Getting Angry

[tricky]

I seem to be getting really angry a lot recently.
This worries me because I used to really placid.

A few examples:

A couple of days ago I was taking to a supplier about returning some parts (their mistake).
The discussion concluded with me calling them "A bunch of useless ****ing ****s" and slamming the phone down. This was in the middle of the office at work. :oops:

This morning, guy parked on a double yellow on a busy main road yacking on his phone, couldn't help but shout "****" at him as I went past. (Very unfair, he could have broken down)

Anyone got any ideas on how I can curb this rage before it gets out of control ?

[the_lone_wolf]

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[Alpinestarhero]

I get the same at university.

I dont know what you can do...maybe take some time off? Do some sort of activity to let out all your agression? Could be too much energy or something

Matt

[G]

I sometimes suffer from this.

Infact like this morning.....Nottingham Ring Road.

1)A van sitting in the right hand lane doing 35 whilst on his mobile, the limit is 50 at this point.

I then proceed to undertake (strictly speaking going with the flow of the traffic not undertaking) at 45...he dilberately swerves at me flashing his headlights and giving the V's....WTF!!!

2)Black little sportcar can be seen swerving between traffic behind overtaking at every given oppurtunity, he then gets in the wrong lane and trys to cut in last minute, the left hand lane where he wants to be is bumper to bumper so he came within 2 cm of me and then sat just as close to my rear bumper.


I used to see red mist easily in these circumstances.....now I tend to stay calmish and if the oppurtunity arises explain to them they are a danger to themselve and others and that some people are not as laid back as me and are likely to smash their face in.

[Jester666]

Anyone got any ideas on how I can curb this rage before it gets out of control ?

Valium or class A usually does the trick. :D

[philbut]

Since starting work, I get a load more stressed out than I used to - was a student. I don't think it's just the work, I find i get more angry because of all the commuting and lack of exercise. Go for a run a few times a week or a cycle ride. Helps to keep your energy levels up and also get ride of a bit of that pent up aggressions. Or joint a martial arts class so you can kick the s%$t out of people who don't mind :-)

[tricky]

Since starting work, I get a load more stressed out than I used to - was a student. I don't think it's just the work, I find i get more angry because of all the commuting and lack of exercise. Go for a run a few times a week or a cycle ride. Helps to keep your energy levels up and also get ride of a bit of that pent up aggressions. Or joint a martial arts class so you can kick the s%$t out of people who don't mind :-)

Don't think thats the case, I swam a mile last night.
I usually run about 7-8 miles a week and train in the gym 2-3 times a week as well .

If the weather's nice I'll usually do about 20 miles on me push bike as well.

Too much testosterone ? ;)

[hovis]

lay off the steriods;)

[tricky]

lay off the steriods;)

Would never touch that stuff.
Used to know a guy who used to do juice, he started to grow a breast (just 1 !!) he had to have it surgically removed.

[Biker Biggles]

Just shouting abuse at people who p*ss you off will make you feel worse.What you need to do is take a baseball bat to them.So much more satisfying.:)

[Mr Toad]

Beer :grin:

or Diazepam (Vallium) - The quack had me on this after my leg op and I really didn't give a toss about anything. I was so relaxed I slept pretty much for 4 days, and that was on the minimum dose. It might calm you down for a couple of days, but I donlt think I'd recommend it for more than that

[Warthog]

I used to be mega calm, but am finding that I am coming across more and more morons everyday. I swear it is not a problem with yourself, its just people nowadays have increasingly less respect and intelligence.

[gettin2dizzy]

I know someone prescribed valium to relieve exam stresss. Taken before the exam she didn't even write a thing- she didn't care anymore
(italics happened by accident) :)

[ClemsonSV]

I know someone prescribed valium to relieve exam stresss. Taken before the exam she didn't even write a thing- she didn't care anymore
(italics happened by accident) :)

I usually try to slip my prof a val before she grades exams. Much better out come. It's not my fault she's a sucker for russian vodka, but my grade benefits...Not really though,


Oh and I have the same problem...I have moron-induced road-rage. Unfortunately it carries over into my personal life and I yell at my girlfriend, then I feel like a d*** because she doesn't deserve that. So I need a solution too ... beer only makes things worse.

[Samnooshka]

I get angry everytime i commute on the bike... i'm really placid in the car (most of the time) but i find on the bike i am more agressive and have to actually hold myself back sometimes like a battle where ne part of me is fighting to overtake and get past and the other part of me is trying to hold back and keep me alive. I tend to notice more idiots when i'm on the bike and every mistake some one in a car makes feels like a personal attack on me as if they are trying to kill me, if they do it to me in the car i don't really pay attention to it.

I guess i'm an agressive rider and its so easy for me to see red mist lol, something Rigor and Raf can confirm lol.

[rigor]

i'm really placid in the car (most of the time)

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uh oh, that's going to make her angry .... RUN!!!

