you ride bikes, it'll at least be a conversation starter...


If I mention my job would you just say Im a panel beater / painter or should I say, I run my own crash repair center blah blah blah

[Specialone]

If I mention my job would you just say Im a panel beater / painter or should I say, I run my own crash repair center blah blah blah

Car restorer ?;)

[tactcom7]

Plentyoffish.com that is all you need to try. Its free yes but if you dont mind sifting througj the odd shipwreck you can bag yourself a winner. (like i did) :)

[joshwalker094]

I am however very shy with the ladies and I totally suck at breaking the ice.



ditto :(
people of the org, i to need your advice on how to find romance haha

[sv_rory]

Plentyoffish.com that is all you need to try. Its free yes but if you dont mind sifting througj the odd shipwreck you can bag yourself a winner. (like i did) :)


Thats the one I signed up for yonks ago but never really went on it, I gave up with that ages ago because nobody messaged me!

How long was you on there before meeting your lady?

[rav101]

You can generally write about anything but its the way you write it.

If you say your a panel beater and don't give anymore information then its not great. However, if you write about why you like that job (and potentially how it gives you the flexibility on your weekends to do something else you truly love) then you should get a better response.

Give examples and write one or two stories explaining what you mean. Its all well and good telling a woman your fun, adventurous, funny, spontaneous (and every other adjective under the sun). However if you write a paragraph long story about that one time, you can show her that you are many of these things.

PS. Dating sites are generally driven by the fact that women can sit back and met do the initial approaching (much like life). As such, any messages you receive from a woman you have not met are a bonus but you have to do the legwork messaging women first. Being the internet it is a lot easier for women to discount someone they don't like the look off so really read their profiles and reference back to it in your opening messages.


My two cents..

[dizzyblonde]

Ask a certain grey, black and white faced animal, forum type bloke......he's got some right tales about dating sites........epic comedy!

[minimorecambe]

The org worked for me!

I used a few dating sites before here and found you have to be very wary as people will make themselves out to be a completely different person to who the really are.

I was lucky as WB came across as a prat before I met him so no nasty surprises there ;)

I wouldnt say you run your own business (that's if you do, not read thread properly). You may get lots of money grabbers come out of the wood work

[Lozzo]

remember if at the end of the night and it's not going to plan use the bibster method. unzip fly, take manhood out, stick it in there hand and start crying.


I took your advice earlier. She quickly let go and said "It's gruesome", I said "Get hold of it again, it's just gruesome more"

[Paul the 6th]

So far on the internet I have found girth (used to be married to him), speedplay, fallout, robh539, owenski (although he's moved on and gotten married now)...

Honestly bromance is the way forward. We never argue, never fall out with each other, do loads of fun stuff together, if they want to go to bed they just say goodnight and disappear without moaning about it the next day and I'm planning to go away with a few of them soon...

On a serious note, if you don't tell them about biking and it turns out they are a huge anti-biking nut further down the line, no matter how nice they may be it'll be a sh*t storm to deal with because you lied and you are now forever a lying bastrad, or they just won't want to be with you because their anti biking sentiments were there first (and all the other 50 shades of crap in between).

Honestly mate, it really does come down to "if you like me for who I am then we're gonna get on great" because all my ex's started out nice and then over time slowly tried to change things about me that they didn't like, be it biking, my friends, even the way I talk with my friends (I don't like how you use the word 'man' in conversation - "Hiya man how's it going?"). I used to give a little bit, then a lot, then do my usual thing of reaching breaking point because I've had enough of trying to please someone else 24/7 by being unhappy with my own life..

watch out for them & good luck
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[robh539]

Disagree most ladies will ask about the bike and if you offer a ride ;) will try it. The standard response is never been on one, always wanted too. Que your offer :)

Be yourself, get on there and meet them and have fun doing so ;)

[Specialone]

The org worked for me!

I used a few dating sites before here and found you have to be very wary as people will make themselves out to be a completely different person to who the really are.

