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08-02-05, 07:21 PM

well, finally got around to telling the GF that i was going to do mt full test in march and buy a bike....
didnt go down to well... she cried and said amongst other things.. blah blah "unsafe, you'll kill yourself....blah blah, "selfish"..... "if she'd known i was going to be a biker she wouldnt be going out with" (charming as we due to get married in a few months time.

anyway, the compromise we sort of ended up with was me buying a bike with same size engine as my scooter

so currently umming and agghhing about buying an Aprilia RS 125... anyone got any experience of the these? will it blow up after a week. i do about 200 - 250 miles a week

other than that, im single again and can get an SV.. any single girls out there? and then i can weigh up my options

finally do i just re-do my CBT, which runs out soon or go for full test (might as well do resticted).

bugger bugger bugger

karl

08-02-05, 07:29 PM

If you want the honest opinion of somebody who had many arguments with their long term girlfriend over getting a big bike, then get the SV.
Explain to her indoors that she needs to trust you and to let you do what you enjoy.
I had the whole "If I knew you were going to be a biker" nonsense and didn't listen to that one, I just explained to her everything about what I was doing and why and told her all about how bigger bikes are different to smaller ones and so on.

So, if you actually read that, you'll now be thinking "What if she dumps me when I buy the bike" well, do you really want to marry somebody who won't let you ride? It's all well and good her being worried about you, but you sometimes have to do what you feel you want to do.

On the RS125, I haven't ridden or owned one, but I know of them by reputation, and I doubt it would last long doing that kind of mileage.

What about a compromise, get a restricted license and do 2 years on a restricted SV.

08-02-05, 07:32 PM

Hi, Sod that show her whos boss

Does your GF know abouts bikes? If shes doesnt then why not shuv a nice 125 badge down the side then she will think its a 125

I wont be held responsible oh if she found out

Big Bad Al · 08-02-05, 07:32 PM

I personally think the SV is safer. Better brakes, bigger wheels. Play up the positive aspects and tell her you will be careful.

Good luck!

08-02-05, 07:35 PM

i tried all the bigger brakes, wider tyres... they're safer line.
all i got back was " they're dangerous, im not interested in facts and figures"

could be tempted with an Sv with a 125 badge... not sure if she'll fall for that though. what am i talking about, of course she will.... she's a girl

k

08-02-05, 07:49 PM

My fella isn't a biker, he jokingly considers bikes to be broken cars... two wheels are missing y'see!

He;s very understnading about the whole thing though, even with the prospect of me doing trackdays this year... it's a part of who I am and that is who he is with.

OK, so she may not really understnad bikes and will switch off when you start to explain that larger bikes are generally safer than smaller ones, better brakes etc, the power to get out of a situation someone else creates on a road... blah blah blah is what she's going to hear.
That and think you're just saying it to get your way.

I'd take the tack and have a heartfelt discussion about your life together, your personalities and the nature of your relationship rather than mentioning a bike at all.
If a bike is going to split you up - it's only because you can be split up.

You live your life with someone (if you're lucky), not for them.

08-02-05, 07:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by K

If a bike is going to split you up - it's only because you can be split up.

You live your life with someone (if you're lucky), not for them.

This is more or less what I was trying to say.

I once used a chicken burger as an example (don't ask) when I was having that discussion with the gf at the time. The chicken burger got squashed.

Big Bad Al · 08-02-05, 08:07 PM

Tough one dude. I started riding at aged 35 and had to face my parents! Biking was always a taboo cos my uncle died on the back of one. Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. The fact that I bike everywhere now helps my folks cos I'm always running errands for them, picking up prescriptions and rushing round in an emergency because they are pretty much housebound. I also get home from work in 1/2 hour instead of 2 hours so the benefits are there. Hard decision, but if you don't go with your own decision you will always be thinkng about it...

08-02-05, 08:09 PM

Seems sad that she is making you choose between something you really want and her. Its easy for us to tell you to get the bike, its entirely down to you.

On the other hand, what would happen if you just turned up on an SV?

I haven't actually told my parents that I might like bikes a little. I mentioned that I went to a bike show and that was enough for my Mum and Dad to hit the roof. This is despite the fact I left home ten years ago. If they really irritate me I might just turn on on the SV and watch their reactions

Might be worth getting the popcorn in for that one.

08-02-05, 08:13 PM

well my plan with the Rs would be to do another 2yrs proving im not an idiot and then onto a bigger bike... but i suppose its juts prolonging the inevitable..

so, either i face the music now or put it off for 2 yrs.

havent even got around to telling the parents yet.!!

my dad used to fall off his quite regularly....pins in his legs etc.... and theres a great family story of my mam trying to jump start his bike by towing it behind the car, she was still learning to drive, pulled away to quickly and pulled the bike from under him and then dragged it for half a mile before she checked her mirrors.... anyway, thats another story.

