What to do... ?

Hmmmmmm,

tough one, give the lass a chance to come clean and do the right thing, if not... if it where one of my friends... I would tell them, but it would hurt to tell on a friends, but what's going on, is wrong well, to me at least.


Rich

you gotta let them sort it out between them, joe. sorry, lee.

if it comes to a head and paul finds out and knows you know i'm sure he'll be ****ed, but ultimately your in a very difficult position. he'll maybe not thank you for it now, but in time i'm sure he will if he can put himself in your shoes*

*apologies if i got the personel round the wrong way!

you're not the one to judge. its not your business. sorry if that comes across harsh

A nasty situation, but one which is all too common these days

At the least, have a word with Sue and get her to 'fuss up - she is the one with a foot in both camps as it were, and needs to make a decision.

I knew of a similar situation, that eventually 'fizzled out' and all parties went their merry way and apparently lived happily ever after . . .

I was involved in a similar dillema a few years ago.

I told my mate Mark, that his missus was shagging Peter who was another one of our mates, without his knowledge. I think deep down Mark knew something was going on, but didnt want to challenge them.

I told him, which ****ed him off, and made me enemy number 1 with Pete and Marks missus. But to be honest, I don't think hes much of a mate if he sleeps with your girlfriend (I know it takes 2 to tango).

Mark dumped his missus, smacked Pete, and eventually thanked me for being a good enough mate, to tell him, rather than let them carry on behind his back. I'd do it again tomorrow, involving a good mate.

Girlfriends come and go, but Good mates shouldn't mess about with other mates girls.

accidently direct your mate to this thread...

Originally Posted by rubberduckofdeath

Tricky situation...

Three of my friends have become part of a difficult triangle. Two of them, I'll call them Paul and Sue are together and have been for years. Another, who works with Paul, we'll call him Jon has become good friends with Sue. Sue and Jon have been spending quite a bit of time together and for a while, Paul was cool with his girlfriend to do this because he trusted both of them.

This continued and after some time, Paul got unhappy with how his girlfriend and friend were behaving. He calmly explained to both of them that it was making him uncomfortable and that he'd like them to "cool it". They did, until recently when Paul went on holiday with 2 friends and didn't bring Sue because she claimed the day before leaving that she'd lost her passport. He went anyway and Sue and Jon have spent every day together and spent the night together more than once.

My question to you is, do I tell him everything that's been going on, since he's a good friend, even though I'm friends with all 3 of them?

I know Sue's not happy at the moment, but the way she's treating Paul is taking the p*ss. And the fact that Jon, his mate is doing this to him when he said he'd back off is plain wrong.

Lee.

tell you mate ... i would .. he sounds like decent guy and shoulndt get hurt..

Originally Posted by AlanSv

Girlfriends come and go, but Good mates shouldn't mess about with other mates girls.

I'd second this. I'm sure your mate would understand if you told him......if my good mate knew something like that and didn't tell me I think I'd be more p**sed off.

Originally Posted by AlanSv

Girlfriends come and go, but Good mates shouldn't mess about with other mates girls.

Agreed

Difficult situation. Depending on your friendship with all of them dictates what you can do. If you jump straight in, it could be seen as grassing up or meddling but if you sit back and he finds out you know then he could feel betrayed.

If he wants to chat and asks I would tell him the truth. If you see her first then I would probably tell her that what she has done stinks. There is no excuse for cheating on someone.

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