I was lucky as WB came across as a prat before I met him so no nasty surprises there ;)

I wouldnt say you run your own business (that's if you do, not read thread properly). You may get lots of money grabbers come out of the wood work

We never did get your brain scanned over that one did we MM?:rolleyes:

Love you Gav :)

[Bibio]

do you go out much?

if you don't go out you cant put it about... simples

[widepants]

My misses contacted me through a dating site because I had a bike. Two years later and Im still suffering.
shhhh dont tell her

[joshwalker094]

* brain wave * lets start an org dating site :D

[davepreston]

grow a pair and come out with me i'll show you how to be so outgoing people will tremble when you enter the county let alone the roon
then reduce that by 70% and you will be a very confident person

[widepants]

grow a pair and come out with me i'll show you how to be so outgoing people will tremble when you enter the county let alone the roon
then reduce that by 70% and you will be a very confident person
I tremble and you're 250 miles away:smt019

[tactcom7]

Thats the one I signed up for yonks ago but never really went on it, I gave up with that ages ago because nobody messaged me!

How long was you on there before meeting your lady?

Couple of months i guess, with pof you can see who has looked at your profile which can be handy. Never really msg'd a lot of people on there because i thought the ones that were keen/genuine would contact you, and it worked.

[Wideboy]

We never did get your brain scanned over that one did we MM?:rolleyes:

Love you Gav :)
It's a fair comment

All I can say is size 12 feet...... Bigger socks are easier to darn!

[craig dow]

Hi rory
Iv been there and done it , and got tee-shirt , I got divorced when I was 40 , was married 18 years , and it was a blow , trying to go out , most of my mates were either married or in a serious relationship . so they wouldn’t or couldn’t go out Friday or Saturday nights , so after 6mths of being single I signed up to match dot come , ( there is other sites available ) any way you have a bit that asks for your interests and that where I would put in motorbikes , and leave it at that , if you get any contacts and they have read your profile then they should know your into bikes , any way I met my now wife on there , we started sending each other emails , on the site every day , just general chat , and then we went onto msn live chat , for a few weeks until we got to know each other a bit better , and to be up front there is no point in lying as it will just come back and kick you , if you do meet up , any way after some weeks we met at a local pub in town , better that way as your no pushing it and she will feel much safer , as its your first meet up , and if its at your place then that’s not a good thing , and we got on well , but if we didn’t then it would be easer to just leave , any way after a year dating , I moved in with her and a year latter got married and both still real happy , so hope this works for you , as they say if you don’t try then you wont know , if its for you , but don’t rush into any thing , you have loads of time on your hands , at finding the right one is what your after , hope this helps
:)

[missjhb]

Plentyoffish.com that is all you need to try. Its free yes but if you dont mind sifting througj the odd shipwreck you can bag yourself a winner. (like i did) :)

Super brownie points for you! x

Thing to know about any dating site is that most women on them will think the guy is only after one thing. You just have to be genuine.
Don't NOt put on your personal profile about liking bikes or your other hobbies because that's who you are and if the girl doesn't like it then she obviously isn't the right one. Most people are going to dating sites these days because (speaking from a girls point of view) girls get put off meeting guys out in pubs and bars even if you are genuine, it's the other 80% than ruin it for the rest.
I'm shy but when you are on a dating site you have more confidence. The hardest part will be getting to the point where you want to meet them...

[tactcom7]

Don't Not

Tut tut tut ;)

[missjhb]

Tut tut tut ;)

I know what I meant x

[slark01]

POF, been to a couple of camping weekends with a bunch of people from the site. They also have a forum and organise a night out, usually once a month.
Be totally honest on your profile.
Don't put in things like " enjoy going to the movies", instead put in what type of movies you like or your favourate actor and why.
A profile I created for a friend had a little section in it that refered to his height " You may have noticed already that i'm a shorty, well don't let that worry you, I'm not minime nor have a napoleon complex ". He had lots of messages just because of that.
A lot of people find it hard to write a profile about themselves, so sometimes it best to get a close friend to help out, as they can see you from a different point of view.
Best of luck

Ste.

[sv_rory]

Blimey I didnt realise how many people do actually use the sites!

Anyway I've written a profile, here goes :

I'm a single male, and have been for several years now as I haven't yet met my Mrs perfect. I am a man of many talents, I paint cars & bikes during the day which I absolutely love and DJ in the evenings and weekends!

