Gripe of the day - What is yours?

[admin]

Originally Posted by garynortheast

Mmm, you're having an eventful few days there John, and not of the best sort either by the sound of it!

You've got to be pragmatic about it. The boiler is old and we've been expecting the PIP application for sometime. It's just a complete waste of her time and theirs. People with MS don't get better, sadly.

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[admin]

Boiler fixed. Just a broken plastic fan which then seized. Enquiries are ongoing with regard to new boiler. Sometime this summer I think...

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[garynortheast]

One less thing to worry about then.

[garynortheast]

Full blown anxiety attack at 3.30am. Gave up at 4am and got up to do some work to distract myself. Going to be very tired later.

[admin]

Originally Posted by garynortheast

Full blown anxiety attack at 3.30am. Gave up at 4am and got up to do some work to distract myself. Going to be very tired later.

I suffer from that myself. I'll be fine during the day but in that state of semi-consciousness when you're half asleep the demons take small worries and blow them into major catastrophies.
I hope whatever is bothering you evaporates.

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[admin]

A flyer for the Brexit party arrived in the post addressed to my 22yo son. Nothing for me or the wife. I think I can see who they're targeting. Now in the shredder.

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[admin]

Originally Posted by garynortheast

One less thing to worry about then.

Indeed, but I'll find something else to replace it

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[Adam Ef]

Originally Posted by garynortheast

Full blown anxiety attack at 3.30am. Gave up at 4am and got up to do some work to distract myself. Going to be very tired later.

Have you ever tried any grounding techniques?

[garynortheast]

Originally Posted by admin

I suffer from that myself. I'll be fine during the day but in that state of semi-consciousness when you're half asleep the demons take small worries and blow them into major catastrophies.
I hope whatever is bothering you evaporates.

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It's a right bugger isn't it? Lying there feeling completely trapped in this horrible cycle of pointless worry. It was largely about money (or the lack thereof!). Somewhat alleviated by getting up and working, and further by discovering that I am actually entitled to my state pension from next March rather than 2021 as I previously thought. It's not a vast sum but the regular weekly amount should go some way to making my precarious and meagre self employment a little more secure.

Originally Posted by admin

A flyer for the Brexit party arrived in the post addressed to my 22yo son. Nothing for me or the wife. I think I can see who they're targeting. Now in the shredder.

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Good job you didn't do this then John!

Originally Posted by admin

Indeed, but I'll find something else to replace it

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Sadly yes, always the way.

Originally Posted by Adam Ef

Have you ever tried any grounding techniques?

What's that Adam? Do you fancy explaining it a bit?

[Adam Ef]

Originally Posted by garynortheast

What's that Adam? Do you fancy explaining it a bit?

To simplify it slightly...
You find something else to focus on to take you out of the loop of anxiety.
I use the 54321 technique sometimes.


Think of 5 things you can see, 5 things you can hear, 5 things you can feel.
Then 4 things (they can be the same from the 5 things repeated if you can remember them), then 3, then 2, then 1.


It can slow you down and help get you outside of your own head and grounds you again in the real world.


Anxiety can often be a self fulfilling loop. If you can break that loop or calm it you can get yourself into a more rational place. Especially in the middle of the night when we're least rational. It's about giving youreself a slight break and then allowing yourself to come back to your worry (if real) in a calmer more productive way. Preferably after you've had some sleep!


Anxiety is horrible. A lot of people will dismiss it as hippy-ish, but we really need to be kinder to ourselves. If it was someone else talking to us the way we treat ourselves sometimes we'd tell them to bugger off!


There's loads of other techniques and ideas and when you start to get to grip with using them they start to work fairly quickly each time you use them.