Well the wife has gone and left me

[andrewsmith]

Originally Posted by Bri w

He obviously didn't take his balls with him... cowardly ****.

That's just plain cruel

This

Yes Bri and Andrew, I agree. I thought I knew him (name is Bill) fairly well, but he just buggered off without a word. Poor Elisabeth is torn apart, she can't sleep, she is on the phone in tears, all she can say is 'my life is over'.

[jambo]

Originally Posted by Ed

This has happened to friends of ours this week. We used to live next door but one, those who came to our old house in Fairlawn Gardens will know the house, next door to the 'No Parking' sign. Nice people. She - 63? He - 67? She was out pruning the wisteria Monday for an hour and a half... when she came in for a brew he wasn't there. She thought he must have nipped out to the cash machine. An hour went by...two hours... three hours... getting worried, she called his mobile and heard it ringing in the house, went upstairs, found it, opened the cupboard doors to find all his clothes gone. Checked the safe - passport and € gone.

That was Monday. The turd hasn't called her to explain, but called his daughter (marriage no 1, wife died) to say that he is safe and well, won't tell her where her is as doesn't want to put her in an awkward position. She told him to call his wife as she is worried sick and terribly terribly upset. So far, not a word. No explanation, no note, no call, no nothing.

What a ****.

What a bizarre thing. Perhaps he's watched too many hollywood films and fancies himself as a George Clooney character?
Gutted for his wife, what an horrific thing to find out, that your partner has up and left without a word.

Jambo

It takes two to tango! Why did he want to leave so badly?

Originally Posted by -Ralph-

It takes two to tango! Why did he want to leave so badly?

Can't be bad enough to make doing that acceptable can it, is she's done bad to him before, then he should've built a new patio.

That's a cowardly, sh1tty thing to do IMO.

Originally Posted by specialone

That's a cowardly, sh1tty thing to do IMO.

It is indeed, but all I'm saying is you shouldn't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes. We don't know what sh1tty things she's done and the thread so far was a very one-sided read. I guess I'm playing devils advocate a bit, but I'm also very wary when I hear stories like this to remember that marriages don't break up for no reason.

Had he sat her down and said I'm sorry love, but I'm leaving you, then walked out the door with his suitcase, would the end result have been any different?

It's impossible to say what people would or wouldn't have done given an extreme situation, until they've been in that situation. When these things happen people are not thinking clearly and often take actions that they might later regret. He maybe made the decision and packed his suitcase within the space of an hour, whilst in a very poor state of mind.

Ralph you have a fair point. She drinks, and when she's had a few she can be very unpleasant.

I don't know any more than I posted but I would guess that She was on the sauce over Christmas, and he couldn't stick it any more.

But if that is what happened, then he should have said 'Bloody sort yourself out, go get help' or similar.

To walk out without any warning and without any explanation and (as of last night) still no contact, after being married for 16 years, is cruel.

We are all capable of being very cruel. Post up a story of an animal abuser or a Baby P type case and ask the org what punishment they think should be administered. There will be some very cruel answers, and you'd probably have get a pretty cruel answer from me, especially in the Baby P case, but we will think we are justified in that due to the cruelty dished out by the accused. We don't know how cruel she has been to him, maybe if you could ask his opinion, rightly or wrongly, he'd say 'the bitch deserves everything she gets'.

[mattSV]

I lived with an abusive alcoholic for 3 years, as did my Dad for 20 years (not the same alcoholic though!)

I have experienced and witnessed the pain of doing everything you can to help and support the person that means the most in the world to you, and then feeling like you are being constantly rejected in favour of booze.

I therefore fully understand why someone eventually would just crack, and say "**** it, I have to get out of here."

Things dont just suddenly creep up on you after 16 years, was she a heavy drinker for all this time?

Like the tree huggers say, two wrongs don't make a right do they?

I've lived with a complete loon before I met Clair, she's lucky I wasn't the person then I am now as she wouldn't be breathing

I still wouldn't have done what Eds neighbour did though, by all means feck off, but text or let them know once you've left at least.