08-02-05, 07:21 PM	#1
kjames Guest Posts: n/a	tears and everything well, finally got around to telling the GF that i was going to do mt full test in march and buy a bike.... didnt go down to well... she cried and said amongst other things.. blah blah "unsafe, you'll kill yourself....blah blah, "selfish"..... "if she'd known i was going to be a biker she wouldnt be going out with" (charming as we due to get married in a few months time. anyway, the compromise we sort of ended up with was me buying a bike with same size engine as my scooter so currently umming and agghhing about buying an Aprilia RS 125... anyone got any experience of the these? will it blow up after a week. i do about 200 - 250 miles a week other than that, im single again and can get an SV.. any single girls out there? and then i can weigh up my options finally do i just re-do my CBT, which runs out soon or go for full test (might as well do resticted). bugger bugger bugger karl

08-02-05, 07:32 PM	#4
Big Bad Al Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: West London Posts: 188	I personally think the SV is safer. Better brakes, bigger wheels. Play up the positive aspects and tell her you will be careful. Good luck! __________________ SFV650 in black with Evotech tailtidy, R&G Aeros and Heated Grips, Puig fly screen, Pipe Werx GP style race exhaust. Whoop! Previously.... Black SVS - DHM's Heated Grips Airblade Iridium Double Bubble Screen Beowulf end can and Evotech tailtidy. 3/7/2004 - 26/6/2015.

08-02-05, 08:07 PM	#8
Big Bad Al Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: West London Posts: 188	Tough one dude. I started riding at aged 35 and had to face my parents! Biking was always a taboo cos my uncle died on the back of one. Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. The fact that I bike everywhere now helps my folks cos I'm always running errands for them, picking up prescriptions and rushing round in an emergency because they are pretty much housebound. I also get home from work in 1/2 hour instead of 2 hours so the benefits are there. Hard decision, but if you don't go with your own decision you will always be thinkng about it... __________________ SFV650 in black with Evotech tailtidy, R&G Aeros and Heated Grips, Puig fly screen, Pipe Werx GP style race exhaust. Whoop! Previously.... Black SVS - DHM's Heated Grips Airblade Iridium Double Bubble Screen Beowulf end can and Evotech tailtidy. 3/7/2004 - 26/6/2015.

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08-02-05, 07:32 PM	#3
Rodger Wabbit Guest Posts: n/a	Hi, Sod that show her whos boss Does your GF know abouts bikes? If shes doesnt then why not shuv a nice 125 badge down the side then she will think its a 125 I wont be held responsible oh if she found out

08-02-05, 07:35 PM	#5
kjames Guest Posts: n/a	i tried all the bigger brakes, wider tyres... they're safer line. all i got back was " they're dangerous, im not interested in facts and figures" could be tempted with an Sv with a 125 badge... not sure if she'll fall for that though. what am i talking about, of course she will.... she's a girl k

08-02-05, 07:49 PM	#6
K Guest Posts: n/a	My fella isn't a biker, he jokingly considers bikes to be broken cars... two wheels are missing y'see! He;s very understnading about the whole thing though, even with the prospect of me doing trackdays this year... it's a part of who I am and that is who he is with. OK, so she may not really understnad bikes and will switch off when you start to explain that larger bikes are generally safer than smaller ones, better brakes etc, the power to get out of a situation someone else creates on a road... blah blah blah is what she's going to hear. That and think you're just saying it to get your way. I'd take the tack and have a heartfelt discussion about your life together, your personalities and the nature of your relationship rather than mentioning a bike at all. If a bike is going to split you up - it's only because you can be split up. You live your life with someone (if you're lucky), not for them.

08-02-05, 08:09 PM	#9
Kate Guest Posts: n/a	Seems sad that she is making you choose between something you really want and her. Its easy for us to tell you to get the bike, its entirely down to you. On the other hand, what would happen if you just turned up on an SV? I haven't actually told my parents that I might like bikes a little. I mentioned that I went to a bike show and that was enough for my Mum and Dad to hit the roof. This is despite the fact I left home ten years ago. If they really irritate me I might just turn on on the SV and watch their reactions Might be worth getting the popcorn in for that one.

08-02-05, 08:13 PM	#10
kjames Guest Posts: n/a	well my plan with the Rs would be to do another 2yrs proving im not an idiot and then onto a bigger bike... but i suppose its juts prolonging the inevitable.. so, either i face the music now or put it off for 2 yrs. havent even got around to telling the parents yet.!! my dad used to fall off his quite regularly....pins in his legs etc.... and theres a great family story of my mam trying to jump start his bike by towing it behind the car, she was still learning to drive, pulled away to quickly and pulled the bike from under him and then dragged it for half a mile before she checked her mirrors.... anyway, thats another story.