On a more serious note, I really feel anger has no place on the road. Road rage is just crazy, and particularly on the bike, where you are soooo vulnerable. I try never to ride angry. If someone has ****ed me off I try and control my emotions until I get where I'm going. Usually it all wears off. However, generally I'm quite a placid person, so it takes a lot to really wind me up.

[SV Muppet]

Grasshopper, you must seek unity of mind, body, spirit and bike!

[Bluepete]

I occasionally use these (http://www.kalmsstress.com/kalms.htm) and they work well. They are none addictive and can be bought at Tesco.

[kwak zzr]

when i get like this with the kids and i feel major stress coming on i go fishing on my own in the middle of nowhere, it does the trick.

[fizzwheel]

Stress + Pressure to meet unacheivable deadlines + last minute things going wrong + to many cups of caffeine based drinks = Angry

I've given up drinking drinks with caffeine in again recently, its improved my mood plus the fact I sleep better now which helps to.

Excercise definately helps, plus a bit of "me" time does as well.

I used to get really really p*ssed off when stuff got to much for me which would normally result in a massive fit of rage, as I get older I'm getting calmer, but not any less grumpy in general though.

[Stingo]

Only today I was sat on Bovisand Beach with the missus & Kids. There's the usual throng of kids/people frolicking in and out of the water etc. Up drives a bloke on his water skidoo thingy - you know thise things with engines - bit like a motor bike specially for the sea.

So what I hear you say. Gets my goat that's what!! Why do these people have to come inshore to public beaches when they know full well that there are people in the water swimming:smt013 ?. Anyway, I said "Hope he hits the bloody rocks - that would really make my day, and yes, I would laugh[-o< ". The missus thought me a trifle mean - I explained my point of view and stuck to my guns so to speak. Anyway, that was my angry moment. I wandered off to fetch the hot beverages.

PS - post 2K. Just thought I'd mention it - seems to be the 'in' thing to do.

[RhythmJunkie]

My doctor says go stand in the midddle of some moorland and scream yer head off to release the stress and anger!

You try explaining to an off duty policeman that you are not mad and are quite safe to remain in the public domain!!

Didn't work either....just left me feeling really angry! :)

[Ed]

Blow into a brown paper (NOT plastic) bag and inhale again from the bag a few times. No I'm not nuts, it really calms you down. Try it in the toilet, then no one can laugh at you, and if it doesn't work for you then you've lost nothing.

Medication - amitriptyline in low doses is a muscle relaxant. You need a prescription. It sorted me out when I had severe stress, the day sort of floated by and I didn't get angry. It has the added advantage that it will make you sleep like a baby.

[Lozzo]

Kill someone for no good reason...it doesn't work at relieving your stress, but at the very least the courts will put you inside away from all the nice people you're shouting at, and we can enjoy parking illegally without you bothering us..

[K]

I used to be a complete stress fiend, but ever since having a brush with Death - well, more a kind of invite Him over for a cuppa and a chat ;) - I can't really get angry any more.

I probably could be confrontational if someone were to be like that with me, but I think only in a 'protective' sense.
But if I see someone acting like a twit on the road, it generally just makes me feel sad, at the state of their driving/intelligence/the world in general...
... not angry though. I then feel happy that it's not me, that I'm alive and not being a twit. ;)

Not sure where I'm going with this little morning ramble - other then perhaps suggesting that you invite Death over for dinner or something - it's all a matter of perspective I s'pose.

[Pedro68]

My advice = don't take it personal ;-) If someone does something stupid, is driving like a d**k, or whatever, just stay well clear of them and don't take it to heart ... it's not just you they are p***ing off, it's probably every other road user too - don't worry - they'll eventually kill themselves :) law of natural progression (or evolution, whatever you want to call it) LOL

If that fails, try taking up Yoga - supposed to be good for stress and if you ever DO get knocked off then at least your body should be in tip-top condition to help reduce injury and also to aid a speedy recovery :D

Pete

[adw]

I find i get more angry when my missus offloads about her day and the way she's been treated by staff, patients. I find myself saying if i was you i'd do this, do that....

Sometimes she just wants me to listen, but instead I see red and want to kill anyone that has annoyed her (not literally:p ). Whereas with things being directed at me, i just don't care.

car drivers do naff me off though, one cut me up yesterday while i was cycling and the expletives started coming out. Ending up cutting her up which probably wasn't clever, calmed me down though!:rolleyes:

I have a short fuse on the roads but a beer when i get home always makes me feel better, or blasting around bends :)

[Ceri JC]

I find I get a lot less annoyed by this after seeing some knobber who was driving in a threatening manner nearly crash his car and have the bodywork damaged by a load of bricks. These people do get their commupance eventually, it's just we're often not around them when it happens.

[Steve_God]

I have odd moments when some acts a complete c**t on the road and nearly kills me... normally followed by 2/3 minutes of 'heightened awareness' riding fuelled by adrenaline and disappearing into the distance, and then back to normal :D

[philbut]

I have a short fuse on the roads but a beer when i get home always makes me feel better, or blasting around bends :)

I'll second that!:winner: