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OK. Lets see if we can get some good discussions going.........
If you could go back ONCE to a point in time and change a decision or action YOU took, when would you go what would you do and why?
I was thinking about this the other day and honestly don't think I've got anything yet I'd want to use my one go up on. So I'd bank mine for now.
So, nothing dull like buying shares or lottery numbers. Also looking for something YOU have done, so no Hitler killing or similar.
Thoughts? .....
I would have gone on the electrical engineering course I looked at when I was 16 instead of dropping out of sixth form and delivering pizzas. I deeply regret it now and always wondered how things would have turned out. I would give my 16 year old self brick up the ****!
There are a few poor calls I've made, closer to the time I'd have undone a couple of them to save me the difficult times that followed.
But I've learned from every one of them and I think if I hadn't made a mess of a few things I'd not be where I am. And I'm happy where I am, so like yourself I don't think I'd want to risk changing the past and ending up somewhere different.
Mistakes are important.
Though it's very tempting to undo my ownership of a free 1982 Honda VT500C.
Jambo
Jayneflakes
10-12-12, 12:11 PM
I do have one regret and that is not dealing with my mental health issues at an early enough age. Seeking help when I was old enough to understand that help could be got would have saved me twenty years of suffering. The last few years since getting help and getting well have been wonderful. Why did I wait so damn long! Duh...
Some one go back in time and slap me!
maviczap
10-12-12, 12:33 PM
Plenty, all mostly personal, but like Jambo said, I'm pretty happy with where I am now, going back and reversing things I've done probably wouldn't improve my lot in life.
However 4 things I would go back and rectify
1. Don't jump off that moving bus when I was 13
2. Make sure I went and saw my Nan more often than I did, but distance & work meant I didn't
3. Make that trip to Australia when my sister was living there
4. Go to all the Springsteen concerts that I missed out on when the E Street band reformed
Spank86
10-12-12, 12:34 PM
I've made a few mistkaes but they've all lead me where I am.
Theres one big chance I let slip away but to be honest my life since has been pretty good on the whole and going by holywood I'd probably make htings worse if I went back and changed it so I'll stick as I am.
Decent job, house, motorbike and lunatics to ride with.
What else is there?
timwilky
10-12-12, 12:39 PM
Allowing a stupid family argument to spiral out of control to the extent that my kids did not get to spend time with their granddad before he died. Stupid and petty dispute between sister in laws resulted in dummys being spit and a family fractured.
2 years later he announces he had terminal cancer. 2 years missed simply because of the petty jealousy of others.
maviczap
10-12-12, 12:43 PM
Allowing a stupid family argument to spiral out of control to the extent that my kids did not get to spend time with their granddad before he died. Stupid and petty dispute between sister in laws resulted in dummys being spit and a family fractured.
2 years later he announces he had terminal cancer. 2 years missed simply because of the petty jealousy of others.
Can you tell my sister this too, same problem here
Owenski
10-12-12, 01:27 PM
Travelling!
Biggest regret is never going. I had the choice to travel or to earn monies and I chose the money :( those I've known who travelled found more from it than a career ever could.
Fallout
10-12-12, 01:30 PM
Theres one big chance I let slip away
What was that Ad? It's not female related is it?
I quite often come across as a pessimistic old git, but in reality I think I'm really positive. I realised this recently. I actually look on the bright side of things most of the time. I may openly whine about the negatives to people, but that's only because I like expressing my discontent and honest opinion. Internally, I'm looking at the good in most situations. This means that I don't really have any serious regrets.
Having said that, I always wonder what if I took a different career path. I feel like I could've angled my life on a different route back in secondary school and maybe I would be more content/successful now. The only saving grace is I have no scoobydoo what that would've been so I don't regret any decision. Mind you, if I knew what I really wanted to do, I'd be pursuing it now, so again, wouldn't be regretting it.
So in summary ... NO REGRETS, just lots of what ifs?
This thread kind of excludes us young'uns :(
I guess i do regret ****ing secondary school up big time
I'd go back and kick the living **** out of the guys that bullied be at school.
The rest has been a really great adventure and when I have screwed up, I've always learnt from it.
C
MarkB852
10-12-12, 02:41 PM
OK. Lets see if we can get some good discussions going.........
If you could go back ONCE to a point in time and change a decision or action YOU took, when would you go what would you do and why?
I was thinking about this the other day and honestly don't think I've got anything yet I'd want to use my one go up on. So I'd bank mine for now.
So, nothing dull like buying shares or lottery numbers. Also looking for something YOU have done, so no Hitler killing or similar.
Thoughts? .....
I could just reproduce my Step4...
Nah. I have regrets about huge amounts of wasted time and money, too many missed opportunities to count and Hep C but I wouldn't have what I have now without the SNAFUs.
At least I know what's important to me now!
Mark
Spank86
10-12-12, 02:57 PM
What was that Ad? It's not female related is it?
Of course, and before you ask, it was before we lived together, I'm not sure you've ever met her and I'm fairly sure John's never slept with her.
Not that it narrows it down too much (well ok John's slept with most people) but i'd be much less likely to have a motorbike now.
Fallout
10-12-12, 03:08 PM
I'm fairly sure John's never slept with her.
Ahh you missed a trick there then. Women defiled by that buck toothed stallion are few and far between.
One major one that caused no end of bother.... still hurts too much... still too many hang ups over it.
And then there's a couple of poor house moves but hindsight is a wonderful thing.
it's had it's ups and downs but TBH i would not change a thing and as others have said, the things i have done in the past have made me who i am today and i would class myself as an easy going well rounded individual with very very little hang ups so i must have done most things right.
Thunderace
10-12-12, 06:16 PM
I really regret what happened to the random stranger on the Bodmin trip! Lucky for us no one saw us!
Littlepeahead
10-12-12, 08:27 PM
Maybe I should have taken that corner in Thailand a bit wider and not smashed my elbow. But then I probably wouldn't have felt the need to return, and in doing so wouldn't have met some great people on the next 2 trips who have become friends. Plus I'd never have met my elbow surgeon who I've had some cracking nights out with once I was no longer a patient. Everything has its reasons. We just have to see the positives.
Regrets, I've had a few
But then again, too few to mention
I did what I had to do and saw it through without exemption
22 years in the Army was not one of them :0/
If I had my time again, I would not have taken that return ticket back from New Zealand and made a go of it there back in 1990.
Ceri JC
11-12-12, 11:39 AM
I'd hang onto mine, for some future mistake. As others have said, I've made mistakes, but I've learnt from all of them and they've resulted in me being happy and content and with no real regrets today.
I must say I am very please with what a positive lot we all are on here. Well done us!
Geodude
11-12-12, 06:01 PM
All I would do is go back and get things right to make sure my ex misses was still my misses now :( lonely days, sigh..
Littlepeahead
11-12-12, 08:59 PM
Actually there is one. I'd never have made a bet involving AR, an Irishman, a bikini and the weather.
Biker Biggles
11-12-12, 09:05 PM
"The road not taken" by Robert Frost.
I once decided not to apply to go on an expedition with a then unheard of nutcase called Ranolf Fiennes.
But it doesnt matter as I would never have got the job anyway.
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