What do you do when you failing to Cope

After a nasty knock (not physical) about 4 weeks ago, I am struggling to cope with a few thing,

I have little or no concentration, very easily distracted, huge amounts of lethargy. I dont feel depressed as such more that it just aint worth the effort.

My work is a big factor as I really dislike my boss as much as I try I cannot do anything right by him and this place is very odd, makes me feel really weird.. plus there are no jobs about at the moment.. been looking for 6 months or so now.

I cant just jet off for a week, I can take time off but ill be at home reminding me that a load of DIY needs doing which I cant gather the energy for,

how do you cope if you get like this, my home life is suffering, and my work is defiantly suffering,

any advice

[dizzyblonde]

I went nuts when I couldn't cope.

Ended up at the docs(but thats an extreme case) and on the way there crashed my SV.

Take a few days off if you can.

[Bluepete]

Exercise.

Go and run somewhere as fast as you can, even if it's only around the block!

Do it every other day, the endorphins can make you smile even at the worst of times.

It's what I do.

Pete

[ophic]

Depression often manifests itself as lethargy, lack of drive, inability to see the point of anything, basically lack of motivation rather than sadness. I'm not saying you are depressed, but it's worth checking. Visit the doctors and see what they say - try to describe how you feel as best as you can, and they might be able to suggest something.

Failing that, I agree with BluePete - exercise is great. Get past the initial "can't be bothered" feeling and just do it. Works wonders.

A new focus is needed i think, try a new hobby or exercise like the others have said.
Hobbies are great for getting your mind elsewhere and re-energised.
Hope it dont last long for you mate.

[dizzyblonde]

One of the triggers for me ending up at docs was lethargy, no concentration(don't laugh ), easy distraction and the lack of drive to do anything. Not to mention a pretty carpy environment and people at work. Theres another, but I'm not disclosing, which ultimately made me fall off the happy boat.
BP has the answer, exercise, but if you can't motivate yourself, its hard to get started. Docs will give you a sick note for a few days off to get you started, if you are really honest in how you feel, and don't hide anything.

maybe i'd better start with the exercise then... been here for a few years now

Have you tried talking to your boss or H/R manager? I mean make an appointment to have a meeting with him and discuss your problems? I know there are plenty of bosses/companies who are not approachable and are likely to make things worse if involved, but if your honest, open, calm, and avoid blaming him for all your ills, then you might be surprised by the response. You don't need to give the full details of "your knock", but be prepaired to give enough information for him to understand your problems. It also helps to know what you would have him do to help you before you go to the meeting.

Good luck either way mate, hope you get back to normal soon.

Have the courage to change things that you can, have the serenity to accept things that you can't and have the wisdom to know the difference!!

I felt exactly the same after my Dad died, was a rough time in my life and I didn't cope very well. Couldn't go to work, cried all the time, couldn't get past the grief. Doctor signed me off and I joined my then hubby to be in Singapore where he was working at the time. Spent 10 days there, pretty much on my own during the day. Wasn't a holiday, more of a life getaway. Did the trick and put alot of things in perspective. You never recover from a thing like grief but time does help and you move on.

HTH, only you can help yourself though xx

[Messie]

Talk to someone. You've started with us - well done! Now who will you tell next? Someone nearest and dearest? That might be difficult - there may not be the right one there at the mo, or the one that is there may be just too involved. The doc is always a good try; they're not all brilliant and do have limited time, but if you can succinctly spell out the key symptoms they can usually offer something. maybe even try writing it all down before you go in. That can really help you focus your thoughts into the biggest issues but in the event of sobs (in my case) or blokish I'm tuf really a piece of paper pushed in GP's hand can be a start!
HR at work might do it. I've met some great and some auful ones so be wary.
But keep talking - even if it is just to the .org therapy service. You certainly won't be the first to use it.


Oh, and some hugs your way too, just for the time being. xx