Heartbroken

Originally Posted by Dicky Ticker

Be a roughty toughty biker and get on with it.
Since when has this become a broken hearts forum?
Sorry dude but you and others are behaving like you are in the school playground with the Best Friends and True Romance failures
If you have friends on the site use the PM facility instead of pouring your woes out in open forum--------slightly more dignified
I come on here to have debate,joke or general banter not hear about your love life,perhaps the Admin should start a problem page.

Yes,many of you may think me a bar steward but it seems like every third or fourth post now in IB is about personal hang ups or problems and nothing to do with biking

But you still came in here and still took the time to comment. God Bless Ya!!!!

[Wideboy]

Originally Posted by Spiderman

Neeja, dont wanna step on your heart mate but have you considered the chance she is either seeing someone else or has feelings for somone else?
No one else seems to have brought this up yet, so hate me for saying it if you will but you need to be honest with yourself mate.

+1 what i was thinking

sorry to hear your news mate, its never good ...... as said time is great healer

Birthdays can play havoc with your brain for no reason too, especially "milestone" ones like 21, 30 40 etc.

Ere, mine was just after her birthday too blimey you might be on to somethimg there.

Yes Spidey an outsider can sometimes be more constructive with advice but I wouldn,t stop one in the street and start pouring my heart out to them.
I don't know the geezer and I presume he has a circle of friends be it in private life or on this form, but on here is like a soapbox on the street corner[Nearly 3000 members according to the members list]

Originally Posted by beabert

Ere, mine was just after her birthday too blimey you might be on to somethimg there.

I think it`s purely because milestones and events force us to think about our future and what we really want.

For me a life changing moment was the death of my lovely nan another was my 40th birthday when I realised I was in a crap relationship and walked away.

New Year is a time when we look back over the previous year and see what changes we might want to implement for the coming year.

Neeja your girlfriends 21st might have made her sit back and take stock of her life. As others have said tho she does sound a tad unsure of life at the minute so if she`s unsure about which direction to take at uni maybe she`s just "unsure" of you and your relationship at the min... things might change but don`t put your life on hold

What you will now begin to notice is how many songs and other forms of media are about love. I suggest you scrap music for the next few months.

[Spiderman]

Originally Posted by Dicky Ticker

Yes Spidey an outsider can sometimes be more constructive with advice but I wouldn,t stop one in the street and start pouring my heart out to them.
I don't know the geezer and I presume he has a circle of friends be it in private life or on this form, but on here is like a soapbox on the street corner

i do also hear where you are coming from DT but the Org can sometimes be an extended family to some of us, for whatever reason.

i know my friends on here have helpd me thru some hard times in the past for sure...and even now truth be told. So i'm kinda inclined to lend a friendly ear right now.

On the flip side you now know what this thred is all about so can safely add it to the list of the ones you dont read
I know my personal list grows daily, lol.

Originally Posted by Dicky Ticker

Be a roughty toughty biker and get on with it.
Since when has this become a broken hearts forum?
Sorry dude but you and others are behaving like you are in the school playground with the Best Friends and True Romance failures
If you have friends on the site use the PM facility instead of pouring your woes out in open forum--------slightly more dignified
I come on here to have debate,joke or general banter not hear about your love life,perhaps the Admin should start a problem page.

Yes,many of you may think me a bar steward but it seems like every third or fourth post now in IB is about personal hang ups or problems and nothing to do with biking

Yet no one forced YOU to read this but you still took the time and effort open the page up AND reply. You don't like something don't read it, you read it and didn't like it then you didn't need to reply did you? He's going through a rough time and comments like that don't help now do they? You might love going to tell your friends and loved ones whats wrong with you. Some other people would rather tell complete strangers. Nothing nice to say? Then maybe you shouldn't say anything at all.

[Bri w]

Sounds like she's troubled, and stressed.

Give her some space and time. She could calm down.

[Nobbylad]

Agree with most of the advice so far...however, look at the positives....does she have a sister?

Only kidding fella, sounds like you're going through the mill at the mo, however need to keep your chin up and let her do her thing while you crack on.