Negative or Positive ?

I can be summed up by Garbage's lyrics


Im only happy when it rains
Im only happy when its complicated
And though I know you cant appreciate it
Im only happy when it rains
You know I love it when the news is bad
Why it feels so good to feel so sad
I'm only happy when it rains

Negative, always trying to make things positive and never get anywhere. Seem to fark myself over though to make things negative.

Originally Posted by Venom

I can be summed up by Garbage's lyrics


Im only happy when it rains
Im only happy when its complicated
And though I know you cant appreciate it
Im only happy when it rains
You know I love it when the news is bad
Why it feels so good to feel so sad
I'm only happy when it rains

your right that is you

[Wideboy]

like to be positive not dwell on what could of happened ect, hate when people around me are upset, usually beat myself up when things do go wrong

Originally Posted by fizzwheel

Are you a negative or a positive person ?

I've been on a high now for quite some time - circa October 2007 when I realised that the biggest cause of grief in my life was the workplace. It wasn't necessarily the type of job but the boss's attitude. I made a clean break. And since then I've been doing pretty freaking good.

It put everything into perspective - maker of my own destiny etc

If I'd still been in that job, I'd be moaning about it, I would be dreading the Monday mornings & I would have little self confidence/esteem.

You're the only one that has the ultimate say in your life. You're the only one that can fix it. So your state of mind is entirely in your own hands.

[anna]

I´m generally a positive person, I can make the most out of a lot of situations. Other people who surround you though do have a direct influence on how your state of mind is. It can be very difficult to stay positive if others around you aren´t.

I dont know what the solution is to your current dilema Fizz, perhaps take a break yourself to put things back in align with your own thinking. The other person clearly has no idea that his own attitude is bringing others around him down, and is most likely why he is having such a rubbish time of things.

[ophic]

I wouldn't consider myself negative but others might. Some perceive that going into a situation fore-armed with all the information you can possibly get, is negative. Likewise, people who continuously attempt the impossible can be considered positive.

I don't whinge and moan though.

Originally Posted by Tara

your right that is you

Thanks. lol

Seriously tho, I can vary from happy to downbeat like any other person.

I try not to bring people down with my own little irrelevant problems I may get, and always try help others feel more positive.

Sometimes a good whinge can make you feel better, doesn't even matter if the other person isn't even paying attention.

Originally Posted by fizzwheel

Does being negative towards life mean that because you've looked for the worst in a situation that you'll inevitably find the worst and what you are planning on doing or are doing will then go FUBAR.

That's known as the Self Fulfilling Prophecy.

Originally Posted by Spiderman

i do try to say some nice words or do nice deeds for total stragners daily cos it makes me happy and hopefull gives the the incentive to do the same sone day.

I'm the same, though I don't make as much effort as I should daily. Random Act of Kindness. It's amazing how much better it makes you feel when you've made a complete stranger smile, for no other reason than wanting to see a smile.

Originally Posted by anna

Other people who surround you though do have a direct influence on how your state of mind is. It can be very difficult to stay positive if others around you aren´t.

+1,000,000.

That was my main problem, being surrounded by negativity, and I saw it dragging me down. Unfortunately it's a slippery slope that's easy to slide down quickly, but takes a hell of a lot of effort/time to pull yourself back up from.

I'd say I'm still more on the negative side of things, but things are definitely a lot better than they have been in the past (specifically, when I posted the "gym membership" thread that some may remember).

[DarrenSV650S]

I used to be positive when I was younger, but I've just got more negative as life has progressed. If I tried to look at everything with a positive attitude I would be kidding myself because really, everything is cr@p.