I am a very kind, caring and committed person. I'm also quite adventurous and enjoy trying new things and going places I've never been to before. There's mountains of things I would like to do eventually, one of which being a skydive. The word ambitious sums me up too, sometimes I'm a little more than I should be but it never stops me trying, which I believe is most important to succeed in life.

I enjoy lots of different things whether it be a quiet night at a pub or an evening out bowling, as long as I've got good company I'm happy. I am easily pleased and never expect anything from anybody, i try not to take things for granted. I like to enjoy myself and be as happy as I can all the time.

I'm a qualified tradesman and love my job, I have my own crash repair body shop, I wouldn't change it for the world however there's something quite important missing, hence why I'm on here!

On sunny weekends I love to pack a bag and jump on the bike and its beach time!

I love traveling and would love to restore an old camper for myself one day and drive all around Europe and see other countries and cultures.

I'd love to meet somebody who would enjoy spending time with me and would share the experiences I have. I'm not a fussy bugger, I'd simply like to meet myself a lady who is caring, honest, faithful and would be excellent company for me. I am a good listener and also very good at talking, as some friends say!

If you would like to know more about me then please send me a message. x

How good, bad or ugly??

[Wideboy]

*whips off trousers*

Looks good to me

[missjhb]

Blimey I didnt realise how many people do actually use the sites!

Anyway I've written a profile, here goes :

I'm a single male, and have been for several years now as I haven't yet met my Mrs perfect. I am a man of many talents, I paint cars & bikes during the day which I absolutely love and DJ in the evenings and weekends!

I am a very kind, caring and committed person. I'm also quite adventurous and enjoy trying new things and going places I've never been to before. There's mountains of things I would like to do eventually, one of which being a skydive. The word ambitious sums me up too, sometimes I'm a little more than I should be but it never stops me trying, which I believe is most important to succeed in life.

I enjoy lots of different things whether it be a quiet night at a pub or an evening out bowling, as long as I've got good company I'm happy. I am easily pleased and never expect anything from anybody, i try not to take things for granted. I like to enjoy myself and be as happy as I can all the time.

I'm a qualified tradesman and love my job, I have my own crash repair body shop, I wouldn't change it for the world however there's something quite important missing, hence why I'm on here!

On sunny weekends I love to pack a bag and jump on the bike and its beach time!

I love traveling and would love to restore an old camper for myself one day and drive all around Europe and see other countries and cultures.

I'd love to meet somebody who would enjoy spending time with me and would share the experiences I have. I'm not a fussy bugger, I'd simply like to meet myself a lady who is caring, honest, faithful and would be excellent company for me. I am a good listener and also very good at talking, as some friends say!

If you would like to know more about me then please send me a message. x

How good, bad or ugly??

Sounds good, my only advice would be that it may be a tad long. It's good that you are honest and painting a picture for the person reading it but you also need to bear in mind that once you have grabbed a girl's attention you will need things to talk about so perhaps summing up a couple of paragraphs will help keep their attention and still give you things to talk about once they contact you or vice versa

[sv_rory]

Sounds good, my only advice would be that it may be a tad long. It's good that you are honest and painting a picture for the person reading it but you also need to bear in mind that once you have grabbed a girl's attention you will need things to talk about so perhaps summing up a couple of paragraphs will help keep their attention and still give you things to talk about once they contact you or vice versa

Ok cool, I'll have a think about that today and do some alterations,

One thing I will ask is what is a good thing to say to a girl if I message her as hello how are you is a little boring

[missjhb]

Ok cool, I'll have a think about that today and do some alterations,

One thing I will ask is what is a good thing to say to a girl if I message her as hello how are you is a little boring

Well one thing I hated was when someone messaged me and asked me my profession on POF when it clrealy stated what I did lol. But a simple hello and how are you can go a long way, just make sure you read their profile and perhaps add something in the message such as oh I see you are into ...... or perhaps ask about her career if you are genuinely interested, even just a well I am new at this and you seemed nice and friendly so just a hello. Don't put "hi sexy" or " hello gorgeous" or "you're fit". Some girls may like it but then you are attracting the wrong ones. Oh and also your name at the end of your first message, always nice to know who you are talking to...

