Bullying nowadays

[tonyk]

Either stand up for yourself, but that’s just not possible sometimes.
OR
Surround yourself with friends and/or work collogues.
Reason being bullies are Cowards.
And they will never say anything to you, just in case a friend or collogue kicks the Fxxxing Sxxt out of them..

[timwilky]

My nephew was bullied to the point he didn't want to go to school. He was only a small lad and made an easy target. My brother had reported the bruises, torn clothing to school who would deal with it as they had an anti bullying policy.

After about the 3rd incident the school arranged a "round the table" meeting with both sets of parents and the two lads. As soon as the bully's father walked in, my brother jumped up, hand to his throat and slammed him against the wall. Telling him the next time my nephew came home with a cut/bruise He would get the same. So sort out your son.

The school were not impressed. It obviously worked though as my nephew was no longer bullied.

This is a much more general problem now. It happens in the workplace all the time.

Depresses me like you wouldn't believe.

[andrewsmith]

Originally Posted by Littlepeahead

Being small I got bullied at junior school by a lad who regularly bullied other kids, he and his brothers were from a family who were ignorant yobs. The school did nothing.

I've got a very long fuse but a rather large temper like an ACME bomb at the end of it, so one day after he broke my necklace grabbing me round the throat I punched him so hard I knocked one of his front teeth out. Straight away my parents were hauled in front of the headmaster about MY behaviour.

But the outcome was that the lad never so much as called me a name again. Sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself.

That sound familiar.
I only know of one that bullied me that earns a fully honest living and hasn't done a long stint.

Originally Posted by tonyk

Either stand up for yourself, but that’s just not possible sometimes.
OR
Surround yourself with friends and/or work collogues.
Reason being bullies are Cowards.
And they will never say anything to you, just in case a friend or collogue kicks the Fxxxing Sxxt out of them..

Agree to that statement.

To add to Tim's post, I've been through all that with schools as a pupil and I was made out to be the one at fault because of where I lived (I'm not from the nicest places in the West end of Newcastle) never got bullied in my teens as most realised that I was mentally stable (or unstable in the circumstance) to put them through a window or drop them and walk away

Bullying is a fact of life. It will never stop, just like racism.

No matter how much people may not like it, i believe it is impossible to eradicate completely.

Kids have to learn to look after themselves, if kids are mothered all through their schooling years then it causes problems later on.

Parents that get involved just cause more problems for the kids at schools, it provokes the bully's, after all, they don't care, they are usually from bad backgrounds and will inevitably end up on the dole, stay in bed until 2pm and smoke 60 cigarettes per day, just like their parents.

[muzikill]

If your a victim you fight back. Whatever it takes within reason. Ive never seen any evidence that the 'pc' way does a single thing positively. Its variably makes the matter worse. Mediation is for humility. They dont deserve any as they will throw it back in your face. Bullies take advantage of vulnerabilties. You find the same back and use it to your advantage.

I feel pretty strongly around this as you can tell and I still have the mental scars from my time when I was young.

[keith_d]

Many years ago I was a bystander when the parents of a child accused of bullying came into school and started being very aggressive towards the staff. You can guess how much parental support the school received in dealing with the little shyte.

Putting one of the bullys in hospital for a couple of days (observation only, unfortunately) seems to get them off your back though.

These days both of those incidents would probably have resulted in the police being involved, but I'm not sure the end results would have been any different.

TonyK...work is much easier to deal with it. We just tapped up a rather scummy scrote whos work we were all picking up and then also put him through a christmas tree netter a few times and left him for a few hours, needless to say he was very polite afterwords and always did what i bloody well told him to as a supervisor to all the part time staff.

It really is about standing up for youself, and although i completely agree with letting people know is the 1st step these days it does little to nothing and then some kids just need a good kicking.

[gruntygiggles]

Agreed, letting parents know that their child is being bullied will do little to stop the bullying, but it will allow the parents to understand that their child is at the receiving end.

It's all well and good to say that you need to stick up for yourself, but I wasn't able to do that until I was 16...before that I just didn't have it in me. Actually what happened when I was sixteen was even better than getting my own back in a physical way. I finally told my father as I wanted to ask him what I should do. He gave me the best bit of advice I have ever had and that was to look them in the eye for 5 seconds, then laugh out loud and walk away. It worked. I remember it like it was yesterday. When the kid asked WTF I was laughing at, I said, "you, d!ckhead" and I continued to laugh as I walked away. It worked because everyone else that was there started laughing at him too and that was the end of it, but I could never have done anything physical and lots of kids can't either, so surely it is best to let the parents know so that at least the child has some support.

A problem shared is a problem halved and all that!

Humiliation is a good response.

When im in the van and someone is flashing you from behind to get out of the way, rather than slam my brakes on anymore, when they come past looking over I just laugh and point at them, it really ****es them off...