Feeling upset today
 

Many will know that I work in Liverpool one or two days a week. One of my co-workers there, who I can't name, has been off sick - had an op to remove a lump from his arm. I found out today that it's confirmed as the big C, a grade 4. The surgeons removed two lymph nodes from his armpit as well, as they found lumps there too. He's waiting for the biopsy result, it takes 3 weeks:o

This bloke is a typical Scouser, in fact at times I find it hard to understand him. Such a nice bloke, salt of the earth, hardworking, two young (well, 10 and 12) kids. And, he's all of 48 - same age as me. I can't help but think about him, he doesn't deserve this.

Life's a bitch and then you die.

Sorry to be maudlin but I have to vent:(

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:smt056Sorry to hear this Ed, but cancer isn't the death sentence it used to be.
Modern chemo and radiotherapy gives us hope that people get well and go on to live a full and healthy life into old age. Try to hold on to the positive.
Take care Dx

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Chin up Ed. My brother in law was diagnosed last year, his was also in his lymph nodes and we were really expecting the worse. But he's getting there, it hasn't been easy (his boys are 16 and 14) but he's so positive about it and is feeling much better.
So, keep positive especially if you see him.

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its not the death sentence it used to be Ed - having a postive attitude helped wonders. Mum refused to let it beat her - her inital diagnosis was lucky if she got 5 years left. All the nurses say PMA is the way to go and its a long hard road to get there but its attainable

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Feeling your pain Ed. My gran has terminal secondary cancer in her brain, she's only 66 and probably only has weeks left. It's such a blow when you hear about someone you lovec being diagnosed, but like the others have said, wait and see, a helluva lot more people survive these days

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yep just grin and bare it unfortunatly. It's not nice, happened to my gf's mum only 46 but at the end of the day it's older than some other people.

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I can thoroughly understand the feelings and thoughts of those with cancer and bigg diesease like this. I almost understand what the loved ones go through too.
I had a biospy last month for a 9mm lump in one of my breasts. It was the most horrid thing i've been through. Although its just a fibrous adenoma, I paced the floor for days, waiting for the results, and then they didn't get enough sample, the scare alone has made me feel different. I was given the choice of an op to remove or go back in 6 months. I'm going back at a later date to have it removed, but theres always that thing ticking at the back of my mind.


The one thing you can do for your mate is be normal. The guy must be one scared fella. I've found imediate friends who love you are friends indeed, even org members who you don't see much of. It feels a relief just to sit an chat and joke, it brightens your day.

Go brighten his day Ed. :-)

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I have lost both my parents to lung cancer, my dad was 52, i truly believe he probably would have life prolonged had it been now and not in 1978 when i was 7 years old.
Mom was 65.
Just to add, dont smoke, it kills, no it really does.

Edit, sorry point was, medical advances in cancer have come on in leaps and bounds so all is not lost.

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Sorry to hear about this Ed. My sympathies go to the fella concerned & to his family, I wish him a good recovery.

Not wanting to wish your colleague an early grave, but this reminds me of the first funeral I went to. I was about 12 & it was for a mates dad who died of a heart attack at 42. He didnt drink or smoke & lead a healthy outdoor life. He left a wife and 3 sons.

It was one of those occasions that stays with you. Even though he wasnt a relative, that funeral probably had more of an impact on me than any other Ive been to.

Dont know about the rest of you, but I need little reminders like this. Lifes far too short, make the most...

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+1 never a truer word.
Hence learning to ride last year :D