I got loads of advice so anything you want to know just ask

[sv_rory]

Well one thing I hated was when someone messaged me and asked me my profession on POF when it clrealy stated what I did lol. But a simple hello and how are you can go a long way, just make sure you read their profile and perhaps add something in the message such as oh I see you are into ...... or perhaps ask about her career if you are genuinely interested, even just a well I am new at this and you seemed nice and friendly so just a hello. Don't put "hi sexy" or " hello gorgeous" or "you're fit". Some girls may like it but then you are attracting the wrong ones. Oh and also your name at the end of your first message, always nice to know who you are talking to...

I got loads of advice so anything you want to know just ask


Ok cool I will send some messages and see what happens? Can you be my agony aunt lol

[missjhb]

Ok cool I will send some messages and see what happens? Can you be my agony aunt lol

Lol yeah sure why not, like tactcom said he bagged himself a winner... Let me know how it goes :)

[NTECUK]

You might as well be honest about MotorBikes.And any other intresting hobbies.
My 45 year old freind has some very "Odd" :smt077 hobbies .He listed them and got allot of dates from it.
Some of them very"Fit" girls too???
Its no were as bad as fishing is it?
My Mrs was in to Motorbikes,Rock music and part of how we met.

[Littlepeahead]

If bikes are your thing then you want any potential dates to know that from the start. That way you are more likely to meet girls who are up for dancing round a camp fire with Dave Preston at some time in the future, than one who moans everytime you go and hang out with your biker mates.

Sometimes it's less about being into the same things from the outset, more about thinking the same way about life and then you can have fun trying something new that your date is into. Poor Mr LPH wasn't into cricket at all when I met him, and back then I worked for a record label and he's into his music so he got to come to loads of gigs with me hich he loved but he knew cricket was a big passion of mine. When it came to our honeymoon, which was nearly a year after we got married he let me choose the destination and was quite happy when I said Sri Lanka. He only found out after I booked it that the dates were planned around 2 England One Day Internationals and a Test match. But he really enjoyed it, and now when we're not biking we often go to matches together. So don't rule out someone because they have a liking for ballroom dancing, showing fancy rats or extreme ironing.

(On second thoughts, perhaps leave the DP dancing until a lot later on.)

[-Ralph-]

Your already a member of the best dating site on the internet. Some of the women that have joined this forum over the 6 years I've been on it, were so desperate to grab a man, all a single guy had to do was turn up at a rideout or camping weekend. ;-)

[mufman]

One person who had an experience with dating sites ones told me: "Always approach the new signers! And as quickly after they signed in as possible! Girls who are there for a while already might be bored from all those guys hitting on them, might have lost faith or might be there for a reason (not being attractive, interesting or looking just for sex or ocasional coffee paid by a guy). Offcourse you can find a diamond which is signed already for a long time, but it's much tougher because most of them have already been picked..."

This is not my personal experience, it's his, so I can't guarantee it but it makes a good sense to me, so I wrote it down for you since I think it's a good point.

About contacting the girls. Don't say just "Hello" or "how are you". An attractive girl has heard this probably so many times in her live and almost every time with one certain obvious subcontext...I want you.... You don't want to be one of those guys, do you? You want to stand out of the crowd. Be someone else than all those idiots out there who are the reason that she's on a site like this afterall. Approach her in an interesting and/or funny way which seems genuine. Examples:

You see in her profile that she works as hair stylist, than maybe send her a message like this: "Hi, I saw in your profile that you are a hairstylist. Just today I've been talking with my friend/colleague who has 12 years old sister (niece, whatever..) about her getting a new hair cut and she wants to get "this or that" haircut (or change colour). Do you think it would fit an 12 year old girl in these days (is it OK for her to change colour this young regarding her long term hair health)?"

or you see that she is a chef in an Italian restaurant, then you can say something like this: "Hi I can see in your profile that you are a chef in italian restaurant, so maybe you can help me set up a dispute which I have with my colleague/friend about what is the most classical italian pizza. I say it's margherita, he sais it's prosciutto. What you think is the right one?"


There could be many other ways how to approach her but I believe that in way like this you show her that you've read her profile (so you're genuinely intersted in her as a person..not just her look), that you have friends so you're probably a nice and interesting person and people want to be around you, that you're not needy writing her just about how beautiful her eyes are and how much you want to meet her...she knows that anyway...you're both on a dating site after all...

