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Tonight I am taking the wife out for dinner, I have also invited a couple we know who are in similar circumstances as the wife.
The guy I know from my local boozer where we sort of have the off pint/chat together, his wife like mine is going through cancer and both lost a brother to cancer at christmas etc. For both it will be their first proper night out since chemo. When I asked Steve, he declined on the basis that he is finding things a bit tight. I have told him that it is my treat. We are going to a reasonably posh restaurant and I think he will be concerned about the bill and want to contribute etc. Should I sneak off at the end of the meal and pay? Make a show of it being my treat and demand to pay? or simply say up front that I am pleased that they agreed to be my guests and how much we are looking forward to their company for the evening. Well off for shower/shave and will read the org advice on my return |
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dont say nothing just go toilet after meal and settle the bill, good man :)
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Hmmm tricky, but you already told the guy it is your treat. Either have a quiet word with him before the meal and re-iterate it is your treat and not to worry about it or the 'glad you agreed to be our guests for the evening' thing.
Have a great evening anyway mate. |
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If this is really a selfless act that you want the couple (especially Steve who might feel obligated to pay) to enjoy their meal out with you at your expense, then I would just gently make that clear at the start (unless you feel you've done that already) and if you excused yourself at the end & went and paid, I think that couldn't be anything other than appreciated.
Enjoy your night :thumbsup: |
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Make a joke of it, when you sit down and look at the menu say, "now remember I'm paying so you're limited to £6 each", laugh, then say "seriously remember to fill up on the bread they put out", "just incase the starter leaves you hungry when you get home".
Laugh again then ask everyone what they want, and when it comes to ordering YOU take control and order for everyone. Same with desserts, more drinks etc, and YOu are the one who actually aske for the bill. That way when the bill comes, it will automatically come to you, and nothing more would probably be said. |
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(but fish and chips to take away is not classed as posh) ;) |
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I think announcing it when the bills arrives would make the others feel uncomfortable.
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I'd have a quiet friendly word beforehand to reiterate that it is on. Make it clear from the start.
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Young Tim I am sure you will be the epitomy of generosity and diplomacy. Therefore on this occasion, staring long and hard at the bill when it arrives with startled eyes or sucking in through the teeth and shaking of the head might be best avoided. There's a good chap.;)
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As above, nip off to the toilet and pay.
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What a nice chap you are :) |
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I think personally i`d say quietly at the start of the meal to your friend that they are your guests, you invited them because they deserve a nice night out due to what they`re going thru and and as your guests you are paying the bill and thats that. Then no fuss, just slip off and pay the bill at the end of the evening.
Hope you all have a great time and i`m so sorry to hear that you are all going thru such a hard time. Best wishes to your wife and your friend for a full recovery. |
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Have you got his mobile number? Just send him a text:
Looking forward to tonight. Remember, my treat! ;-) Job done. |
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Oh yeah, have a WICKED time too! :)
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Hmmmm, a mixed bag. the slope off and discreetly settle the bill and the upfront glad you agreed to be our guests. I like the Speedy bit. you deserve a nice night out.
So I guess I will go for the combination. |
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when the doorbell rings just make sure you answer the door before he does, that way you will pay for the pizza. :D
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I am sorry to hear that your Wife is poorly, I wish her a speedy recovery. Anyway, you have probably gone out now and are having a good time as a group of friends.
There is always the great line of "You pay next time!" then should a next time come you all pay together. It is these little things that prove that members of the Org are actually really nice people. Have a great evening and may all of you find time to enjoy the company of good friends. |
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Aye, Definate case of excusing yourself and paying at the till. Have a great evening mate.
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*** I'd do the discreet upfront approach too. |
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timmmmmmmmmmmm i loves u i do's xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Tim what a guy, if I had friends like you, Id be very happy. (Even if you are grumpy at times) :D
Hope you enjoyed the evening. |
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Tim, you're an absolute star. Hope you had a cracking night :D
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come on tim what happened ............ we're all dying to know !!!! xxx
BBC giggggggggggggleswick !! |
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did you all have a good time?
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You still washing the dishes??? :smt102
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Cracking evening, bill was never the issue I thought it would be.
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Glad it went well, sounds to me like you all deserved a good night out
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Now take the org out for helping you :D |
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