Devastating news for me..

Originally Posted by shonadoll

People deal with grief differently - anger is actually quite a common feeling for those left behind after suicide.

I feel for you, that's so sad.

+1 No-one knows how they are going to feel or react when met with such news especially of those close to you no matter how long you haven't seen them for...

Originally Posted by Sean_C

Indeed, I apologise if I came across as rude- I know what you're feeling, just maybe expressed it differently.

mate, no worries.. i didn't give you the circumstance of why the anger so no worries like..

The thing that helped me best was finding somebody to talk to.. Took a while to find the "right" person, but as soon as I did, I found it a lot easier.

[timwilky]

I had a friend do it. He was a doctor and took 10 times the lethal dose. So no cry for help he knew what he was doing. He had suffered depression since undergoing drug trials as a medical student and blamed the trial for messing with his head.

Dealing with it was hard work. His mother found him. Dad was an ex senior detective who took the facts in his stride and was battered emotionally. His brother is my best mate. He phoned me to say "Daft ******* has topped himself". I went straight round to his place and they had not got round to removing the body.

His brother and I had to clear out his place. Deciding what to keep for his parents/friends etc. What to throw out. There were over 300 empty wine bottles in his loft. He would lie in bed, drink a bottle and throw the empty through the hatch. So nobody actually saw how much he was drinking.

You hear crap, cowards way out etc. To my way of thinking it takes some guts and determination to do it. Then again my brain wasn't wired the same way as Kevs. His family are still shaken by it nearly 10 years afterwards

[Biker Biggles]

Had a mate from work do it some years ago and I felt angry too.Other workmates including his closest mate felt very much the same,so its quite normal to feel that.
It was totally unexpected with this bloke as well.Time moves on and you deal with it.

five years on from my cousin's suicide and I'm still angry when I think about it with anything more than a passing thought. I feel like I've been kicked in the face a thousand times by him, like all the things we did together meant nothing. I'm sure if he knew how many people gave a damn about him, he wouldn't have done it. For me, my cousin's suicide was a spur-of-the-moment outburst of anger directed inwards toward himself, his life. And I know it was, becuse he did it after an argument with him mum...after making a phone call to my nan telling her he was coming up to see her, so he had plans and stuff.

How can you not be angry with that? If he sat down for 5 minutes and took some deep breaths or went for a run or something, he might be here, still being my best mate, still being everyone's best mate.

I'll concede. I just know that I can't be angry at my mum, cos I know why, not in exact details but I know enough not to want to know any more.

Originally Posted by Sean_C

I'll concede. I just know that I can't be angry at my mum, cos I know why, not in exact details but I know enough not to want to know any more.

Hey dude, everyone feels differantly about stuff. I'm angry because I don;t know, you know enough so maybe that can settle you a bit. Lissa isn't angry either...don;t concede or anything, because thre's nothing to concede...everyone deals with stuff in their own way