After this if she will respond, than you have broken the ice with a genuine conversation and you can continue in it in any direction you want (on this topic or something else) and that's where it all starts:)

[missjhb]

One person who had an experience with dating sites ones told me: "Always approach the new signers! And as quickly after they signed in as possible! Girls who are there for a while already might be bored from all those guys hitting on them, might have lost faith or might be there for a reason (not being attractive, interesting or looking just for sex or ocasional coffee paid by a guy). Offcourse you can find a diamond which is signed already for a long time, but it's much tougher because most of them have already been picked..."

This is not my personal experience, it's his, so I can't guarantee it but it makes a good sense to me, so I wrote it down for you since I think it's a good point.

About contacting the girls. Don't say just "Hello" or "how are you". An attractive girl has heard this probably so many times in her live and almost every time with one certain obvious subcontext...I want you.... You don't want to be one of those guys, do you? You want to stand out of the crowd. Be someone else than all those idiots out there who are the reason that she's on a site like this afterall. Approach her in an interesting and/or funny way which seems genuine. Examples:

You see in her profile that she works as hair stylist, than maybe send her a message like this: "Hi, I saw in your profile that you are a hairstylist. Just today I've been talking with my friend/colleague who has 12 years old sister (niece, whatever..) about her getting a new hair cut and she wants to get "this or that" haircut (or change colour). Do you think it would fit an 12 year old girl in these days (is it OK for her to change colour this young regarding her long term hair health)?"

or you see that she is a chef in an Italian restaurant, then you can say something like this: "Hi I can see in your profile that you are a chef in italian restaurant, so maybe you can help me set up a dispute which I have with my colleague/friend about what is the most classical italian pizza. I say it's margherita, he sais it's prosciutto. What you think is the right one?"


There could be many other ways how to approach her but I believe that in way like this you show her that you've read her profile (so you're genuinely intersted in her as a person..not just her look), that you have friends so you're probably a nice and interesting person and people want to be around you, that you're not needy writing her just about how beautiful her eyes are and how much you want to meet her...she knows that anyway...you're both on a dating site after all...

After this if she will respond, than you have broken the ice with a genuine conversation and you can continue in it in any direction you want (on this topic or something else) and that's where it all starts:)

Sorry but I have to disagree that the classic hello how are you doesnt work. Yes just opening with that and nothing else seems pointless to a sense but if you include some of your points about her career and be genuine about it as I mentioned previously then it will go a long way. But I don't believe that ruling out Hello how are you is all that necessary as it is a polite way of approaching someone even if it overlooked by the paragraph after the initial hello.

Also long lenghthy messages just tend to make some people lose interest, as nice as some girls may be, most people on the site prefer the first few messages to be straight to the point of "hello I found your profile and yes I am interested in you, I read your profile and I want to chat" Then I believe the conversation can develop from there...

Just speaking from experience. And just because you are on a site for a while (not sure how long we are talking) doesn't mean there is necessarily something wrong with the girl, perhaps it's the people who are approaching her with what she doesn't feel si what she actually wants and vice versa with the guys on a dating site

[JamesMio]

Why not try your luck with our very own gaggle of resident fillies..?

Does anyone know the general availability of Madame's Gracie, Milky & Co..? Shared hobby would certainly be a good starting point there!

[Jayneflakes]

I met the Mrs on a dating site and have been together now for over four years.

One tip, avoid odd looking girls who put things like TV/CD after their hobbies! well, unless you like that sort of thing. Another thing to remember is that there are several women bikers who can't find a bloke/woman because of the bike thing too, so always say from the start and suddenly you become Mr Interesting to the right lass. I stated in my profile that I owned a sports bike (but failed to mention that I did not have a license! :D ) and this is what made the wife contact me.

Don't forget to add a good photo of yourself, a shot of you in your bike kit is also good because Leathers can look great on a strapping lad. Don't forget, sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince.

I was on Match for a while (before I gave up on blokes for being gits) and did meet a guy I was with for over a year. I look at that part of my life as experimenting, it is something that many do and I don't regret it, even if he did have a cheesey whatsit! Final tip (and you would be surprised how many guys and girls need to learn this!) have a good shower and trim before each date, then add clean clothes including pants/knickers and a breath mint if you are a smoker. Never mention Bondage and domination on your first date unless you have mentioned it on your profile!

