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bikeramy
15-03-15, 08:01 PM
So I'm going through divorce and have never really been single (had 2 long term relationships)...just wondering if anyone has any advice? I'm not looking for another relationship, but rather looking at enjoying my own company and the company of friends. It's just weird...apart from going for a ride on my bike and drawing, I don't get upto much.
munkygunn182
15-03-15, 08:23 PM
If riding is what makes you happy, then go for it! It's insanely good for clearing your head!
Fruity-ya-ya
15-03-15, 08:27 PM
I have lots of mates who have divorced both male and female.
Some have rushed into relationship s and others let things happen more slowly.
From my outside perspective those who took thier time have had more fun.
The only advice I can give you it seems you've already sussed.
Enjoy being single for a while and don't rush into anything.
bikeramy
15-03-15, 08:42 PM
Yeah, it's the loneliness that can get to me sometimes. I'm not one for going out meeting new people with the intention to test the water for a relationship...thats just not me...if it happens it should happen without looking
andrewsmith
15-03-15, 08:43 PM
I have lots of mates who have divorced both male and female.
Some have rushed into relationship s and others let things happen more slowly.
From my outside perspective those who took thier time have had more fun.
The only advice I can give you it seems you've already sussed.
Enjoy being single for a while and don't rush into anything.
This!
Fruity-ya-ya
15-03-15, 08:50 PM
Well your never alone in here.
Loads of great folks ready to pick you up when feeling down.
And then there's always the open road.
Get to know yourself again and find out what it is you want in/from life. You soon find things that fill the time, lost hobbies, new friends & new roads to explore! Suddenly you may start to think that it's busy enough with your own life, let alone having to fit someone else in too :)
bikeramy
15-03-15, 09:13 PM
Yes, good idea, me and my husband still talk but I know I know what to go back there. He can't be just friends unfortunately.
Worse thing was...he never wanted to ride a bike!!!! lol
otaylor38
16-03-15, 12:01 AM
Enjoy yourself.
I mean, look at it this way. Relationships are abit of a compromise arent they. You do things because the other person wants to, etc etc
Being single isnt. No compromise, do what you want to do when you want to do it. Ride the bike as much as you want, eat what you want...
It is what you make of it. Enjoy yourself (:
atassiedevil
16-03-15, 09:05 AM
If you want company, why not consider taking up a hobby or class or some sort? Photography? Painting? Pottery?
You'll meet people from walks of life you won't likely meet, there is no requirement to "date" and you'll have company.
Also, where are you based? There are lots of geographical facebook groups for bikers, based around location, go on a few rides, have some company, and again....No commitment.
I'm twice divorced. Yes, it sucks to be alone, but... Like you i'd rather be alone than unhappy. I'm fortunate that i'm in a relationship that suits me, but it took a very long time to get there.
One thing i learned along the way is if you can't be happy with yourself and your faults, no one else will be either.
Get out there. Try something new. Anything. Indoor skydiving, paintball, just go and have a good time and just entirely please yourself.
Don't be afraid to shout up on the org if you want to ride out somewhere too!
C.
Geodude
16-03-15, 09:06 AM
Nice to have you back on the org, why not start up your biking videos again, im sure a bit of vlogging will give you the chance to chat to the world and use up a bit of spare time etc. Ive been single for seven years now and yes its fun to do what you want when you want (i was lucky as i could do all that in my relationship) but in my case i dont like being single and i still miss my ex every day. Anywho before i depress myself even more i'll just say what a few others have said and that is do what makes 'you' happy, thats the most important thing of all :)
bikeramy
17-03-15, 06:05 PM
Yeah, I do miss my husband too, but it's in the way that I miss his friendship...I can't see myself living with anyone now. The place I'm at now is a detached coach house with a garage...it is bliss to have a garage!!
Geodude
17-03-15, 06:12 PM
Best chat up line ever to use on a fellow biker, ive got a garage lol :)
bikeramy
17-03-15, 06:23 PM
Lmao, I wont be chatting anyone up for a while, I don't go looking never will, if it happens it happens
Yeah, I do miss my husband too, but it's in the way that I miss his friendship...I can't see myself living with anyone now. The place I'm at now is a detached coach house with a garage...it is bliss to have a garage!!
I'm guessing they didn't allow you to just rent the garage on its own!
bikeramy
17-03-15, 10:27 PM
Lmao, no they wouldn't
you lucky lucky person you. ooohhh to be single and do what i want when i want. dont think i would be in the house much if i were single.
enjoy your new found freedom.
Bike, Garage, sleeping bag, shower, toilet. That's all you need!
otaylor38
18-03-15, 07:56 PM
Bike, Garage, sleeping bag, shower, toilet. That's all you need!
Well said sir!
+1 to that!
And a stocked up beer fridge of course!
SvNewbie
18-03-15, 08:14 PM
Bike, Garage, sleeping bag, shower, toilet. That's all you need!
Shower? Sounds like an unnecessary excess.
You have to clean your bike & gear some how . . .
metalhead19
18-03-15, 08:38 PM
As for being newly single, I'll second all suggestions to try new things and find a hobby. You never know who you'll meet and what new awesome things you'll experience now you have the freedom.
You have to clean your bike & gear some how . . .
Thought rain did that for you?!
Summer is coming ...Rally season is already here
Go out and party
Balky001
19-03-15, 07:56 AM
well for start you can help me change my tyres over today if you have nowt to do :p:p
As others have said, take some time out to think about doing some new things and try to fill time. Have something to look forward to but don't panic if you have spare time.
It's perfectly normal to feel a bit lonely and miss people's company but indulge yourself a little, chat, meet new people, read a book, buy shoes. It really is an opportunity to be a little selfish now and spoil yourself (but don't feel pressured in to having to do something all the time!!)
You'll be fine :D
Wideboy
19-03-15, 09:33 PM
Being single isn't so great. I used to enjoy it andI had more money but I got bored.
Now I get sandwiches on tap!
http://rs1img.memecdn.com/no-sandwich_o_1043690.jpg
bikeramy
19-03-15, 09:52 PM
My bike can't stroke my hair and tell me I'm wanted :'(
otaylor38
19-03-15, 09:55 PM
My bike can't stroke my hair and tell me I'm wanted :'(
But you can ride the hell out of it for more than 3 minutes
Sorry. Couldnt help myself hahaa
munkygunn182
19-03-15, 09:58 PM
But you can ride the hell out of it for more than 3 minutes
Sorry. Couldnt help myself hahaa
Oshhhh. You sir, just won the internet.
My bike can't stroke my hair and tell me I'm wanted :'(
yes but you can ride any other you want and it wont complain
if your still feeling lonely around the middle of August get yerself to http://forums.sv650.org/showthread.php?t=214399 and i can guarantee you will love it.
My sister never bothered to get into a serious relationship after her divorce.
As long as you can fix a fuse and unblock a sink your be fine.
Cats are apparently good company.
Prefer my dogs myself ;)
BanannaMan
22-03-15, 02:47 AM
Been married for a long time now, but even before, never went long without a girlfriend.
Yep, Miss Right Now would do until Miss Right came along any fekking day of the week!
You don't have to plan on being with them forever just to be dating.
(despite any advice your mother gave you)
Have no desire to be single or without a S.O. in my life ever again.
Go out with someone, have a good time. Doens't mean you have to get serious.
Don't be lonely, that just sucks.
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