Does your Mum know?

ah makes sence if you wenrt very near them,
just out of intrest did this not raise questions from your daughters about meeting them when they hit the teens,

im 21 and i know i would of asked questions, but my housemate, has not seen his grand parents ever, his whole life, and has no intrest of meeting them due to there dad falling out with the parents,

Originally Posted by james160987

im 21 and i know i would of asked questions, but my housemate, has not seen his grand parents ever, his whole life, and has no intrest of meeting them due to there dad falling out with the parents,

I haven't spoken to a few of my family for a fair number of years because my folks don't get on well with them, some I've never met. I have no wish to chase them up, know it would upset me mam and I know where my loyalties lie. Some people have unbounded curiosity about these things, others couldn't care less and are happy with what they've got. Oh and I'm 20

It's just my eldest daughter, the younger three kids are my inherited almost-step-kids and have been accepted into my family as mine by everyone. My eldest was told from an early age that she had other grand parents on my side and that I wasn't close to them, which was and still is true. Because she's managed to live her whole life without knowing them as family she's happy to carry on like that. My parents live 6 miles from me, I see them maybe 3 times a year. When I lived 120 miles away I probably saw them more often.

Originally Posted by missyorkie_chris

I haven't spoken to a few of my family for a fair number of years because my folks don't get on well with them, some I've never met. I have no wish to chase them up, know it would upset me mam and I know where my loyalties lie. Some people have unbounded curiosity about these things, others couldn't care less and are happy with what they've got. Oh and I'm 20

See, this is something I can't understand.

My ma and her sister fell out and didn't speak for decades, but I don't have any quarrel with my aunty so I carried on as I had before. My ma's quarrel with her sis is their business, and the rest of the family shouldn't be affected by it or be dragged into backing one side or the other. My aunty is mother to three of my cousins, there's no way I was going to stop contact with them purely because my ma and her sis had a gurlie argument.

I've held the same position with two of my sisters. They don't speak to each other but both speak to the other one, I speak to them all. Two of them have asked me to send messages to the other, but I tell them to grow up and do it themselves. I refuse to fall out and not speak to any of my family purely because someone else has a stupid falling out with another.

back on topic, my mum didnt mind me getting a moped, but when my dad took me to go get the 125, 200 mile trip, and came back with it, her jaw hung open and said "i thought it was anothe rmoped you were getting,"

then the 650 came along,

she dont mind now though, she normally heres me coming when i go visit and stands outsides and waits

[pookie]

I didnt tell my mum when I got my first bicycle..guess she didnt mind too much when I got my license and got my first bike. My parents never saw me ride until i rode up on my blue sv and flipped the lid. Gob smacked but fairplay to them they didnt give me a grilling.

I told my mum I wanted to buy a bike; she dragged me out that day to sign as the guarantor to a brand new SV!! I was wanting to rebel, the silly b*tch