Good luck and hope that you find Miss Right, don't forget to show her pic to the Org so we can judge if she is good enough for you! Have fun XXX

[mufman]

Sorry but I have to disagree that the classic hello how are you doesnt work. Yes just opening with that and nothing else seems pointless to a sense but if you include some of your points about her career and be genuine about it as I mentioned previously then it will go a long way. But I don't believe that ruling out Hello how are you is all that necessary as it is a polite way of approaching someone even if it overlooked by the paragraph after the initial hello.

There is nothing wrong with "Hello, how are you", I agree, but, if she's attractive, I can only imagine how many "Hello, how are you" she receives every week/day.... And do I want to be one of the million? No, I don't...because if you're one of the million your chances are 1:1000000. If you stand out of the crowd and become the one who's different than others than it's no longer 1:1000000 anymore. You simply have bigger chances.

Also long lenghthy messages just tend to make some people lose interest, as nice as some girls may be, most people on the site prefer the first few messages to be straight to the point of "hello I found your profile and yes I am interested in you, I read your profile and I want to chat" Then I believe the conversation can develop from there...

Agree on the shortness of the message. Don't agree about the "I am interested in you". She's on the dating site, he's on the dating site, he's sending her a message....they both know what it is all about. The same story as I don't want the teller in the cinema explaining me that their cinema is showing movies to customers if they buy a ticket:) We both know that already.

Just speaking from experience. And just because you are on a site for a while (not sure how long we are talking) doesn't mean there is necessarily something wrong with the girl, perhaps it's the people who are approaching her with what she doesn't feel si what she actually wants and vice versa with the guys on a dating site

Agree. And I wrote it there before in my friends experience, it's still possible to find an interesting girl who is on the site for a while but the chance is smaller because many interesting girls have been already picked and those who are still there may have met so many jerks that they are really anoyed and think that all those guys there are jerks that they might not reply to a guy who's not and who they would have replied few months ago before they got anoyed.


I definitely don't say that some stuff works and some stuff doesn't. It's just about increasing your chances, the probability of meeting an interesting girl. If someone wants to have a nice, sunny, rain free, hot, summer holiday on a beach, I don't say that you can't get it on the beaches of Brighton, but you have a better chance if you will go to the south of France or Italy.

[Fallout]

Dude. I could offer some real gems on dating sites, though I'm pretty sure they will be lost in the reams of advice being offered by people here.

One ESSENTIAL bit of advice I would say though is, it's a game! It really is. As serious as you may be about finding a girl, everyone is playing a game, trying to bag themselves the best possible mate. People are punching well above their weight, aiming for hotties out of their league as if, somehow if they keep trying, it'll happen. Some people will have you as their second, third, or fourth choice, hoping things go right with another guy, ready to drop you or turn to you at a moments notice. It's a ****ing shambles of unrealistic expectation, bull****ting, charades and false hope.

Until you are actually on a date talking to the real person, don't invest any emotion, don't be disappointed, don't get your hopes up, and play the game. Play the statistics, message lots of people, never be disheartened and only take it remotely serious when youre ACTUALLY ON A DATE.

Also, consider going premium and paying for the site. It's a small price to pay when you consider your potential happiness.

Oh, and photos. Loads of tips I could give you on photos. Link us to the ones you're using!

[daveangel]

I'm in a similar boat to you rory, pretty shy too and the dating sites are a great way to get a conversation going and I can choose how far away, or in my case must be a non smoker.

Smooch.com is a free site that is useful as a back up to the paid ones.

Tweak your profile as often as you like & keep it modest-ish & straight to the point, mention the bikes & keep it honest & truthful, some people lie about the most obvious stuff, work, age etc!

I always have a good look at her profile, find an interest/music etc & ask her something about herself, the one subject we all know lots about, try not to use text chat and and put your real name at the end.

Watch out for automatic renewals, use Paypal then you can cancel it on Paypal, some sites are awkward to get the renewal stopped.

Good Luck! I'm in contact with a lady at the moment, hopefully meeting up soon![-o<[-o<

[mufman]

Dude. I could offer some real gems on dating sites, though I'm pretty sure they will be lost in the reams of advice being offered by people here.

