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Originally Posted by missyorkie_chris
Hmm not sure I agree with that post Steve, I would think a little more carefully about my choice of words. I have a gay friend who finds "dyke" a most derogatory term, so I cringe a little when I read it, I do hope Jayne didn't feel worse on reading it.
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Thank you for your kind words Miss YC, I appreciate your concern and like you I find the use of some words in some circumstances to be offensive. On this occasion, I know that Steve would have no intention of causing any offence to me because he has always been kind and well meaning in our chats.
As an active member of Pride, I actually find the use of the word Gay to mean worthless, rubbish or bad to be highly offensive. This use comes from the direct use of comparing homosexuality as abhorrent or wrong with something bad. Where I work I do pick up the guys who refer to things things as Gay. For example, one lad told me that heavy rain when he had to go home was "totally Ghey". He said the spelling made it OK because it was a different word. I leave that one open to debate.
As a lesbian woman I am quite hardy, but I should point out that I lost a job about two years ago due to homophobic bullying at work. There is a time when it is awful and there is a time when I know that the exact opposite is meant. I guess for parity we should stop using some words so that we can remain politically correct, but the word Dyke has differing meanings in the community. I am quite butch, do not wear a lot of make up, ride motorcycles that I fix myself and I can use power tools. As such and in a jokey way with in the Lesbian community I can be referred to as a dyke.
I know that Lozzo started to refer to me as a Dirty Lezza a while ago which I found greatly amusing, in this place where I consider you all to be friends, I feel safe to a certain degree.
Thank you for taking the time to care Miss YC, it does mean a lot.
