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northwind
05-09-06, 11:24 AM
All a bit complicated this :) My ex, who if I'm honest I'd prefer wasn't my ex, but that's a logn story :roll: is getting married in a fortnight, and I've been invited to the reception. For various reasons, I've accepted the invite... But what to wear?

I've been to a few before, but not for friends my own age, and usually I've been at the wedding too so I've been kilted up. But I hate the bonnie prince charlie getup, it's so cheesy- don't mind the kilt in general but the whole shortbread tin nonsense annoys me, and I can't be bothered with it for the evening do- especially since we're going out after. But, I kind of want to cut a dash ;)

I don't know the rules though. She wants things pretty formal... I could just wear a suit. Need to get a new one, my old one's rotten. But I was wondering... Think I can get away with the kilt (a dark tartan, mind) and sporran, smart boots, heavy white or black shirt? I think it's pretty sharp, and I can carry it off pretty well (I have good physio'd knees :) ), but I'm not sure it'd be considered formal enough and I don't want to **** anyone off :roll:

No good at this sort of thing... Give me jeans and a t-shirt. Or leathers :)

anna
05-09-06, 11:29 AM
where did that "this thread is useless without pics" sign go?????????

I should imagine suit would be fine but you may be a bit out of place if everyone else is going to be kilted up!

chazzyb
05-09-06, 11:30 AM
smart boots

All sounds fine to me, an asset at any wedding. But get a high polish on your DM's. And new laces. If you get a mirror finish on your boots, people will be able to see up your kilt :P . Mind you, I suppose it works both ways...

Biker Biggles
05-09-06, 11:32 AM
Go on you bike,then you have the perfect excuse to wear leathers.Anything to save having to buy a new suit and spend hard earned dosh on something you don't want.
For the same reason,if that is just not on,wear the kilt which is already in your wardrobe.Who could possibly object to a kilt in Scotland?

Kinvig
05-09-06, 11:39 AM
All a bit complicated this :) My ex, who if I'm honest I'd prefer wasn't my ex, but that's a logn story

Don't go!!!!

If you wish she wan't your ex. i.e. still your ball n'chain, then seeing her get married is not going to be the best thing to do. You'll just end up getting drunk, making an ar&e of yourself, then you'll find yourself walknig round hte hotel at 3am with just your pants on because you've slept walked. You may then spend time in a cupboard or next to a hand dryer for warmth until a) You remember your room number & b) the concierge gets back from his extemded cigarette break.



Trust me on this

wyrdness
05-09-06, 11:40 AM
I usually wear a black kilt for this kind of thing. It looks smart and has a devastating effect on the ladies. Depending on the formality of the function I'll wear a fairly formal shirt (purple or black) or a more relaxed goth shirt, with shoes or boots as appropriate.

My kilt was made to measure by a kiltmaker on the Royal Mile, but you can get cheap ones off ebay that look almost as good.

Jabba
05-09-06, 11:41 AM
where did that "this thread is useless without pics" sign go?????????

Here it is :thumbsup:

http://homepage.ntlworld.com/twoponds/sv650/worthlesswithoutpics.gif

anna
05-09-06, 11:42 AM
where did that "this thread is useless without pics" sign go?????????

Here it is :thumbsup:

http://homepage.ntlworld.com/twoponds/sv650/worthlesswithoutpics.gif

Thanks Jabba...

so come on all this talk of kilts...... we want to see pics of them ;)

northwind
05-09-06, 12:05 PM
All a bit complicated this :) My ex, who if I'm honest I'd prefer wasn't my ex, but that's a logn story

Don't go!!!!


Nah, it'll be alright. Ancient history... For one thing, I'm mainly going so I can hit on one of the bridesmaids ;) It'll be entirely a happy coincidence if her mum and dad think "That Andrew's looking fine, nice lad, wish she was marrying him not that half man/half pig..."

Thought about a black kilt, I was more or less settled on a really, really dark one but it's still in the running... We're all off to a metal club after, I can rock the Jonathon Davis look :)

northwind
05-09-06, 12:05 PM
Pics? There will be no pics.

SoulKiss
05-09-06, 12:14 PM
where did that "this thread is useless without pics" sign go?????????

Here it is :thumbsup:

http://homepage.ntlworld.com/twoponds/sv650/worthlesswithoutpics.gif

Thanks Jabba...

so come on all this talk of kilts...... we want to see pics of them ;)

Would post a great one from my wedding (loads of blokes in kilts) but my webserver is down so I have nowhere to post it

Will post it after I reboot my router tonight :P

David

Peter Henry
05-09-06, 12:14 PM
Northy I do pray that you dont end up a snivveling wreck in the corner of the main room somewhere? Crying in to your pint before dashing foward and at the top of yer voice singing out..



