I just found out I am a father... (read comment)

Was aimed at dave. You just enjoy ridiculing the old, weak and short people! Shame on you!

[dizzyblonde]

I've said in previous posts, kids show they understand in very odd ways. When my son was five, he was in the thick of being given the runaround. He didn't like eating properly, was very clingy, amongst other things. They can be very withdrawn, and because they are doing lots of new things(like school) and it can be very hard to put your finger on it. Hindsight would be a great thing at the time, would make life easier!
They can't tell you out right what they feel, because they don't have the grasp of explaining properly at that age....all guess work on the parents part.

Originally Posted by hongman

Was aimed at dave. You just enjoy ridiculing the old, weak and short people! Shame on you!

how dare you sir
i also insult the jocks,taffs ,english, southeners, french, fat people, yc, black, yellow brown, muslims, and of course if i didnt mention YC
i hope that clarifies the situation

Originally Posted by dizzyblonde

I've said in previous posts, kids show they understand in very odd ways. When my son was five, he was in the thick of being given the runaround. He didn't like eating properly, was very clingy, amongst other things. They can be very withdrawn, and because they are doing lots of new things(like school) and it can be very hard to put your finger on it. Hindsight would be a great thing at the time, would make life easier!
They can't tell you out right what they feel, because they don't have the grasp of explaining properly at that age....all guess work on the parents part.

Hindsight is always great in any situation

No - you are not screwed. you still have a chance to fix it.

My situation is complicated - and i dont want to go into it here, but kids that age do know.

Like I say it depends what the mother has told her. Although they know what is going on , like DB says they are able to adjust and take on changes. If you come into her life, and are a positive role model, influence and do your best to be a good dad, then she will remember that too.

you are not screwed, you are only just setting out on this journey, and you can make it fab, for you and her. like I have already said, it wont be easy, but it will be worth it.

[Drew Carey]

Tony Buddy, I can't imagine for one second how you are feeling right now.....bet its a mixture of trepidation, nervous, excited, happy etc etc etc

My words are simple and echo what peeps have already said....you are now a father, nothing can ever take that away from you and you need to do all you can to be a big part of her life.....for her.

If it means sacrifices then do it (but not sacrifices for the mum, for the daughter), if it means moving, do it.....it will take time to work out how this will all work etc but one day you will realise that this is a life changing event for you.....for the better.

Congratulations matey, phone call away if you ever wanna chin wag.

[Bibio]

your all missing the biggest point.. this is proof that C_A has been laid.

[dizzyblonde]

What makes you think you are screwed? You are only just taking the first steps on a new journey. Just choose the steps well, and think everything over at every step

Now I have a little boy that I understand more, I have worked hard to make things better for him. I have had some positive input from Carnivore over the five years, he didn't have to play dad and I know at times it was difficult for him. Now Pegs taken things to a whole new level again
I may be selfish sometimes, have fifteen million bikes, dogs, cats etc, but when my son needs me, everything is put on hold, and I move the feckin mountain!

Bibio... Always a source of good natured fun, lol

Drew, cheers dude. I'll drop you a line tomorrow probs, if your not free to chat when I do call we can chat when ever, lol. Although, moving with my job might be difficult..
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Jen, you have been an amazing source of info and I am sorry about your past, it doesn't sound too fun. I never wated to bring a child into the world this way, but, now I have I know I have to stand by her for her sake if not my sanity

[Drew Carey]

Originally Posted by Cymraeg_Atodeg

Drew, cheers dude. I'll drop you a line tomorrow probs, if your not free to chat when I do call we can chat when ever, lol.

No worries.....its not like im actually working at work at the mo!!! Anytime is cool.

Chin up......you will be fine.