Blast from the past
 

I had a facebook message 2 weeks ago from a girl who used to bully me in primary school. She basically said that she heard that I had a bad time in school and she apologises for what she did. But she put it down to the fact that we were young and stupid and didn't know what she was doing.

Ive been agonising over whether to reply or not. Part of me thought "she doesnt even deserve a reply" whereas the other part thought "if I don't reply she will feel like she has done the right thing & therefore has the upper hand so to speak". Although life is too short to hold grudges, I feel pretty bitter about it. My experience of primary school really was pure hell and there were moments where I wished I didn't have to wake up. Its certainly shaped who I am now - Im not as confident or sure of myself as I should be.

Anyway, I replied a moment ago saying:

I originally deleted your message because I thought it didn't deserve a reply. I've changed my mind and my response is as follows:

I do NOT accept your apology. The fact that you were "young and stupid" (as you so eloquently put it) is no excuse. You still knew wrong from right - all children do. Whats' happened has happened and you will have to live with the guilt and regret that your actions made my life a living hell. I'm a better, stronger and highly successful woman now and have only one thing to ask of you: DON'T contact me again.

No ideas if those words were right but I feel that something has been lifted. I feel like I've finally managed to speak up (in a weird way) and have the last say and upper hand.

I hope none of the others contact me, Im not quite sure if I could handle all that in one go.

Sorry, I just wanted to blabber a bit. Hope you dont mind.

Maria

Re: Blast from the past
 

Wow, powerful stuff. I think it tells though, the bully ended up on a mental health scheme going through her life apologising to people, and you've got on with it... and you're a biker chick!

Re: Blast from the past
 

You go girl!

Re: Blast from the past
 

That was well deserved! I bet it made you feel loads better?

Re: Blast from the past
 

Wonder how she'll take it.

Re: Blast from the past
 

You've just opened the door to tons of abuse now. Personally, I'd have just left it.

Then again, I didn't have to go through what you did.

Re: Blast from the past
 

I like your reply :grouphug:

Re: Blast from the past
 

No I don't think so - at least you would know that the original apology was not genuine.
Anyway, can't you block on facebook?

Re: Blast from the past
 

after having eight bells of **** kicked out of me regurlarly at primary school by group's of up to 10 little ****'s and a headteacher that ignored it due to them all being in the a team football squad i completely understand that reply and agree with it i could'nt forgive em.

Re: Blast from the past
 

If she does send any abuse you could give us her name and we could all send her abuse. That'd be unpleasant, getting abuse from hundreds of strangers up and down the country.