It should have been me

Oh oh It should have been meeeee

You prob even dont know that song? was song by some rather fullsome black momma's in the err 80's I think! :wink:

Ceri JC
05-09-06, 12:32 PM
Go on you bike,then you have the perfect excuse to wear leathers.Anything to save having to buy a new suit and spend hard earned dosh on something you don't want.
For the same reason,if that is just not on,wear the kilt which is already in your wardrobe.Who could possibly object to a kilt in Scotland?

My Glaswegian mate, Alan, who hates it when people wear kilts. In his own words "Faein' attention-seeking tarts. Probably nae e'en proper faein' Scottish, likes, y'ken?"

It's up to you if you wear it, but most people I know (down South at least) think it's a bit gimmicky and not really formal enough for weddings, etc. I've even had someone (perhaps insensitively) call it, "Fancy dress for Jocks." :!:

NB (before I get flamed): The above is what my friends think. My stepbrother is half-Scottish and if he wanted to wear a kilt, I'd not take the Michael. :)

northwind
05-09-06, 01:06 PM
It's up to you if you wear it, but most people I know (down South at least) think it's a bit gimmicky and not really formal enough for weddings, etc. I've even had someone (perhaps insensitively) call it, "Fancy dress for Jocks." :!:

Aye, I can see that. But this one's in Edinburgh :) Half the guys'll be in the kilt. I prefer it to suits, I always feel like I'm going to the school photo... Don't like the fancy dress aspect, though. The shoelaces! What were they thinking?

chazzyb
05-09-06, 02:19 PM
From what I understand, the fancy dress (shortbread tin - good one) was a Victorian invention; a romanticised vision of the Scot. Ok, footwear: why not do a medieval Scot and go in bare feet - dirty toenails too, or as a concession, a pair of dead furry animals. Beavers would be good. :wink:

Cronos
05-09-06, 02:37 PM
I think you've got two choices.

Firstly wear the whole formal Prince Charlie outfit. I agree it's a bit cheesey, but it's always going to be appropriate for the occassion. If you want to make it a bit more classy make sure you wear a good formal shirt and a real bow tie (not one of those horrible clip on thingies). If you're out and about in toon afterwards then I guarantee you'll have cracking night. Remember Edinburgh is one of the Hen Night hot spots and there's noting the ladieeeeees like more than a man in a kilt. You'll certainly have no problem getting in anywhere.

The other option is to go for the plain single breasted black suit, pseudo rat pack look. It's just understated and comfortable. You may need to get your hair trimmed mind if you want the full Dean Martin look! :lol:

Kilts and boots at a wedding... a big no no!

anna
05-09-06, 03:18 PM
Pics? There will be no pics.

:smt019 spoilsport

Anonymous
05-09-06, 03:23 PM
i like the kilt with cat boots and the black shirt that sort of has laces up the front. but dont know if its smart enough for a wedding, but then its only the evening do your going to so whatever.

SoulKiss
05-09-06, 03:37 PM
i like the kilt with cat boots and the black shirt that sort of has laces up the front. but dont know if its smart enough for a wedding, but then its only the evening do your going to so whatever.

Thats what I usually wear for non-formal kilt-wearing occasions - actually thinking about it, if I remember rightly I got out of the Prince Charlie rig and into that set up at MY wedding after the meal (actually I think it was a green shirt and the normal kilt boots - I cant remember HALF of that day, and its nothing to do with us all getting back to the hotel from the pub and me ending up in a room with 2 girls, a bottle of wine and a plate of Cheese sandwiches.........)

David

Anonymous
05-09-06, 03:41 PM
i like the kilt with cat boots and the black shirt that sort of has laces up the front. but dont know if its smart enough for a wedding, but then its only the evening do your going to so whatever.

Thats what I usually wear for non-formal kilt-wearing occasions - actually thinking about it, if I remember rightly I got out of the Prince Charlie rig and into that set up at MY wedding after the meal (actually I think it was a green shirt and the normal kilt boots - I cant remember HALF of that day, and its nothing to do with us all getting back to the hotel from the pub and me ending up in a room with 2 girls, a bottle of wine and a plate of Cheese sandwiches.........)

David

on your wedding day? are you still married? :lol:

northwind
05-09-06, 06:40 PM
From what I understand, the fancy dress (shortbread tin - good one) was a Victorian invention; a romanticised vision of the Scot.

Yup. So was the "clan tartan".

SoulKiss
05-09-06, 08:52 PM
I cant remember HALF of that day, and its nothing to do with us all getting back to the hotel from the pub and me ending up in a room with 2 girls, a bottle of wine and a plate of Cheese sandwiches.........)

David

on your wedding day? are you still married? :lol:[/quote]

yep :)

And as promised earlier in the day

http://www.chaoscrypt.com/kilt/group.jpg

northwind
05-09-06, 09:12 PM
Mmm, hairy. I like the waistcoats, much nicer than the normal jackets...

