[dizzyblonde]

I think you miss my point BFM. To have surgery to give your child chance of survival, is a form of 'perfecting' to me. In days gone by people were left to hope for the best, technology today gives couples 'hope', and a diffcult decision to make. I'm not sure what I would do in the situation. Being given the choice of emergency C section or Oli would possibly die, was flippin gut wrenching.

They had a whole load of luck, and someone was watching over them.

It was taken during an operation in America recently. It is a medical development in the control of the effects of spina bifida

It shows a 21-week-old fetus in its mother's womb, about to undergo a spine operation designed to save it from serious brain damage.
At that age the mother could have chosen to have the fetus aborted. Her decision not to, however, led to an astonishing test not just of medical technology, but of faith.

Samuel Armas has spina bifida, which left part of his spinal cord exposed after the backbone failed to develop.
The operation was designed to close the gap and protect the cord, the body's motorway for nerve signals to the brain.
Julie and Alex Armas had been trying desperately for a baby. Julie, a 27-year-old nurse, had suffered two miscarriages before she became pregnant with the child they intended to call Samuel Alexander if it was a boy.
Then, at 14 weeks, she started to suffer terrible cramp. An ultrasound scan was carried out to show the shape of the developing fetus and its position in the womb.

When the picture emerged, it was the moment that every parent-to-be dreads. Their unborn son's brain was mis-shapen and his spinal cord was sticking out from a deformed backbone. He had spina bifida. They were devastated and ``torn apart''

That didn't mean, of course, that they were not racked by pain at the thought that the child they had longed for was imperfect.
It also riddled them with guilt over whether they had effectively taken the decision to inflict their son with years of handicap, pain and suffering.