Re: why do women think its ok to mess blokes around?
 

my mates after a girl at the moment, stunning, good sense homour, single, u know the type, and she`s having none of it. think thats down to a bad boy ex, lies, lets her down, other women etc still texts wanting "favours" also.
my mate thought this 1 was just playing hard to get until she had a go at him, but i say this...... she earned a lot of respect by saying what she did!
get yourself 1 u respect mate, they are out there.

Re: why do women think its ok to mess blokes around?
 

Im not sure. Im a nice guy I think, and I seem to have less luck than Lyje here. Ive also been told im nice to look at ha ha.

I think you have to be a complete prik to get anywhere! :smt092

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Just read this thread.
First - I'm sorry to hear of your suffering but try to take heart knowing (as many of the thread have said) that you aren't alone in your experiances. Second - Based on your post above I think you've probably just done the best thing for yourself. I think that is a good step. There is a difference between being selfish and putting yourself first. Hopefully there will be a time when you will naturally put others before yourself (wife\kids) but until then you're no good to anyone, including yourself, if you're in a mess.
A mini comment on the friends\mates things. I read something recently that suggested women tend to make lifelong friends whereas blokes are more prone to chopping and changing according to circumstance and will often have difference friends for difference circumstances. So I'm sure that side of things will sort itself out too.
From my experiance the thing I always say in times like these is that time is the greatest healer. That said when you feel you can do try and give yourself (or get your friends) to give you a little push along. Just waiting can cause it's own pain. I'm often put in mind of the Pink Floyd Lyrics
"Ten years have got behind you,
No one told you when to run
You missed the starting gun".
Someone wrote that in my 18th birthday card and it was quite prophetic (hope that's right word) at the time. Now I'm 28 and sadly it's more true than ever for me.

To most of the people that contributed (but not those who just posted carp) - This is one of the most interesting threads I've read on the '.org and in some ways actually quite helpful.

Finally - lylej, Good Luck!

Re: why do women think its ok to mess blokes around?
 

Cheers 2mths, along with everyone else.. we had a really good talk about everything last night and came to the conclusion that we will from now on remain friends.. i have never had so much hasstle and pointless stress.. in the shortest possible time.. in my entire life, ive been hurt..(emotionaly) threatend by her ex's and friends.. been called all sorts of childish names.. which brings me to the conclusion that in future.. my cut off for any potential lady friends is 20 at the lowest.. its like i was giving her "Grade A angus steak" but she still prefered no "frills Tinned gruel" i took her out for dinner on our birthdays.. (the same day) to an amazing french resteraunt that i know.. of.. ten mins later she stated she wanted to go over to Weatherspoons and get wasted because the music was better??? WTF???... she'd rather do that.. id of rather of gone home..
but now its done, and i can learn a MASSIVE lesson and huridly move on to living again.. and cut the ties to all the people that hold me back.. other than my trip in august im seriously this close *shows hand with a half Cm gap between index and thumb ;) * to packing up the 675 and doing one in to europe and coming back when i do.. its been on my mind for so long.. maybe just for 6 months of following the sun really :) but i really need to get gone for a while and start again.. because im at a pinacle point in my life.. cross roads if you like.. with my job.. my home life.. relationship etc.. its quite exciting actually.. hope i dont take a wrong turn this time :( lol,

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Hmm, if you did follow the sun for 6 months, I gurantee you'd make a wrong turn (or 6). But that's half the point really, exploration, not only of your surroundings but of yourself.

I'd love to be able to do something like that, and I deeply regret not taking a years employment in Australia when I was offered it.

It'd be a great shame to get that 675 of yours submerged in sea water though... :lol:

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lol,... yeah maybe just following the good weather is the best i can think of lol, the sun! seems a little silly that lol,

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Follow the weather on the bike...take some time out; ride as many continental passes as you can! I'm sure there are plenty of people here who can recommend some good routes to follow. Glad to see you got rid of her mate. She sounds like too much hard work!

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for what i was getting back in return Jdubya it was far too much hard work.. is it difficult to ride round round abouts the wrong way?? lol, or even on the wrong side of the road lol???

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I've done a tiny bit of riding on the wrong side of the road (trail riding in Andorra & Spain - occasionally going on roads to get between trails) and co-driven Guildford to Denmark & back in a Transit. Based on my experiance I'd say that I'm sure you'd get used to it but that the biggest danger would be when you've been driving along and suddenly come to a situation you need to deal with and you've let your concentration lapse. Suddenly you resort to instincts, start looking the wrong way and potentially driving on the wrong side of the road. I found this especially true after a taking a break etc. One one occasion I caused a car to put some dirty great black lines down the road. I went to pull off 'left' in a hurry - quick check right, nothing coming and pulled out head on towards a car. Fortunately their reactions (rather than mine) meant no harm done.

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your young, get out and enjoy life and stop trying to find someone. it will happen when you least expect it. my new partner is my soulmate - which i realise sounds really naff but its true, didnt meet him til i was 38. luckily he is a young boy