One ESSENTIAL bit of advice I would say though is, it's a game! It really is. As serious as you may be about finding a girl, everyone is playing a game, trying to bag themselves the best possible mate. People are punching well above their weight, aiming for hotties out of their league as if, somehow if they keep trying, it'll happen. Some people will have you as their second, third, or fourth choice, hoping things go right with another guy, ready to drop you or turn to you at a moments notice. It's a ****ing shambles of unrealistic expectation, bull****ting, charades and false hope.

Until you are actually on a date talking to the real person, don't invest any emotion, don't be disappointed, don't get your hopes up, and play the game. Play the statistics, message lots of people, never be disheartened and only take it remotely serious when youre ACTUALLY ON A DATE.

Also, consider going premium and paying for the site. It's a small price to pay when you consider your potential happiness.

Oh, and photos. Loads of tips I could give you on photos. Link us to the ones you're using!

Second that :thumright:

[NTECUK]

Nothing ventured ,Nothing gained.
You might find a Biker chick thats your sloul mate.
I never thought Clive would ever find a girl in to Spiders and snakes and his weird battle re enactment stuff.
But it seams to be working out.

[metalangel]

Have you considered just going on localslags.com? Or that one that specializes in women who want it up the wrong'un?

[Littlepeahead]

The reason I'm married is down to a dating website. I'd been with Mr LPH forever with no plans to marry. Mr LPH's mate met a lass on a dating site - he in Essex, she in Syracuse, up state New York. Not the most convenient place to go for a date but hey, just shows you as they fell in love after a while of long distance dating, then he proposed, then she found out she was pregnant so they got married before the baby was born and now have 2 kids over there. We popped over for a visit about 9 years ago to meet her and in a moment of madness got married at 24 hours notice with them as our only guests. So it's thanks to our mate joining that dating site that we got hitched.

Or you could do what another friend tried when we were young and stupid, go into a nightclub in Doncaster and ask each girl if she fancies a $hag. No. 9 said yes. But that's Doncaster for you!

[Specialone]

Have you considered just going on localslags.com? Or that one that specializes in women who want it up the wrong'un?


:mrgreen: :takeabow:

[Milky Bar Kid]

Why not try your luck with our very own gaggle of resident fillies..?

Does anyone know the general availability of Madame's Gracie, Milky & Co..? Shared hobby would certainly be a good starting point there!

Oi! Stop trying to pimp me out you!

[Lozzo]

Or you could do what another friend tried when we were young and stupid, go into a nightclub in Doncaster and ask each girl if she fancies a $hag. No. 9 said yes. But that's Doncaster for you!

I was taught there's a 3% rule by the guy who trained me when I was an apprentice.

3% of women will sleep with you if you ask them. You can play it either of three ways

1) ask 100 women and get laid three times
2) ask 33 women and get laid once
3) ask the same woman 33 times before she finally caves in and agrees.

[widepants]

Alot of the sites are the same site that go under different names . A mate of mine joined and paid for 3 sites hoping to increase his chances .What he found when he started search were all the same women . I met a girl once who had signed up on a site for ex military service types. Me in the services!!!!!!lol

[missjhb]

There is nothing wrong with "Hello, how are you", I agree, but, if she's attractive, I can only imagine how many "Hello, how are you" she receives every week/day.... And do I want to be one of the million? No, I don't...because if you're one of the million your chances are 1:1000000. If you stand out of the crowd and become the one who's different than others than it's no longer 1:1000000 anymore. You simply have bigger chances.

Agree on the shortness of the message. Don't agree about the "I am interested in you". She's on the dating site, he's on the dating site, he's sending her a message....they both know what it is all about. The same story as I don't want the teller in the cinema explaining me that their cinema is showing movies to customers if they buy a ticket:) We both know that already.

Agree. And I wrote it there before in my friends experience, it's still possible to find an interesting girl who is on the site for a while but the chance is smaller because many interesting girls have been already picked and those who are still there may have met so many jerks that they are really anoyed and think that all those guys there are jerks that they might not reply to a guy who's not and who they would have replied few months ago before they got anoyed.

I definitely don't say that some stuff works and some stuff doesn't. It's just about increasing your chances, the probability of meeting an interesting girl. If someone wants to have a nice, sunny, rain free, hot, summer holiday on a beach, I don't say that you can't get it on the beaches of Brighton, but you have a better chance if you will go to the south of France or Italy.

