AAAAAARGH! Gutted.

[Red Herring]

Originally Posted by Bibio

never ever ever ever ever date a colleague....

First rule of policework, beware of anything starting in "P", principally....
Paperwork
Property
Politics
Policewomen...... (or men in your case)

If one doesn't get you into trouble the other will.

Look around the nick, how many colleagues do you know that aren't either divorced, separated, or over the side....? They will far outnumber those that are happily married to another copper, it just doesn't ever seem to work out. Besides if your management ever find out you fancy him they'll put you on opposite shifts, it's just the way they are...

One thing I must say that I believe in totally is that things happen for a reason...

I honestly believe that everyone has a soulmate out there, maybe he isnt the one for you and its just fate gently intervening.

Dont be despondent, you never know, it might be for the best????

Besides, are you sure you want to date another copper ??????

[Edit] Aargh Red Herring...you beat me to it! Just finished typing this, submitted it then saw your post.... +1

OK, it seems a few are jumping to conclusions here. MBK said that this fella split up with a colleague of hers, not that he was a colleague.

MBK, it's never too late. From here, one of three things will happen:
- He'll not commit to the new relationship, wanting to persue things with you.
- He will commit to the new relationship, that may/may not work out (most relationships don't) & then you & him will stay simply as friends & nothing more.
- He will commit to the new relationship, that won't work out (for whatever reason), and you & him will end up getting together due to history (obviously after he's split with the new lass).

Now, from a blokes perspective, if he's genuinely interested in you (more than the flirting that's already happened), and assuming you told him your opinion after he met the new lass... that will wreck his head something chronic. You clearly didn't mean for things to happen that way, but it's happened. Don't be surprised if he backs off a little for a short while - that's just giving himself some space to think things through. He will come back to talking to you, doesn't matter if it's just as friends or something more, he will be back.

Keep yer chin up.

Well done Baph, you are totally correct, he's not a colleague!

Wish I had just kept my mouth shut now.

Originally Posted by Milky Bar Kid

Wish I had just kept my mouth shut now.

Oh how I know that feeling! It'll pass though. Trust me.

[gruntygiggles]

The truth is out there Nic.....you both know how the other one feels, now you have to just keep being a friend. If he really does like you, as others have said, he'll not be able to commit to the new relationship and something may happen that way. Alternatively, he'll commit but it won't work out and then maybe something will happen.
I think the best advice I can give though is to try and not think about the "what if's". For all you know, this new reletionship might turn out to be really serious and he may fall in love with her. There's no point in you hanging around and waiting to see what happens as you may end up waiting for nothing.

I'm a great believer in that, if something doesn't work out like you want it to........it's because there's something better around the corner. That could either be this guy in a few months when the timing is right, or a new guy that'll be 10 times better.

Big hugs chick xxx

I don't know whether to cry or get a bucket!!



If it's meant to be then it will be..... give it time.

[Bibio]

my bad.. soz

dont keep your mouth shut we are all interested in romantic blether.. keep it coming. i love a 'should i or shouldn't i'. just look at the advice i gave seggons yestardy, class advice even if i say so myself.

if he was truly interested in you then he would dump who he is with and go out with you.. i know i would do such a thing, but as i said i'm not nice ...

Originally Posted by kellyjo

Now he knows how you feel he may not commit to the new relationship. Things usually have a way of working out in their own time. Just cos its not the right time now, doesnt mean that it'll never happen!

Thats what you want.. a bloke that will flake and dive to see a new lass as soon as attention is shown!?

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