Not being liked :\

I don't even know why im posting this here probably because im a bit on the drunk side.....But i just feel a little bit worthless at the moment must just be something wrong with me....eventually i tell most people i "liked" that i liked them but I get the same response "no your just not my type" :\ wouldnt be that ba if it was just some people or most people but its every one and I'm not the kind of person that goes on what people look like because to be honest i don't really care i know im hardly a looker i like people for people. being a fair while since any ones liked me today i told some one else that i liked them and asked if there was any chance that she would have ever liked me as more than just a friend and i just got this back

- ***************** says:
i dontt think sooo sorryyyy mostly do with the fact that your my exs mate



Something tells me its not to do with the fact im her exs mate :\......dont fancy being me at the moment really

chin up mate you will get some one

if not paulthe6th likes a bit of ruff with the boys (acording to his food thread)

[Bibio]

chin up m8, look at me short fat and ugly, but i managed to pull a cracker, got married and have 2 kids and been together for 18 years.

my cousin is the same but he has a squeaky lisp'y voice and his wife is an absolute stunner.

dont let it get to you. if you look hard enough you will find the right person. so get out there and get on the pull.

[BanannaMan]

Originally Posted by BanditPat

Something tells me its not to do with the fact im her exs mate

Are you joking???
Unless you're you're extremely rich or good looking, the fact that you're mates with her ex will deffinately do you in everytime. Unless she's after revenge. (in which case you'll not likely be mates with her ex for long)

My advice:

1. Do what you can to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex.
2. Get out and meet some new people.


Possibly time for a good look in the mirror.
If there's no lass no where that'll go out with you.... maybe it's time to take a look at yourself and what you are doing and ask yourself what's wrong here.
What is it that you're doing that women don't like or are just not attracted too?
Physical looks don't matter that much, physical appearance however does.
Got to be clean, neatly groomed and all that.
If you're a nice, funny, like to laugh and have a good time and can carry on a conversation that isn't totally boring to everyone else.... there's a girl out there somewhere for you.

If you're expecting women you've already known for years that have never been attracted to you to suddenly take interest.....that's not likely to happen either. Get out there and meet some new people!



Can be discouraging at times but women are not attracted to self pity. So best to enjoy a night of drinking, then get over that ASAP and get working on whatever it takes to spark the interest of some suitable lass.
Just don't forget to be yourself! Only happier!

HTH

[tonyk]

Ask her if she knows anyone who would like to go out with you...
she wont, but one of her friends might...

[SoulKiss]

Paradoxically, stop looking and get the big stick ready...

Last 3 relationships all just fell in my lap at times I wasn't really looking for one, in fact one at a point when I really didn't want anyone but it worked out well in the end.

As for people not liking you, well as long as you are being yourself, then thats THEIR problem, not yours.

I know two people who are so butt ugly that I thought no way will they ever get a girlfriend, how wrong I was.
My advice to them was simple....Stop looking and get yourself sorted out with decent clothing and groom yourself. Bingo both of them are in steady relationships.
Women can sense desperation, so it is better if you don't bother looking and get comfortable with yourself.
When you go out for the evening, go out to enjoy yourself, nothing more. When you meet someone for the first time, be yourself and don't try to impress her.
You will find someone, when you least expect it.
Good luck and I hope things work out for you.

Ste.

[Old Git]

Posted by SoulKiss
'As for people not liking you, well as long as you are being yourself, then thats THEIR problem, not yours.'

That is the best most 'real' thing I have heard, wish I had thought of it first.

+1

Originally Posted by slark01

My advice to them was simple....Stop looking and get yourself sorted .........

Women can sense desperation, so it is better if you don't bother looking and get comfortable with yourself.

Yup.... very sound advice.

There is someone for everyone.

[fizzwheel]

Originally Posted by slark01

Women can sense desperation, so it is better if you don't bother looking and get comfortable with yourself.

When you go out for the evening, go out to enjoy yourself, nothing more. When you meet someone for the first time, be yourself and don't try to impress her.

Agreed. But I'd also add. Dont play the "friend" card. I.e. dont try and be their friend as if you end up their friend thats all you'll ever be.

If you like them and they like you, you'll soon both know that you feel like that about each other and job jobbed.