1. Fair point but all I am saying as a matter of respect to the girl that a hello how are you is better than whatsup sexy or fittie
2. Sorry didnt actually mean write I am interested in you but write a decent enough message to catch her attention
3. Well think of it this way some of the girls on there can be very picky and are worth the wait but they just want to find the right one but again fair point
4. Yeah true but I guess I am just speaking from experience. Don't take the whole dating site seriously but make sure you are still showing the respect and show that you are a decent guy... is that fair?

I also just think it's what kind of girl he wants rather than the actual message he is going to write

[missjhb]

Some people will have you as their second, third, or fourth choice, hoping things go right with another guy, ready to drop you or turn to you at a moments notice. It's a ****ing shambles of unrealistic expectation, bull****ting, charades and false hope.

Not every girl is like that though to be fair

[mufman]

1. Fair point but all I am saying as a matter of respect to the girl that a hello how are you is better than whatsup sexy or fittie
2. Sorry didnt actually mean write I am interested in you but write a decent enough message to catch her attention
3. Well think of it this way some of the girls on there can be very picky and are worth the wait but they just want to find the right one but again fair point
4. Yeah true but I guess I am just speaking from experience. Don't take the whole dating site seriously but make sure you are still showing the respect and show that you are a decent guy... is that fair?

Agree :thumright:

I also just think it's what kind of girl he wants rather than the actual message he is going to write

Don´t agree :)

[missjhb]

Agree :thumright:



Don´t agree :)

Lol there's a surprise you disagree haha

[mufman]

Lol there's a surprise you disagree haha

;)

[ruddlad]

a panel beater hardly comes across as attractive, or maybe that's just me
Depends on how ugly she is, might need a bit of work herself:D

[sv_rory]

Lol if some of my exs are anything to go by lol

Also what should I put about smoking? Would that put people off do you think?

[missjhb]

Also what should I put about smoking? Would that put people off do you think?

I am all about honesty so put it on your profile. If you don't want to try leave it blank or don't want to confirm just don't lie and say no.

[sv_rory]

I am all about honesty so put it on your profile. If you don't want to try leave it blank or don't want to confirm just don't lie and say no.


I put occasionally, so not quite the full truth i spose,

Would you as a girl tho bypass a profile because it says that they smoke?

[missjhb]

I put occasionally, so not quite the full truth i spose,

Would you as a girl tho bypass a profile because it says that they smoke?

Personally, more than likely yes but that's because I don't smoke. But that is not to say that other girls will because some don't mind if you do and others smoke themselves. Think about it, do you really want to meet a girl who will nag you all the time about smoking? Unless you want to quit :-D

[widepants]

I put occasionally, so not quite the full truth i spose,

Would you as a girl tho bypass a profile because it says that they smoke?
does it matter if they bypass it? if they dont want a smoker then so what.:D

[sv_rory]

Actually I think the best option would be to quit!!

[widepants]

just think of all the bedrooms you may get to see

[missjhb]

Actually I think the best option would be to quit!!

that's a plus and expands the search :)

[Paul the 6th]

Would I avoid you if you put that you're a smoker? Depends how much money you've got.

[sv_rory]

Would I avoid you if you put that you're a smoker? Depends how much money you've got.


Lol maybe I should just put, I won the lottery last week

[Paul the 6th]

In that case, SV RORY = Alpha male...

[appollo1]

uniform dating is a site that a mate of mine used as he had a thing about women in uniform but found that the women didn't like wearing the uniform after work!!

[NTECUK]

uniform dating is a site that a mate of mine used as he had a thing about women in uniform but found that the women didn't like wearing the uniform after work!!

Im sure Im not alone in thinking joining for that reason is a bit wrong?

[femaleacid]

dont say anything about bikes. bikes to most female normies = "he'll never pay attention to me or buy me stuff and always be out with his mates wah wah wah wah"

i get it now and she rides!

Us females love biker men! Even if we dont like to admit it!

[femaleacid]

uniform dating is a site that a mate of mine used as he had a thing about women in uniform but found that the women didn't like wearing the uniform after work!!

There's always Ann Summers :)