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Most of these comments are based on current feelings in a happy relationship so not the same situation; as the saying goes Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned.

I think that at the time of the break up the overriding attitude is “I will take the ******* for all he’s got” Its unfortunately human nature.

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whaaaa got a full on bite!!!!! LOL :rolleyes:

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These are the one's i feel really sorry for, the people who have done nothing wrong but because someone gets bitter they are allowed very little access to their kids and then get stiched by the CSA anyway.

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hmm very interesting.

so following on from that.

what would happen if say the mother had custody and then got re-married to someone who earnt far more than the farther and provided everything for them, then addopted the kids as his own by law. Does the bio farther have to pay the same rate still?

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Its lucky i am more thick skinned than you then! I have already explained my position and made it clear that my comment was not directed at artylady. It was in no way a personal insult/attack. TBH your comment is in distinct contrast to mine. Mine may have caused offence(but accidentally) and i immediately clarified it. Yours can only be construed as to deliberately cause offence....and that speaks volumes about you as a person.

Back on OT, with regards to maternity leave. There is the other side of the argument, in that it is unfair on the company to have to hold a job open. In the meantime, they have to relocate staff/employ a temp, which costs the business money and potentially harms operational efficiency. On top of these costs they also have to subsidise the women on leave. That could easily be contsrued as unfair. I do not make this point to be provocative, one of my dads business's has had problems because of abuse of this system.

As i also conceded in previous posts, the gate swings both ways. Although less common there are men that are operating in reverse.

IMHO having children is a choice and i believe people should be in a financially viable position before they have them. This will decrease reliance on the state/system for handouts.

At the end of the day, the parents have decided to have children, so are in no postion to complain how hard it is. They made a conscious choice and its their responsibility.

I have found the children i have looked after, to be relatively easy to deal with. Perhaps that is becuase they have had a good upbringing.

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Oh really...:confused: I didnt see any ;) 's in there

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Of course people are generalising Sam thats what most of us do. I do my fair share of housekeeping and kid caring as my wife will confirm but I take the general criticisim and jibes that most woman target at men e.g. being lazy, always on the beer and so on. It is generalising because there are more examples of it just as there are many examples of ex wives as golddiggers.

Neio - yes the CSA would chase woman in that position just as much the thing is that there aren't so many examples of that scenario and its the system they apply that is (by perception) biased. As I hinted at above my wife's ex husband hasn't paid a penny yet her case is with the CSA. She has to chase them on a monthly basis and has been doing so for 15 years!! They have so many cases that they simply go for easy wins (IMHO based on own experience). My ex-wife could afford not to work due to benefits, CSA payments and Personal maintenance. I couldn't afford to. Wife's ex gave up work and just dossed. he didn't care about looking after his kids.

Despite what I had to go through I wouldn't change anything if it mean't my kids would go hungry or badly clothed etc. The annoying thing is that I know the money didn't go to them, instead it paid the mortgage off early so she was quids in later.

To be fair the ladies who have commented on here make valid points and good for for them for taking that equality stand. :thumbsup: Just hasn't been my personal experience.

Must get back to work to earn a crust for the family before I leave for home to sort out missuses gsxr battery, check the oil and tyre pressures on her car before I prepare dinner... Oh its such a strain being a perfect male;)

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But you still havent said who is was directed at, did you omit the name of the "lazy bint" that you were referring to? IMO if it was directed at Mother's in general then that is a personal attack.

Re: Gold digging Ex-wives!!
 

Of course people are generalising Sam thats what most of us do. I do my fair share of housekeeping and kid caring as my wife will confirm but I take the general criticisim and jibes that most woman target at men e.g. being lazy, always on the beer and so on. It is generalising because there are more examples of it just as there are many examples of ex wives as golddiggers.

Neio - yes the CSA would chase woman in that position just as much the thing is that there aren't so many examples of that scenario and its the system they apply that is (by perception) biased. As I hinted at above my wife's ex husband hasn't paid a penny yet her case is with the CSA. She has to chase them on a monthly basis and has been doing so for 15 years!! They have so many cases that they simply go for easy wins (IMHO based on own experience). My ex-wife could afford not to work due to benefits, CSA payments and Personal maintenance. I couldn't afford to. Wife's ex gave up work and just dossed. he didn't care about looking after his kids.

Despite what I had to go through I wouldn't change anything if it mean't my kids would go hungry or badly clothed etc. The annoying thing is that I know the money didn't go to them, instead it paid the mortgage off early so she was quids in later.

To be fair the ladies who have commented on here make valid points and good for for them for taking that equality stand. :thumbsup: Just hasn't been my personal experience.

Must get back to work to earn a crust for the family before I leave for home to sort out missuses gsxr battery, check the oil and tyre pressures on her car before I prepare dinner... Oh its such a strain being a perfect male;)

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If the step father has adopted the children as his own, by law, then they are no longer the fathers responsibility, but you need the true fathers agreement first, unless the unfortunate has happened and is no longer with us.

If the woman remarries then i am sure he would still have to pay as the children are his and getting married to a richer man/woman, doesn't affect this.

Not sure completely but i think its like that.

As for going back to work... so because a woman is in a job and has a good career, she has to give that up if she wants kids? A completely natural thing to want especially in women my age. I understand it can be abused and i know that is the reason my boss has only just started to take on women my age again.