What is your philosophy in life?
 

A bit of a heavy one for Friday morning but I'm really struggling this week.

I'm almost 30 and after a 6,5 year serious relationship, which I decided to end for various reasons, and following my diagnosis of Clinical depression in September, I'm struggling to live my life.

I know that depression is playing its bit in all these but I'm finding it hard to be on my own at home or have infront of me the prospect of a weekend with not much socialising due to people being away.

I broke up with the gf at the beginning of Jan and now end of Feb, almost 2 months after, I wake up in the morning on my own, I go to bed on my own and this is really bothering me. At the same time I'm not in a position to have a relationship yet.

So how do you deal with similar issues? And No drink is not an option :)

How have you come to be in peace with yourself without feeling lonely and sad?

In general how difficult has it been to change your philosophy in life and actually apply it with success?

Looking for some hope here really.....so thanks for any input :)

Re: What is your philosophy in life?
 

Don't worry!

I know that sounds easy to say but think about it logically... how does driving oneself mad with worry actually change anything? Imagine being diagnosed with a terminal illness (just an example). You could worry that you are going to die and make yourself miserable. Doesn't change anything though does it. You're not going to live any longer because you worried about it. It's just a waste of energy that could be put to better use.

I realise it might sound a little cold but it's my philosophy and it's worked for me so far.

Re: What is your philosophy in life?
 

coke & ******?

seriously though I really hope you begin to feel better soon.

Re: What is your philosophy in life?
 

I take each day as it comes... the Don't worry philosophy works very well too.

What is making you depressed, not having things? not feeling succesful?

I've been there and it's horrible, I know a few other on here have been too.

If I am in that situation again at any point then I will travel. I'll sell everything I have, buy some walking boots and a backpack and head east, australia, thailand. Working only to earn enough money to move on until I find myself.

Life is to short, i recommend doing the above, you will meet so many people and experience so much that everything else will pale into insignificance.

Re: What is your philosophy in life?
 

Something I have talked with the wife about a few times.

simple identification of issues into significant/insignificant. Does it matter?

Then forget the insignificant. In her case it is usually what will others think. Screw them, it is what do you think. Of course what those close to you think do is in the significant category.

I am an old fashioned sort of person and have to admit I do not understand anything bordering on mental illness. I would therefore work on the principle that you need a stimulation in your life, whether that be work/hobby/family, we all work it out somehow. Give yourself the proverbial slap across the chops, smile and get yourself a life. Harsh I know. But well intentioned. Today is the start of the rest of your life, so start enjoying what you have left.

Re: What is your philosophy in life?
 

Have a goal and concentrate on doing that. I went without a relationship for a very long time and just focused on what I wanted out of life. Now at 41 years of age, I have only one real goal in life.
You should look towards the future as an unwritten book for which you are the writer. There are pages that are happy, sad, anger and excitement. It can be written beautifully by you if you allow yourself to look forward with hope and optimism.

Wish you well.

Ste.

Re: What is your philosophy in life?
 

Its nice to be nice and don't dish out what you can't take,plus never ask anybody to do something you would not do yourself

Re: What is your philosophy in life?
 

At the moment a few things make me depressed.

My life seems meaningless as previously most of my efforts were put in the relationship, making that work and start a family. All that is now off the books obviously.

Since family is not here with me but in Greece I cannot focus on that either.

Only thing to focus on is work and although last week I was flying with joy cause it was full of meetings , this week is quiet and that doesn't help.

I am feeling low because I am on my own now, I have lost the affection in my life that I had almost on a daily basis. In other words I have lost something I was relying on.....which I know is not the right thing to say or do. I need to be able to stand on my own two feet.

The don't worry option is something I apply where and when I can but because I am a worrier it is hard. I am trying though!

Re: What is your philosophy in life?
 

Here's one huge positive for you, and you might not be able to see it.

You're only 30. God do I wish I was only 30, with the physical strength and fitness that goes with it. I would love to be able to still be playing footie and rugby.

At 31, 1989, and 11 yrs into a marriage that appeared to be drifting my then wife and I went our seperate ways. The first few months were fantastic - peace and quiet. But at the end of the rugby season it was too quiet - like way way too quiet. So what next?

I got the trainers on and went running - not quite Forrest Gump but I did rack up the miles. And when Sept came round I enroled in night school and got more qualifications but more importantly I got a whole load of new friends that didn't disappear at the end of term.

Within a couple of years I had more quals, a better job, more friends and still had the rugby.

The transistional period wasn't fun but getting off my @rse iand diving into classes achieved far more than I'd hoped for. And in the quiet times I picked up a book and studied.

HTH

Good luck

Re: What is your philosophy in life?
 

Go back packing... then realise how much everything really matters, which is not a lot.