A mate just offered to lend me his claymore. That doesn't strike me as a good idea at all :)

xlewdx
07-09-06, 02:09 PM
Hey Northy

Forget the kilt and traditional approach, I imagine that she (the ex) has seen it all before. :) Besides if it's a Scottish wedding you'll just blend in. :cry:

Be individual, be smart and be classic. Formal evening suit with an appropriate accessory to match what the bridesmaids are wearing (i.e. lilac cumberbund/handkerchief, etc) 8) That way you'll be classically presented and with the colour complement you'll look like you put some thought into it.

And good luck with the bridesmaids. :twisted:

Rich

northwind
07-09-06, 02:21 PM
If I knew what a cummerbund was, I'd consider it. Is it some sort of very large bird?

Jabba
07-09-06, 02:26 PM
Is it some sort of very large bird?

That'll be one of the bridesmaids, no doubt :wink:

Ceri JC
07-09-06, 03:20 PM
Is it some sort of very large bird?

That'll be one of the bridesmaids, no doubt :wink:

PMSL! :lol:

xlewdx
07-09-06, 04:26 PM
The cumberbund :?:

Think Cary Grant or Sean Connery as 007.

The quintessential bow tie and cumberbund.

Richhttp://upload4.postimage.org/1073649/cumbbow.jpg (http://upload4.postimage.org/1073649/photo_hosting.html)

wyrdness
07-09-06, 04:37 PM
Forget the kilt and traditional approach, I imagine that she (the ex) has seen it all before. :) Besides if it's a Scottish wedding you'll just blend in. :cry:

Be individual, be smart and be classic. Formal evening suit with an appropriate accessory to match what the bridesmaids are wearing (i.e. lilac cumberbund/handkerchief, etc) 8) That way you'll be classically presented and with the colour complement you'll look like you put some thought into it.

I am trying to imagine him in such a get-up, but my mind is over-boggling. Could anyone with photoshop and a picture of Northwind do something with this?

http://formalwearoutlet.com/blackTC.jpg

northwind
07-09-06, 05:51 PM
Right, seriously, I'm not wearing that :) I think the only time I've ever seen those was on the West Wing.

northwind
09-09-06, 05:42 PM
So, I've rented a black kilt, purchased a rather nice black lace-up shirt... Kilting it up Ninja style :) Just wee bits of contrast here and there on the sporran, belt, shirt buttons etc, under the stitching, breaks it up nicely. I was swithering about getting the Black Watch tartan instead, to be just a tad less black, but bit the bullet in the end Not often I look sharp ;) Since demands were made, I'll put up some pics next weeek when it arrives.

Anonymous
09-09-06, 07:10 PM
you will look good mate, dont forget to put a ribbon in your hair :lol:

northwind
17-09-06, 06:10 PM
OK, photos were requested, a photo you will have ;) This is the only one that's not rubbish, because my dad can't work technology.

http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i264/Northwindlowlander/Picture035.jpg

Turned out I could have got away with the DMs and short socks, would probably have looked pretty good and I wouldn't have sounded like a horse ;)

the white rabbit
17-09-06, 06:20 PM
Man, I hate to tell you this, and I know you dudes dont wear pants under those, but I think youve left your fly open :shock:


8)

northwind
17-09-06, 06:28 PM
:oops: That's my hand! Honest :)

Anonymous
17-09-06, 07:16 PM
well you scrub up alright mate :lol: good luck with the girlies

Godikus
17-09-06, 07:32 PM
lookin' good chap... but isn't a black kilt just a skirt? :P

northwind
17-09-06, 07:42 PM
but isn't a black kilt just a skirt? :P

A tartan one's just a travel blanket with delusions of grandeur ;)

Tara
17-09-06, 07:44 PM
Looking good Northy

Godikus
17-09-06, 07:47 PM
but isn't a black kilt just a skirt? :P

A tartan one's just a travel blanket with delusions of grandeur ;)

Funny you should say that. i opend the boot of my car the other day and found one of those in there. then it ocurred to me that every car boot i've ever seen has one... i didn't even know i owned one... whats that all about then. :?

Scoobs
17-09-06, 08:01 PM
OH MY GOD......MY EYES

http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i264/Northwindlowlander/Picture035.jpg

falc
17-09-06, 08:02 PM
Don't lie Scoobs we all know its your new background on your pc ;)

Scoobs
17-09-06, 08:18 PM
Don't lie Scoobs we all know its your new background on your pc ;)

Blown up poster size and stuck on my bedroom ceiling. :oops: :lol:

Ed
17-09-06, 09:53 PM
Northy - I think you look dead cool :thumbsup:

northwind
17-09-06, 09:58 PM
Why thangyou. I could get used to it, I reckon... Being out on the town in the kilt's a lot of fun too. Provided you have a relaxed attitude to sexual molestation, anyway :wink:

xlewdx
18-09-06, 07:06 AM
Hey Northy

Hope it was a good one.

Looking cool 8) :D