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BanannaMan · 04-11-16, 04:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shiftin_gear98

Today is a fairly ****e day, not only did I have to come to work.

But my wife got the results from her biopsy. Not devastating news, it's treatable. But not the all clear I was praying for. Looks like the next few weeks will be different.

****ing Cancer.

Thoughts and prayers for you two.

andrewsmith · 04-11-16, 07:20 AM

Thoughts and prayers are with you

Sent from my D2303 using Tapatalk

garynortheast · 04-11-16, 07:20 AM

Hope it goes well for you both SG.

shiftin_gear98 · 04-11-16, 08:43 AM

Morning all. Thanks for kind words.
It's strange to see her so low, she isn't in a good place just now. Still in shock I think.

MRI early next week, consultation the week after, operation the week after that.
One day nearer to getting better.

Not sure best way to deal with the kids 8, 6 and 2. Would you tell them?

Littlepeahead · 04-11-16, 10:09 AM

Honesty is best. Tell them mummy has to have an operation, that it'll make her better but to get better she may feel more poorly first. Explain what will really help mummy is if they can help daddy with looking after her, and cheer her up when she might be feeling a bit sad or tired.

If it comes to chemo then the biggest thing will be if your wife loses her hair. Again, be straight with them, tell them it's because of the special medicine, but that is all part of their mum getting better and if your wife opts for scarves like my mum in law then get the kids to help choose some.

I really think that kids cope best when they don't feel you are keeping secrets from them. My colleagues very young son is currently undergoing chemo and his older sister who is 4 has a little nurse hat and apron she puts on when her brother needs his medicines and she then helps the staff to give it. Maybe you could do something similar.

I'm going to try to find a link to a blog written by my friend who recently had a double mastectomy aged 29.

She was a fit, healthy, beautiful girl who was into get body building. Then bam, cancer. The blog is quite tough reading but positive, and she's in remission. I'll post it up.

Littlepeahead · 04-11-16, 10:15 AM

Here's the link. Mel is doing a whole toxic free life style but the blog tells her story post op.

https://toxinfreeliving.org/

Fen Tiger · 04-11-16, 12:05 PM

Wishing all the best Shifting G. Hope everything turns out OK, I know it will be a long difficult road.
i agree with the wise words from LPH, keep the kids on board at their level as much as possible, they will pick up on everything in any case and it is better that they have the correct information.

04-11-16, 12:14 PM

Thoughts with you, and at least it IS treatable. As has been said, keep the children in the loop, not out of it, wherever possible.

Sir Trev · 04-11-16, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by atassiedevil

Thoughts with you, and at least it IS treatable. As has been said, keep the children in the loop, not out of it, wherever possible.

Ditto to all of this too. My parents were honest with me when my mum had a big op when I was 8 or 9 and it helped us adapt and get on with things.

Nutsinatin · 07-11-16, 05:10 PM

https://imgur.com/X2YK0Wv This! Not a great start to Monday morning!

04-11-16, 07:20 AM	#3822
andrewsmith Member Mega Poster Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Newcastle upon Tyne, Just south of salad dodging country Posts: 7,750	Re: Gripe of the day - What is yours? Thoughts and prayers are with you Sent from my D2303 using Tapatalk __________________ RIP Reeder 20/07/1988 - 21/03/2012. Always missed squire!!! Every year we meet old friends, gain some new ones, lose old ones and you always remember them all. “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” Mahatma Gandhi

04-11-16, 07:20 AM	#3823
garynortheast Member Mega Poster Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Mid Wales Posts: 2,488	Re: Gripe of the day - What is yours? Hope it goes well for you both SG.

04-11-16, 08:43 AM	#3824
shiftin_gear98 Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: At home Posts: 756	Re: Gripe of the day - What is yours? Morning all. Thanks for kind words. It's strange to see her so low, she isn't in a good place just now. Still in shock I think. MRI early next week, consultation the week after, operation the week after that. One day nearer to getting better. Not sure best way to deal with the kids 8, 6 and 2. Would you tell them?

04-11-16, 10:09 AM	#3825
Littlepeahead Member Mega Poster Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: The Saaarrrfff Posts: 2,908	Re: Gripe of the day - What is yours? Honesty is best. Tell them mummy has to have an operation, that it'll make her better but to get better she may feel more poorly first. Explain what will really help mummy is if they can help daddy with looking after her, and cheer her up when she might be feeling a bit sad or tired. If it comes to chemo then the biggest thing will be if your wife loses her hair. Again, be straight with them, tell them it's because of the special medicine, but that is all part of their mum getting better and if your wife opts for scarves like my mum in law then get the kids to help choose some. I really think that kids cope best when they don't feel you are keeping secrets from them. My colleagues very young son is currently undergoing chemo and his older sister who is 4 has a little nurse hat and apron she puts on when her brother needs his medicines and she then helps the staff to give it. Maybe you could do something similar. I'm going to try to find a link to a blog written by my friend who recently had a double mastectomy aged 29. She was a fit, healthy, beautiful girl who was into get body building. Then bam, cancer. The blog is quite tough reading but positive, and she's in remission. I'll post it up. __________________ Tender is the day, The demons go away, Lord I need to find, Someone who can heal my mind... Last edited by Littlepeahead; 04-11-16 at 10:10 AM.

04-11-16, 10:15 AM	#3826
Littlepeahead Member Mega Poster Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: The Saaarrrfff Posts: 2,908	Re: Gripe of the day - What is yours? Here's the link. Mel is doing a whole toxic free life style but the blog tells her story post op. https://toxinfreeliving.org/ __________________ Tender is the day, The demons go away, Lord I need to find, Someone who can heal my mind...

04-11-16, 12:05 PM	#3827
Fen Tiger Member Join Date: Oct 2014 Posts: 219	Re: Gripe of the day - What is yours? Wishing all the best Shifting G. Hope everything turns out OK, I know it will be a long difficult road. i agree with the wise words from LPH, keep the kids on board at their level as much as possible, they will pick up on everything in any case and it is better that they have the correct information.

04-11-16, 12:14 PM	#3828
atassiedevil Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Gripe of the day - What is yours? Thoughts with you, and at least it IS treatable. As has been said, keep the children in the loop, not out of it, wherever possible.

07-11-16, 05:10 PM	#3830
Nutsinatin Member Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Lyne, Surrey Posts: 570	Re: Gripe of the day - What is yours? https://imgur.com/X2YK0Wv This! Not a great start to Monday morning! __________________ Blue K9 Pointy - Squished by a car/kerb/wall Blue K9 Pointy #2 - Nearly at 120,000 miles! Last edited by Nutsinatin; 07-11-16 at 10:25 PM.

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