single parents dont always get a cushy life

[widepants]

I cant go into the back ground too much because of legal reasons but suffice to say that my too young children now live with me after the social took them from their mother.
My son is 10 and disabled my daughter 5 .I have had to pack in work to look after them.
Right then ....what do I do now I thought .Claim income support , ok.
claim child benefit , ok
carers allowance , ok
housing benefit , ok
council tax benefit , ok
child tax benefit , ok.
Disability living allowance( for my son) , ok (DLA)


cant get DLA untill I get child benefit
child benfit can take 4 months because ex is still getting it
cant get carers allowance because ex is getting it (couldnt find her claim because under her partners name) Got to go on JSA ( but I cant work because Im a carer)
Cant get income support untill get carers allowance.
cant get housing benefit or council tax benefit untill I get income support .
cant get child tax because of all the above .
So 2 months down the line I have been told to go on job seekers allowance (even though I shouldnt be on it) so that at least I can get some £ coming in .


All I m trying to do is whats best for my kids .



I admit that I have always been one of the first to point at single parents , but jeez its not always a case of having babies to get homes.
Thank god for my daughters school and charities helping us out .
We give too much money to other countries while our own kids do with out

Having read some of your previous posts, I have nothing but the utmost respect for you and how you are trying to look after your little 'uns. I can only say best of luck sorting this out (I wish it didn't require luck either).

[widepants]

Sometimes I come on here and mess about , but it is usually to try and forget for half an hour the other kak that is going on.
Gid

Sorry for this slight derail, but how is the child benefit in her partner's name, useless beureaucrats can't tell their ar$eholes from their elbows.

[widepants]

The partner she is with is out of work , so their clam is in his name .The ex claims the carers allowance for looking after my son (eventhough son is with me) The carers allowance is part of his claim because it effects his benefits

[Wideboy]

It's because you have worked, trying to claim any sort of benefit is near impossible when you've actually paid in!

When I was laid off a few years back I tried to claim job seakers and gave up. I was treated and spoken to like a piece of shehight at the job centre when all the regular gyro bums were chummy and having a lark with the staff. Ended up finding my own job and getting nothing.

Im sure you'll understand the following Gid considering previous posts by us both I hope this is understood as intended. The problem you're having over that all the cushy ones dont is because you're doing it the right way, the ones who we see in the paper are ones doing x x and x in order to claim more than they're rightfully entitled to they're the ones with a cushy set up. You're struggling because you're been honourable, not that getting a bit underhand doesn't have its place mind you

You're doing the right thing for your kids and I cant respect that enough, if anything in this state is fair then you should soon be able to receive enough to care for your kids in a way that they deserve. Ok it may not mean they get a PS6 for Christmas in a few years but at least they'll be able to wear a uniform and attend school whilst eating healthy.

[Bibio]

get yerself down to citizens advice bureau. one word from them and the social start to poo themselves. also get in contact with the social work department that is dealing with your case and tell them what the social are doing to you.

i feel your pain m8 as they done the exact same thing to me when the wife fell ill. i have only got it all sorted 2 years ago as they failed to tell me what i was entitled to with regards of carers allowance and left me claiming income support for 3 years, good news is i got a whacking great big fat check of them for back dated payments

[dizzyblonde]

Was just going to say, have a word with the social workers. Surely though, now you have full custody of your children, their mother, and in particular her partner, are now claiming benefits under false pretenses, as they are no longer the childrens guardians?

[Drew Carey]

Mate, feel for you and wish I could give advice but suffice to say not something I have experience of. However, what I can say is that I know you will always do right by your kids and as I mentioned a long time ago......was inevitable that one day she would lose them or leave you to pick up the pieces.

The most sound advice I can think of from above is CAB & Social Worker. Must be someone who can pull the strings.....maybe even go to your local MP's drop in etc?

Hope you get it sorted.......its people like you that I have no issues paying taxes etc to support as I know you can do nothing else, especially with your young lads disability.

Thoughts with you and hope its sorted soon.