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Originally Posted by timwilky

oh yes, He now owns his own house, and is due to move in tomorrow, this week I have been mostly.

Paying for the decorator,
assembling flat pack,
installing oven, washing machine,

He came in on Monday and we all said, "David, you don't live here anymore". Well now all his furniture is in. The bed is even made, hot water in the tank. He just doesn't want to move in until his 32" lcd tv and hi def video are installed. They are there in boxes. I just cannot be arsed doing it all for him

I'd give him a kick up the backside.

When I moved in, I had to fit all my TV, decorate the rooms, make the furtniture, attach the washing machine etc all myself!!!!! Setup all my audio/visual equipment etc.

He won't learn if he doesn't do it himself. I HATE electrics, but over the weekend, i fitted new lights (x6) and light switches.

Already im feeling more confident about wiring....

As long as you keep doing stuff for him, he'll never learn himself. Throw them in at the deepend, and he'll learn.

Coming from someone who bought his first house a year n a bit ago..... Then the rabbits decided to attack, so I had to sort out all the cabling/phone lines n stuff.

When it came to cars, I learned everything myself by trial and error. No dad around at the time to ask, so you just get on with it. Now he comes to me about cars!!!

Originally Posted by Daimo

Now he comes to me about cars!!!

Do you kick him up the backside too?

I feel bad about asking my dad to do stuff for me. So I often hang around when he does stuff to my bike - I've already learnt about the electronics, and he also showed me how to change the oil the other day (which is a numpty thing to not know!!). I observe while he decorates, when he fixes other stuff. I know that one day, he wont be able to do it for me, and I dont want to pay someone to do something I can easily do if I'm shown. When it comes to the unknown, I like a bit of supervision and a Haynes manual close by.

Matt

[Luckypants]

Originally Posted by Jdubya

Fairy Nuff, I too am a father and I get what he's saying BUT, its all about accepting responsibility for your own actions and safety...next thing the lads going to be buying a house and Tim will be doing all the flat pack and decorating and stuff...oh hang on, he's already done it.

I'm not judging anyone, all I'm saying is that the first car I had, my parents showed me how to check all the fluids, tyre pressures, etc. and how to replace things when the went bust, (like bulbs), and what the daily checks are that need to be done. You dont have to be a mechanical genius to do these things...I am certainly not very good at all with engines.

As spidermans grandad said, "with power comes responsibility" and sooner or later we as parents aren't going to be there and these kids (or in both your cases, adults) are going to have to stand on their own two feet with their own kids to look after. How can you expect them to look after kids if they cannot even look after themselves!

Accept your argument totally and I hope my kids are very responsible young adults(as those who know them will confirm). I certainly think they are. but we all have our blind spots. For my daughter it's her car (it should just work) for my son it's planning for the future (longer than a week!). I just help them with those blind spots until they get to see it for themselves.....

Both are getting better. My daughter recognised with no prompting her car needed new tyres and has successfully put together her flat pack bed on her own. My son has just turned down a job in Hong Kong to concentrate on getting better qualifications......

With a safety critical thing like cars I will still check it over.

Originally Posted by Filipe M.

Do you kick him up the backside too?

The way he is, i'd probably break his tailbone.

At leat I could run away after and know he wouldn't catch me

I still get help with bikes every so often, but i learn and do it myself next time. I don't want to be dependent on anyone to do anything for me, makes me feel like a child still.

All the kids are all "grown up and know it all" yet when it comes to it, they can't even wire a plug... How they gonna get on in life if they always want parents/friend to help.

I prefer to do it myself, and even if i get it wrong and have to do something again, at least I can say "I done it."

[Stu]

Originally Posted by Daimo

I'd give him a kick up the backside.

When I moved in, I had to ...

Family is so overrated. Everyone should do everything themselves and not expect a helping hand from those nearest & dearest to them who are willing and able to help out.

Originally Posted by Jabba

No - reputable ones are not.

i thought they were ment to be alot better these days than they used to be.

Originally Posted by Stu

Family is so overrated. Everyone should do everything themselves and not expect a helping hand from those nearest & dearest to them who are willing and able to help out.

See, now you're just being pedantic...

Originally Posted by Stu

Family is so overrated. Everyone should do everything themselves and not expect a helping hand from those nearest & dearest to them who are willing and able to help out.

Theres help, and theres doing everything for them......

Sometimes, you need to leave kids to learn themselves. How will they learn if your there nannying them all the time.

Theres helping, and theres mothering. Let the kids do most of the work and advise but help.

As said, parents are blinded sometimes on how they treat their children, mainly because its their children. Sometimes kids need something to aim for, how can they do that if you do everything for them.

[Bluepete]

Tim, send me his details, I'll quite happily educate him to the tune of three points and £60 out of his pocket. After all folks, "a tick's a tick"









Traffic cops eh? I would pot my own Mum for a tick!