Sh*****g myself about a dinner party.

On Friday I'm meeting my girlfriends parents and alot of her close friends at an informal dinner party. She throws them at least once a year so all her friends can meet up from around the country and have a drink.
There is a bit of an age difference. I'm 23 and shes 9 years older so I'm crapping myself, never met any of her friends or family before but I had an allie that my eldest sister and brother in law are coming. Now theyve had to cancel which has left just me!!!

Am i being irrational or is it quite a big ask of me?

Its scary if you dont know anyone full stop imo. But its a bit irrational if the worry is what people think about the age difference.

I would say if they are her real friends then they will be really happy for her that shes happy with you.

And tbh, 9 years is a normal difference for men and women its just usually been the man older. But now days its, imo, not that big a deal to people for women to be older than a guy. End of the day, does it bother you? If not, why should what others think bother you? What REALLY matters is what you and her think of it.

Just relax, dont get hammered and make an **** out of yourself, show her friends what a courteous, polite and nice guy you are and you'll be fine.

That'll teach you to play with bigger girls

Originally Posted by lynw

Just relax, dont get hammered and make an @rse out of yourself, show her friends what a courteous, polite and nice guy you are and you'll be fine.

Alternatively.... at first be very on your guard, dont relax for a minute , anything could happen, definitely get hammered and make an @rse out of yourself, show her friends what a cool dude and a real lad you are, and you'll be fine

It's a big ask IMO, however you'll be fine.

Perhaps you could ask your gf to give you an example of what might happen, eg who will be there- exactly how informal it is, what people will be wearing- are jeans ok or are you better off with trousers etc,

Is there a buffet or sit down food?...if its sitn down, perhaps you could get her to do a similar dish for you beforehand, like a dry run so you know exactly what to expect if you are really nervous.

Hope i'm not being patronising but it may be pertinent to check on things like table manners/ swearing etc.

I'm a very fussy cow and just took my bf home to meet my sis, after warning him about language he still swore often, that ****ed me off.
We are from different backgrounds but little things got to me....so i know how girls can be.

HOWEVER. The fact that she wants you to meet everyone mean she has great faith in you and your relationship. I think if you ask questions and let her know you are asking because you don't want to let her down, i'm sure she will be touched

True, but I was going to get a lift with my brother in law. Now I'll have to drive so I cant drink! I guess one of the things that is worrying me is that alot of the people there are very successful in their fields and I'm well.... Not!

Originally Posted by furrybean

Now I'll have to drive so I cant drink!

Nasty, I hate meeting new people sober.

I guess one of the things that is worrying me is that alot of the people there are very successful in their fields and I'm well.... Not!

Succesful in work, loser in something else. Thats a serious piece of advice

Could just turn up on my bike in leathers with a few mates!

I'll really have to watch my P's and Q's. Her parents are real Cheshire set I think but I think I can hold my own. Just making polite conversation is what will do my head in! We're off for a weekend away too the following weekend so if I do make a tit of myself I've got confined nagging for 3 days!

yeah....but you don't have wrinkles right.............?

most people at parties don't talk shop, unless they all work together.

if you want conversation topics watch the news the week before....don't start anything too controvershall though

Originally Posted by furrybean

Could just turn up on my bike in leathers with a few mates!

I'll really have to watch my P's and Q's. Her parents are real Cheshire set I think but I think I can hold my own. Just making polite conversation is what will do my head in! We're off for a weekend away too the following weekend so if I do make a tit of myself I've got confined nagging for 3 days!

i know this feeling, but its only one night....try mingling lots.....even if you have the same conversation with everybody, at least you won't habve to listen to one long drone.


if all else fails, keep asking questions....people love talking about themselves