Gimme some stress relief tips folks

[The Idle Biker]

Not bike riding though. I don't want to ride a bike when I'm angry.

So work related, fookin mega angry with with my Boss. My natural inclination is to smack the fecker, but believe it or not I do have a decent career and I want to protect it. Usually when I have to bite my tongue and swallow it, I go boxing (I'm **** but it feels good) or I go and get sloshed. Neither of which are helping at the moment.

I take criticism that I think is unfair really to heart and I want to bust someones face............................tips quick or I'll be on Wednesdays news for kidnap and torture.

[SvNewbie]

Try spreading rumours around the office that he's being 'playing away' from his misses. For bonus points, and job security, claim you are his lover.

[DJ123]

Make it water off a Ducks back. Learn not to take it personally, look how to get past it and move on. Turn it into a positive and see where you can go from there.
Chill out, turn mobile off and PC. Listen to some good relaxing music and forget about the world.

[Specialone]

Sit in a quiet room, small drink of choice, read a bike mag or listen to some quality old tunes on your headphones.

[Teejayexc]

Nah, just smack the ba5tard, you know it makes sense.

[Bibio]

them that put other down do it to make themselves feel better about how shizz their life is.

[squirrel_hunter]

Self abuse. You know the type, pretend you're 14 again.

[Bibio]

Self abuse. You know the type, pretend you're 14 again.

should that not read 'self amusement' :D

[Fallout]

Wait until he's writing something then grab his pen and throw it out the window.

Alternatively tackle the problem head on mate. Tell him in a polite was that you think the criticism is unfair and its bothering you and you'd like to put it right. If he is in anyway decent he'll then have to go away and think of sensible suggestions for improvement, or if you can't improve cos he's actually full of ****, he'll realise he's effectively bullying you. Then he'll show his true colours. Either he'll stop or carry on. If he carries on, up turn a bin over his sandwiches when he's eating his packed lunch.

[FG1]

Get yourself a power kite and get out in the fresh air for a few hours.

[Biker Biggles]

Keep a diary and write it all down.If it carries on ask to have a polite chat with boss.Put your POV with your diary as evidence.In other words stand your ground and dont allow yourself to be walked over because bullys always pick on targets that dont fight back.A well reasoned polite arguement is worth dozens of rants and punches on the nose.

[yorkie_chris]

should that not read 'self amusement' :D

"relaxing in a gentleman's fashion"?

[Sir Trev]

Take the dog for a long walk in the countryside/ buy a dog and take it for a long walk in the countryside/ borrow a dog and take it for a (you get the picture). Had problems like that in a previous job - everyone knew it was the boss and her reputation ended up with nobody wanting to work with her and she was overlooked for promotion until she gave up and left. Found out recently she works for Dell now but had to go to another country as too many people in the UK knew her. Karma can sometimes work but you have to resist the punching option or they end up with the sympathy for some reason. For me walking the dog in the fresh air helped me calm down and think straight.

Good luck.

[granty92]

i agree with the rumour one, if word gets back to his wife/lover it could be a right laugh, or just get his face printed on a stressball and sit there squeezing and stabbing it infront of him :) may scare him a tad

[ClunkintheUK]

+1 for the getting fresh air (walking the dog, kite surfing etc) I usually run, because I can push it hard enough for it to be cathartic and i have to think a little bit about what I am doing, pacing mostly but its easy enough that I can mull other things over. The main thing is doing some form of exercise outside.

[smithy17]

at our uni house we have a car bonnet from a breakers yard and a sledgehammer.... simple

[MisterTommyH]

Learn to laugh about it, and take the attitude that in big scheme of things it really isn't that important.

I know it's easier said than done, but it works.

[pookie]

i used to ride home on the push bike..amazing that by the time I got home I'd lose about an hour but felt great. Try a push bike and some music.

[Winder]

Being outdoors does it for me too. I hop on the mountain bike or throw on my running shoes and go somewhere I know there will be no people. Almost everywhere on the planet is full of people waiting in a queue to buy some crap they don't need, get away from the tossers out in the sticks.

Either that or smash up his knees with crowbar. I have a wooly face you can borrow

[Owenski]

Confront him! If you're fairly confident you could take them in a 1 on 1 then whats the worst that can happen?
Next time he gives you jip, follow him back to his office building your self up as you go be sure to slam the door behind you as you go in.
Lean over his desk and firmly insist he explains why he can talk to you like you're a piece of ****.

It could be something really tragic and he's just taking it out on you, maybe his dog just died, maybe his wife just told him the kids arnt his etc etc.
The ***** is probably so alienated the only thing he can think to do it belittle everyone else.
Perhaps he subconsciously thinks you're a big enough man to take it in your stride.
This guy might not be your future enemy but your future best friend.
OR if its just that he's a ****, smack him enough to put him on the floor wait for him to get up and repeat until a co-worker stops you or he's KO. Then I'd probably get on job search ;)

[Paul the 6th]

So there's alleviating the stress which will help that side of things, but then there's the actual source of the stress...

Others have already dealt with how to tackle the source. As for alleviating the stress, get out on a pushbike with some loud loud loud drum and bass, up the river paths, through traffic, along some trails through woods. Failing that going to the gym and smashing out 90 mins of cardio (x-trainer, punch bag, cycling etc) usually stimulates enough endorphins to pick up your mood/burn off the negative rage type energy you've got stored up.

But yeah, deal with the source dude :)

[Bri w]

Turn it around and ask him to help you be better at your job. Make him part of the solution instead of part of the problem.

[Jackie_Black]

I tend to just walk for miles and miles and miles while listening to audio books or music. You could always start to make life hard for the boss. You can be an awkward worky ticket and still do your job effectively i'm sure :D.

[Sir Trev]

You could always start to make life hard for the boss. You can be an awkward worky ticket and still do your job effectively i'm sure :D.

There is a fine line to this. A colleague once went down this route and ended up on the redundancy list because of their less-than-helpful attitude, even though they still got the job done. The a-hole boss got away with it too making it doubly worse.

[The Idle Biker]

Cheers for the tips, wise words most of them. I applied the unwise words and adopted some self amusement, it worked for a while ;-)

Luckily for me I had a day pre-booked today and although my instinct was to go into work and have a row, I stayed at home and I think I've got things a bit more into perspective. I'm still not sure how I'll handle it tomorrow but I don't think a full on confrontation is on the cards. I'll let y'all know how I get on tomorrow. Cheers again. :-)

[Paul the 6th]

Turn it around and ask him to help you be better at your job. Make him part of the solution instead of part of the problem.

BRI W IN THA HOUSE! Pow!

[The Idle Biker]

Turn it around and ask him to help you be better at your job. Make him part of the solution instead of part of the problem.

He's the MD and I'm a Director. We're too long in the tooth and there are too many ego's involved for that. Good advice normally though.

Ahhhh Ego's that's the source of problem. Plus he's an idiot and I know best ;-)! :smt021

[Paul the 6th]

Nooooo Laurie, never argue with an idiot...


...they'll drag you down their level and then beat you with experience. ;) moar red wine at AR this year dude?